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Al-anon Friends
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I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...
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This is me not reacting
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Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...
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Survived 3 days! Yipee!!!
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Hi Everyone - thanks to you I have gotten through another day - I worked yesterday and am here again today (I will not let my A make me lose my job). I actually slept for 7 hours last nite and can actually drink my coffee this morning. I will be attending my first meeting tonite at 7:30 - 11.5 hrs and counting...
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Hello, all: old but new :)
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Been reading on the forum, such caring words and support I immediately signed up. I've been involved with the 12 step programs since my teen years, after my father went into recovery. In some ways, the program is "part" of me, and in others, you'd think I wouldn't know an Al An...
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GROWING WITHIN AL-ANON
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((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) You all know I have had a tough few months... And I have shared all this with you......I have not yet done my step four.... But this week I can feel something chainging within myself......I don't know what I would call it.......Maybe a Spiritual Awaken...
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which one is the real him?
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hi all. I am new here. Have posted a couple of times but mostly lurking. My h is an alcoholic and has been struggling with sobriety for about 8 months. (He was sober 7 years prior to this recent relapse but without a program) We have been seperated since August. He has done a 10 day stint in rehab followed by...
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Will I regret this?
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It is 3:00am and my A(DA)H just arrived home, ringing the bell because he was locked out (I changed the locks two weeks ago). As he handed me the keys to my car which he took without permission, he said "I relapsed." I couldn't let him in the door, I took the keys and said "goodbye&quo...
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New to this board & need help
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I am a 57 year old woman who has never drunk alcohol, simply because it makes me nauseaus. In 2000 I remet my high school boyfriend and to make a long story short I moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I work full time as a paralegal. H...
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AH's weekend bender
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Every time I might feel a little sad about leaving my AH, he does something that reminds me of why I left him and I don't feel quite so bad anymore. I haven't started the divorce process yet, but I have been gone now for almost five months now. We have been in touch and he does want me to come back, but...
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Thank you!
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((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to say thank you for all the love and prayers. Hubby is doing better. We did not end up going to the ER (woohoo) because we have seen small improvements and his pain is lessening. His appetite is so so, and he's really weak. But he has not worsened and that certai...
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Funny for the week (Some adult words!)
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After being married 28 years my wife has me trained. I'm no longer allowed to pee like a man - standing up. I am required to sit down and pee. She has convinced me that this is a small price to pay. Otherwise if she had gone to the toilet one more time at night and either sat on a pee soaked toilet seat,...
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Heard from my AH after 3 weeks.
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Monday marked the 3 week since my AH left. I hadn't heard from him in all that time. Then yesterday morning he called and said he wanted his gun safe out of storage and asked if he could have the key. I told him I'd meet him there and he said he'd call me when he got to this side of town. I didn&...
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Thank you all
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Thank you all for your wonderful support. I'm so glad I found this board. I don't feel do alone now. Cheryl
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Help and Suuport Please.......!!!!!
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Hi - I'm first time on here -but I have lived with an alcoholic man for 5 years and have not tried to get help for myself and he and I have recently had a huge falling out and I've gotten an apartment but he still wanted to be a couple and we were and then this weekend I was at his place and things were fin...
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When this disease progresses...
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It moves like a lightening bolt. I feel like I'm back where we started when my AH drinking got out of control. Looking back on our five year history, we have gone through periods of sobriety, him being in the program but only working it half-heartedly. Me controlling or attempting to control ev...
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The Dash--A Must see! Will Give You Something to Think About.
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I got an email titled "Your Dash Movie". Make sure your speakers are turned on for this! Have you guys seen this???? It is very moving. I have watched it several times and it always makes me cry. It will be under http://www.yourdashmovie.com/ Let me know if you find it. Love in Recovery, B...
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grappling with the loss of a friend :(
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Due to my own alcoholic behavior, I have lost the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately this person has me pegged for someone completely different, having seem me drunk out of my mind and behaving badly. I was so awful, and I fear there is just no repairing the relationship. We are in very close p...
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Just how toxic is the AH?
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Hi all, I wrote telling about seeing AH in the store with the not lady he is being kept by. The next day I had to move stuff to do a burn day at my main house I am renting out. I sobbed off and on all day. Well I know I should not be moving three huge sofas and four recliners, huge bags of stuff and more. But in my hea...
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You wash my back.....
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In the last few weeks or so, there have been quite a few things going on in my life that are fairly stressful. I'm handling everything more or less OK, but I find I have a stronger than normal need to vent, to talk things out. So, I'm turning to my (sober) A to share what's going on in my life, an...
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This is Cucamonga, Alive and Kicking thanks to HP
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Hi all, I am just checking in. I haven't posted in a while. I thought I should check in, share a little bit, and give gratitude. First of all, I do recognize that I have come a long way from my first days here, I say that for 3 reasons, 1, To share my experience with new folks that come in here in chaos l...
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Dealing with the A..My Depression and Hormones. ARRGGGHHH!
