Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maresie2 · maresie2

When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...

annmarie · annmarie

Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....

java · java

Letting GoTo "let go" does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. ...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I have been praying recently for God to relieve me of my insanity. To grant me the freedom that serenity and that the program offers. That comes with sanity. I've gotten tired of being angry, I said. I've gotten tired of being on the defense, of creating senarios for what my Mom "will most likel...

Katy · Katy

For weeks now my Ah has been distant and cold towrads me, I have tried to carry on and not let it get to me but in the end it always does, I have tried on many accasions to ask what was wrong, but he won't say, he doesn't talk to me about anything, I want closure it's killing me, living with this day after day, he t...

carosie · carosie

THE CRACKED POT An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung onthe ends of a p which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot ar...

java · java

"BELIEVE IN YOURSELF" I came across this poem the other day and thought wow! I wanted to share it with you and some of my thoughts. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND IN YOUR DREAM THOUGH IMPOSSIBLE THINGS MAY SEEM. SOMDAY, SOMEHOW YOU'LL GET THROUGH TO THE GOAL YOU HAVE IN VIEW. MOUNTAINS FALL AND SEAS...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

OK, I made arrangments to have lunch with my ex Á b/f's mom (her and I were and are very close despite her son breaking up with me) What a fabulous time I had!! Our lunch lasted almost 4 hours. We talked and talked and talked. She is by far one of the sweetest women I have ever met. It just amazes me that m...

belle1 · belle1

trying to see if this will work on attachments of files -- Edited by belle1 at 17:10, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:21, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:25, 2007-04-24

serendipity · serendipity

I just went back and read all of my posts from the past year. Seems to me I was healthier last year than I am at this moment. I'm thinking that I had so much time to talk with my dad about life and what's important. Things felt so much clearer to me then. In this past year, letting my ex ah back into my life real...

maresie2 · maresie2

Thank you all for your prayers about jobs. I am still waiting to hear on one particular job that would help me out a great deal. If had that job I could make it out of the debt that's been generated by having to move. Right now I am going to have to go back to working minimum wage. I have not had good experien...

ShelBell · ShelBell

I will out of town for a few days and won't have access to you all. I will be back Friday afternoon and will catch up with eveyone then. Have a great week!!!! Lots of love

maresie2 · maresie2

I now have to go to court on Wednesday despite the fact I have moved out and been gone from the flat/apartment for 6 weeks. I have to do that in order to protect my credit/record in ever being able to rent again. Needless to say the A has not left the apartment yet. He's moved some of his stuff but not all of...

hopefully · hopefully

I'm new to your site & have been reading your posts for about a week. I think I reached the end of my rope about a week ago & just reading your posts to each other & your kindness & caring has helped more than you can know. I got the phone #s of 2 alanon groups in my area & am going to call tom...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Good morning my sweet family. Well tomorrow is hubby's surgery. The closer it gets, the harder I have to try not to get uptight. I have to turn him over to the very good doctors and HP. Like the night I told him to leave when he was drinking I have to detach a bit. Hard not to know wha...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH, who happens (thank HP) to be sober for the time being, is on his way to PA to pick up his sister. Yesterday she passed out drunk while home alone with her 15 mo. old daughter. When her husband called the police to find out what he should do they came to the house. She called this morning asking for help....

Alanoner · Alanoner

I think that is the wrong title, because this post is about ways to NOT have an addicted kid. Of course it in not foolproof, but each person that has tried it has been succesful with it. I can't take credit for it since my parents invented it, my siblings and I just followed their training that we knew work...

lmt123 · lmt123

(((((((Twinmom))))))) I just read your post from several days ago regarding your sons' birthday and your feelings towards your A and that situation . Sorry this is late, but here's a hug from me to ((((((((((you))))))))))! I hope your days have been better since then! Hang in there ~ I've been th...

cac · cac

Today I am in a good place and I should share so that someone else can find hope in my situation. My husband got released from rehab on Saturday morning. He has been to 5 meetings in 2 days. I am so proud of him. I am so hopeful. He is surrounding himself with people in the program. Today he is going to outpatie...

