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joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...

luv123 · luv123

MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...

Lyne · Lyne

Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...

serenity47 · serenity47

AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...

Lyne · Lyne

I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...

El · El

Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...

JerryF · JerryF

I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...

wp · wp

I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow.

The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am telling you it has sincerely been a crazy past couple of weeks and I am ready to just be done. Last week I heard from the young man who is my son's bff, and then my bff and that whole thing .. who pops up on my facebook?? My XAH pending as "husband (waiting for response)" with his profile picture of him a...

a4l · a4l

This detachment business is getting easier. So I have had a complex relationship with a parent especially over the last 8 years. Probably that's when I became aware of it as I started progressing career wise about that time and for better or worse cut all ties to raise the three babies without any foo w...

A nother · A nother

I've been to a meeting tonight, and someone shared about how isolated they feel because their ah doesn't want people to know that he is an alcoholic. It's got me thinking, and not in a good way. The person who shared explained that she understood that this isn't her problem to share with friends. So she...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So weird turn of events part 2 kind of .. lol. This part is sad .. one of my very best friends who I have known online and talked about on the boards before has been living in active addiction. The difference is I saw this coming this time around, you could tell via the facebook posts and the texts I was rece...

JerryF · JerryF

On this month in 1959 my Sister quietly and with confidence let go of her life to the struggle with Lupus. She was heroic till the last second including telling the doctors and my mother and her new husband "I am ready to go...Let me". The day before she was sitting with other terminal patients at Kai...

A nother · A nother

He's been out drinking all day. The kids are asleep. HesH not back and to be honest I don't expect him to come home for a good while yet. I've got quite good at accepting his drinking most nights but this feels unsafe. I told him I still want to go ahead with the divorce yesterday. I know it's an old fear habit...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... my ability to remember, and to think, has improved a lot. I think about the key events in my life now- without slipping into the poors me's... ....the 'what if's and the if only's'. It took a whole lot of letting go- to achieve this. Age 8 or 10. My dad seems to have disappeared- and I was...

Lyne · Lyne

Self-honesty: The writer speaks about the difficulty they had when first coming to F2F meetings. They told funny stories , discussed problems they had already solved, and just couldn't let anyone see their pain and suffering. They came to realize that the only way to receive help was to allow othe...

luv123 · luv123

Wow what a 24 hr period of recovery and processing starting with Ala-teen out reach work with some community mental health agencies committing to add ala-teen to their websites... YES!!! the teens need to know we are here for them (also anyone with a teen who has no local meeting, just a reminder ther...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived in alcoholic families have used our sense of order to cope. We may seem inflexible, but associate a certain strictness and obedience in our habits with a feeling of safety. The writer describes learning to plant tulip bulbs...

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family! Today's 'Courage to Change' reading speaks of making the time to appreciate the simple beauties of life. The author recalls as a small child being entranced by a small caterpillar and the pleasure derived simply from watching the creature. This memory caused the writer to que...

JerryF · JerryF

while sitting on the sofa. Good morning Family!! It's very good for me as with coffee and toast I picked up our 3 daily readers from literature. I have mentioned it before that I was taught to listen and hear metaphorically; in pictures and the first reading used the Don Quixote story about tilting...

Carla61 · Carla61

I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone. trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I was lucky to have a nice stepfather. Honest and consistent. He gave my mum 30 years of happy marriage. He passed away six weeks ago. I knew that my side of the family- brothers and sister would create shenanigans. They absolutely refuse to have anything religious at a fune...

Freetime · Freetime

This reading points out that I am not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. When I am faced with a challenging situation, I can do my best, take care of my own responsibilities, and let a higher power take care of the rest. It does not help to worry or to force solutions. When I let go of what...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about progress, not perfection. Today's Reminder: Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experiences as part of a long-term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Sometimes the best thing to do in a situation is nothing .. nothing is something and sometimes just like I always hear more will be revealed. I had a very interesting turn of events occur regarding my youngest. Over the summer there was an "incident" in terms of drinking until blackout with his best f...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This is what I've been praying about these days. I answered a few posts here tonight but not much to offer to others right now. It's hard to sit with things over which you have little to no control. I have worked through many of the feelings concerning the ending of my job. I received unemployment, have ap...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everybody Hi everybody I just wanted to stop in and say hello And tell you that last Saturday I had a very very bad back spasm, it was so bad by Sunday I could not even get around. Dressing myself to get to urgent care was sheer agony I had to go to emergency care and found this really wonderful Doctor Wh...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on expectations that many newcomers have for AlAnon. Many of us may have been governed by a strict rule of order as a way to feel that we had some control living with the disease of Alcoholism. We may have expected a program as successful as AlAnon to be even more ri...