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Hubby and I started the weekend out well. Went out to a very nice dinner Fri. evening. We actually sat and talked face to face. It was really the only time we had eaten together all week. He's been across the street at his friend's house drinking every.single.night. Sat. morning, he had to...
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My experience with Mr. Hyde
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Hi guys, Just checking into this cute little forum we've got going. I hope everyone is doing well and finding your miracles, you all deserve. Here is what I had the opportunity to work on in the last few days. Not like I would have chosen to go through this experience, but I did learn alot from it. My...
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Error in my earlire post
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I meant to say that my husband has been sober for over 3 weeks, not 3 days.
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He's Baaaaaack!!!
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Lunching with Bad, Bad Bill today. He is back in SA for talks, and is seriously considering taking the job here. Has a week to make the final decision. Meantime... *Feminine wiles at work...work, work, work.* Talk about jumping from the proverbial frying pan!!! Ah, but life's a treasure, a...
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powerless over alcohol...
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I attended my first AA meeting yesterday, not as part of Al-Anon, but in admitting to myself that I also have a drinking problem. I feel like a total hypocrite, bashing my AH for his behavior while secretly drinking all of the time. I could really hang my head in shame :( It's odd; we're gett...
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY
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 (((((((((((((((((((LEXIE)))))))))))))))))))))) Have a wonderful day......... you are a very special person to me, and its an honour to call you one of my friends........ "HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEXIE" Love you LOADS All...
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Addiction is too overwhelming to live with some days
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(((MIP Friends))) Its been a while since I've posted. This week has been a trying week of emotional ups and downs. I have managed to get through the work week and only have one day left. Some weeks the days feel like they run into each other. My AH's pot use is increasing more than I've ev...
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What Can I Expect from Initial Al-Anon Meetings?
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Hello! I have been wanting to attend Al-Anon meetings for sometime now, but have always found some excuse or another to not go. Everything in my life right now is telling me that I need to go. Right now, the road to recovery just seems so long and far away, that I am reluctant to start on its path. The fac...
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it says
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it says go angry but it is supposed to say got angry LOL jewely
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time to tell his family
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My A is very sick right now. The alcohol is killing him. In the out of the hospital 6x. we live over a thousand miles from his family. They are all alcoholics. I have avoided telling them, they think everything is fine. It'll be more stress for me when I tell them, but I think they should know. Th...
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black hole sun
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I have a black cloud of depression hanging right behind me. I don't know why, there's really nothing wrong. I can feel a sinus infection coming on, it's making me drowsy and slow. I know this feeling, and if I don't do something I'm going to slip into this hole and stay there for I do...
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In Crisis. My A called it quits with me....ESH appreciated
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Hello everyone, I know I haven't posted a whole lot lately. Been trying to recover from my surgery. I am tired a lot and been resting a lot. I realize my A is truly losing it with the alcohol. It is like he has turned into someone else. I can't put a lot of thoughts together, which also means everyth...
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I NEED E, S & H AGAIN LOL
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(((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))))) You all know my latest dilema about my broken relationship......Well, I sent him a letter on Wednesday, telling him how I have been feeling the last six weeks since it ended. I was honest and I told him everything.....How he had been really cruel to me...
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ally
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Prayers for hubby please.
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((((((((Family)))))))))), Could really use some prayers for my sweet loving man. It looks like he has come down with another case of viral menigitis.  He has had it 3 other times, the last one over 4 years ago in which he barely made it back alive. He is exhibiting all the classic signs. So fa...
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The hills are alive...with the sound of alcholism....
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So, I go to the pharmacy today, to get a perscription refilled. And I get a rather interesting piece of news. As of the end of February, my father--and me--are now un insured. Well, that was quite a surprise. Especially seeing as all the doctors, dentists, therapists, whomever else I've seen i...
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Where do I start
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My husband of 20 years has probably drank most days of those years. He has always been a functioning alcoholic. I have always been his functioning enabler. I am no longer functioning well. He has again changed, lost , changed jobs. No health care this week. Money is out. We are filing for bankruptcy...
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Fearing change ...
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((Happy Friday everyone)): Feeling a little scared today, well a lot scared. Why do these feelings just creep up on us? Well, we are human and we feel. I am scared. Scared of sober AH going to jail in six weeks. Scared of what will happen, not really of being alone, but sometimes think of that. Scar...
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i want to kill him!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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AAAAAHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I seriously have strong urges to strangle my h. He went on a field trip with our son today, which i thought was really sweet, and kind of uncharacteristic of him, but i was excited he did this for our son. He got home from the FT around 1:30 and he came home without pi...
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twinners!!!
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Can't be on for long, but I had to let you all know that the twins were born yesterday...Kaylee and Kevin, both healthy as can be, a bit small, but expected to do just fine. Anyways, that's all ttyl! :) Love, Mira
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ESH needed: struggling to make it without the A in my house
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Hello all. I have been up all night. I saw my A for just a few minutes last night. Probably for the best. Had a major slip with trying to quit smoking cigarettes. Been beating myself up all night about it. Gonna have to plan asap to try again. I don't know what got into me. I am not as worried about my A as...