bob6502 · bob6502

These pictures were taken by a friend of mine when we went for a walk one day. I was thinking as I was doing my homework about all the possibilites that HP can create or has in store for us. Many things beyond our own limited imagination. Hp created this bird, something in my own limited imagination I would...

stillkickin · stillkickin

Being in Al-Anon has taught me a lot about faith. I have learned to rely on my HP to guide me, and to lead me in this life down the path that was set out before me. The path has been slowly appearing for me out of the fog of daily drama. And as I continue to walk it, I have been facing roadblocks. Some knock me down...

david62 · david62

Howdy (((((((yall)))))))) For all of those who responded to my "Patience Grasshopper" post thanks. You folks are the best. When I went to bed after I posted that on Friday night, I decided to get up the next morning and head into a meeting in San Antonio. No meetings where I am on Saturda...

aunitedway · aunitedway

Went for a ride on my Bicycle Today. Wonderful Ride. i will be feeling it tomorrow. lol. I DO want to say tooo ... i have enjoyed every burn I felt in my muscles and every bit of its been a joy. Ladies bike no speed dials..... just a set of good peddle brakes. nothing fancy. Definitely meet my needs. ...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Thanks for all the well wishes and thoughts! The spinal tap was not as bad as what I was imagining, I'm glad i faced it and hope it helps them figure this out. A couple days of laying flat and moving slow to avoid the headache getting worse and I should be as good as new. My doc made a comment beforehand that I m...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

ShelBell · ShelBell

There have been a few posts this week about anger and rather than reply on each thread, I thought I would start a new one. I have worked to deal with my anger towards my A and a lot of it has subsided, but I still harbor some resentment. So I was just listening to a speaker cd as I was driving today and I heard s...

Kim65 · Kim65

I'M A GRANDMA !! Fandango (Fanny) and Ariel were born at 4:30pm today in perfect health, and with no help from me whatsoever (OK, I helped dry them off and tugged one of Ariel's feet on the way out as she was coming breech). They are nursing on Mama and staggering all over. They are BOTH girls, which is a...

kissers · kissers

I started a new job over a month ago. Things at my new job did not feel right. There was something wrong, but I couldn't put my finger on it. Then I started noticing things. My boss told me to write a report for one of our clients. He gave me half the information and told me he would give me the other half. I sche...

maresie2 · maresie2

As long as I maintained some level of denial I could go on trusting the A. I did that despite his actions. I did that despite car crashes, tickets galore, no money and lies galore. Then I came here and heard my story over and over and I couldn't maintainthe denial anymore. The sad thing and probably the mo...

Alanoner · Alanoner

Hello Friends, I just had to share with you a heartwarming moment with my grown up children. My first introduction to Alanon was in graduate school as a friend of mine and I went to the movies to see "Stuart Saves His Family" which is about a character in several twelve step programs and how it...

tea2 · tea2

HaPpY BirThDaY Karilynn!!! With lots of love and wishes for today! PS. I recall you saying there are no calories in Birthday Cake

david62 · david62

Hi (((((Family))))) I wonder sometimes, when will I be through having to be patient. (I just saw my HP patiently shaking his head at me, I think He thinks it isn't nice to write to people while I am sitting on the pity pot! ) I was given the gift of a vision this last week. A vision meant to help me to be patie...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Yet another incident to accept. Last night I was walking around town with my umbrella in the rain, shopping before my nail appointment. It was so peaceful. Doing something for me! Well I got my nails done, got my toes done. On my way out of the nail salon, who do I see. My ex A b/f. He was standing in f...

ally · ally

SHADOW IS CELEBRATING HER BIRTHDAY TODAY (SAT) HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO "MY MATE" HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU...... Have a brilliant day hen....Wish I was with you... Love "your mate" Ally

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))) Can you all keep your fingers, legs, eye's, toes, and anything else you can cross......lol My new f2f meeting starts tomorrow night...Sat night.....I am feeling excited, nervous a wee bit....also proud of me... I am running it, and I feel good....arggg...

diamond · diamond

In reading some other posts...this phrase hit me and I decided to write it out to see how far I've come. "Being lonely vs. Being alone" After being married to an alcoholic for 17 years, I understand how you can 'be with' someone and yet still feel lonely. It took me a long time to grasp that c...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I think it was in one of the Getting Them Sober books that said moving the furniture has nothing to do with your marriage. We are afraid to move the furniture around thinking that means that the marriage is over. So, I have waited 2 years afraid that if I moved the furniture then my AHsober wo...

