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theprofessor · theprofessor

Due to my own alcoholic behavior, I have lost the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately this person has me pegged for someone completely different, having seem me drunk out of my mind and behaving badly. I was so awful, and I fear there is just no repairing the relationship. We are in very close p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, I wrote telling about seeing AH in the store with the not lady he is being kept by. The next day I had to move stuff to do a burn day at my main house I am renting out. I sobbed off and on all day. Well I know I should not be moving three huge sofas and four recliners, huge bags of stuff and more. But in my hea...

lin0606 · lin0606

In the last few weeks or so, there have been quite a few things going on in my life that are fairly stressful. I'm handling everything more or less OK, but I find I have a stronger than normal need to vent, to talk things out. So, I'm turning to my (sober) A to share what's going on in my life, an...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, I am just checking in. I haven't posted in a while. I thought I should check in, share a little bit, and give gratitude. First of all, I do recognize that I have come a long way from my first days here, I say that for 3 reasons, 1, To share my experience with new folks that come in here in chaos l...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hubby and I started the weekend out well. Went out to a very nice dinner Fri. evening. We actually sat and talked face to face. It was really the only time we had eaten together all week. He's been across the street at his friend's house drinking every.single.night. Sat. morning, he had to...

Moon · Moon

Hi guys, Just checking into this cute little forum we've got going. I hope everyone is doing well and finding your miracles, you all deserve. Here is what I had the opportunity to work on in the last few days. Not like I would have chosen to go through this experience, but I did learn alot from it. My...

Chetch · Chetch

I meant to say that my husband has been sober for over 3 weeks, not 3 days.

Diva · Diva

Lunching with Bad, Bad Bill today. He is back in SA for talks, and is seriously considering taking the job here. Has a week to make the final decision. Meantime... *Feminine wiles at work...work, work, work.* Talk about jumping from the proverbial frying pan!!! Ah, but life's a treasure, a...

theprofessor · theprofessor

I attended my first AA meeting yesterday, not as part of Al-Anon, but in admitting to myself that I also have a drinking problem. I feel like a total hypocrite, bashing my AH for his behavior while secretly drinking all of the time. I could really hang my head in shame :( It's odd; we're gett...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((LEXIE))))))))))))))))))))))

Have a wonderful day......... you are a very special person to me, and its an honour to call you one of my friends........

"HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEXIE" Love you LOADS

All...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) Its been a while since I've posted. This week has been a trying week of emotional ups and downs. I have managed to get through the work week and only have one day left. Some weeks the days feel like they run into each other. My AH's pot use is increasing more than I've ev...

wpb70 · wpb70

Hello! I have been wanting to attend Al-Anon meetings for sometime now, but have always found some excuse or another to not go. Everything in my life right now is telling me that I need to go. Right now, the road to recovery just seems so long and far away, that I am reluctant to start on its path. The fac...

jewely · jewely

it says go angry but it is supposed to say got angry LOL jewely

carol · carol

My A is very sick right now. The alcohol is killing him. In the out of the hospital 6x. we live over a thousand miles from his family. They are all alcoholics. I have avoided telling them, they think everything is fine. It'll be more stress for me when I tell them, but I think they should know. Th...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I have a black cloud of depression hanging right behind me. I don't know why, there's really nothing wrong. I can feel a sinus infection coming on, it's making me drowsy and slow. I know this feeling, and if I don't do something I'm going to slip into this hole and stay there for I do...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone, I know I haven't posted a whole lot lately. Been trying to recover from my surgery. I am tired a lot and been resting a lot. I realize my A is truly losing it with the alcohol. It is like he has turned into someone else. I can't put a lot of thoughts together, which also means everyth...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))))) You all know my latest dilema about my broken relationship......Well, I sent him a letter on Wednesday, telling him how I have been feeling the last six weeks since it ended. I was honest and I told him everything.....How he had been really cruel to me...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))))), Could really use some prayers for my sweet loving man. It looks like he has come down with another case of viral menigitis.

