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My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy???
Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had emergency surgery last Thursday and will be unable to make trip - she is ok - just recovering. Wife doesn't want brother in law to go on sr trip w/his daughter, wants him to stay home and take care of her and help her with her teenage kids. Now, believe me his daughter is not the nicest person to his wife - which is totally undeserved. Wife is great person - one of my good friends.
Brother-in-law torn - concerned for daughter's safety in cancun with the Natalee Holloway issues, etc., plus wants to spend time with her before she leaves for college. Will only be gone for a week. We live less than a mile from their house, can help take care of wife, her parents can help, plus she has kids over 18 that can help if needed. But also, wants to be a good husband and be there for his wife, she is very upset that he is choosing daughter over her and wanting to go on the trip.
I can empathize with her feelings, especially with the strained relationship between the two daughter-step-mom, but I think he should go with the daughter, since there is no other adult to go with her,
any ideas, input or thoughts?????
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I would have to think that it would be an ok thing to stay home with his wife. I'm sure his daughter with all the warnings out there today will be able to handle herself the best she has been counseled to do. He will also have to consider the maturity level of his daughter in how she has made decisions within the past 6 months.
Although I think the wife might be acting a bit selfishly, I do believe that this was not something she forsaw either and needs her husband at her side now. His daughter is about to move on with her life and his life will be with his wife.
Also, he can make time to spend with his daughter at another time before she leaves for college.
Could go either way. If wife has a support network that will allow husband to go and still have support I don't see how going would make him a terrible husband.
Bob
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thanks for the input - talked with them last night - lot of other issues have come up in this situation - to long to go into - with all things considered - safety issues - lack of chaperones - I think he will go on the trip -
Thanks again for the help,
Rita
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