Maria123 · Maria123

I sooooooooo needed this email today and I hope it will make you smile and laugh out loud as it did me. ~Maria

kerry5 · kerry5

Newcomers meeting Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there! kerry

debilyn · debilyn

i tried to make this stupid font bigger.... Ok ever since the AH was in that store with the not nice woman, and was mean to me, I have awful nightmares about him. Last one he was killing my loved ones in horrible ways. He would not hurt me becuz he loved me too much...?? i wake up feeling so hurt, broken dessim...

Rita G · Rita G

Sunday, 4/30 at 1:00 pm I will be sharing my story of recovery at the Legacy AA Group Anniversary Meeting, in Pasadena TX (near Houston). My dear MIP family, please keep me in your thoughts & prayers that I will as always share the message of HOPE that can be found in Al-Anon regardless of the situ...

Kim65 · Kim65

there's actually something that can be DONE!! My greatest fear (and not a realistic one, apparently) was that I was just screwed and deserved to lose everything because I was stupid and careless enough to put in with a person like my A. The negativity of that way of thinking is obvious now. I get caugh...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) I'm back.... I had a wonderful holiday.....It was a pilgrimage to Lourdes. I'm not really a religious person. I am a catholic, and I guess I have been trying to find the God of my understanding for my 3rd step.....And going on this holiday has been amazing for me. I h...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, Thanks to a program designed to make this webpage the size of a billboard LOL I can visit once in a while during my 30 day trial. Along with the cool stickers for my keyboard that allow me to see what buttons I am pushing. I wish I could manage to get thru more of the posts,I have not found anyt...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Negativity Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns. Negative energy ca...

AllisonNurse · AllisonNurse

Hi, my name is Allison, and im new here, i started going to the al anon group meetings not too long ago and found it to be a haven, and the only thing that kept my sanity. Before, i was a total enabler, picking up my mothers peices, putting her to bed, taking her keys, listening and believing her sob stories...

pinky · pinky

Hi I am new here, I won't go through my long story I'm sure you all have heard it before. What I need help with is my kids, I have 1 that is acting out and 1 that holds it all in, I have been sober for 11 years and my husband went down hill 2 years ago, I want to leave but where do I go? but then he dangles that carrot i...

steppgirl · steppgirl

Tomorrow my A boyfriend has a race.. I'm going alone.. I haven't talk to him so I don't know if he will be there.. I love the races so I don't want to miss it.. I am being strong while we are seperated but I'm scared to see him.. We have lived together for a year and I made him move out 3 days ago because he isn't w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I think I have come a long way since first finding this board. I remember when I first moved out I thought my life was over, he was my life and I couldn't imagine it without him. I lost more than 1/2 the family income and had no idea how I would support three kids on my own. Here it is eight months later and I...

Becky1 · Becky1

Not exactly a step back, but stepping back from my AH. I have some extreme abandonment issues...this has caused me to hold too tightly to my AH. This past week, when we went for a week without talking, touching, or anything, I decided I was really going to have to change myself. So, I am distancing mys...

Christy · Christy

My sober AH sent me this joke in an email this morning. I'm glad he can find humor in his disease, I hope y'all can too. I thought it was way funny. A man, and his wife are awakened at 3 o'clock in the morning by a loud pounding on the door. The man gets up and goes to the door where a drunken stranger, standin...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, Can anyone suggest efective ways to deal with anger, or books on the subject. I seem to be being tested on this lately. thanks AM

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just to catch anyone up, I got an email from my mother in law last Wed. saying my husband had been in a horrible car accident, punctured a lung etc. and was in the hospital somewhere but she didn't know where. Also, he had told her that he didn't want me to know. Finally, she got worried after not hearing f...