He has had it 3 other times, the last one over 4 years ago in which he barely made it back alive. He is exhibiting all the classic signs. So fa...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, I go to the pharmacy today, to get a perscription refilled. And I get a rather interesting piece of news. As of the end of February, my father--and me--are now un insured. Well, that was quite a surprise. Especially seeing as all the doctors, dentists, therapists, whomever else I've seen i...

lbcclub · lbcclub

My husband of 20 years has probably drank most days of those years. He has always been a functioning alcoholic. I have always been his functioning enabler. I am no longer functioning well. He has again changed, lost , changed jobs. No health care this week. Money is out. We are filing for bankruptcy...

hersh · hersh

((Happy Friday everyone)): Feeling a little scared today, well a lot scared. Why do these feelings just creep up on us? Well, we are human and we feel. I am scared. Scared of sober AH going to jail in six weeks. Scared of what will happen, not really of being alone, but sometimes think of that. Scar...

minnie · minnie

AAAAAHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I seriously have strong urges to strangle my h. He went on a field trip with our son today, which i thought was really sweet, and kind of uncharacteristic of him, but i was excited he did this for our son. He got home from the FT around 1:30 and he came home without pi...

Miranda · Miranda

Can't be on for long, but I had to let you all know that the twins were born yesterday...Kaylee and Kevin, both healthy as can be, a bit small, but expected to do just fine. Anyways, that's all ttyl! :) Love, Mira

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all. I have been up all night. I saw my A for just a few minutes last night. Probably for the best. Had a major slip with trying to quit smoking cigarettes. Been beating myself up all night about it. Gonna have to plan asap to try again. I don't know what got into me. I am not as worried about my A as...

Christy · Christy

I've posted this before, it's one ofmy favorites . We have many new people here and thought they would enjoy it too. The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your he...

ally · ally

((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) "Obsession", is a word I don't like to use. It kind of scares me.. Some people have told me I was or am obsessed with a person...NOPE, not me. He had obsessions and compulsions, after all he is the recovering Alcoholic, not me.... Do I honestly bel...

mon123 · mon123

Hi all I have just moved house and re set up my computer. I can no longer get into the chat room. Can someone please tell me how to rectify this. I don't seem to be able to down load Java or mirc. My A is now in recovery and would like to try out mip AA rooms. Even before the move he found the chat room empty. I h...

Maria123 · Maria123

I am happy to let you all know that Cloud had her baby

It's a boy.

Name: Tyler Justin Born: March 5, 2007 Weight: 6 lb. 13 ozs. If anyone wants her number, pm me. Mom and baby are healthy and happy and doing well.

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

My ah lives on the other coast because of his job. He found a place with two guys. One of them is an alcoholic, smokes crack and watches pornography. Nasty. So my ah accidentally gave my cell phone number to his roomate! This guy is using my ah for a ride. WTH? I told my ah that he needs to move out of there asap...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...

hersh · hersh

Just wondering about you??? How are things going? We miss you here, Love, Heidi

maresie2 · maresie2

Right now the A is planning to go live with some relatives a few hundred miles north of where we are. It is a semi rural area that has a lot of tourism. I don't feel like I can go with him, a) because I feel his alcoholism is advancing with or without his drink (he currently is not drinking), b) I dont...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))))))))))))) You all know my situation with my broken relationship.......WELL!!!!! I have been in here since friday last week (in chat) after being offline for three weeks! I have shared about six times over the five meetings Saturday and Sunday....It'...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

No day is like any other day. Isn't that interesting? And you never know what the next day will bring, and that's exciting. --Alpha English Alpha has not lost her zest for life. Although nearly ninety, she nurtures a young mind and a wise heart. Her attitude influences those around her too, ma...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Please folks... let'd do our best to share E,S, & H with each other, talk about our experiences, what may have worked (or not worked) for us in similar situations.... but please, please, please stop short of advising people whether or not they should stay or go in their relationships with the...

arty · arty

My A feels like his life is spiralling out of control. I kicked him out 9 weeks ago after a 2 week drinking binge. The day after he moved out i warned him that if he doesnt get his act together i will cancel the wedding. So for the next 3 weeks we spoke everyday, and each day he told me he doent want to quit. So i c...

debo · debo

Well it is true what they say in Alanon about let go and let God. I am not sure if anyone had seen my previous post but I was at wits end. I finally had to turn everything in my life over to my Higher Power. I have been praying for answers as I love my husband but he has become a different person since drinking...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just a little hope for all. I had been chatting with a guy I have never talked to or met online for the past week or two and yesterday he sent me a dozen roses, a bear and a box of candy delivered to my work and called me when I got home (first time I heard his voice). NOW cynicism. I question every word that c...

jajanma · jajanma

Today is a new day. Today I will be happy for what I have....beautiful children, beautiful grandchildren. A nice apartment. New friends that are fun to be with. Old friends that are always there, no matter how long I have been out of touch. My health. No gray hair yet. ( Well, maybe one, but its a pretty se...

