AH had the tax return in his account, I told him I wanted half of it. He had to agree I was entitled to it, but he sure wasn't happy about it. Had to be persitant in getting a check from him. He wanted me to account for the money I requested. I resented it, but I did it anyway. The truth is, I need more than half of it to do what I need to do (pay off bills) and as soon as he figured that out, he quit dickering. Gave me the check and immediately became irritable. Said now he can't fix the car. I ignored him and went on my jog.

He could have fixed the car BEFORE HE LOST HIS JOB DUE TO THE FACT THE CAR WAS MESSED UP!! Normal people don't lose thier jobs when their car breaks down. He could have fixed the car when he got the insurance payment after that old guy backed into him. That was a nice chunk of cash and he spent all of it and not a penny on the car. Or how about when he borrowed $$$$ from his sister? He told her a) he needed the money for the car and b) he would pay her back with the tax return. That money went poof into the air and not a penny on the car. What's more I told him to pay her back now that he has the money and guess what? He apparently doesn't have enough money anymore. We have the same ammount of money, how is it I can take care of all theese things and he can't? He has the money to pay off the car and the loan and have cash to save.

     I have to back off I can't make him deal with his money the way that I think is responsible, but I know he is going to fritter it away on nothing. I have seen him do it time and again to unbelievable ammounts of money. I thought about calling his sister and asking her not to lend him anymore money untill he pays her back. Is that going too far? I want her to know that I don't approve of the loans and I don't want to feel like I owe her any money. He always borrows money when things get tight, he won't save or spend frugally and I have yet to see him pay anyone back. 

     This is the first time I demanded my part of the taxes. Every year (because he does them) he gets the taxes, spends them as he sees fit, and usually kicks me down maybe 1/5 of the money. Then he constantly brings up the fact that he gave me some money when I want to know where all the money went. 

     I took my half to the bank. When I got home my daughter said that he was mad and yelled alot. We were going to a movie and she thought she was grounded but didn't know. He was very stressed and frazzled. At the theater, he said he would catch up with us. Came into the movie 20 minutes late. Stank like beer (Flashback: the same thing happened  at my daughter's B-Day. Guess he can't sit through a movie without a beer). Real annoying for the rest of the night, but no talk of money.

Thanks for letting me get that out.
Jamie