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WideAwakeLemon · WideAwakeLemon

Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...

JerryF · JerryF

My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...

livestrong09 · livestrong09

My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...

a4l · a4l

Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...

J42day · J42day

As the holidays approach, there are often some who could use some additional support. We have made a group decision to provide service for 24 hours beginning this evening Weds Nov 21 and running through Thanksgiving Thursday Nov 22. If anyone is willing to offer their time sharing experience,...

JerryF · JerryF

to all of you and here is wishing you all the peace of mind and serenity and the presence of your Higher Power as wished. Going to the Thanksgiving annual celebration where my home group has the lead share. Thank you God for this recovery and this MIP Family. ((((hugs))))

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I am grateful for our founder, John, who created this haven for us to come together and share our recovery. I am grateful for all of you too! Today's reading is about our spiritual program of recovery. The word recovery suggests we are re...

Pol · Pol

I try not to interfere with things because honestly its none of my business and I feel like its my husbands place to say things because its his parents. Last night we went to go have dinner with his parents and they were babysitting for us so we could go see a movie. My father in law is an alcoholic(the can't...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I'm a bit late this morning, and home sick, so I don't have my C2C handy. SO, today's share is from http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html The share today is about grief and loss. The author reflects that many of us have lost so much or experienced so much grief, we try to cling...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...

DavidG · DavidG

Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......

ginnyc · ginnyc

I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLife is short: live it up. Nikita In this daily, author talks about staying emotionally sober because it is FUN..We must make recovery more FUN then being in the disease...He/she encourages us to try to things..make new friends...try new food...Live it up within reason, of course......

mamalioness · mamalioness

Greetings everyone!!! Author on this writing talks about "detachment" and "how do you DO it??" when there seems to be troubles day after day, one decision after another, it seems that the mind just gets "overloaded" and confused , hence decision making is made more difficult These slogans, medit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have had difficulty hearing and speaking direct truthsto ourselves and to others. The writer describes having been told that the person sharing a hospital room with his/her dad was the one who was sick never...

lgnutah · lgnutah

So my AD "hasn't been well" lately.....as she puts it. I have been keeping busy on my own side of the street, but send her "hello" texts from time to time. Thanksgiving being next week, she has begun her usual detailing of her intent to join us---first a plan to come a day or so ahead, then it becomes the da...

Freetime · Freetime

It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power. Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fig...

DavidG · DavidG

It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...

Zoomie99 · Zoomie99

I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...

Iamhere · Iamhere

My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...

JerryF · JerryF

the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...

VickiR · VickiR

I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...

Lyne · Lyne

Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...

Lee51 · Lee51

My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.

JerryF · JerryF

That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))

Lil99 · Lil99

The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...

a4l · a4l

Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...

luv123 · luv123

The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...

bud · bud

Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...

a4l · a4l

What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...

Lyne · Lyne

Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...