cac · cac

Yesterday I did some good work with Step 1 I admit that I am powerless over my husbands addiction and that my life has become unmanageable. I cannot control my husband. I cannot control what will happen when he comes home. I cannot control whether or not he drinks. I can control myself. I...

serendipity · serendipity

I have this best friend,we have been close on and off from middle school. But she went one way and I went another. I started a family with my a. I had what she wanted. But her life was good,traveling,following her dreams. She has always been one of those girl bitches, do you know what iI mean? But she loves m...

aisling_29 · aisling_29

I am livid, hurt, dissapointed and a whole gammet of emotions right now. And I am trying to work at my job with all of this going through my head. I have been married to the same guy for 7 yrs, together for a total of 10 yrs. and we have a 3yr. old son. I have been saying to him for a long time that I think his dri...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), I take no credit for this post. Abbyal posted this about a year ago, and it was a saving grace to me. I asked her if I could repost it. She graciously consented. Thank you Abbyal. You rock! When someone asked me that question many years ago, I though she was nuts, and said what ki...

QOD · QOD

My AH has managed to wiggle his way back home over the few weeks. He was staying with his stepdad and I thought that was a good place for him to be. He was coming over to my house just about every evening after work. He was cheery and bending over backwards to please me. Sweet talk, hugs, kisses. He was h...

TLM · TLM

I am wanting to do some more studying and reading, and was hoping that you all could give me suggestions on books that you have found especially powerful in your journey. I have had 'How Alanon Works' and 'Courage to Change' for years, and both are excellent. I would just like to add to them. I am thinki...

