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Hope for Today Oct 28


Hello everyone:

Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it.  The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask herself how important is it and instead of the usual argument that went in circles, she felt peaceful and could go about her night.

I remember realizing there was a pattern to my exAHs drinking.  Then I realized that I had a pattern in relation to the drinking too.  I could make predictions about which would be binge nights, when to look out for hangovers, etc.  I was a real expert (in my own mind).  I couldnt do anything about his pattern, but I could make changes to mine.  There is a statement in this reading that if something isnt going to be an issue in 30 days, its probably not worth getting  anxious over now.  I know it isnt my instinct to let things go based on how important is it; I still have the tendency to let my own will decide how important things are, but this is something for me to work on.

I hope everyone enjoys their Sunday!

Mary



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Good Morning Mary I hesitated using this slogan when I first heard it . Before entering program i had unconsciously decided "NOTHING" was important and used DENIAL and pretend to survive the insanity I lived in. I never valaditated my life or principles.no

 
I appreciate the sanity in the reading as it points out that if an issue is not going o last over 30 days it is not worth becoming anxious over. Today I find this slogan very helpful as it allows me to" let go and let God"


Have a lovely Sunday and Thanks or your service.



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Thank you Mary for your service. Thank you both for your shares and ESH. I love this slogan and it goes right along in my mind with, do I want to be right or do I want to be happy? I typically want the latter in recovery where I chased the 'right' before.

Truly for me today, if it's not life-threatening, it's just not that important. With 3 people I love facing death, many things that felt important before have really lost my focus, which is a good thing. I am hanging close to "Let Go and Let God" lately and working really hard to 'seek to understand'...my theme for 2018.

Happy Sunday to all - off to my meeting in a short while and got some football to watch! Enjoy your day!

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Thank you Mary for your service... these dailies keep me grounded, so I value them immensely!

This was a slogan I could not embrace at first... mainly b/c of my own frailities... I thought it ALL was so very important!!! I could not discern which things were truly important, and which could fall under the heading of "How Important..."

Where this all came together was when I began to pick up Iamhere's notion of "Do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?" It wasn't until I decided to give up always being "right" could I embrace the concept of "How Important Is It." Kind of weird, but well, that was me. So really, if you are a "newbie" and are gleaning ESH from others, perhaps this can help you see that there IS work do be done on YOU... independent of your partners addiction. Lord knows when I first was driven to Al-Anon, I didn't even think I needed ANY adjustment at all!!! LOL!

Seahawks are playing today, and are leading! So off I go! Woot!

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Thanks for the service and today's reminder. I'm trying hard to apply this in my day to day challenges mostly with my son who is very very repetitive and unintentionally destructive in his sensory seeking. It does drive me nuts but his sweet face honestly doesn't understand. How important is it? Is a conscious reminder to stop and breathe. I like the idea of prioritising importance by asking if the thing I'm mad about is going to matter in 30 days time. Because there are times when something happens and it actually is important. Not with children, with adults. So this additional question of whether something is going to matter in 30 days is really very helpful. Thanks!

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