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I haven't dated anyone seriously since my A and I parted ways last May.
Seems that I am doing great as long as I am not dating anyone.
I met someone a month ago. I also finished my six month zoloft prescription a month ago.
This new guy and I hit it off last month. We live in different towns, but it has been going well. He went on vacation last week, and promised to email me. He returns tomorrow. No emails from him.
I started obsessing today about why I haven't heard from him. I could hardly get out of bed this morning. I took some zoloft and felt better. Cleaned the house, worked out and bought a new outfit.
I tried to stop the zoloft once last month too. No physical withdrawal symptoms, but I felt depressed and starting obsessing about things. I am starting to think I will have to be on medication forever. I only take 25 mg, but I can feel my mind slipping everytime I stop.
I have been learning so much since I started Al Anon, but today I feel like I have made no progress and that now I need medication for the rest of my life to keep myself normal.
I am trying really hard to not think about this guy and to take care of me.
Please consult your doctor before making decisions as to whether or not you should "take yourself off the medication" My husband has tried many times to regulate his medications on his own, only led to bigger issues. If you need the medication because there is a chemical imbalance then you need it. It is ok. Would you expect a diabetic not to take insulin?
Just my thoughts, take what you like and leave the rest.
I totally get how u feel. I quit taking my antidepressants also. I am tired of paying all that money to drug companies so I can feel blah. I also hate dating. The guy I am dating is too needy. He calls all the time and is all over me when we are together. I am so much better off alone. Then I can work on me and take care of my life without worrying about him.
Please don't stop taking your meds cold turkey. I tried that with zoloft (50MG) and I got extremely agitated along with a lot of other negative feelings. I did eventually go off of them, but it was gradually and under my Dr.'s care.
Getting off your meds cold turkey can cause you lots of problems.
As far as needing meds for the rest of your life, if you do, you do. I have been on one for anxiety for years. I have tried to get off it several times over the years and the anxiety comes back.
I had the same problem as the others... I took myself off from Zoloft with out consulting my psychiatrist and went into a huge downward sprial. Its one of those medications you have to decrease from slowly. Also with Zoloft... the first 4 to 6 weeks you start taking it can be really bad too. A lot of people have violent and/or suicidal tendiencies during the first four weeks... usually its teens who have the worst reactions to it.. but its not unheard of for adults to have problems also.
Hugs and keep your chin up...
Jessyca
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~Prayer for Today~
Lord make me an instrument of Thy peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love: Where there is injury, pardon : Where there is doubt, faith: Where there is depair, hope: Where there is darkness, light: And where there is sadness: joy.
To get off psychotropic drugs safely, one needs to go very slow, with incremental dose reductions. "Need" can change as a person does in coping with challenges in life.
To get off dating, one needs to become a nun! ha ha ha
I have a little saying I like - Hope for the best, but plan for the worst - and you may be pleasantly suprised! No one person or thing is the beginning or end of the world for anyone, we all just do the best with what we have to work with! Hope your journeys turn out well...cheers!
I'll make an appointment to go see my doctor. Now that I think about it I was supposed to make an appointment at the end of my six months to get on a tapering schedule for the zoloft. Didn't think it was a big deal since I'm on the lowest dose!
I met someone a month ago. I also finished my six month zoloft prescription a month ago.
This new guy and I hit it off last month. We live in different towns, but it has been going well. He went on vacation last week, and promised to email me. He returns tomorrow. No emails from him.