SoulSearcher · SoulSearcher

Hi, I have yet to start the steps of alanon however, I have attended a few meetings. My on Ana doff boyfriend of four years just came back from rehab two weeks ago. Throughout our whole relationship he had promised to get help or get better and I kept holding onto his promises that never came true. Eventua...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi everyone Having a period of ups and downs. Mostly downs or flatligning. Just could do with some esh please. Sad when you realise situations won't change eh and you just gotta get on with things for the short term until you can get out. X

hotrod · hotrod

The odat reading for October 16 speaks about the negative coping tools that we develop when living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that alanon is a fellowship of equals and that those who come to meetings with feelings of superiority often find that the people that they judge harsh...

Lyne · Lyne

Forgiveness: Today's reading talks about the most loving form of detachment, which is forgiveness. It doesn't wipe the slate clean, or pronounce someone "not guilty." Forgiveness cuts the strings of resentment that bind them to a problem or past hurt. By releasing resentment, you set yoursel...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP! I'm just checking in to post a custody question and a quick update on my life. I love reading this board daily, it keeps me grounded and everyone here is so inspiring and following the principles of this program keeps me centred. I just moved into my new house and life is finally really coming toge...

mamalioness · mamalioness

there is absolutely ZERO that anyone can do about this and I think the stress of it caused my major back spasm lately my BIGGEST client has not been doing well...Bad decisions by the dad, doing really ill advised financial moves, its been bad of late (last 2 years) but when lenders don't wanna lend them a...

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks of awareness bought to the authors' attention through attending meetings. The action to change includes the use of the slogans, and todays reading features a beautiful example of "Easy does it" as a new response to frustration prev...

Pol · Pol

Growing up I only had my mom as my dad passed away at an early age. So I have my "uncle" who is technically not related to me in anyway but him and my mom grew up together so wherever we were he would move in with us every few years to help my mom out with babysitting and being an alcoholic himself...they got alo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Thirty-one years ago on the Sunday past, I ended up at a treatment center. I can readily admit that I did NOT go voluntarily; I had a nudge from a judge as I had two serious court cases/charges against me from 2 different states. I tied on the biggest 'one' possible on that day, thus consider 10/8 as my so...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I haven't heard from my friend and I don't think I will mostly because I believe if she's not in the hospital she is in a rehab facility and I have doubts if she is still in the throws of the disease even when she gets out she will not contact me. I understand the shame and self pity for lack of a better term. S...

Hi All - New Member · GrpThrpy41

Hello, I am new to the forum and wanted to say hi. I heard about the forum today via my husband's therapist. Today, for the first time ever, he asked me if I would join him for his therapy session. He started seeing a therapist within the last month after our fighting over his use got especially bad. I am th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I saw my mom & survived the visit. I was so worried about what she might say about the past. She is in an assisted living center for mentally I'll people. She is doing well but me I feel anxiety because of the visit. It was too close to home

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the relationship we have w our HP and how sometimes we may question it or the strength of the connection there. The writer mentions that after the loss of his parents he also felt the loss of his connection w God, or at least felt an abandonment at that tim...

bud · bud

I knew better but still have old unhealthy patterns of being conflict avoidant at any cost. I've recently been shocked at a "friend's" behavior towards me name calling, standing me up for plans and after I'm there sending a lame text "I'm out having fun with X, hope you're not upset." She had borrowed e...

