Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

artygirl · artygirl

Hello everyone! Although I haven't posted in a really long time, I've been here often, mostly just reading. I don't have any contact at all with my soon-to-be ex-AH. My divorce will be final in about 3 or 4 weeks. He chose alcohol and cocaine over our life together. I left him in September. It...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone. I know it has been a while since I have posted. It was not intentional. I lost access to my internet, and now that I am back on I am very happy. I have much to tell. My A has had to move out and is staying in a hotel down the street so it gives me a lot more space, but I really miss having someone here...

melamom815 · melamom815

My hub called to say he wants to be sober. I say 'Good for you' and he asked me if that was all I had to say. I asked him what else he wanted me to say and he asked for me to help him not drink. He wants me to come home and sit with him, not let him buy beer, and make sure he doesn't get too sick. He sa...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Everyone I haven't been on in a while. For past two weeks my father-in-law was in the hospital. I was going the hospital all the time. On Tuesday my father-in-law died. Today was the wake the funeral.

evey · evey

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/SuddenlySingle/WhenExHusbandsGetAlimony.aspx-- Edited by evey at 11:23, 2007-02-17

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all. Thanks for all the supportive comments to my last post. I woke up at 3am, called my A to say hello. He was fine, just woke him up. He had left a message last night for me to call after I went to bed, so I returned it today. I still love the man. He is here right now. I left him to the living room (finally h...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah has been trying to start with me since valentines day when he tried to kiss me and i turned my head. i have been trying to be divorced since last march. i have an idiot for a lawyer who always has an excuse as to why things haven't progressed. meanwhile i have this crazy,although sober, husban...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

AH had the tax return in his account, I told him I wanted half of it. He had to agree I was entitled to it, but he sure wasn't happy about it. Had to be persitant in getting a check from him. He wanted me to account for the money I requested. I resented it, but I did it anyway. The truth is, I need more tha...

Rita G · Rita G

Happy Mardi Gras - from Southwest Louisiana - I looked for an emoticon that was in the likeness of "Beads" but couldn't find one - so can't have a virtual parade to "Throw me somethin' Mister" or share a piece of "King Cake" - If you get the baby, you have to...

jewely · jewely

a typical conversation with my husband................., me: ''oh look honey it's green.'' husband: ''uhhh no......, i really don't think so . it looks green to me.'' me: ''are you sure? i could have sworn it was green.'' husband...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

Hello, Yes, I am back, I need to start from day one again. Please some one lead me to the examples of detachment. Thanks, Heartless

QOD · QOD

My AH decided last night that he was going to leave. And not just leave but leave TOWN. He is thinking about moving to Arkansas (his sister lives there) or Kentucky (his dad lives there). He is planning on being gone today by the time I get home from work. All of this came about b/c he did some work around...

evey · evey

Hi "Everyone", My situation with my AH has gotten worse and I am divorcing him. If I see a lawyer and get legally separated can I make him leave? I have just had it. Last night he was stuck in a snow bank and I went to help him(yes, I know I should have left him there) and he was stewed. He did not eve...

gimmpy · gimmpy

I'm tired and trying to figure if I have reached a point of letting go or shutting down. I grew up in an alcoholic home and thought I would do a much better job at this parenting stuff. the issue now is my oldest daughter. I know she is drinking and using, not sure to what extend..She has pretty much tune...

rmazi2 · rmazi2

Hello everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and ask a few questions. I grew up with an alcoholic father. He hit my mom; they got divorced. I haven't talked to my father in 5 years because he got himself a new family and completely dropped ours. I recently started looking up the effects of grow...

Becky1 · Becky1

Jan. 31 was my AH's 50th birthday, so I planned some special things for him. Needless to say, all that got thrown in the muck and mire of alcoholism, and things went from bad to worse. We didn't speak for days afterward. One of the gifts I got him was for a Riverboat Dinner Cruise, and I upgraded...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I went to the bingo/spaghetti night at the local synagogue (whoda thought that I'd ever set foot back in the synagogue?!

) Anyway, this is what I've realized at the end of the night: I blamed the synagogue for years that my father didn't stop drinking. I was certain that the me...