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	Newlywed and the honeymoon is already over (Preview) Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...	WideAwakeLemon	10	2888	Nov 27, 2018 by canadianguy
	C2C, 11/26 (Preview) The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...	Lyne	3	3025	Nov 26, 2018 by Pol
	Yes HP does...at least for me. (Preview) My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...	JerryF	3	3329	Nov 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	it's been awhile(short) (Preview) It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....	Hoot Nanny	2	2590	Nov 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	the Guy Up Stairs (Preview) I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...	Wolfie55	11	1038	Nov 26, 2018 by Jozie
	New territory (Preview) Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...	VickiR	5	1796	Nov 26, 2018 by VickiR
	Co-dependancy and Jealousy with the recovering addict (Preview) My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...	livestrong09	13	4460	Nov 25, 2018 by sunmustshine
	Hope for Today Nov 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...	yanksfan51	4	2610	Nov 25, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	When your day absolutely sucks!!!! (Preview) my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...	mamalioness	8	949	Nov 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C November 24 (Preview) Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...	a4l	5	2180	Nov 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Never seen this version... (Preview) Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...	PosiesandPuppies	8	6368	Nov 24, 2018 by Jozie
	C2C Reading 11-20-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...	hotrod	7	1153	Nov 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT, November 23 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...	Freetime	5	3256	Nov 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	Alanon Annoucement for the chat / meeting room .. 24 Hours of support service sign up (Preview) As the holidays approach, there are often some who could use some additional support. We have made a group decision to provide service for 24 hours beginning this evening Weds Nov 21 and running through Thanksgiving Thursday Nov 22. If anyone is willing to offer their time sharing experience,...	J42day	5	4261	Nov 23, 2018 by wp
	Happy Thanksgiving... (Preview) to all of you and here is wishing you all the peace of mind and serenity and the presence of your Higher Power as wished. Going to the Thanksgiving annual celebration where my home group has the lead share. Thank you God for this recovery and this MIP Family. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	3	4846	Nov 22, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/22/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I am grateful for our founder, John, who created this haven for us to come together and share our recovery. I am grateful for all of you too! Today's reading is about our spiritual program of recovery. The word recovery suggests we are re...	Iamhere	3	2412	Nov 22, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	I mean I have no idea. (Preview) I try not to interfere with things because honestly its none of my business and I feel like its my husbands place to say things because its his parents. Last night we went to go have dinner with his parents and they were babysitting for us so we could go see a movie. My father in law is an alcoholic(the can't...	Pol	10	4359	Nov 22, 2018 by Iamhere
	Today's hope Nov. 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! I'm a bit late this morning, and home sick, so I don't have my C2C handy. SO, today's share is from http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html The share today is about grief and loss. The author reflects that many of us have lost so much or experienced so much grief, we try to cling...	Skorpi	4	3594	Nov 22, 2018 by mamalioness
	22 NOV_-Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...	mamalioness	1	4751	Nov 21, 2018 by hotrod
	From start to now- in Alanon... (Preview) Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...	DavidG	2	2590	Nov 21, 2018 by Iamhere
	The experiences I need to listen to are my own. (Preview) Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...	JerryF	13	2967	Nov 20, 2018 by JerryF
	Getting through another day... (Preview) Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......	DavidG	13	4704	Nov 20, 2018 by DavidG
	This is a day at a time life we have. (Preview) I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...	ginnyc	4	4073	Nov 19, 2018 by JerryF
	C2C, 11/19 (Preview) The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...	Lyne	5	4368	Nov 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	18 NOV_Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It SimpleLife is short: live it up. Nikita In this daily, author talks about staying emotionally sober because it is FUN..We must make recovery more FUN then being in the disease...He/she encourages us to try to things..make new friends...try new food...Live it up within reason, of course......	mamalioness	1	4666	Nov 18, 2018 by hotrod
	16 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Greetings everyone!!! Author on this writing talks about "detachment" and "how do you DO it??" when there seems to be troubles day after day, one decision after another, it seems that the mind just gets "overloaded" and confused , hence decision making is made more difficult These slogans, medit...	mamalioness	10	4472	Nov 18, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have had difficulty hearing and speaking direct truthsto ourselves and to others. The writer describes having been told that the person sharing a hospital room with his/her dad was the one who was sick never...	yanksfan51	5	1106	Nov 18, 2018 by mamalioness
	Here come the holidays (Preview) So my AD "hasn't been well" lately.....as she puts it. I have been keeping busy on my own side of the street, but send her "hello" texts from time to time. Thanksgiving being next week, she has begun her usual detailing of her intent to join us---first a plan to come a day or so ahead, then it becomes the da...	lgnutah	6	3577	Nov 18, 2018 by serenity47
	Courage to Change, November 16 (Preview) It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power. Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fig...	Freetime	7	5170	Nov 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sad news for our whanau... (Preview) It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...	DavidG	21	4692	Nov 17, 2018 by el-cee
	How do I tell my sponsee I cannot be her sponsor any longer (Preview) I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?	Zoomie99	11	4897	Nov 16, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change November 14 (Preview) Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...	Skorpi	5	1010	Nov 16, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 11/15/18 (Preview) My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...	Iamhere	3	3363	Nov 15, 2018 by El
	14 NOV_Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...	mamalioness	5	3021	Nov 14, 2018 by JerryF
	ODAT Reading 11-12-18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...	hotrod	4	3668	Nov 14, 2018 by a4l
	Growth can just kinda sneak up on me (Preview) Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...	mamalioness	4	5075	Nov 14, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...	yanksfan51	8	4942	Nov 13, 2018 by mamalioness
	Is it wrong? (Preview) So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...	SerenityRUS	4	3822	Nov 13, 2018 by Bo
	Stumbling around... (Preview) the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...	JerryF	10	5314	Nov 13, 2018 by Jozie
	update (Preview) I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...	VickiR	6	2323	Nov 12, 2018 by Mike B
	Soon to be in Las Vegas (Preview) I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...	lookingup	12	2919	Nov 12, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/12 (Preview) Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...	Lyne	4	2389	Nov 12, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Alone and afraid (Preview) My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...	Lee51	8	4674	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Chat in meeting room anyone? (Preview) Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.	lgnutah	0	2854	Nov 11, 2018 by lgnutah
	Prayers in Paradise.... (Preview) That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))	JerryF	7	5453	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Struggling to maintain my serenity this evening (Preview) The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...	Lil99	10	1421	Nov 10, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change, November 9 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...	Freetime	9	4155	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	A Reason, A Season... (Preview) I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...	tiredtonite	7	4076	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) November 10 (Preview) Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...	a4l	4	1665	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Curious .. (Preview) I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...	SerenityRUS	4	4018	Nov 9, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 11/8/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...	Iamhere	7	5184	Nov 9, 2018 by a4l
	Mini 4th step ideas needed (for relationship) (Preview) The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...	luv123	6	4949	Nov 8, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Hey Everyone (Preview) Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...	andromeda	9	2687	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Not accepting a consolation cookie for this! (Preview) Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...	bud	22	2679	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 11-6 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...	hotrod	6	726	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...	Skorpi	5	2509	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	cynicism (Preview) What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...	a4l	10	996	Nov 6, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Nov 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...	yanksfan51	8	3996	Nov 6, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/5 (Preview) Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...	Lyne	5	736	Nov 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	Step11 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...	hotrod	4	2654	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
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