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The Awakening..
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I've posted this before, it's one ofmy favorites . We have many new people here and thought they would enjoy it too. The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your he...
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BEING SCARED OF THE WORD OBSESSION
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((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) "Obsession", is a word I don't like to use. It kind of scares me.. Some people have told me I was or am obsessed with a person...NOPE, not me. He had obsessions and compulsions, after all he is the recovering Alcoholic, not me.... Do I honestly bel...
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can't get into room
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Hi all I have just moved house and re set up my computer. I can no longer get into the chat room. Can someone please tell me how to rectify this. I don't seem to be able to down load Java or mirc. My A is now in recovery and would like to try out mip AA rooms. Even before the move he found the chat room empty. I h...
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IT'S A BOY - CLOUD
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I am happy to let you all know that Cloud had her baby  It's a boy.  Name: Tyler Justin Born: March 5, 2007 Weight: 6 lb. 13 ozs. If anyone wants her number, pm me. Mom and baby are healthy and happy and doing well.
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AH's roomates......grrrr
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My ah lives on the other coast because of his job. He found a place with two guys. One of them is an alcoholic, smokes crack and watches pornography. Nasty. So my ah accidentally gave my cell phone number to his roomate! This guy is using my ah for a ride. WTH? I told my ah that he needs to move out of there asap...
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A BIG THANK YOU TO AL-ANON FAMILY
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((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...
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Miss you RTexas!!!
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Just wondering about you??? How are things going? We miss you here, Love, Heidi
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Feeling better the A's version
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Right now the A is planning to go live with some relatives a few hundred miles north of where we are. It is a semi rural area that has a lot of tourism. I don't feel like I can go with him, a) because I feel his alcoholism is advancing with or without his drink (he currently is not drinking), b) I dont...
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A BIG THANK YOU TO AL-ANON FAMILY
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((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...
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SEARCHING FOR PEACE OF MIND FOR ALLY
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(((((((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))))))))))))) You all know my situation with my broken relationship.......WELL!!!!! I have been in here since friday last week (in chat) after being offline for three weeks! I have shared about six times over the five meetings Saturday and Sunday....It'...
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"Be the Change You Wish to See in the World" ~Ghandi
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No day is like any other day. Isn't that interesting? And you never know what the next day will bring, and that's exciting. --Alpha English Alpha has not lost her zest for life. Although nearly ninety, she nurtures a young mind and a wise heart. Her attitude influences those around her too, ma...
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Stay vs. Leave, Giving Advice, etc.
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Please folks... let'd do our best to share E,S, & H with each other, talk about our experiences, what may have worked (or not worked) for us in similar situations.... but please, please, please stop short of advising people whether or not they should stay or go in their relationships with the...
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This is WAY too hard
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My A feels like his life is spiralling out of control. I kicked him out 9 weeks ago after a 2 week drinking binge. The day after he moved out i warned him that if he doesnt get his act together i will cancel the wedding. So for the next 3 weeks we spoke everyday, and each day he told me he doent want to quit. So i c...
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Husband is 18 DAYS SOBER and EXHAUSTED
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Well it is true what they say in Alanon about let go and let God. I am not sure if anyone had seen my previous post but I was at wits end. I finally had to turn everything in my life over to my Higher Power. I have been praying for answers as I love my husband but he has become a different person since drinking...
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Hope and Cynicism
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Just a little hope for all. I had been chatting with a guy I have never talked to or met online for the past week or two and yesterday he sent me a dozen roses, a bear and a box of candy delivered to my work and called me when I got home (first time I heard his voice). NOW cynicism. I question every word that c...
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Today
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Today is a new day. Today I will be happy for what I have....beautiful children, beautiful grandchildren. A nice apartment. New friends that are fun to be with. Old friends that are always there, no matter how long I have been out of touch. My health. No gray hair yet. ( Well, maybe one, but its a pretty se...
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Cookie Cutter People
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I cringe when I hear that 'Most of us suffer from low self-esteem," "most of us are attracted to alcoholics again and again," "most of us were abused during childhood." Do "most of us" really come out of the same box? Of course not! I dare say there is no stati...
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so much anxiety
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I ask myself all the time-why do I stress so much about certain things--things I cannot control?? Do other people do this? Is it because we want our lives to be problem free? No one has a problem free life. I guess I have sooo become a people pleaser, perhaps living in the past with a A brother and A X hubby...
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he is SO depressed
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im not so sure on how to cope with this one... thanks mobirdie for your post... now i need to hear from more people. My a is sober for now, but is extremely depressed. he doesnt tell me he wants to hurt himself, but i can just hear it in his voice. i keep reassuring him that we can eventually work things out for...
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Is discussing program with A appropriate?
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Both my A and I are involved in program (fairly new to it having bounced back and forth with it for a long time). We have never talked about how we each may interpret any of the steps, etc. and we are just at the beginnings of truly being involved in our own recoveries and leave each to his own with ea...
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