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Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...

a4l · a4l

Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...

luv123 · luv123

The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...

bud · bud

Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...

a4l · a4l

What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...

Lyne · Lyne

Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...

a4l · a4l

Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...

luv123 · luv123

MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...

Lyne · Lyne

Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...

serenity47 · serenity47

AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...

Lyne · Lyne

I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...

El · El

Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...

JerryF · JerryF

I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...

wp · wp

I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow.

The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am telling you it has sincerely been a crazy past couple of weeks and I am ready to just be done. Last week I heard from the young man who is my son's bff, and then my bff and that whole thing .. who pops up on my facebook?? My XAH pending as "husband (waiting for response)" with his profile picture of him a...

a4l · a4l

This detachment business is getting easier. So I have had a complex relationship with a parent especially over the last 8 years. Probably that's when I became aware of it as I started progressing career wise about that time and for better or worse cut all ties to raise the three babies without any foo w...

A nother · A nother

I've been to a meeting tonight, and someone shared about how isolated they feel because their ah doesn't want people to know that he is an alcoholic. It's got me thinking, and not in a good way. The person who shared explained that she understood that this isn't her problem to share with friends. So she...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So weird turn of events part 2 kind of .. lol. This part is sad .. one of my very best friends who I have known online and talked about on the boards before has been living in active addiction. The difference is I saw this coming this time around, you could tell via the facebook posts and the texts I was rece...

JerryF · JerryF

On this month in 1959 my Sister quietly and with confidence let go of her life to the struggle with Lupus. She was heroic till the last second including telling the doctors and my mother and her new husband "I am ready to go...Let me". The day before she was sitting with other terminal patients at Kai...

A nother · A nother

He's been out drinking all day. The kids are asleep. HesH not back and to be honest I don't expect him to come home for a good while yet. I've got quite good at accepting his drinking most nights but this feels unsafe. I told him I still want to go ahead with the divorce yesterday. I know it's an old fear habit...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... my ability to remember, and to think, has improved a lot. I think about the key events in my life now- without slipping into the poors me's... ....the 'what if's and the if only's'. It took a whole lot of letting go- to achieve this. Age 8 or 10. My dad seems to have disappeared- and I was...

Lyne · Lyne

Self-honesty: The writer speaks about the difficulty they had when first coming to F2F meetings. They told funny stories , discussed problems they had already solved, and just couldn't let anyone see their pain and suffering. They came to realize that the only way to receive help was to allow othe...

luv123 · luv123

Wow what a 24 hr period of recovery and processing starting with Ala-teen out reach work with some community mental health agencies committing to add ala-teen to their websites... YES!!! the teens need to know we are here for them (also anyone with a teen who has no local meeting, just a reminder ther...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived in alcoholic families have used our sense of order to cope. We may seem inflexible, but associate a certain strictness and obedience in our habits with a feeling of safety. The writer describes learning to plant tulip bulbs...

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family! Today's 'Courage to Change' reading speaks of making the time to appreciate the simple beauties of life. The author recalls as a small child being entranced by a small caterpillar and the pleasure derived simply from watching the creature. This memory caused the writer to que...

JerryF · JerryF

while sitting on the sofa. Good morning Family!! It's very good for me as with coffee and toast I picked up our 3 daily readers from literature. I have mentioned it before that I was taught to listen and hear metaphorically; in pictures and the first reading used the Don Quixote story about tilting...

Carla61 · Carla61

I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone. trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I was lucky to have a nice stepfather. Honest and consistent. He gave my mum 30 years of happy marriage. He passed away six weeks ago. I knew that my side of the family- brothers and sister would create shenanigans. They absolutely refuse to have anything religious at a fune...

Freetime · Freetime

This reading points out that I am not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. When I am faced with a challenging situation, I can do my best, take care of my own responsibilities, and let a higher power take care of the rest. It does not help to worry or to force solutions. When I let go of what...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about progress, not perfection. Today's Reminder: Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experiences as part of a long-term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Sometimes the best thing to do in a situation is nothing .. nothing is something and sometimes just like I always hear more will be revealed. I had a very interesting turn of events occur regarding my youngest. Over the summer there was an "incident" in terms of drinking until blackout with his best f...

