((((Everyone)))))

Our A got herself evicted.  Not sure exactly what happened.  Have heard two versions.  She was housesitting up until today apparantly.  Her Mom said last week that she may need to stay here for a bit.  I told her to let me know when that would be happening and I would be elsewhere.  Her Mom then told me on Monday that she didn't think she was coming here.  I again asked her to find out for sure and to let me know and I could make arrangements to not be here.

Over the past year it has been one crisis after another and I am at my limit.  As difficult as this has been it is nowhere near as difficult as it was when she was living here.  That said, a little while ago I told her Mom that she needed to do what she had to do for herself  (not for me or the A) so she could live with herself.  If she needs to enable the A or have her here that is her right. 

I am no longer able to watch what happens to her Mom when that happens and the A is around.

I have put processes in place where I can pick up my bags and go elsewhere whenever I need to.  I have not needed to up until now.

Our A arrived with her belongings today proclaiming "I'm home".  I immediately picked up the phone and made arrangements to stay elsewhere for the next 7 or 8 days while she is here.  She is in no way in recovery and she had alcohol with her.

She then decided to stay elsewhere.  So now my partner is madder than a wet hen.  She doesn't want her daughter (our A) to think she doesn't want her here and seems to think that I should put up with the nonsense that goes on while she is here for the next bit.

So altho I believe I am right and am still willing to go for the week and she can bring her daughter here I am not happy.

So much for boundaries making life easier.  Am practicing every anger management skill I own. 

lilms

-- Edited by lilms at 18:49, 2007-02-21