Maria123 · Maria123

I got this poem from one of my very bestest friends and it's framed and on my livingroom wall so I can remind myself daily. They may see the good you do as self serving. Continue to do good. They may see your generosity as grandstanding Continue to be generous. They may see your warm and caring nature a...

programgirl · programgirl

hey there, I have been an off again and on again here when I needed a little extra and not getting it from live real meetings. But it seems that I also have had a hard time staying connected. I just moved and am using this as a great new opportunity to find a new group and get back at it. well geographical cure...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

My 24 year old daughter (A) can be described like the literature says, "Higher functioning, treatment resistant, relapse-prone with Axis I & II disorders." If you've got one that responds to the "educational" approach, then you are fortunate. We do not. Entering Y...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

Hi all, Sorry to touch this subject again. Can anyone identify with me, I really am confused with this one. The alcoholic who is a child molester, that must be the alcoholics worst ever nightmare, but not as bad as it is for their victim. The question is are they child molesters and that way inclined, o...

Newme · Newme

Dear roomies, I am so happy today...since coming to alanon I have stopped enabling my dad financially...we lost contact for a few months...he called me yesterday saying that he loves me and he is looking for a job...it was so nice to hear his voice again, I just want to pray more and more for him to find hi...

ShelBell · ShelBell

Important life lessons:

Lesson 1: A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor....

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family))))))), Came across this quote: "We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing." Herbert Spencer Not a clue who this person is. But the message is clear: keep the youngster inside of you alive! HAVE FUN! We've gone through so mu...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know if this fits into the confines of this web page, but I am currently applying for a nursing program, and an organization here will give me $$$$ scholarship as soon as the application is completed. I need three interviews from RNs, nurse practitioners, LPN's ect... If you want to he...

hudsond · hudsond

I broke my step-daughter's heart yesterday. Her mother called her on Valentine's Day. This is the first time she has called her in a year. We saw her after Christmas, but haven't heard from her since--even though she is living with other step-daughter and has supposedly been sober-...

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

My therapist helped me understand what addiction is not. I have very rare neurological disease that my neuros started giving me anti-convulsants for last year. After a few months I decided to stop taking them because they made me so sleepy. But very few people can just stop taking an anti-convulsant...

Newme · Newme

My dear roomies, I walked into alanon rooms 6 months ago, my life was so foggy, I couldnt see things clearly but I was sure I need help...I couldnt do it on my own anymore and God bless the lady who introduced my broken heart to this great fellowship. The first few posts that I left I didnt know many of you but...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I don't know what happened, nothing exactly, just minding my own business, thinking about some things...past things...not so good things...all the things I never forgave or forgot. Then I combined those with new not so good things...and BOOM! Only I didn't go boom I just held it all in and g...

lylaanju · lylaanju

is to want to believe my AH when every week or two he says, he's sick and tired of being sick and tired, he needs help, he has to stop, etc. How do I have faith in him, keep the hope but then not completely be fooled by this disease and the promises? He's not a bad guy, he's just very sick and gett...

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't been on this board for a long, long time mostly because I feel like I don't need it quite so much. I left my AH and got my own apartment. Before I left him, I was working three jobs to get enough money to move out. With the help of a very good friend and a little extra money, I was able to move ou...

Akasha · Akasha

I feel like I'm getting ready to recite something my mother used to say to me all the time... There was a little girl who had a little curl... Right in the middle of her forehead; And when she was good, She was very, very good... But when she was bad...? She was horrid! Anyway....Things are going good....

Jill · Jill

It’s Friday evening of a 3 day weekend. When I got home from work, I got a call from AH who was on the commuter train coming home. He didn’t come home by when I calculated he would (based on when he called). Another hour went by, and I started to what-if. The panic crawled around the edges of my brain. Then I d...

Brenda · Brenda

I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...

moxafoot · moxafoot

A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...

QOD · QOD

I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...

Moon · Moon

Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...

Rora · Rora

I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.

maresie2 · maresie2

The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...

Kethry · Kethry

Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...

CJ · CJ

(Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...

fuzz · fuzz

Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...

horselover58 · horselover58

My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...

debilyn · debilyn

don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....

Honestly · Honestly

I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.

ollie · ollie

Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...

bcanuck · bcanuck

..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((Family)))))))),

Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all!

I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...

Rora · Rora

I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...

ollie · ollie

HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...

irish54 · irish54

Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...