Alanoner · Alanoner

I cringe when I hear that 'Most of us suffer from low self-esteem," "most of us are attracted to alcoholics again and again," "most of us were abused during childhood." Do "most of us" really come out of the same box? Of course not! I dare say there is no stati...

meagain · meagain

I ask myself all the time-why do I stress so much about certain things--things I cannot control?? Do other people do this? Is it because we want our lives to be problem free? No one has a problem free life. I guess I have sooo become a people pleaser, perhaps living in the past with a A brother and A X hubby...

arty · arty

im not so sure on how to cope with this one... thanks mobirdie for your post... now i need to hear from more people. My a is sober for now, but is extremely depressed. he doesnt tell me he wants to hurt himself, but i can just hear it in his voice. i keep reassuring him that we can eventually work things out for...

jaja · jaja

Both my A and I are involved in program (fairly new to it having bounced back and forth with it for a long time). We have never talked about how we each may interpret any of the steps, etc. and we are just at the beginnings of truly being involved in our own recoveries and leave each to his own with ea...

Maria123 · Maria123

I love birthdays !!!!!!!!!! (everyone else's that is).

Today is our lovely and talented

LAUREN ASHLEY'S birthday Happy Birthday Sweetheart

Hope you have a wonderful day.

Love ya, Maria

angel123 · angel123

Looking thru my books ,I found this in one of my pages, it was written in Alanon news letter 1979 Twelve Rewards To The Twelve Steps 1.HOPE instead of desperation. 2.FAITH instead of despair. 3.C OURAGE instead of fear. 4.PEACE OF MIND instead of confusion. 5.SELF-RESPECT instead of contempt. 6.SEL...

Fifi · Fifi

in the midst of all this just got breast cancer diagnosis....trying to stay calm, make informed decisions, rely on my wonderful support network. feel like life has just got it out to beat me down till there is no where lower to go. love, fifi

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies: I grew resentful tonight over a small incident, and it has lead to the beginning of some fruitful growth on my part that I would like to share. Earlier this evening, I called a friend who was unable to talk and asked to call me back later this evening because it wasn't a good time for her...

vriebe · vriebe

I am having such a difficult time w/ my son, who's 22, has had 2 dui's prior to 21 years old. He's "trying" to get his life on track according to him, but he won't admit he even has a drinking problem. Yesterday, clear cut rules, he can stay over, but there's absolutely...

theprofessor · theprofessor

Last night, I went to the counselor with my AH. It was pretty disastrous for me, though my AH seemed pretty happy about the whole thing. I feel like he is attempting to hide things from her, and he won't assume ownership of his actions, his behavior, and their impact on our relationship. We attem...

Rora · Rora

More and more as I learn about Al-anon, visit this board and go to face2face mtg's, the consistent message is that this is about ME. Although I have feelings about what my Ah is doing or not doing, what I do is what I can control. Some things I am learning: Not only in my relationship with my husband, bu...

minnie · minnie

My ah actually said that to me! He keeps telling me how he wants to quit and he's not doing very well with quitting and he wishes there was a pill or gum or something like that to help him. And I was like, "GO TO AA! GET A SPONSOR!! START SOME SORT OF PROGRAM!! Sometime I just want to strangle that man!

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just an update for anyone who's interested. I DID go to court on Friday and had the restraining order made permanent. It was a horrible ordeal. He didn't show up thank god but I was first and had to testify in front of a courtroom full of people (small town) about what had transpired. How emb...

HELPLESSMOM · HELPLESSMOM

i need someone that has gone thru this to tell me what i am doing wrong or if what i have been doing is right i don't have clue and i have no family to help me and my husband is almost just gave up and my 19 yr old daughter has just had it with him.