ROSIE_________i got the books "12 steps for codependents" by melody beattie and WORKED it..didn't just read it i worked it, becuz i used to be the same way about guys...meet a guy and i am in love......one month and i would be in love.......it was my "needyness" not love....and i usually picked emotionally UNavailable men.....when i dragged myself into recovery...i swore OFF men till i got a good relationship with ME.....love ME, and i can take care of me............the slogan "let it begin with me" means so much to me....HOW can i have a good relationship if i don't love/respect/honour/feel comfy with ME????? i cannot ....my needs have to come from ME......sure, i have family/ friends to whom i go with my needs/wants, i need help on....but if they are UNavailable for some reason???? i take care of me in another way......bottom line??? i am my rescuer ...i am my bottom line....i am the one who needs me the most.......people come and go--- i will not.......people leave me/let me down---- i will not...........so it behooves me to develope the most important relationship i have----------ME!!!!! take what works...leave the rest...rosie
i hate meds, too. but some people need them. i have epilepsy and have to take meds twice a day to prevent seizures. i'm fine as long as i take my meds. but the moment i forget or stop them--i have a seizure. i have come to grips that i will have to be on meds the rest of my life. it's ok to need them, but not abuse them. check with your doc about your script. there is nothing wrong with meds when you need them.
guys can be jerks, don't waste your time obsessing over him! try not to be a door mat. move on
Hey,don't go off your meds. without your dr knowing...I went off of effexor xl and that was a huge mistake, crashed and burned so to speak, some of the antidepressants you have to taper off slowly and I learned that lesson the hard way. Its not like you have to depend on these kinds of meds. Some of them are good, just to take the edge off, and not make you feel wierd or in the twilight zone..if so, that's not the right one for you. I am off my anti depressant lexapro for now...but still take xanax. If I don't I have major anxiety attacks. So it helps me a lot..and no side effects unless I quit taking it. You will be just fine..don't worry about it..as long as you talk to your dr about the effects and believe me, they are so different for everyone. And there are lots of new meds out there...My dr is always trying to get me to try his samples...and they are free, sometimes he will give me a months supply of them depends on the dr.
You are going to do just fine..hang in there..and keep on trying. Don't be afraid to ask tons of questions...and sometimes just the time you take the meds makes a difference, ask if you can take them in the evening or 5pm instead of morning..still effective but not so groggy feeling ...take care..kat
Mollyann: Well dating is difficult friendship is difficult for me. Disappointment is difficult isn't it?
I have tremendous expectations. When I lower them things change. At first I really railed against lowering expectations but when they are really up there I get get lost in being up and down and other orientated.
I have to look at stuff as risky. Dating is risky, relationships are risky, friendships are risky. Being in recovery is risky. I try to look at my needs and how I can meet them.
I can also be obsessive around relationships and I have found a lot of solace in reading certain books on them in particular in regard to love addiction. There are some terms like "intrigueing" "fantasy", love avoidants and love addiciton that have been very useful for me. After I had read certain books on the subject I became less confused over why and how I became involved so quickly and so attached to someone who behaved well in the beginning and suddenly seemed to switch to being less interested. I can't say that it stopped some of my behavior but I did get clear on what happened, why it happened and how I was in that process.
Clarity helps me it does not necessarily stop the problem but I did stop beating myself up for it and feeling shame around those issues.
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Hey,don't go off your meds. without your dr knowing...I went off of effexor xl and that was a huge mistake, crashed and burned so to speak, some of the antidepressants you have to taper off slowly and I learned that lesson the hard way. Its not like you have to depend on these kinds of meds. Some of them are good, just to take the edge off, and not make you feel wierd or in the twilight zone..if so, that's not the right one for you. I am off my anti depressant lexapro for now...but still take xanax. If I don't I have major anxiety attacks. So it helps me a lot..and no side effects unless I quit taking it. You will be just fine..don't worry about it..as long as you talk to your dr about the effects and believe me, they are so different for everyone. And there are lots of new meds out there...My dr is always trying to get me to try his samples...and they are free, sometimes he will give me a months supply of them
depends on the dr. 
You are going to do just fine..hang in there..and keep on trying. Don't be afraid to ask tons of questions...and sometimes just the time you take the meds makes a difference, ask if you can take them in the evening or 5pm instead of morning..still effective but not so groggy feeling ...take care..kat