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TLC2
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You silly, I don't even know what you mean. I always LOVE your
responses.
I meant only to clarify MY share. Others have thought I meant I cared what others t hink
I really don't. Especially his A friends.
Part of my caring for me has been becoming self actualized and caring for how
I feel. A...
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Heartbroken
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Morning all,
I'll leave out the gory details w/ the A and how she was arguing so much that my son went to go to someone elses house he doesn't really like to escape. Saying he could still hear her two houses up the block.....suffice to say, it wasn't the best of days.
My 9 yo son is becoming the hou...
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new here, partner is drinking
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HI, I am a new member to this site and needing help.
My partner of 4 years is to me an alcoholic. When we first met she never drank and she was happy with saying that out loud. She did tell me that she was a recovering drug addicit, and sober for 12 years. Slowing into our realtionship she started to d...
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i am horrible!
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today i just feel like i have posted a lot. i think i am thinking more about my dad today than usual. i don't know why. maybe it's b/c the super bowl is coming up (i know he'll be watching), maybe it's b/c i miss him, maybe i just feel a little more angry than normal. yep i think it is the angry thing. how horribl...
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doing better
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I have not posted in a while. So far things are going well. I am hanging in there. I have been online here alot so I am doing good that way. I try and spend some time away from the room. I am looking forward to being an op. I am excited.
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thank you
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I wanted to thank you who responded to my long post.
So many wise words you all shared. I do want to make it clear, i am hurt for me, not
that I care what anyone thinks of me, meaning who my A husband has said
bad things about me to.
Again it was the fact that he would do that. It killed something ins...
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debilyn
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the alcoholic letter again
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I am an alcoholic, I need your help. Don't lecture me, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry at me for having TB or diabetes. Alcoholism is a disease too. Don't pour out my liquor; it's a waste because I can always find ways of getting more. Don't let me provoke...
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THE DR.'s OPINION
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(the book refered to in this letter is our Big Book)
WE OF Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the reader will be interested in the medical estimate of the plan of recovery described in this book. Convincing testimony must surely come from medical men who have had experience with the sufferings of...
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i'm the only one
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my dad is an A. i'll spare you most of the details. but i have a bro and a sis. we decided to have no contact with him b/c of his drinking. well, my bro caved, but my sis and i are staying strong. the problem is that i feel like i am the only one that really cares about it. my bro just wants to pretend that nothing is...
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flintfeet
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picture book for kids -story of parents w/alcohol or drug problems?
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Does anyone have a title for a picture book to read to children (2nd-5th grade) dealing with parents with drug or alcohol problem?
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Barbara
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The A and her dog
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Hello everyone,
Long time no chat :) This is an update of my daughter who is the recoverying alcoholic/drug addict in my life. My daughter 21, finally has been staying clean and sober for over 6 months and is struggling still with anxiety and depression. Christmas was hard for her. She went to AA on Ch...
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strong for others
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it is so easy to step back & be strong for others, when I am weak or confused or otherwise. Hard to swallow your own bitter pills. But just like deep tissue massage, if u don't dig & grind the pain out so it can be released (rather painfully) - the knots just stay deep in your muscle tis...
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kitty
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In Illinois, a 13th Ann. SRING FLING
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SPRING FLING, APRIL 28 -30, 2006 GALESBURG, IL contact phone # 309-484-6012 (Larry) or email: aa_springfling@yahoo.com. (may have to type in)
Speakers from Chicago, Pekin, and Kirkwood, IL and...
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What Have I Done?
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Hi all,
We have a huge county event going on Thursday and Friday, and I volunteered to captain a section of my county. I am starting to feel the stress hit me. I don't live in that part of the county, I don't know the resources, and as I keep trying to find them, I am finding there aren't any. I have been give...
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Dolphin123
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Sixth Step Prayer-Beautiful !
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This prayer is over 30 years old ! Do not know if anyone has heard it before, or if it is still around, but it IS beautiful ! Passing it along, as I just stumbled across it this week.