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	Courage to Change, November 9 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...	Freetime	9	3312	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	A Reason, A Season... (Preview) I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...	tiredtonite	7	3180	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) November 10 (Preview) Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...	a4l	4	1453	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Curious .. (Preview) I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...	SerenityRUS	4	3169	Nov 9, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 11/8/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...	Iamhere	7	4140	Nov 9, 2018 by a4l
	Mini 4th step ideas needed (for relationship) (Preview) The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...	luv123	6	3936	Nov 8, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Hey Everyone (Preview) Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...	andromeda	9	1995	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Not accepting a consolation cookie for this! (Preview) Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...	bud	22	2023	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 11-6 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...	hotrod	6	514	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...	Skorpi	5	1842	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	cynicism (Preview) What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...	a4l	10	774	Nov 6, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Nov 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...	yanksfan51	8	3074	Nov 6, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/5 (Preview) Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...	Lyne	5	563	Nov 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	Step11 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...	hotrod	4	1916	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change, November 2 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...	Freetime	6	565	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Updates - crack use :( (Preview) Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...	VickiR	11	1748	Nov 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 3/11/2018 (Preview) Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...	a4l	4	1548	Nov 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Anxiety (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...	joker	4	1508	Nov 3, 2018 by a4l
	God (higher power) with skin on (Preview) MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...	luv123	11	3005	Nov 3, 2018 by luv123
	Keeping my mindset is hard (Preview) It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...	JustForMeNow	8	466	Nov 2, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change 11/1/18 (Preview) Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...	Iamhere	6	412	Nov 2, 2018 by KT2015
	C2C, 10/29 (Preview) Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...	Lyne	7	399	Nov 1, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...	Skorpi	4	349	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Watching is painful (Preview) AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...	serenity47	6	564	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Let it begin with me (sort of) (Preview) I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...	Lyne	5	402	Nov 1, 2018 by Jozie
	Just For Today... (Preview) Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...	Iamhere	17	2656	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 10-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...	hotrod	5	503	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	HP has given me more practice (Preview) Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...	Skorpi	9	484	Oct 31, 2018 by Skorpi
	Been awhile.... (Preview) Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...	El	6	435	Oct 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	sorry for the miscue with Hope for Today (Preview) I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...	JerryF	4	460	Oct 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope For Today 3/7/2018 (Preview) Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...	JerryF	3	401	Oct 29, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Oct 28 (Preview) Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...	yanksfan51	4	423	Oct 28, 2018 by a4l
	Courage to change Step 1 (Preview) I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp	wp	8	1526	Oct 28, 2018 by hotrod
	C2C 27/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...	a4l	6	439	Oct 27, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT 10/26 (Preview) Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...	Freetime	6	1886	Oct 27, 2018 by Freetime
	I'm over this month .. (Preview) Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...	SerenityRUS	9	2448	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Keep it simple_25 OCT_ love thy neighbor???? (Preview) Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...	mamalioness	3	1863	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	25 Oct_Tidbits of wisdom (Preview) "Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...	mamalioness	1	2185	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	Principles over personalities (Preview) Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...	mamalioness	8	3057	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	it ain't easy but it is worth it! (Preview) Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...	Hoot Nanny	9	847	Oct 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Odat Reading Tuesday (Preview) The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...	hotrod	7	643	Oct 25, 2018 by wp
	I Lost Myself (Preview) I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...	SoggySlippers	10	736	Oct 25, 2018 by SoggySlippers