QOD · QOD

My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Getting better all the time... (Preview) Hello everyone! Although I haven't posted in a really long time, I've been here often, mostly just reading. I don't have any contact at all with my soon-to-be ex-AH. My divorce will be final in about 3 or 4 weeks. He chose alcohol and cocaine over our life together. I left him in September. It...	artygirl	3	451	Feb 20, 2007 by Maria123
	back from being offline for a long time--hope I am still welcome (Preview) Hello everyone. I know it has been a while since I have posted. It was not intentional. I lost access to my internet, and now that I am back on I am very happy. I have much to tell. My A has had to move out and is staying in a hotel down the street so it gives me a lot more space, but I really miss having someone here...	hippietrippiechick	10	577	Feb 20, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Letting him go (Preview) My hub called to say he wants to be sober. I say 'Good for you' and he asked me if that was all I had to say. I asked him what else he wanted me to say and he asked for me to help him not drink. He wants me to come home and sit with him, not let him buy beer, and make sure he doesn't get too sick. He sa...	melamom815	5	425	Feb 20, 2007 by mama_nz
	father-in-law died (Preview) Hi Everyone I haven't been on in a while. For past two weeks my father-in-law was in the hospital. I was going the hospital all the time. On Tuesday my father-in-law died. Today was the wake the funeral.	nycbt	18	539	Feb 20, 2007 by lilms
	Good Read for anyone "supporting$" their Alcoholic Spouse (Preview) http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/SuddenlySingle/WhenExHusbandsGetAlimony.aspx-- Edited by evey at 11:23, 2007-02-17	evey	2	746	Feb 20, 2007 by bobump
	today was well worth it (Preview) Hello all. Thanks for all the supportive comments to my last post. I woke up at 3am, called my A to say hello. He was fine, just woke him up. He had left a message last night for me to call after I went to bed, so I returned it today. I still love the man. He is here right now. I left him to the living room (finally h...	hippietrippiechick	1	402	Feb 20, 2007 by irish54
	just between me and you (Preview) my ex ah has been trying to start with me since valentines day when he tried to kiss me and i turned my head. i have been trying to be divorced since last march. i have an idiot for a lawyer who always has an excuse as to why things haven't progressed. meanwhile i have this crazy,although sober, husban...	serendipity	5	723	Feb 20, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Money Money here we go again (Preview) AH had the tax return in his account, I told him I wanted half of it. He had to agree I was entitled to it, but he sure wasn't happy about it. Had to be persitant in getting a check from him. He wanted me to account for the money I requested. I resented it, but I did it anyway. The truth is, I need more tha...	RainyJamie	3	707	Feb 20, 2007 by maresie2
	Happy Mardi Gras (Preview) Happy Mardi Gras - from Southwest Louisiana - I looked for an emoticon that was in the likeness of "Beads" but couldn't find one - so can't have a virtual parade to "Throw me somethin' Mister" or share a piece of "King Cake" - If you get the baby, you have to...	Rita G	3	425	Feb 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	conversation with my..........., (Preview) a typical conversation with my husband................., me: ''oh look honey it's green.'' husband: ''uhhh no......, i really don't think so . it looks green to me.'' me: ''are you sure? i could have sworn it was green.'' husband...	jewely	11	516	Feb 19, 2007 by nmike
	Please give me examples of Detachment (Preview) Hello, Yes, I am back, I need to start from day one again. Please some one lead me to the examples of detachment. Thanks, Heartless	heartless39470	7	1075	Feb 19, 2007 by Leetle
	AH is leaving town. (Preview) My AH decided last night that he was going to leave. And not just leave but leave TOWN. He is thinking about moving to Arkansas (his sister lives there) or Kentucky (his dad lives there). He is planning on being gone today by the time I get home from work. All of this came about b/c he did some work around...	QOD	4	326	Feb 19, 2007 by Maria123
	How do I get him out? I've hit my bottom... (Preview) Hi "Everyone", My situation with my AH has gotten worse and I am divorcing him. If I see a lawyer and get legally separated can I make him leave? I have just had it. Last night he was stuck in a snow bank and I went to help him(yes, I know I should have left him there) and he was stewed. He did not eve...	evey	11	689	Feb 19, 2007 by maria13
	letting go or indifferent? (Preview) I'm tired and trying to figure if I have reached a point of letting go or shutting down. I grew up in an alcoholic home and thought I would do a much better job at this parenting stuff. the issue now is my oldest daughter. I know she is drinking and using, not sure to what extend..She has pretty much tune...	gimmpy	8	643	Feb 19, 2007 by gimmpy
	Newbie (Preview) Hello everyone, I just wanted to introduce myself and ask a few questions. I grew up with an alcoholic father. He hit my mom; they got divorced. I haven't talked to my father in 5 years because he got himself a new family and completely dropped ours. I recently started looking up the effects of grow...	rmazi2	6	324	Feb 19, 2007 by Rita G
