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I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night! He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow. He's on solid foods, bland but solid.
There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). We met with his councelor, pyschaitrist as well as his doctors. It was mutually decided that going back into this particular rehab program for 30 days will do him no good. He's going to get as much out of it as he already had. However, he definitely needs to go back to his counceling once a week, his pyschiatrist once a month, and AA all the time. The doctors were very clear that he was this close to loosing his life. He looked pretty scared when they said that. If he falters he will die. There is no sugar coating this. He has to take it ODAT, and be very vigilant about his recovery. We have agreed to work on our recoveries. I need to get back at my steps, and he is going to redo his, starting with Step 1. I promised that where ever he ends up living, I will call him up and we will still do our daily readings together. I've missed that and so has he. It use to be our morning ritual.
I told him that coming back here, is not a good idea for either of us. It would be emotional suicide for both of us, and for him, possibly real suicide if he drinks again. He agrees. So now the question becomes where is best for him? If we can find a place near where his dad lives that has a good recovery program and doctors, he's very open to that idea. The sticking point may be his medical coverage and disablility. The other option is for him to live with "Bob" if they can find a better place to live. He's not adverse to the idea, but he's liking the idea of staying with Dad more and more. I told him that if I had vacation, he could stay with me for a few days while he slowly gathers some of his things. However, since I don't staying with me is not an option. I miss him in my arms and heaven knows Pipers Kitty (though I love her) is not a subsitute, even though she may think that!
I personally like the idea of staying with his Dad. Dad has lots of sobriety time behind him, a huge heart, and for 76 years, keeps going and going and going.... the Energizer Bunny has nothing on him. He's a good soul. But the choice is his to make. I place him firmly, gently and lovingly in his HP's hands, and I'm in mine.
I thank you for all your love, prayers and support. I am so greatful for all of you. Love and blessings to you all.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
P.S. I reminded him that God doesn't want him yet, and he's not going "down below" so he's stuck here on earth, so he better make the best of it, not the worst. He laughed.
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(((((((kari)))))))))) Awesome I am so glad your hubby is doing well !! Way to work your your program and set your boundries for you and him very healthy decision.
Glad to hear of the improvement. Hope that he really takes things to heart and works a program of recovery. Take care of you. That is really all that you can do.
Kari that is such good news thanks for sharing it with us. You are sounding really strong and taking care of yourself first as well as others. Now take a deep breath,. take some time out for you and Pipers and smell the roses again. ((()) Thinking of you. Luv Leo xxx
He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow. 
The sticking point may be his medical coverage and disablility. The other option is for him to live with "Bob" if they can find a better place to live. He's not adverse to the idea, but he's liking the idea of staying with Dad more and more. I told him that if I had vacation, he could stay with me for a few days while he slowly gathers some of his things. However, since I don't staying with me is not an option. I miss him in my arms and heaven knows Pipers Kitty (though I love her) is not a subsitute, even though she may think that! 