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	Anxiety (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...	joker	4	2033	Nov 3, 2018 by a4l
	God (higher power) with skin on (Preview) MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...	luv123	11	3794	Nov 3, 2018 by luv123
	Keeping my mindset is hard (Preview) It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...	JustForMeNow	8	645	Nov 2, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change 11/1/18 (Preview) Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...	Iamhere	6	557	Nov 2, 2018 by KT2015
	C2C, 10/29 (Preview) Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...	Lyne	7	571	Nov 1, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...	Skorpi	4	513	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Watching is painful (Preview) AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...	serenity47	6	705	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Let it begin with me (sort of) (Preview) I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...	Lyne	5	583	Nov 1, 2018 by Jozie
	Just For Today... (Preview) Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...	Iamhere	17	3218	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 10-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...	hotrod	5	692	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	HP has given me more practice (Preview) Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...	Skorpi	9	693	Oct 31, 2018 by Skorpi
	Been awhile.... (Preview) Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...	El	6	625	Oct 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	sorry for the miscue with Hope for Today (Preview) I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...	JerryF	4	639	Oct 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope For Today 3/7/2018 (Preview) Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...	JerryF	3	590	Oct 29, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Oct 28 (Preview) Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...	yanksfan51	4	672	Oct 28, 2018 by a4l
	Courage to change Step 1 (Preview) I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp	wp	8	1908	Oct 28, 2018 by hotrod
	C2C 27/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...	a4l	6	725	Oct 27, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT 10/26 (Preview) Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...	Freetime	6	2347	Oct 27, 2018 by Freetime
	I'm over this month .. (Preview) Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...	SerenityRUS	9	2890	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Keep it simple_25 OCT_ love thy neighbor???? (Preview) Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...	mamalioness	3	2269	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	25 Oct_Tidbits of wisdom (Preview) "Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...	mamalioness	1	2607	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	Principles over personalities (Preview) Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...	mamalioness	8	4127	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	it ain't easy but it is worth it! (Preview) Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...	Hoot Nanny	9	1053	Oct 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Odat Reading Tuesday (Preview) The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...	hotrod	7	827	Oct 25, 2018 by wp
	I Lost Myself (Preview) I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...	SoggySlippers	10	923	Oct 25, 2018 by SoggySlippers
	Courage to Change October 24 (Preview) Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow. The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...	Skorpi	6	2324	Oct 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	Trifecta ... O.o (Preview) I am telling you it has sincerely been a crazy past couple of weeks and I am ready to just be done. Last week I heard from the young man who is my son's bff, and then my bff and that whole thing .. who pops up on my facebook?? My XAH pending as "husband (waiting for response)" with his profile picture of him a...	SerenityRUS	2	2253	Oct 25, 2018 by Lyne
	Not engaging. (Preview) This detachment business is getting easier. So I have had a complex relationship with a parent especially over the last 8 years. Probably that's when I became aware of it as I started progressing career wise about that time and for better or worse cut all ties to raise the three babies without any foo w...	a4l	10	2476	Oct 25, 2018 by Jozie
	What about us? (Preview) I've been to a meeting tonight, and someone shared about how isolated they feel because their ah doesn't want people to know that he is an alcoholic. It's got me thinking, and not in a good way. The person who shared explained that she understood that this isn't her problem to share with friends. So she...	A nother	12	1675	Oct 25, 2018 by tiredtonite
	When things come full circle .. (Preview) So weird turn of events part 2 kind of .. lol. This part is sad .. one of my very best friends who I have known online and talked about on the boards before has been living in active addiction. The difference is I saw this coming this time around, you could tell via the facebook posts and the texts I was rece...	SerenityRUS	6	1121	Oct 24, 2018 by norasq
	A Lita Anniversary (Preview) On this month in 1959 my Sister quietly and with confidence let go of her life to the struggle with Lupus. She was heroic till the last second including telling the doctors and my mother and her new husband "I am ready to go...Let me". The day before she was sitting with other terminal patients at Kai...	JerryF	9	1106	Oct 23, 2018 by Jozie