	Can't He Ever Just Be HAPPY? Just ONCE? (Preview) Jan. 31 was my AH's 50th birthday, so I planned some special things for him. Needless to say, all that got thrown in the muck and mire of alcoholism, and things went from bad to worse. We didn't speak for days afterward. One of the gifts I got him was for a Riverboat Dinner Cruise, and I upgraded...	Becky1	10	617	Feb 19, 2007 by Karilynn
	Nobody is safe from the scathings of the disease (Preview) I went to the bingo/spaghetti night at the local synagogue (whoda thought that I'd ever set foot back in the synagogue?! ) Anyway, this is what I've realized at the end of the night: I blamed the synagogue for years that my father didn't stop drinking. I was certain that the me...	Tiger2006	2	546	Feb 19, 2007 by Maria123
	Continue to be ........... (Preview) I got this poem from one of my very bestest friends and it's framed and on my livingroom wall so I can remind myself daily. They may see the good you do as self serving. Continue to do good. They may see your generosity as grandstanding Continue to be generous. They may see your warm and caring nature a...	Maria123	3	450	Feb 19, 2007 by Faith73
	back to square one (Preview) hey there, I have been an off again and on again here when I needed a little extra and not getting it from live real meetings. But it seems that I also have had a hard time staying connected. I just moved and am using this as a great new opportunity to find a new group and get back at it. well geographical cure...	programgirl	3	422	Feb 18, 2007 by programgirl
	The Psychodynamic Approach (Preview) My 24 year old daughter (A) can be described like the literature says, "Higher functioning, treatment resistant, relapse-prone with Axis I & II disorders." If you've got one that responds to the "educational" approach, then you are fortunate. We do not. Entering Y...	Jeff Reynolds	10	597	Feb 18, 2007 by mel123
	Can Anyone Help Me Understand? (Preview) Hi all, Sorry to touch this subject again. Can anyone identify with me, I really am confused with this one. The alcoholic who is a child molester, that must be the alcoholics worst ever nightmare, but not as bad as it is for their victim. The question is are they child molesters and that way inclined, o...	Barbs45	8	773	Feb 18, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Relation with daddy is healing:-) (Preview) Dear roomies, I am so happy today...since coming to alanon I have stopped enabling my dad financially...we lost contact for a few months...he called me yesterday saying that he loves me and he is looking for a job...it was so nice to hear his voice again, I just want to pray more and more for him to find hi...	Newme	1	349	Feb 18, 2007 by Maria123
	How about a little funny? (Preview) Important life lessons: Lesson 1: A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor....	ShelBell	2	486	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	"Fun" for thought (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))), Came across this quote: "We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing." Herbert Spencer Not a clue who this person is. But the message is clear: keep the youngster inside of you alive! HAVE FUN! We've gone through so mu...	Karilynn	3	402	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	Anybody here ever an RN? (Preview) I don't know if this fits into the confines of this web page, but I am currently applying for a nursing program, and an organization here will give me $$$$ scholarship as soon as the application is completed. I need three interviews from RNs, nurse practitioners, LPN's ect... If you want to he...	RainyJamie	1	356	Feb 18, 2007 by Barbs45
	broken hearts (Preview) I broke my step-daughter's heart yesterday. Her mother called her on Valentine's Day. This is the first time she has called her in a year. We saw her after Christmas, but haven't heard from her since--even though she is living with other step-daughter and has supposedly been sober-...	hudsond	11	497	Feb 18, 2007 by Karilynn
	What addiction is not (Preview) My therapist helped me understand what addiction is not. I have very rare neurological disease that my neuros started giving me anti-convulsants for last year. After a few months I decided to stop taking them because they made me so sleepy. But very few people can just stop taking an anti-convulsant...	donewithitallandhappy	1	398	Feb 18, 2007 by Karilynn
	Getting there... (Preview) My dear roomies, I walked into alanon rooms 6 months ago, my life was so foggy, I couldnt see things clearly but I was sure I need help...I couldnt do it on my own anymore and God bless the lady who introduced my broken heart to this great fellowship. The first few posts that I left I didnt know many of you but...	Newme	5	427	Feb 17, 2007 by nycbt
	Anger...creeping in...too weak to resist...AAAHHH!!! (Preview) I don't know what happened, nothing exactly, just minding my own business, thinking about some things...past things...not so good things...all the things I never forgave or forgot. Then I combined those with new not so good things...and BOOM! Only I didn't go boom I just held it all in and g...	RainyJamie	10	467	Feb 17, 2007 by Diva
