I am telling you it has sincerely been a crazy past couple of weeks and I am ready to just be done.  Last week I heard from the young man who is my son's bff, and then my bff and that whole thing .. who pops up on my facebook??  My XAH pending as "husband (waiting for response)" with his profile picture of him and his wife.  Seriously .. what the heck .. I am like ok .. God .. letting you know .. funny not funny .. lol. 

Basically what happened is while we were going through our divorce he blocked me, which I am totally ok with .. LOL.  Not my issue on any level, that was him.  He friended our oldest on FB a few months ago and I warmed my oldest that I don't like my life or pictures of the youngest going back and forth because he likes to pretend he's involved and he's not.  Meaning I will take a picture and he will put it up on facebook and act as if he took it.  He will do so without any discussion and the reason there is an issue with this is my youngest doesn't want anything to do with him right now and my feeling is my X needs to respect this and open a line of communication that is suitable not to him .. however to our youngest .. after sorry dude it's been 3 years, no contact, no nothing and he's continued to do stupid stuff that my youngest is extremely sensitive and intuitive .. he is most like me which .. can be a good/bad thing because it means he sees things that others don't see as common sense and it frustrates him that others can't see the simplistic nature of a to b.  We are having the a to b conversation right now about not drawing the line. 

Anyway, so when he unblocked me it popped up on my facebook and yes it shocked me and it upset me.  I question how long it's been like that which I don't believe it's been like that long because it wasn't that long ago I had a conversation with my dad.  I was very clear with him that XAH is not a part of our lives moving forward with no acknowledgement from him and still having to go to court to deal with him at least the last year has not been like that .. however for 7 years he put us through hell.  He would have continued to do so had my attorney not mistakenly put the financial stuff in the divorce decree.  Small blessings because this would have continued to drag on. 

So I have no way of knowing how long however I don't think it's actually been that long, I get the feeling it might have been a few days.  One thing I did notice was not only was he on there however my XMIL (X's SMom) she was on there too .. so I did the adult thing of course .. lol .. I blocked them.  LOL .. I do not need the drama.  At this point I want control over when I choose to allow the information to flow and when I don't.  That means all of the pictures I have tagged my kid in only can be seen by people who have not blocked me or are not blocked by  me or kid on FB.  Actually even the kid's friends can't see the picture it is strictly to my kid.  (I am referring to random catfishers and so on when I speak of additional blocked people).  I am ok with that at this point.  The fact my youngest is soooo not ok with the idea of my XAH popping up like that (I didn't tell him because I already knew how stressed he would be).  Thankfully what I share publicly is very limited.  My account is on serious lock down.  My XAH has not responded to our oldest since the last message the oldest sent.  I have no idea what's going on with that .. this was after the whole oldest reached out from the hospital for insurance information and the response was "What's wrong now" .. hmmm .. nice.  Never a follow up to are you ok or anything, oldest was less than impressed at that point and wants to know why oldest didn't jump up and say happy father's day .. seriously .. I don't know why didn't they? 

Anyway, enough of my story .. I am ready for the weekend to start and I am ok with that .. LOL. 

Thanks for letting me share, S :)