Kim65 · Kim65

I'm having a lot of fear here, and can't get a grasp on the thought I'm having that's causing it (if you know what I mean). AH relapsed et al over the last year (second relapse with him in seven years), and I kicked him out in January. He's been living with the guy who set up the AA meet...

Phil · Phil

I've been on this site since it started many moons ago..my name is Phil..and I'm a recovering alcoholic.. As an added bonus I've also been a member of Alanon...for a great length of time also... I dont share on this board much.... There are a different set of guidelines set down...so.......

vriebe · vriebe

I am having such a difficult time w/ my son, who's 22, has had 2 dui's prior to 21 years old. He's "trying" to get his life on track according to him, but he won't admit he even has a drinking problem. Yesterday, clear cut rules, he can stay over, but there's absolutely...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

This whole thing with my dil has just left me feeling helpless and hopeless. I can't control her using my grandaughters as pawns in trying to force my son to sign divorce papers that have stipulations that are unreasonable. I am so angry that she is keeping my grandchildren away from me just beca...

debo · debo

Something that really helped me put things in perspective this past week was to write down the Serenity Prayer like this....................... God, Grant me the SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE....... That Garry is an alcoholic. That I can not make him STOP DRINKING. That Garry does n...

marty · marty

I have learn last night i went to a f2f meeting i felt out of place but listen to every one who talk because i know i got a problem and it ME my best thinking got me here and i realize i need to work on my self more than ever,but for your help i would had been more nerves than i have been, i just started and i got a long...