	I don't feel safe (Preview) He's been out drinking all day. The kids are asleep. HesH not back and to be honest I don't expect him to come home for a good while yet. I've got quite good at accepting his drinking most nights but this feels unsafe. I told him I still want to go ahead with the divorce yesterday. I know it's an old fear habit...	A nother	11	2065	Oct 22, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	A not so random memory... (Preview) Hi y'all... my ability to remember, and to think, has improved a lot. I think about the key events in my life now- without slipping into the poors me's... ....the 'what if's and the if only's'. It took a whole lot of letting go- to achieve this. Age 8 or 10. My dad seems to have disappeared- and I was...	DavidG	4	2702	Oct 22, 2018 by Pol
	C2C, 10/22 (Preview) Self-honesty: The writer speaks about the difficulty they had when first coming to F2F meetings. They told funny stories , discussed problems they had already solved, and just couldn't let anyone see their pain and suffering. They came to realize that the only way to receive help was to allow othe...	Lyne	4	1071	Oct 22, 2018 by Pol
	Learning Trust (Preview) Wow what a 24 hr period of recovery and processing starting with Ala-teen out reach work with some community mental health agencies committing to add ala-teen to their websites... YES!!! the teens need to know we are here for them (also anyone with a teen who has no local meeting, just a reminder ther...	luv123	4	2904	Oct 22, 2018 by luv123
	Hope for Today Oct 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived in alcoholic families have used our sense of order to cope. We may seem inflexible, but associate a certain strictness and obedience in our habits with a feeling of safety. The writer describes learning to plant tulip bulbs...	yanksfan51	4	3416	Oct 21, 2018 by a4l
	C2C 20/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family! Today's 'Courage to Change' reading speaks of making the time to appreciate the simple beauties of life. The author recalls as a small child being entranced by a small caterpillar and the pleasure derived simply from watching the creature. This memory caused the writer to que...	a4l	5	754	Oct 20, 2018 by Iamhere
	Alanon Recovery college (Preview) while sitting on the sofa. Good morning Family!! It's very good for me as with coffee and toast I picked up our 3 daily readers from literature. I have mentioned it before that I was taught to listen and hear metaphorically; in pictures and the first reading used the Don Quixote story about tilting...	JerryF	3	2494	Oct 19, 2018 by JerryF
	Going away to college reunion (Preview) I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone. trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.	Carla61	4	2833	Oct 19, 2018 by Bo
	If family can't be fixed... ??? (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I was lucky to have a nice stepfather. Honest and consistent. He gave my mum 30 years of happy marriage. He passed away six weeks ago. I knew that my side of the family- brothers and sister would create shenanigans. They absolutely refuse to have anything religious at a fune...	DavidG	8	2582	Oct 19, 2018 by Lyne
	C2C 10/19/18 (Preview) This reading points out that I am not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. When I am faced with a challenging situation, I can do my best, take care of my own responsibilities, and let a higher power take care of the rest. It does not help to worry or to force solutions. When I let go of what...	Freetime	4	2823	Oct 19, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 10/18/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about progress, not perfection. Today's Reminder: Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experiences as part of a long-term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I...	Iamhere	3	2535	Oct 18, 2018 by JerryF
	Turn of Events .. (Preview) Sometimes the best thing to do in a situation is nothing .. nothing is something and sometimes just like I always hear more will be revealed. I had a very interesting turn of events occur regarding my youngest. Over the summer there was an "incident" in terms of drinking until blackout with his best f...	SerenityRUS	3	1695	Oct 18, 2018 by Iamhere
	The Wisdom to Know the Difference (Preview) This is what I've been praying about these days. I answered a few posts here tonight but not much to offer to others right now. It's hard to sit with things over which you have little to no control. I have worked through many of the feelings concerning the ending of my job. I received unemployment, have ap...	tiredtonite	15	2313	Oct 17, 2018 by Jen61
	Recovering from injury (Preview) Hi everybody Hi everybody I just wanted to stop in and say hello And tell you that last Saturday I had a very very bad back spasm, it was so bad by Sunday I could not even get around. Dressing myself to get to urgent care was sheer agony I had to go to emergency care and found this really wonderful Doctor Wh...	mamalioness	12	2372	Oct 17, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change October 17, 2018 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on expectations that many newcomers have for AlAnon. Many of us may have been governed by a strict rule of order as a way to feel that we had some control living with the disease of Alcoholism. We may have expected a program as successful as AlAnon to be even more ri...	Skorpi	5	1018	Oct 17, 2018 by a4l
