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Mother calls today and says younger brother (42?) BIT HER! As at least 2 of you know my brothers been having problems for a few years now. Still lives with mother, etc. Mother's been saying he drinks too much, has a temper, etc. Today she called and said HE BIT HER! I told her to put a restraining order, get him out of the house before he kills her! I did have him arrested last summer after she called during one of his rages. She has gone into Boston, to see lawyers, etc - they tell her what she needs/should do but she doesnt do them! I know he's her kid and I dont know if I would be able to do this with my own kid. But then again if you really do love them you gotta do something before something worse happens. Is there anything I can legally do?
Tough one Barbara! I relate in a way because my 35 yr old son was living with us for around 10 months. He is bipolar-schizo affective and it seems the worst he got, the more anger he had toward me! I was scared to death to be home alone with him many, many days. I did not think he himself would hurt me, but quite possibly in one of his delusions. ( they were getting worst all the time) It was very hard, but this last time the hospital released him he didn't come back here. Right now he is staying with a friend, although I don't know how long that might last. He is still very ill and not taking meds right.
Is it possible to do some kind of intervention to protect your mother? I'm not really sure how you would go about it, but it sounds like your poor mom needs some help! Maybe a judge or something, or maybe you need to go to the lawyer with her.
You certainly can do something legally. You can report your brother to the police in which town they live for elder abuse. Your brother's rages will not stop until something is changed in the situation. I hope that you can find the strength and courage to do just that.
Karen
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Mom needs to get him out quick!! Also recommend she have a tetanus shot!! No kidding...bites can be terrible things; even human ones. Of course if she does that, 42 yo son may be arrested. Tough situation!! Diva
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Just report any instances to the police - i f mom won't do it
If u see she is beaten up or injured insist she go to emergency -they will call the police. If your mom won't do anything that is about all you can do to help her. Louise
Moms sometimes tend to be Ostrich's...don't wanna really know or do anything. Other people can too - my sisters were when my Mom had a manic in-home nurse that abused her and menaced over the sisters. I called for help despite ALL of them who were resistant to do anything because they were scared. She was gone within the hour.
Someone NEEDs to be strong when things get out of control. Do whatever you can legally or otherwise ASAP is my 2 cents.
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