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	grappling with the loss of a friend :( (Preview) Due to my own alcoholic behavior, I have lost the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately this person has me pegged for someone completely different, having seem me drunk out of my mind and behaving badly. I was so awful, and I fear there is just no repairing the relationship. We are in very close p...	theprofessor	6	554	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Just how toxic is the AH? (Preview) Hi all, I wrote telling about seeing AH in the store with the not lady he is being kept by. The next day I had to move stuff to do a burn day at my main house I am renting out. I sobbed off and on all day. Well I know I should not be moving three huge sofas and four recliners, huge bags of stuff and more. But in my hea...	debilyn	8	589	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	You wash my back..... (Preview) In the last few weeks or so, there have been quite a few things going on in my life that are fairly stressful. I'm handling everything more or less OK, but I find I have a stronger than normal need to vent, to talk things out. So, I'm turning to my (sober) A to share what's going on in my life, an...	lin0606	2	516	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	This is Cucamonga, Alive and Kicking thanks to HP (Preview) Hi all, I am just checking in. I haven't posted in a while. I thought I should check in, share a little bit, and give gratitude. First of all, I do recognize that I have come a long way from my first days here, I say that for 3 reasons, 1, To share my experience with new folks that come in here in chaos l...	Cucamonga	1	365	Mar 12, 2007 by ally
	Dealing with the A..My Depression and Hormones. ARRGGGHHH! (Preview) Hubby and I started the weekend out well. Went out to a very nice dinner Fri. evening. We actually sat and talked face to face. It was really the only time we had eaten together all week. He's been across the street at his friend's house drinking every.single.night. Sat. morning, he had to...	Becky1	6	527	Mar 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	My experience with Mr. Hyde (Preview) Hi guys, Just checking into this cute little forum we've got going. I hope everyone is doing well and finding your miracles, you all deserve. Here is what I had the opportunity to work on in the last few days. Not like I would have chosen to go through this experience, but I did learn alot from it. My...	Moon	7	653	Mar 12, 2007 by HELPLESSMOM
	Error in my earlire post (Preview) I meant to say that my husband has been sober for over 3 weeks, not 3 days.	Chetch	0	398	Mar 12, 2007 by Chetch
	He's Baaaaaack!!! (Preview) Lunching with Bad, Bad Bill today. He is back in SA for talks, and is seriously considering taking the job here. Has a week to make the final decision. Meantime... Feminine wiles at work...work, work, work. Talk about jumping from the proverbial frying pan!!! Ah, but life's a treasure, a...	Diva	7	548	Mar 12, 2007 by TLC2
	powerless over alcohol... (Preview) I attended my first AA meeting yesterday, not as part of Al-Anon, but in admitting to myself that I also have a drinking problem. I feel like a total hypocrite, bashing my AH for his behavior while secretly drinking all of the time. I could really hang my head in shame :( It's odd; we're gett...	theprofessor	4	547	Mar 12, 2007 by theprofessor
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((LEXIE)))))))))))))))))))))) Have a wonderful day......... you are a very special person to me, and its an honour to call you one of my friends........ "HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEXIE" Love you LOADS All...	ally	8	435	Mar 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Addiction is too overwhelming to live with some days (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) Its been a while since I've posted. This week has been a trying week of emotional ups and downs. I have managed to get through the work week and only have one day left. Some weeks the days feel like they run into each other. My AH's pot use is increasing more than I've ev...	twinmom2	9	604	Mar 12, 2007 by annmarie
	What Can I Expect from Initial Al-Anon Meetings? (Preview) Hello! I have been wanting to attend Al-Anon meetings for sometime now, but have always found some excuse or another to not go. Everything in my life right now is telling me that I need to go. Right now, the road to recovery just seems so long and far away, that I am reluctant to start on its path. The fac...	wpb70	6	548	Mar 12, 2007 by Cucamonga
	it says (Preview) it says go angry but it is supposed to say got angry LOL jewely	jewely	0	322	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	time to tell his family (Preview) My A is very sick right now. The alcohol is killing him. In the out of the hospital 6x. we live over a thousand miles from his family. They are all alcoholics. I have avoided telling them, they think everything is fine. It'll be more stress for me when I tell them, but I think they should know. Th...	carol	11	924	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	black hole sun (Preview) I have a black cloud of depression hanging right behind me. I don't know why, there's really nothing wrong. I can feel a sinus infection coming on, it's making me drowsy and slow. I know this feeling, and if I don't do something I'm going to slip into this hole and stay there for I do...	