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I put myself out there on Match.com looking for someone to have as a good, casual relationship, to start with because I was really feeling left out with friends being the only one on my own. It would be nice to have someone to take to cook outs and stuff like that. I feel like such a fifth wheel otherwise. And I would beat my brain damaged head on the wall before I went looking in the bar! That's all there is in my small town and church wher I got my husband. Last night I had almost a perfect match contact me.......... my ex AH
He thought it was weird, I said no, not weird, we got along great before he started binging every night. And I just couldn't live with someone like that. We actually get along great now, talk every day, the boys are spending lots of time with him. I think we found our nitch, seperate households and daylight. If we keep our boundaries in tact we are a perfect match!! LOL
Too funny?? Carma?? or repetating mistakes???
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
I know for me I knew I would replace my husband with the same "personality" with a different face and name!! So I dug in deep and worked on myself to see what attracted me to this 'kind of personality' I'm actually still finding out what makes MOON tick. Good luck with your work!!
HAHA that is funny, well, you weren't drawn together for nothing. And I have often daydreamed about the wonderful life I would have if my AH lived in the house next door instead of here with me. How does that song go?...I guess we all need some room of our own Jamie
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I'm like a pinch of tea...put me in hot water and see how strong I can be.
Isn't there a song out there that is kind of like that? I cannot for the life of me remember the main lines. A husband and wife are having problems so one of them (I think the wife) puts an ad in the singles paper, looking for a man who likes this and that. Her husband answers the ad witha an ad saying he does and he'll meet her at this place. When they meet up there, they find each other and rekindle their love for one another.
Well, dear.....I hardly think this is the same thing. As in the song, there are no alcoholics involved.....alcohol-yes-I think pina coladas or something. But I'd step away from that one. LOL. Keep your chin up. You'll soon find your match made in heaven.
((((( Josey ))))) Actually I recall this song from back (OK way back) I looked it up and found from 1979
Rupert Holmes Escape (The Pina Colada Song..)
I was tired of my lady, We've been together too long Like a worn-out recording, Of a favorite song So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed And in the personals column, There was this letter I read:
"If you like Piņa Coladas, And getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga, If you have half-a-brain If you like making love at midnight, In the dunes of the cape I'm the lady you've looked for, Write to me, and escape"
I didn't think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean But me and my old lady, Have fallen into the same old dull routine So I wrote to the paper, Took out a personal ad And though I'm nobody's poet, I thought it wasn't half-bad
"Yes, I like Piņa Coladas, And getting caught in the rain I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon, And cut through all this red tape At a bar called O'Malley's, Where we'll plan our escape"
So I waited with high hopes, Then she walked in the place I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face It was my own lovely lady, And she said, "Oh, it's you" And we laughed for a moment, And I said, "I never knew"
"That you liked Piņa Coladas, And getting caught in the rain And the feel of the ocean, And the taste of champagne If you like making love at midnight, In the dunes of the cape You're the love that I've looked for, Come with me, and escape"
"If you like Piņa Coladas, And getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga, If you have half-a-brain If you like making love at midnight, In the dunes of the cape I'm the lady you've looked for, Write to me, and escape"
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"Oh!" 
((((josey
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