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	My worst fears (Preview) When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...	maresie2	5	608	May 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	to John (Preview) Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....	annmarie	0	493	May 1, 2007 by annmarie
	Letting go and Letting God (Preview) Letting GoTo "let go" does not mean to stop caring. It means I can't do it for someone else.To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. ...	java	5	982	May 1, 2007 by kissers
	The denial cloud is lifting...and is that...sanity?! (Preview) I have been praying recently for God to relieve me of my insanity. To grant me the freedom that serenity and that the program offers. That comes with sanity. I've gotten tired of being angry, I said. I've gotten tired of being on the defense, of creating senarios for what my Mom "will most likel...	Tiger2006	3	560	May 1, 2007 by CJ
	Where I am at right now! (Preview) For weeks now my Ah has been distant and cold towrads me, I have tried to carry on and not let it get to me but in the end it always does, I have tried on many accasions to ask what was wrong, but he won't say, he doesn't talk to me about anything, I want closure it's killing me, living with this day after day, he t...	Katy	8	633	May 1, 2007 by Katy
	The cracked pot (Preview) THE CRACKED POT An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung onthe ends of a p which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot ar...	carosie	5	552	Apr 30, 2007 by aunitedway
	Believe in Yourself (Preview) "BELIEVE IN YOURSELF" I came across this poem the other day and thought wow! I wanted to share it with you and some of my thoughts. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND IN YOUR DREAM THOUGH IMPOSSIBLE THINGS MAY SEEM. SOMDAY, SOMEHOW YOU'LL GET THROUGH TO THE GOAL YOU HAVE IN VIEW. MOUNTAINS FALL AND SEAS...	java	1	470	Apr 30, 2007 by rtexas
	Lunch with my ex A b/f's mom (Preview) OK, I made arrangments to have lunch with my ex Á b/f's mom (her and I were and are very close despite her son breaking up with me) What a fabulous time I had!! Our lunch lasted almost 4 hours. We talked and talked and talked. She is by far one of the sweetest women I have ever met. It just amazes me that m...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	621	Apr 30, 2007 by TLM
	allys pic in france (Preview) trying to see if this will work on attachments of files -- Edited by belle1 at 17:10, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:21, 2007-04-24 -- Edited by belle1 at 17:25, 2007-04-24	belle1	7	666	Apr 30, 2007 by ET
	What A Difference A Year Makes (Preview) I just went back and read all of my posts from the past year. Seems to me I was healthier last year than I am at this moment. I'm thinking that I had so much time to talk with my dad about life and what's important. Things felt so much clearer to me then. In this past year, letting my ex ah back into my life real...	serendipity	3	675	Apr 30, 2007 by aunitedway
	update (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers about jobs. I am still waiting to hear on one particular job that would help me out a great deal. If had that job I could make it out of the debt that's been generated by having to move. Right now I am going to have to go back to working minimum wage. I have not had good experien...	maresie2	4	597	Apr 30, 2007 by Jennifer
	Going out of town (Preview) I will out of town for a few days and won't have access to you all. I will be back Friday afternoon and will catch up with eveyone then. Have a great week!!!! Lots of love	ShelBell	1	356	Apr 30, 2007 by rtexas
	hard to stay positive (Preview) I now have to go to court on Wednesday despite the fact I have moved out and been gone from the flat/apartment for 6 weeks. I have to do that in order to protect my credit/record in ever being able to rent again. Needless to say the A has not left the apartment yet. He's moved some of his stuff but not all of...	maresie2	8	681	Apr 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Thank you for caring (Preview) I'm new to your site & have been reading your posts for about a week. I think I reached the end of my rope about a week ago & just reading your posts to each other & your kindness & caring has helped more than you can know. I got the phone #s of 2 alanon groups in my area & am going to call tom...	hopefully	10	642	Apr 30, 2007 by hope4us
	Putting it in the hand of HP and the good doctors (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Good morning my sweet family. Well tomorrow is hubby's surgery. The closer it gets, the harder I have to try not to get uptight. I have to turn him over to the very good doctors and HP. Like the night I told him to leave when he was drinking I have to detach a bit. Hard not to know wha...	Karilynn	17	721	Apr 30, 2007 by leo
	SIL Coming to Stay (Preview) My AH, who happens (thank HP) to be sober for the time being, is on his way to PA to pick up his sister. Yesterday she passed out drunk while home alone with her 15 mo. old daughter. When her husband called the police to find out what he should do they came to the house. She called this morning asking for help....	babysteps	4	474	Apr 30, 2007 by babysteps