RainyJamie	7	935	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	In Crisis. My A called it quits with me....ESH appreciated (Preview) Hello everyone, I know I haven't posted a whole lot lately. Been trying to recover from my surgery. I am tired a lot and been resting a lot. I realize my A is truly losing it with the alcohol. It is like he has turned into someone else. I can't put a lot of thoughts together, which also means everyth...	hippietrippiechick	5	519	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	I NEED E, S & H AGAIN LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))))) You all know my latest dilema about my broken relationship......Well, I sent him a letter on Wednesday, telling him how I have been feeling the last six weeks since it ended. I was honest and I told him everything.....How he had been really cruel to me...	ally	10	915	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	Prayers for hubby please. (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))))), Could really use some prayers for my sweet loving man. It looks like he has come down with another case of viral menigitis. He has had it 3 other times, the last one over 4 years ago in which he barely made it back alive. He is exhibiting all the classic signs. So fa...	Karilynn	27	827	Mar 11, 2007 by TLC2
	The hills are alive...with the sound of alcholism.... (Preview) So, I go to the pharmacy today, to get a perscription refilled. And I get a rather interesting piece of news. As of the end of February, my father--and me--are now un insured. Well, that was quite a surprise. Especially seeing as all the doctors, dentists, therapists, whomever else I've seen i...	Tiger2006	8	517	Mar 11, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Where do I start (Preview) My husband of 20 years has probably drank most days of those years. He has always been a functioning alcoholic. I have always been his functioning enabler. I am no longer functioning well. He has again changed, lost , changed jobs. No health care this week. Money is out. We are filing for bankruptcy...	lbcclub	8	634	Mar 11, 2007 by ShelBell
	Fearing change ... (Preview) ((Happy Friday everyone)): Feeling a little scared today, well a lot scared. Why do these feelings just creep up on us? Well, we are human and we feel. I am scared. Scared of sober AH going to jail in six weeks. Scared of what will happen, not really of being alone, but sometimes think of that. Scar...	hersh	6	445	Mar 10, 2007 by debilyn
	i want to kill him!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) AAAAAHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I seriously have strong urges to strangle my h. He went on a field trip with our son today, which i thought was really sweet, and kind of uncharacteristic of him, but i was excited he did this for our son. He got home from the FT around 1:30 and he came home without pi...	minnie	7	644	Mar 10, 2007 by lin0606
	twinners!!! (Preview) Can't be on for long, but I had to let you all know that the twins were born yesterday...Kaylee and Kevin, both healthy as can be, a bit small, but expected to do just fine. Anyways, that's all ttyl! :) Love, Mira	Miranda	8	517	Mar 10, 2007 by Grace2
	ESH needed: struggling to make it without the A in my house (Preview) Hello all. I have been up all night. I saw my A for just a few minutes last night. Probably for the best. Had a major slip with trying to quit smoking cigarettes. Been beating myself up all night about it. Gonna have to plan asap to try again. I don't know what got into me. I am not as worried about my A as...	hippietrippiechick	9	609	Mar 10, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	The Awakening.. (Preview) I've posted this before, it's one ofmy favorites . We have many new people here and thought they would enjoy it too. The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your he...	Christy	8	668	Mar 10, 2007 by drucilla06
	BEING SCARED OF THE WORD OBSESSION (Preview) ((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) "Obsession", is a word I don't like to use. It kind of scares me.. Some people have told me I was or am obsessed with a person...NOPE, not me. He had obsessions and compulsions, after all he is the recovering Alcoholic, not me.... Do I honestly bel...	ally	3	544	Mar 10, 2007 by drucilla06
	can't get into room (Preview) Hi all I have just moved house and re set up my computer. I can no longer get into the chat room. Can someone please tell me how to rectify this. I don't seem to be able to down load Java or mirc. My A is now in recovery and would like to try out mip AA rooms. Even before the move he found the chat room empty. I h...	mon123	0	400	Mar 10, 2007 by mon123
	IT'S A BOY - CLOUD (Preview) I am happy to let you all know that Cloud had her baby It's a boy. Name: Tyler Justin Born: March 5, 2007 Weight: 6 lb. 13 ozs. If anyone wants her number, pm me. Mom and baby are healthy and happy and doing well.	Maria123	11	539	Mar 10, 2007 by mel123
	AH's roomates......grrrr (Preview) My ah lives on the other coast because of his job. He found a place with two guys. One of them is an alcoholic, smokes crack and watches pornography. Nasty. So my ah accidentally gave my cell phone number to his roomate! This guy is using my ah for a ride. WTH? I told my ah that he needs to move out of there asap...	Friendofyours	8	459	Mar 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	A BIG THANK YOU TO AL-ANON FAMILY (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...	ally	1	457	Mar 9, 2007 by Maria123