Six Step Prayer
God, I want to get ready to let go of this OL...
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wallsal55
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I have faith - why do others need to judge it
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I had a long talk with a long time friend of mine last night that disturbed me. She recently has gone through this born again Christian thing where she all of a sudden is cramming HER religion down my throat. I have my own faith - I got in touch with it again within the last 4 months - how could I n...
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Cyn
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Great Al-Anon advice
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I got this message from a friend today and it carried a valuable Al-Anon meaning for me. I decided to post it in case it might be valuable to others too...
**please note in advance that this is not conference approved if that is a problem for you**
“...
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Emmie11
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I need support.. I am so alone
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My husband was sober 16 years.. all the time I knew him and am married to him.. he is drinking alot now..two weeks ago.. he started drinking again.. never home and drunk when he is... I am feeling constant pain and am going to a meeting on Friday... but.. I don't know how to deal with a drunk? D...
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Ninababy
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I am slipping
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I haven't dated anyone seriously since my A and I parted ways last May.
Seems that I am doing great as long as I am not dating anyone.
I met someone a month ago. I also finished my six month zoloft prescription a month ago.
This new guy and I hit it off last month. We live in different towns, but i...
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mollyann
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HEALTH AT RISK
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Hello all:
I am in a terrible place and need support. Last night I found out that my A has tested positive for the Hep C antibody. While in treatment he was tested. He will need to follow up once he leaves (1/31) in order to confirm but that is not for another week when he gets out. I can't tell...
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Kim
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insanity is contagious
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You all know I have this foundation of serenity. I know things will be ok.
Also have to say after being so upset by A's words and craziness, I just wanted to
check out. Just close my eyes and be done with it. I mean gads ya gotta be some
kinda brave person to live past 50 and you must be super courageou...
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debilyn
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I feel kind of bad
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I read so many really moving stories on here that tell of so much difficulty with their a(s), when I really have nothing even close to compare or relate to. No DUIs, fights, leaving, coming back, job loss, family problems, violence, threats, hospital emergencies, verbal abuse, stabbing, shooting,...
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Amanda
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lost serenity if found please contact ...
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I'm frustrated this morning. My A is going to go help his Dad later this afternoon move some furniture around. He wants to take the puppy with him. I am angry that I am worrying about him getting high with his family. I'm angry I am worrying about my puppy. I know it is bes...
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Jennifer
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making amends to my "cyber buddies"
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Clearing the Slate
One of the greatest gifts we can give is an open, loving heart. And holding on to negative feelings from past relationships is our greatest barrier to that gift.
Most of us have had relationships that have ended. When we examine these relationships, we need to clear the emoti...
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for kissers
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What happened with that new guy?
Did you end up contacting him? Are you still seeing him?
Also, I liked those posts you did a while ago where you copied some text from recovery books.
If you have time to do more, I would love to read more of those posts!!
MollyAnn
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Jigsaw Puzzles/January Self Mastery!
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The weather here has been nice, then yuck. Have been working jigsaw puzzles (60-100 piece, the Keep It Simple type, so as to not overwhelm myself) I cannot believe what a sense of self mastery it gives me. I can RELY on myself, my own intuition, the puzzle has a b...
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Alanon's 55th Birthday Party--Midwest Bus Trip to Virgingia Beach VA.
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4 days to Virginia Beach to the World Service Office, open house and more. Deadlines are in March!
For information sheet and contacts from Waukegan, IL go to: www.niafg.com
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he wants to come home
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I am confused...to say the least. When he left last May, I figured he would be home in a few days...or at most a few weeks, as before...but months went by. Then last summer after I told him I wanted to go visit my family...(2000 miles away...as I have done every year) with the kids for a month...he filed for...
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Alcoholism and Intelligence
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((((((((Hi roomies))))),
Somewhere, someone posted a question about alcoholism, intelligence and recovery. Forgive me, I can't remember who posted it. My A is extremely intelligent so the question intrigued me enough to do some searching.
After checking numerous sites, I came up with...
