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mf310


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She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request.


While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door.  Very out of character for her not to say goodnight.


15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin.


I mentioned her not saying goodnight, and she says something to the effect that she hasn't gone to bed yet. 


So much of me wants to pull out the breathalyzer (yes, I bought one) to prove myself right, but what will I gain? 


She sees the look on my face and asks, "what?".


I want to tell her all the same things.  I want to tell her that I know she's been drinking again.  I want to...  But this time I merely say, "I'm not doing this again", and shut the door.


I come to my computer to start typing. 


Thanks for being here.


 



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Jerry F


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Aloha mf310 and good 1st step.  It has to start somewhere and I hope that you were really talking to yourself when you said, "I'm not doing this again."  You have to stop you cause you can't stop the disease.  Get around recovering members of the Al-Anon Family Groups in your area and get to as many meetings as you can in the next 90 days cause that is how I learned to follow up on that statement, "I'm not doing this again."   I learned sooooo very much and you will also.  It will elate you!  I feel compassion for your wife and yourself as I learned to have it for my wife also and myself.  This is the nastiest disease in the Universe, cunning, powerful and baffling.  But there's hope...lots of it.  Just come and join us and keep coming back.  If you don't have a Higher Power at the moment, use mine and ask my Higher Power to help you until you get one of your own.  Mine is real just trust it and ask for help and then let go without expectations of the outcome.


((((((hugs))))))



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WWW.al-anon.alateen.org


Phone number is 1-888-425-2666


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Alanon meeting info. 800-433-7266 AA info.


Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html 


Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.



  • Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
  • post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

·        Set support system.  people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.



  • Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.


 


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