	Miss you RTexas!!! (Preview) Just wondering about you??? How are things going? We miss you here, Love, Heidi	hersh	3	415	Mar 9, 2007 by Karilynn
	Feeling better the A's version (Preview) Right now the A is planning to go live with some relatives a few hundred miles north of where we are. It is a semi rural area that has a lot of tourism. I don't feel like I can go with him, a) because I feel his alcoholism is advancing with or without his drink (he currently is not drinking), b) I dont...	maresie2	4	549	Mar 9, 2007 by RainyJamie
	A BIG THANK YOU TO AL-ANON FAMILY (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, chat is empty, and I decided to go surf the message board. I got a reply to one of my posts. And it really made me smile....lol This is what it said::: "I just wanted to chime in here and tell you that you always brighten my day when I se...	ally	1	432	Mar 9, 2007 by Rita G
	SEARCHING FOR PEACE OF MIND FOR ALLY (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))))))))))))) You all know my situation with my broken relationship.......WELL!!!!! I have been in here since friday last week (in chat) after being offline for three weeks! I have shared about six times over the five meetings Saturday and Sunday....It'...	ally	6	588	Mar 9, 2007 by ally
	"Be the Change You Wish to See in the World" ~Ghandi (Preview) No day is like any other day. Isn't that interesting? And you never know what the next day will bring, and that's exciting. --Alpha English Alpha has not lost her zest for life. Although nearly ninety, she nurtures a young mind and a wise heart. Her attitude influences those around her too, ma...	Tiger2006	2	411	Mar 9, 2007 by hersh
	Stay vs. Leave, Giving Advice, etc. (Preview) Please folks... let'd do our best to share E,S, & H with each other, talk about our experiences, what may have worked (or not worked) for us in similar situations.... but please, please, please stop short of advising people whether or not they should stay or go in their relationships with the...	canadianguy	28	1113	Mar 9, 2007 by AndiLynn
	This is WAY too hard (Preview) My A feels like his life is spiralling out of control. I kicked him out 9 weeks ago after a 2 week drinking binge. The day after he moved out i warned him that if he doesnt get his act together i will cancel the wedding. So for the next 3 weeks we spoke everyday, and each day he told me he doent want to quit. So i c...	arty	12	493	Mar 9, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Husband is 18 DAYS SOBER and EXHAUSTED (Preview) Well it is true what they say in Alanon about let go and let God. I am not sure if anyone had seen my previous post but I was at wits end. I finally had to turn everything in my life over to my Higher Power. I have been praying for answers as I love my husband but he has become a different person since drinking...	debo	8	1173	Mar 9, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Hope and Cynicism (Preview) Just a little hope for all. I had been chatting with a guy I have never talked to or met online for the past week or two and yesterday he sent me a dozen roses, a bear and a box of candy delivered to my work and called me when I got home (first time I heard his voice). NOW cynicism. I question every word that c...	carolinagirl	7	587	Mar 9, 2007 by AndiLynn
	Today (Preview) Today is a new day. Today I will be happy for what I have....beautiful children, beautiful grandchildren. A nice apartment. New friends that are fun to be with. Old friends that are always there, no matter how long I have been out of touch. My health. No gray hair yet. ( Well, maybe one, but its a pretty se...	jajanma	3	349	Mar 9, 2007 by jajanma
	Cookie Cutter People (Preview) I cringe when I hear that 'Most of us suffer from low self-esteem," "most of us are attracted to alcoholics again and again," "most of us were abused during childhood." Do "most of us" really come out of the same box? Of course not! I dare say there is no stati...	Alanoner	8	644	Mar 9, 2007 by AndiLynn
	so much anxiety (Preview) I ask myself all the time-why do I stress so much about certain things--things I cannot control?? Do other people do this? Is it because we want our lives to be problem free? No one has a problem free life. I guess I have sooo become a people pleaser, perhaps living in the past with a A brother and A X hubby...	meagain	8	676	Mar 9, 2007 by maresie2
	he is SO depressed (Preview) im not so sure on how to cope with this one... thanks mobirdie for your post... now i need to hear from more people. My a is sober for now, but is extremely depressed. he doesnt tell me he wants to hurt himself, but i can just hear it in his voice. i keep reassuring him that we can eventually work things out for...	arty	7	554	Mar 9, 2007 by Diva
	Is discussing program with A appropriate? (Preview) Both my A and I are involved in program (fairly new to it having bounced back and forth with it for a long time). We have never talked about how we each may interpret any of the steps, etc. and we are just at the beginnings of truly being involved in our own recoveries and leave each to his own with ea...	jaja	7	749	Mar 8, 2007 by abbyal
	BIRTHDAY GIRL (Preview) I love birthdays !!!!!!!!!! (everyone else's that is). Today is our lovely and talented LAUREN ASHLEY'S birthday Happy Birthday Sweetheart Hope you have a wonderful day. Love ya, Maria	Maria123	11	520	Mar 8, 2007 by tea2