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Karilynn
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chat server stuff
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Hi y'all
I so can not get into chat.
I dunno whats up with that
and I'm not busting rhymes
I can not get in.
Suggestions?
Oceans of love 2 all
\/\/ille
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wille
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Thanks To All
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A heartfelt thanks to all for your support and advice. I hope to become more supportive to others once I've worked through my family's present crisis with our A. It is amazing how comforting it is to know that you are not alone and that others experience the same feelings and pain. And that regardless of...
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CLJ
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progress for me
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today i really worked by program. i did not react to my dry a. well i had two minor slips then caught myself and told him im not having this conversation until you can learn to talk to me properly, it was amazing to see how quickly he turned around and began treating me like a human being again....
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'Newbie'-Hi, Trying to Detach...
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Hi I am new to the board but not to the sorrow of living with a beloved person who is alcoholic.
He relapsed a couple days ago after 2 years of sobriety. He is nearing end stage and this just blew his position on the liver transplant list. In my panic, I demanded he return to treatment...
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CLJ
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antidepressants - long term effects
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Does anyone have any real life experience with long term antidepressant use? I have read a lot online.
I take zoloft. I am meeting with my doctor this morning about long term use. Has anyone had to go off of it while pregnant?
MollyAnn
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what should i/ do I need to do?
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Mother calls today and says younger brother (42?) BIT HER! As at least 2 of you know my brothers been having problems for a few years now. Still lives with mother, etc. Mother's been saying he drinks too much, has a temper, etc.
Today she called and said HE BIT HER! I told her to put a restrainin...
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Barbara
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nearing 3 months now
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My computer crashed and I lost everything--just getting things back together.
I still don't know what the future holds but my husband is still sober--it will be 3 months in 2 days. For now our life is better than I ever imagined. He's a new person. We're a family again. We'...
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mom to 2
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proud of myself
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Late last night my A husband called...drunk:( He started calling me awful names..before I would have gotten pissed off and retailiated with some mean comments,hollering back etc.Well not this night.I was calm and actually nice.I said...I love you and will not say hurtful things to you,cal...
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haxigonian VI
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[[ room ]]
I'm on a library computer with a one hour time limit that extends to all branches so I will post as much as i can before time runs out.
I have six days' good fortune remaining...
after that, i need a place to camp out in my car (don't worry; it's quite comfortable and cheaper than other s...
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haximon
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the screw?
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can somebody please tell me the meaning behind the screw? i havnt heard it before
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notsonew1111
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what am i up against?
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once again im facing the same decision that i came here with but in a whole new way. my eyes are getting opened even more. im beginning to see more of how things really are. when i first came here i would talk about how all i wanted was for my a to be sober and for things to be normal again. even though i was warne...
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notsonew1111
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impromptu meeting last night
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I didn't realize that we ever had impromptu meetings - last night's totally saved my bacon! When I saw "trust" pop up as one of the topics it was like a dart hit me in the forehead - I didn't even realize that was what had me so upset last night. It took many many shares before I started to get past my own hurt fe...
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sparkette
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god help me find the door OUT
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I am looking!!! I caught my a in one too many untruths a week ago and something in me snapped-maybe my mental health stopped in to say hi? sure wish it had stayed longer because I am out but truly struggling. Trying to accept that she is not changing but attempting to manipulate me. Trying to accept that th...
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Update
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UPDATE:
My wife has been doing very well. She looks forward to her meetings. She attends as much as she can. She has realized what measures she has to take in order for her to be a better person. She is/has cut ties to things that triggers her. I'm still not living with...
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Overtime Blues
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Is it just me, or do all husbands work their asses off for every one else...
My husband has just phoned to let me know that he is working late.. again. I know for a fact that he is working. But it pisses me off. He has a good job teaching recovering addicts woodworking skills. N...
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captcodee
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Family ... ups and downs
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Hello Everyone,
I've been so busy I have not had time to keep up with the posts for the last week. I hope you all are well and doing as well as possible
It seems so soon after losing Jasper, but I decided after grieving for my other dog for 6 months and spending Jasper's last 2 months grieving tha...