	One way to deal with addict kids (Preview) I think that is the wrong title, because this post is about ways to NOT have an addicted kid. Of course it in not foolproof, but each person that has tried it has been succesful with it. I can't take credit for it since my parents invented it, my siblings and I just followed their training that we knew work...	Alanoner	25	975	Apr 30, 2007 by ShelBell
	to twinmom... (Preview) (((((((Twinmom))))))) I just read your post from several days ago regarding your sons' birthday and your feelings towards your A and that situation . Sorry this is late, but here's a hug from me to ((((((((((you))))))))))! I hope your days have been better since then! Hang in there ~ I've been th...	lmt123	1	414	Apr 30, 2007 by twinmom2
	HOPE!! (Preview) Today I am in a good place and I should share so that someone else can find hope in my situation. My husband got released from rehab on Saturday morning. He has been to 5 meetings in 2 days. I am so proud of him. I am so hopeful. He is surrounding himself with people in the program. Today he is going to outpatie...	cac	2	505	Apr 30, 2007 by annmarie
	Higher Powers imagination (Preview) These pictures were taken by a friend of mine when we went for a walk one day. I was thinking as I was doing my homework about all the possibilites that HP can create or has in store for us. Many things beyond our own limited imagination. Hp created this bird, something in my own limited imagination I would...	bob6502	6	894	Apr 30, 2007 by cac
	Faith (Preview) Being in Al-Anon has taught me a lot about faith. I have learned to rely on my HP to guide me, and to lead me in this life down the path that was set out before me. The path has been slowly appearing for me out of the fog of daily drama. And as I continue to walk it, I have been facing roadblocks. Some knock me down...	stillkickin	9	1076	Apr 30, 2007 by Christy
	Got to open a couple of those presents! (Preview) Howdy (((((((yall)))))))) For all of those who responded to my "Patience Grasshopper" post thanks. You folks are the best. When I went to bed after I posted that on Friday night, I decided to get up the next morning and head into a meeting in San Antonio. No meetings where I am on Saturda...	david62	5	664	Apr 30, 2007 by Jerry F
	Butterflies & Bicycles (Preview) Went for a ride on my Bicycle Today. Wonderful Ride. i will be feeling it tomorrow. lol. I DO want to say tooo ... i have enjoyed every burn I felt in my muscles and every bit of its been a joy. Ladies bike no speed dials..... just a set of good peddle brakes. nothing fancy. Definitely meet my needs. ...	aunitedway	6	860	Apr 30, 2007 by Jerry F
	hurray the test is over (Preview) Thanks for all the well wishes and thoughts! The spinal tap was not as bad as what I was imagining, I'm glad i faced it and hope it helps them figure this out. A couple days of laying flat and moving slow to avoid the headache getting worse and I should be as good as new. My doc made a comment beforehand that I m...	Jennifer	3	488	Apr 30, 2007 by debilyn
	Anyone get this look from their mother? Anyone? (Preview)	Tiger2006	7	503	Apr 29, 2007 by stillkickin
	Anger and Hate (Preview) There have been a few posts this week about anger and rather than reply on each thread, I thought I would start a new one. I have worked to deal with my anger towards my A and a lot of it has subsided, but I still harbor some resentment. So I was just listening to a speaker cd as I was driving today and I heard s...	ShelBell	5	560	Apr 29, 2007 by maresie2
	I know this is an Alanon forum but . . . (Preview) I'M A GRANDMA !! Fandango (Fanny) and Ariel were born at 4:30pm today in perfect health, and with no help from me whatsoever (OK, I helped dry them off and tugged one of Ariel's feet on the way out as she was coming breech). They are nursing on Mama and staggering all over. They are BOTH girls, which is a...	Kim65	15	912	Apr 29, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Fighting a Losing Battle (Preview) I started a new job over a month ago. Things at my new job did not feel right. There was something wrong, but I couldn't put my finger on it. Then I started noticing things. My boss told me to write a report for one of our clients. He gave me half the information and told me he would give me the other half. I sche...	kissers	5	818	Apr 29, 2007 by kissers
	trust (Preview) As long as I maintained some level of denial I could go on trusting the A. I did that despite his actions. I did that despite car crashes, tickets galore, no money and lies galore. Then I came here and heard my story over and over and I couldn't maintainthe denial anymore. The sad thing and probably the mo...	maresie2	3	467	Apr 29, 2007 by maresie2
	Healing Breaktrhough from a surprising source (Preview) Hello Friends, I just had to share with you a heartwarming moment with my grown up children. My first introduction to Alanon was in graduate school as a friend of mine and I went to the movies to see "Stuart Saves His Family" which is about a character in several twelve step programs and how it...	Alanoner	8	653	Apr 29, 2007 by Moon