	TWELVE REWARDS TO TWELVE STEPS (Preview) Looking thru my books ,I found this in one of my pages, it was written in Alanon news letter 1979 Twelve Rewards To The Twelve Steps 1.HOPE instead of desperation. 2.FAITH instead of despair. 3.C OURAGE instead of fear. 4.PEACE OF MIND instead of confusion. 5.SELF-RESPECT instead of contempt. 6.SEL...	angel123	2	2229	Mar 8, 2007 by tea2
	prayers (Preview) in the midst of all this just got breast cancer diagnosis....trying to stay calm, make informed decisions, rely on my wonderful support network. feel like life has just got it out to beat me down till there is no where lower to go. love, fifi	Fifi	12	526	Mar 8, 2007 by Karilynn
	SUFFERING IN SILENCE! (Preview) Dear Roomies: I grew resentful tonight over a small incident, and it has lead to the beginning of some fruitful growth on my part that I would like to share. Earlier this evening, I called a friend who was unable to talk and asked to call me back later this evening because it wasn't a good time for her...	BlueCloud	6	577	Mar 8, 2007 by eva
	Adult Child A (Preview) I am having such a difficult time w/ my son, who's 22, has had 2 dui's prior to 21 years old. He's "trying" to get his life on track according to him, but he won't admit he even has a drinking problem. Yesterday, clear cut rules, he can stay over, but there's absolutely...	vriebe	5	537	Mar 8, 2007 by mel123
	Marriage Counseling Session (Preview) Last night, I went to the counselor with my AH. It was pretty disastrous for me, though my AH seemed pretty happy about the whole thing. I feel like he is attempting to hide things from her, and he won't assume ownership of his actions, his behavior, and their impact on our relationship. We attem...	theprofessor	6	551	Mar 8, 2007 by mama_nz
	This is about ME... (Preview) More and more as I learn about Al-anon, visit this board and go to face2face mtg's, the consistent message is that this is about ME. Although I have feelings about what my Ah is doing or not doing, what I do is what I can control. Some things I am learning: Not only in my relationship with my husband, bu...	Rora	4	383	Mar 8, 2007 by mama_nz
	wish there was a stop-drinking pill or gum (Preview) My ah actually said that to me! He keeps telling me how he wants to quit and he's not doing very well with quitting and he wishes there was a pill or gum or something like that to help him. And I was like, "GO TO AA! GET A SPONSOR!! START SOME SORT OF PROGRAM!! Sometime I just want to strangle that man!	minnie	8	718	Mar 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Went to court on Friday (Preview) Just an update for anyone who's interested. I DID go to court on Friday and had the restraining order made permanent. It was a horrible ordeal. He didn't show up thank god but I was first and had to testify in front of a courtroom full of people (small town) about what had transpired. How emb...	carolinagirl	4	560	Mar 7, 2007 by maresie2
	my 22 yr old son is an alcholic i need advice (Preview) i need someone that has gone thru this to tell me what i am doing wrong or if what i have been doing is right i don't have clue and i have no family to help me and my husband is almost just gave up and my 19 yr old daughter has just had it with him.	HELPLESSMOM	11	664	Mar 7, 2007 by maresie2
	Bullies and boundaries (Preview) I'm having a lot of fear here, and can't get a grasp on the thought I'm having that's causing it (if you know what I mean). AH relapsed et al over the last year (second relapse with him in seven years), and I kicked him out in January. He's been living with the guy who set up the AA meet...	Kim65	6	651	Mar 7, 2007 by Kim65
	Also...A Canadian Guy..:) (Preview) I've been on this site since it started many moons ago..my name is Phil..and I'm a recovering alcoholic.. As an added bonus I've also been a member of Alanon...for a great length of time also... I dont share on this board much.... There are a different set of guidelines set down...so.......	Phil	14	728	Mar 7, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Adult Child A (Preview) I am having such a difficult time w/ my son, who's 22, has had 2 dui's prior to 21 years old. He's "trying" to get his life on track according to him, but he won't admit he even has a drinking problem. Yesterday, clear cut rules, he can stay over, but there's absolutely...	vriebe	0	393	Mar 7, 2007 by vriebe
	I feel so angry and helpless (Preview) This whole thing with my dil has just left me feeling helpless and hopeless. I can't control her using my grandaughters as pawns in trying to force my son to sign divorce papers that have stipulations that are unreasonable. I am so angry that she is keeping my grandchildren away from me just beca...	JulieLynn	3	758	Mar 7, 2007 by BlueCloud
	Something that Really Helped me (Preview) Something that really helped me put things in perspective this past week was to write down the Serenity Prayer like this....................... God, Grant me the SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE....... That Garry is an alcoholic. That I can not make him STOP DRINKING. That Garry does n...	debo	1	471	Mar 7, 2007 by Lunamoth
	this is a good program (Preview) I have learn last night i went to a f2f meeting i felt out of place but listen to every one who talk because i know i got a problem and it ME my best thinking got me here and i realize i need to work on my self more than ever,but for your help i would had been more nerves than i have been, i just started and i got a long...	marty	2	452	Mar 7, 2007 by david62
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