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Jennifer
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mirc/irc
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macs cannot to mirc, is mip chat on irc? love,deb
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debilyn
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He's Baaaack
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Hello...I was on here before but realized I probably should have been using a psuedonym, thus the new account...
My A has just returned from rehab. It was his first if that matters. His eyes were wide open for the first time in a very long time, but still very yellow...he has some health issues relat...
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Amanda
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update
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Hi everyone..just an update on whats been going on.some of you may remember I kicked my A husband out almost 4 weeks ago.He is still gone but we have been talking on the phone..things are calmer,no screaming at each other.we are trying to work things out but slowly.he came by on Friday and brought our do...
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allison
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leo
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I wanted to answer your question. One thing about my a is he is spineless. He does o t\
have the balls to come up here. He has only hurt me when he had been here awhile and was basically living here.
I have known him all my life. He would never, ever come up here now. That is why
he makes sure he gets all s...
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debilyn
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camra/alanonchat room
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hello this is camra from alanonchat room I can not get into the chat room, it tells me I am banned but I have absolutly no Idea why ???
can someone help ?
Thanks
Camra
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matisa
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So glad to find this board
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I am having such a hard time dealing with my daughter's drinking. She is 26 and this has been going on off and on for 13 years or maybe it has always been on. I think she is sober and I find she is drinking again/still. I just don't have the patience anymore. I say all the wrong thin...
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chat
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Can anyone tell me what channel to put in on MIRC now? I have re-configured, uninstalled started again and no luck. I have put MIP chat in the channel and alanon chat but what this does is create my own channel and I am the only person there. Quite funny when you think about it me and all...
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leo
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Hi ya'll
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Hello everyone, I don't have time to check posts, but wanted to check in from the library. I am going to file my taxes this weekend and hope to have a computer by Monday. I need one for school work and as a life line. Things are going fairly well. Kids are great, but I miss m...
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Powerless
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Is this insanity????
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a just called me. started out ok. we were trying to figure out if he has 3 dui's in ten years.
i found a site that tells the sentances possible and stuff.
Next thing I know he is saying all this horrible stuff, how I did this I did that. I did too much for him, he did not deserver a wife like me, then i how I k...
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debilyn
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a "quicky" step 4..this is cool and it WORKS
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January 18 The Simple Inventory
" Continuing to take a personal inventory means that we form a habit of looking at ourselves, our actions, our attitudes, and our relationships on a regular basis."
Basic Text, p. 41The daily inventory is a tool we can use to simplify our lives. The most complica...
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update
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Thanks for the replies to my post yesterday. It was just what I needed to hear! I made an appointment with my therapist and my doctor this morning to review my medication.
I got an email today from the guy I am seeing. I am mad at myself about the time I wasted yesterday wondering why...
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mollyann
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gave me a BIG treat
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hey guys, this past two weeks, i gave me a BIG treat....
got all new faucets, through out...
bathtubs glazed
new curtains , AND---
all new tiles throughout the house.....
its a good thing i can do a lot of stuff by myself, cuz it would have cost me more than the appro...
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rosie light shines
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terrified but turning it over
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Today my husband (ACOA) and myself (ACOA) are going to get the keys to our new house. I have found myself feeling more nervous than excited and I thought that maybe that was wrong. When you get a new house you are supposed to be so happy that you can't contain yourselves right? Well, I have been mostly terr...
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sparkette
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HAPPINESS
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I found this on the internet, author unknown:
Think of the things that maake you happy
Not of the things that make you sad
Think of the fine and true in mankind
Not the sordid side and bad
Think of the blessings that surround you
Not the ones that are denied
Think of the virtues of y...
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Becky1
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Open, Honest, and afraid
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I have a secret. It has been eating me alive. It has prevented me from coming to this room.
So here goes
My problem is this. (boy, this is hard to put down in type for all to see....)
I took up smoking pot with my husband.
There, that is it. That is the big skeleton that I have hung...
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captcodee
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