The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google.
I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too much for us to watch. I cannot stand to see one more time the look in my wife's eyes when once again her darling daughter is falling down drunk.
That all said, I know I will see it, again and again and each time it takes another little piece of my heart. My wife is a wonderful womyn. How the hell she ended up with this kid is away and beyond me. Maybe if I am very lucky soon what is left of the feeling part will be gone and then I truly won't care.
Done,
Annie
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Two things: 1. Recovery is a process, not an event.....and.... 2. You only get to go around once. Leave em laughing and make it worth your while
I am praying for you. I know the turmoil of CONSTANT disappointment. I am so so tired of ups and downs and up and down. It helps to detach but hard to do. The Language of Letting Go is a wonderful book...
Has your wife ever gone to an Al-Anon meeting or come here? Have you shared this website with her? She needs to focus on her; like you need to focus on you and allow her daughter the dignity of making her own mistakes. Set up boundaries that you can keep. Allow the daughter the gift of desperation.
Keep posting and coming, Maria123
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
This may seem foreign to hear now, through program there is something called detaching with love. The end result would be serenity for you -it is obtainable. This is a good place to share/vent and let it all out. Please keep coming back and posting.