	One of the hardest things (Preview) is to want to believe my AH when every week or two he says, he's sick and tired of being sick and tired, he needs help, he has to stop, etc. How do I have faith in him, keep the hope but then not completely be fooled by this disease and the promises? He's not a bad guy, he's just very sick and gett...	lylaanju	6	496	Feb 17, 2007 by Christy
	I left my AH and am very happy! (Preview) I haven't been on this board for a long, long time mostly because I feel like I don't need it quite so much. I left my AH and got my own apartment. Before I left him, I was working three jobs to get enough money to move out. With the help of a very good friend and a little extra money, I was able to move ou...	Lindy	3	379	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	When things go good..... (Preview) I feel like I'm getting ready to recite something my mother used to say to me all the time... There was a little girl who had a little curl... Right in the middle of her forehead; And when she was good, She was very, very good... But when she was bad...? She was horrid! Anyway....Things are going good....	Akasha	7	449	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	Choices for my weekend (Preview) It’s Friday evening of a 3 day weekend. When I got home from work, I got a call from AH who was on the commuter train coming home. He didn’t come home by when I calculated he would (based on when he called). Another hour went by, and I started to what-if. The panic crawled around the edges of my brain. Then I d...	Jill	3	444	Feb 17, 2007 by Maria123
	My Husband (Preview) I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...	Brenda	4	319	Feb 17, 2007 by Brenda
	newbie question (Preview) A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...	moxafoot	8	521	Feb 17, 2007 by carolena
	AH gave me his wedding rings last night!! (Preview) I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...	QOD	4	413	Feb 17, 2007 by Becky1
	When I changed, &quot;they&quot; changed (Preview) Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...	Moon	4	633	Feb 17, 2007 by carolena
	Sister's family (Preview) Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...	donewithitallandhappy	5	344	Feb 17, 2007 by lin0606
	a new life for me (Poem) (Preview) A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...	Lauren ashley	9	549	Feb 17, 2007 by Lauren ashley
	Going to f2f because of this board... (Preview) I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...	Rora	6	504	Feb 16, 2007 by CJ
	Finding It Difficult? (Preview) I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.	Barbs45	7	388	Feb 16, 2007 by leo
	Fed up to the back teeth (Preview) The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...	maresie2	3	465	Feb 16, 2007 by leo
	My AH had a relapse last night (Preview) ((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...	twinmom2	7	416	Feb 16, 2007 by Rebecca
	Not a Happy Valentine's Day (Preview) Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...	Kethry	7	549	Feb 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Brilliant Idea!!! (Preview) I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...	carolinagirl	6	339	Feb 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Step 3 to the hilt (Preview) (Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...	CJ	13	1202	Feb 16, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	Bored not bored (Preview) It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...	carolinagirl	4	331	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	an unhappy valentines day (Preview) Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...	fuzz	4	326	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	Adult Step Children? (Preview) My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...	horselover58	5	382	Feb 16, 2007 by horselover58
	Getting by (Preview) Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...	Jennifer	4	416	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Rough stuff (Preview) don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....	debilyn	14	530	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Dear Sponsor??? From Jo (Preview) I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.	Honestly	0	423	Feb 15, 2007 by Honestly
	CHRISTY PLEASE READ (Preview) Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...	ollie	4	468	Feb 15, 2007 by david62
	It will never cease to amaze me.. (Preview) ..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...	bcanuck	11	530	Feb 15, 2007 by Sallen
	Happy Valentines Day! (Preview) (((((((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all! I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...	Karilynn	12	530	Feb 15, 2007 by tea2
	New here...floundering :O( (Preview) I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...	Rora	7	550	Feb 15, 2007 by QOD
	MAYBE? (Preview) HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...	ollie	7	540	Feb 15, 2007 by ollie
	Blessed to be an Al-Anon (Preview) Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...	irish54	3	417	Feb 15, 2007 by irish54
	AH got Frazzled Today, Called Me for Support, Seems to be Pulling Through It. (Preview) My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...	QOD	5	472	Feb 15, 2007 by jaja
	VALENTINES BLUES (Preview) As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...	wbfox58	10	1599	Feb 15, 2007 by nmike
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