	BirThDaY Girl (Preview) HaPpY BirThDaY Karilynn!!! With lots of love and wishes for today! PS. I recall you saying there are no calories in Birthday Cake	tea2	17	577	Apr 28, 2007 by shadow1
	Patience Grasshopper! (Preview) Hi (((((Family))))) I wonder sometimes, when will I be through having to be patient. (I just saw my HP patiently shaking his head at me, I think He thinks it isn't nice to write to people while I am sitting on the pity pot! ) I was given the gift of a vision this last week. A vision meant to help me to be patie...	david62	8	668	Apr 28, 2007 by bubbles1990
	A tough view (Preview) Yet another incident to accept. Last night I was walking around town with my umbrella in the rain, shopping before my nail appointment. It was so peaceful. Doing something for me! Well I got my nails done, got my toes done. On my way out of the nail salon, who do I see. My ex A b/f. He was standing in f...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	10	639	Apr 28, 2007 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	SHADS IS THE BIRTHDAY GIRL..... (Preview) SHADOW IS CELEBRATING HER BIRTHDAY TODAY (SAT) HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO "MY MATE" HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU...... Have a brilliant day hen....Wish I was with you... Love "your mate" Ally	ally	14	1219	Apr 28, 2007 by wp
	NEED SOME COURAGE...LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))) Can you all keep your fingers, legs, eye's, toes, and anything else you can cross......lol My new f2f meeting starts tomorrow night...Sat night.....I am feeling excited, nervous a wee bit....also proud of me... I am running it, and I feel good....arggg...	ally	6	484	Apr 28, 2007 by wp
	Being lonely vs. being alone (Preview) In reading some other posts...this phrase hit me and I decided to write it out to see how far I've come. "Being lonely vs. Being alone" After being married to an alcoholic for 17 years, I understand how you can 'be with' someone and yet still feel lonely. It took me a long time to grasp that c...	diamond	7	742	Apr 28, 2007 by maresie2
	Moved the TV.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I think it was in one of the Getting Them Sober books that said moving the furniture has nothing to do with your marriage. We are afraid to move the furniture around thinking that means that the marriage is over. So, I have waited 2 years afraid that if I moved the furniture then my AHsober wo...	nmike	3	541	Apr 28, 2007 by lmt123
	Through A Child's Eyes (Preview) I sooooooooo needed this email today and I hope it will make you smile and laugh out loud as it did me. ~Maria	Maria123	1	393	Apr 28, 2007 by lmt123
	New Comers Meeting (Preview) Newcomers meeting Tonight at 7pm est. Hope to see you there! kerry	kerry5	0	454	Apr 28, 2007 by kerry5
	nightmares (Preview) i tried to make this stupid font bigger.... Ok ever since the AH was in that store with the not nice woman, and was mean to me, I have awful nightmares about him. Last one he was killing my loved ones in horrible ways. He would not hurt me becuz he loved me too much...?? i wake up feeling so hurt, broken dessim...	debilyn	15	798	Apr 28, 2007 by carolena
	Anniversary Meeting @ Legacy AA Group (Preview) Sunday, 4/30 at 1:00 pm I will be sharing my story of recovery at the Legacy AA Group Anniversary Meeting, in Pasadena TX (near Houston). My dear MIP family, please keep me in your thoughts & prayers that I will as always share the message of HOPE that can be found in Al-Anon regardless of the situ...	Rita G	6	699	Apr 28, 2007 by carolena
	Spoke to the lawyer and . . . (Preview) there's actually something that can be DONE!! My greatest fear (and not a realistic one, apparently) was that I was just screwed and deserved to lose everything because I was stupid and careless enough to put in with a person like my A. The negativity of that way of thinking is obvious now. I get caugh...	Kim65	6	579	Apr 28, 2007 by carosie
	SPIRITUAL AWAKENING WITHIN AL-ANON (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) I'm back.... I had a wonderful holiday.....It was a pilgrimage to Lourdes. I'm not really a religious person. I am a catholic, and I guess I have been trying to find the God of my understanding for my 3rd step.....And going on this holiday has been amazing for me. I h...	ally	8	868	Apr 27, 2007 by Maria123
	I miss you all (Preview) Hello Everyone, Thanks to a program designed to make this webpage the size of a billboard LOL I can visit once in a while during my 30 day trial. Along with the cool stickers for my keyboard that allow me to see what buttons I am pushing. I wish I could manage to get thru more of the posts,I have not found anyt...	Jennifer	8	807	Apr 27, 2007 by Maria123
	I'm sure any of us that survived Catholic school can comiserate... (Preview)	Tiger2006	5	1152	Apr 27, 2007 by Gailey
	My denial cloud continues to lift... (Preview) Negativity Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns. Negative energy ca...	Tiger2006	3	597	Apr 27, 2007 by Rita G
	New here, and glad to be here (Preview) Hi, my name is Allison, and im new here, i started going to the al anon group meetings not too long ago and found it to be a haven, and the only thing that kept my sanity. Before, i was a total enabler, picking up my mothers peices, putting her to bed, taking her keys, listening and believing her sob stories...	AllisonNurse	7	769	Apr 27, 2007 by Friendofyours