	Courage to Change October 24 (Preview) Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow. The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...	Skorpi	6	1824	Oct 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	Trifecta ... O.o (Preview) I am telling you it has sincerely been a crazy past couple of weeks and I am ready to just be done. Last week I heard from the young man who is my son's bff, and then my bff and that whole thing .. who pops up on my facebook?? My XAH pending as "husband (waiting for response)" with his profile picture of him a...	SerenityRUS	2	1836	Oct 25, 2018 by Lyne
	Not engaging. (Preview) This detachment business is getting easier. So I have had a complex relationship with a parent especially over the last 8 years. Probably that's when I became aware of it as I started progressing career wise about that time and for better or worse cut all ties to raise the three babies without any foo w...	a4l	10	2063	Oct 25, 2018 by Jozie
	What about us? (Preview) I've been to a meeting tonight, and someone shared about how isolated they feel because their ah doesn't want people to know that he is an alcoholic. It's got me thinking, and not in a good way. The person who shared explained that she understood that this isn't her problem to share with friends. So she...	A nother	12	1474	Oct 25, 2018 by tiredtonite
	When things come full circle .. (Preview) So weird turn of events part 2 kind of .. lol. This part is sad .. one of my very best friends who I have known online and talked about on the boards before has been living in active addiction. The difference is I saw this coming this time around, you could tell via the facebook posts and the texts I was rece...	SerenityRUS	6	917	Oct 24, 2018 by norasq
	A Lita Anniversary (Preview) On this month in 1959 my Sister quietly and with confidence let go of her life to the struggle with Lupus. She was heroic till the last second including telling the doctors and my mother and her new husband "I am ready to go...Let me". The day before she was sitting with other terminal patients at Kai...	JerryF	9	888	Oct 23, 2018 by Jozie
	I don't feel safe (Preview) He's been out drinking all day. The kids are asleep. HesH not back and to be honest I don't expect him to come home for a good while yet. I've got quite good at accepting his drinking most nights but this feels unsafe. I told him I still want to go ahead with the divorce yesterday. I know it's an old fear habit...	A nother	11	1706	Oct 22, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	A not so random memory... (Preview) Hi y'all... my ability to remember, and to think, has improved a lot. I think about the key events in my life now- without slipping into the poors me's... ....the 'what if's and the if only's'. It took a whole lot of letting go- to achieve this. Age 8 or 10. My dad seems to have disappeared- and I was...	DavidG	4	2233	Oct 22, 2018 by Pol
	C2C, 10/22 (Preview) Self-honesty: The writer speaks about the difficulty they had when first coming to F2F meetings. They told funny stories , discussed problems they had already solved, and just couldn't let anyone see their pain and suffering. They came to realize that the only way to receive help was to allow othe...	Lyne	4	865	Oct 22, 2018 by Pol
	Learning Trust (Preview) Wow what a 24 hr period of recovery and processing starting with Ala-teen out reach work with some community mental health agencies committing to add ala-teen to their websites... YES!!! the teens need to know we are here for them (also anyone with a teen who has no local meeting, just a reminder ther...	luv123	4	2435	Oct 22, 2018 by luv123
	Hope for Today Oct 21 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived in alcoholic families have used our sense of order to cope. We may seem inflexible, but associate a certain strictness and obedience in our habits with a feeling of safety. The writer describes learning to plant tulip bulbs...	yanksfan51	4	2675	Oct 21, 2018 by a4l
	C2C 20/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family! Today's 'Courage to Change' reading speaks of making the time to appreciate the simple beauties of life. The author recalls as a small child being entranced by a small caterpillar and the pleasure derived simply from watching the creature. This memory caused the writer to que...	a4l	5	561	Oct 20, 2018 by Iamhere
	Alanon Recovery college (Preview) while sitting on the sofa. Good morning Family!! It's very good for me as with coffee and toast I picked up our 3 daily readers from literature. I have mentioned it before that I was taught to listen and hear metaphorically; in pictures and the first reading used the Don Quixote story about tilting...	JerryF	3	2037	Oct 19, 2018 by JerryF
	Going away to college reunion (Preview) I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone. trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.	Carla61	4	2378	Oct 19, 2018 by Bo
	If family can't be fixed... ??? (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I was lucky to have a nice stepfather. Honest and consistent. He gave my mum 30 years of happy marriage. He passed away six weeks ago. I knew that my side of the family- brothers and sister would create shenanigans. They absolutely refuse to have anything religious at a fune...	DavidG	8	2068	Oct 19, 2018 by Lyne
	C2C 10/19/18 (Preview) This reading points out that I am not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. When I am faced with a challenging situation, I can do my best, take care of my own responsibilities, and let a higher power take care of the rest. It does not help to worry or to force solutions. When I let go of what...	Freetime	4	2329	Oct 19, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 10/18/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about progress, not perfection. Today's Reminder: Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experiences as part of a long-term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I...	Iamhere	3	2101	Oct 18, 2018 by JerryF
	Turn of Events .. (Preview) Sometimes the best thing to do in a situation is nothing .. nothing is something and sometimes just like I always hear more will be revealed. I had a very interesting turn of events occur regarding my youngest. Over the summer there was an "incident" in terms of drinking until blackout with his best f...	SerenityRUS	3	1304	Oct 18, 2018 by Iamhere
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