	Broken Relationship - Any Advice (Preview) Hi, I have yet to start the steps of alanon however, I have attended a few meetings. My on Ana doff boyfriend of four years just came back from rehab two weeks ago. Throughout our whole relationship he had promised to get help or get better and I kept holding onto his promises that never came true. Eventua...	SoulSearcher	2	3058	Oct 17, 2018 by Skorpi
	having a crap day send me some ESH (Preview) Hi everyone Having a period of ups and downs. Mostly downs or flatligning. Just could do with some esh please. Sad when you realise situations won't change eh and you just gotta get on with things for the short term until you can get out. X	jitsuka	9	849	Oct 17, 2018 by jitsuka
	ODAT reading 10-16 (Preview) The odat reading for October 16 speaks about the negative coping tools that we develop when living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that alanon is a fellowship of equals and that those who come to meetings with feelings of superiority often find that the people that they judge harsh...	hotrod	6	738	Oct 17, 2018 by a4l
	C2C, 10/15 (Preview) Forgiveness: Today's reading talks about the most loving form of detachment, which is forgiveness. It doesn't wipe the slate clean, or pronounce someone "not guilty." Forgiveness cuts the strings of resentment that bind them to a problem or past hurt. By releasing resentment, you set yoursel...	Lyne	7	2379	Oct 16, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Checking in and more custody questions (Preview) Hi MIP! I'm just checking in to post a custody question and a quick update on my life. I love reading this board daily, it keeps me grounded and everyone here is so inspiring and following the principles of this program keeps me centred. I just moved into my new house and life is finally really coming toge...	VickiR	7	3106	Oct 16, 2018 by VickiR
	I think I just need a hug (Preview) there is absolutely ZERO that anyone can do about this and I think the stress of it caused my major back spasm lately my BIGGEST client has not been doing well...Bad decisions by the dad, doing really ill advised financial moves, its been bad of late (last 2 years) but when lenders don't wanna lend them a...	mamalioness	9	2693	Oct 16, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C 13/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks of awareness bought to the authors' attention through attending meetings. The action to change includes the use of the slogans, and todays reading features a beautiful example of "Easy does it" as a new response to frustration prev...	a4l	6	2227	Oct 16, 2018 by mamalioness
	So I had a visitor yesterday. (Preview) Growing up I only had my mom as my dad passed away at an early age. So I have my "uncle" who is technically not related to me in anyway but him and my mom grew up together so wherever we were he would move in with us every few years to help my mom out with babysitting and being an alcoholic himself...they got alo...	Pol	7	2389	Oct 15, 2018 by Pol
	The Miracles of Recovery (Preview) Thirty-one years ago on the Sunday past, I ended up at a treatment center. I can readily admit that I did NOT go voluntarily; I had a nudge from a judge as I had two serious court cases/charges against me from 2 different states. I tied on the biggest 'one' possible on that day, thus consider 10/8 as my so...	Iamhere	14	3458	Oct 15, 2018 by serenity47
	Update .. in a weird place (Preview) I haven't heard from my friend and I don't think I will mostly because I believe if she's not in the hospital she is in a rehab facility and I have doubts if she is still in the throws of the disease even when she gets out she will not contact me. I understand the shame and self pity for lack of a better term. S...	SerenityRUS	6	809	Oct 15, 2018 by andromeda
	Hi All - New Member (Preview) Hello, I am new to the forum and wanted to say hi. I heard about the forum today via my husband's therapist. Today, for the first time ever, he asked me if I would join him for his therapy session. He started seeing a therapist within the last month after our fighting over his use got especially bad. I am th...	GrpThrpy41	9	2908	Oct 15, 2018 by jitsuka
	I survived! (Preview) I saw my mom & survived the visit. I was so worried about what she might say about the past. She is in an assisted living center for mentally I'll people. She is doing well but me I feel anxiety because of the visit. It was too close to home	Hoot Nanny	4	2839	Oct 14, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today October 14 (Preview) good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the relationship we have w our HP and how sometimes we may question it or the strength of the connection there. The writer mentions that after the loss of his parents he also felt the loss of his connection w God, or at least felt an abandonment at that tim...	yanksfan51	2	2482	Oct 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	Alanon tools for dignity (Preview) I knew better but still have old unhealthy patterns of being conflict avoidant at any cost. I've recently been shocked at a "friend's" behavior towards me name calling, standing me up for plans and after I'm there sending a lame text "I'm out having fun with X, hope you're not upset." She had borrowed e...	bud	13	2647	Oct 12, 2018 by bud
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