	helping children understand (Preview) Hi I am new here, I won't go through my long story I'm sure you all have heard it before. What I need help with is my kids, I have 1 that is acting out and 1 that holds it all in, I have been sober for 11 years and my husband went down hill 2 years ago, I want to leave but where do I go? but then he dangles that carrot i...	pinky	5	552	Apr 27, 2007 by Friendofyours
	scared but strong (Preview) Tomorrow my A boyfriend has a race.. I'm going alone.. I haven't talk to him so I don't know if he will be there.. I love the races so I don't want to miss it.. I am being strong while we are seperated but I'm scared to see him.. We have lived together for a year and I made him move out 3 days ago because he isn't w...	steppgirl	4	593	Apr 27, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Taking care of everyone (Preview) I think I have come a long way since first finding this board. I remember when I first moved out I thought my life was over, he was my life and I couldn't imagine it without him. I lost more than 1/2 the family income and had no idea how I would support three kids on my own. Here it is eight months later and I...	carolinagirl	5	674	Apr 27, 2007 by ally
	Taking a Big Giant Step Back (Preview) Not exactly a step back, but stepping back from my AH. I have some extreme abandonment issues...this has caused me to hold too tightly to my AH. This past week, when we went for a week without talking, touching, or anything, I decided I was really going to have to change myself. So, I am distancing mys...	Becky1	6	787	Apr 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	A bit of humor (Preview) My sober AH sent me this joke in an email this morning. I'm glad he can find humor in his disease, I hope y'all can too. I thought it was way funny. A man, and his wife are awakened at 3 o'clock in the morning by a loud pounding on the door. The man gets up and goes to the door where a drunken stranger, standin...	Christy	10	749	Apr 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	I need help with anger (Preview) Hi everyone, Can anyone suggest efective ways to deal with anger, or books on the subject. I seem to be being tested on this lately. thanks AM	annmarie	10	657	Apr 27, 2007 by annmarie
	Found Husband - Update... (Preview) Just to catch anyone up, I got an email from my mother in law last Wed. saying my husband had been in a horrible car accident, punctured a lung etc. and was in the hospital somewhere but she didn't know where. Also, he had told her that he didn't want me to know. Finally, she got worried after not hearing f...	carolinagirl	12	694	Apr 26, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Step 1 (Preview) Yesterday I did some good work with Step 1 I admit that I am powerless over my husbands addiction and that my life has become unmanageable. I cannot control my husband. I cannot control what will happen when he comes home. I cannot control whether or not he drinks. I can control myself. I...	cac	2	456	Apr 26, 2007 by hersh
	Am I truly supposed to have no friends? (Preview) I have this best friend,we have been close on and off from middle school. But she went one way and I went another. I started a family with my a. I had what she wanted. But her life was good,traveling,following her dreams. She has always been one of those girl bitches, do you know what iI mean? But she loves m...	serendipity	6	692	Apr 26, 2007 by carolena
	Looking for advice/help or anything...(new here) (Preview) I am livid, hurt, dissapointed and a whole gammet of emotions right now. And I am trying to work at my job with all of this going through my head. I have been married to the same guy for 7 yrs, together for a total of 10 yrs. and we have a 3yr. old son. I have been saying to him for a long time that I think his dri...	aisling_29	8	697	Apr 26, 2007 by carosie
	Am I ready for sobriety????? (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), I take no credit for this post. Abbyal posted this about a year ago, and it was a saving grace to me. I asked her if I could repost it. She graciously consented. Thank you Abbyal. You rock! When someone asked me that question many years ago, I though she was nuts, and said what ki...	Karilynn	7	812	Apr 26, 2007 by babysteps
	Getting Stuck in that Same Ol' Rut (Preview) My AH has managed to wiggle his way back home over the few weeks. He was staying with his stepdad and I thought that was a good place for him to be. He was coming over to my house just about every evening after work. He was cheery and bending over backwards to please me. Sweet talk, hugs, kisses. He was h...	QOD	6	584	Apr 26, 2007 by QOD
	Need some good suggestions for reading material (Preview) I am wanting to do some more studying and reading, and was hoping that you all could give me suggestions on books that you have found especially powerful in your journey. I have had 'How Alanon Works' and 'Courage to Change' for years, and both are excellent. I would just like to add to them. I am thinki...	TLM	10	865	Apr 26, 2007 by TLM
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