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mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...

DavidG · DavidG

Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......

ginnyc · ginnyc

I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLife is short: live it up. Nikita In this daily, author talks about staying emotionally sober because it is FUN..We must make recovery more FUN then being in the disease...He/she encourages us to try to things..make new friends...try new food...Live it up within reason, of course......

mamalioness · mamalioness

Greetings everyone!!! Author on this writing talks about "detachment" and "how do you DO it??" when there seems to be troubles day after day, one decision after another, it seems that the mind just gets "overloaded" and confused , hence decision making is made more difficult These slogans, medit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have had difficulty hearing and speaking direct truthsto ourselves and to others. The writer describes having been told that the person sharing a hospital room with his/her dad was the one who was sick never...

lgnutah · lgnutah

So my AD "hasn't been well" lately.....as she puts it. I have been keeping busy on my own side of the street, but send her "hello" texts from time to time. Thanksgiving being next week, she has begun her usual detailing of her intent to join us---first a plan to come a day or so ahead, then it becomes the da...

Freetime · Freetime

It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power. Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fig...

DavidG · DavidG

It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...

Zoomie99 · Zoomie99

I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...

Iamhere · Iamhere

My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...

JerryF · JerryF

the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...

VickiR · VickiR

I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...

Lyne · Lyne

Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...

Lee51 · Lee51

My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.

JerryF · JerryF

That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))

Lil99 · Lil99

The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...

a4l · a4l

Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...

luv123 · luv123

The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...

bud · bud

Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...

a4l · a4l

What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...

Lyne · Lyne

Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...

a4l · a4l

Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...

luv123 · luv123

MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...

Lyne · Lyne

Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...

serenity47 · serenity47

AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...

Lyne · Lyne

I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...

El · El

Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...

JerryF · JerryF

I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...

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	22 NOV_-Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...	mamalioness	1	4440	Nov 21, 2018 by hotrod
	From start to now- in Alanon... (Preview) Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...	DavidG	2	2440	Nov 21, 2018 by Iamhere
	The experiences I need to listen to are my own. (Preview) Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...	JerryF	13	2810	Nov 20, 2018 by JerryF
	Getting through another day... (Preview) Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......	DavidG	13	4386	Nov 20, 2018 by DavidG
	This is a day at a time life we have. (Preview) I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...	ginnyc	4	3798	Nov 19, 2018 by JerryF
	C2C, 11/19 (Preview) The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...	Lyne	5	4080	Nov 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	18 NOV_Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It SimpleLife is short: live it up. Nikita In this daily, author talks about staying emotionally sober because it is FUN..We must make recovery more FUN then being in the disease...He/she encourages us to try to things..make new friends...try new food...Live it up within reason, of course......	mamalioness	1	4358	Nov 18, 2018 by hotrod
	16 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Greetings everyone!!! Author on this writing talks about "detachment" and "how do you DO it??" when there seems to be troubles day after day, one decision after another, it seems that the mind just gets "overloaded" and confused , hence decision making is made more difficult These slogans, medit...	mamalioness	10	4151	Nov 18, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have had difficulty hearing and speaking direct truthsto ourselves and to others. The writer describes having been told that the person sharing a hospital room with his/her dad was the one who was sick never...	yanksfan51	5	1029	Nov 18, 2018 by mamalioness
	Here come the holidays (Preview) So my AD "hasn't been well" lately.....as she puts it. I have been keeping busy on my own side of the street, but send her "hello" texts from time to time. Thanksgiving being next week, she has begun her usual detailing of her intent to join us---first a plan to come a day or so ahead, then it becomes the da...	lgnutah	6	3433	Nov 18, 2018 by serenity47
	Courage to Change, November 16 (Preview) It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power. Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fig...	Freetime	7	4868	Nov 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sad news for our whanau... (Preview) It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...	DavidG	21	4370	Nov 17, 2018 by el-cee
	How do I tell my sponsee I cannot be her sponsor any longer (Preview) I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?	Zoomie99	11	4575	Nov 16, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change November 14 (Preview) Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...	Skorpi	5	935	Nov 16, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 11/15/18 (Preview) My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...	Iamhere	3	3197	Nov 15, 2018 by El
	14 NOV_Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...	mamalioness	5	2871	Nov 14, 2018 by JerryF
	ODAT Reading 11-12-18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...	hotrod	4	3405	Nov 14, 2018 by a4l
	Growth can just kinda sneak up on me (Preview) Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...	mamalioness	4	4746	Nov 14, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...	yanksfan51	8	4610	Nov 13, 2018 by mamalioness
	Is it wrong? (Preview) So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...	SerenityRUS	4	3531	Nov 13, 2018 by Bo
	Stumbling around... (Preview) the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...	JerryF	10	4932	Nov 13, 2018 by Jozie
	update (Preview) I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...	VickiR	6	2214	Nov 12, 2018 by Mike B
	Soon to be in Las Vegas (Preview) I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...	lookingup	12	2816	Nov 12, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/12 (Preview) Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...	Lyne	4	2235	Nov 12, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Alone and afraid (Preview) My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...	Lee51	8	4356	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Chat in meeting room anyone? (Preview) Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.	lgnutah	0	2696	Nov 11, 2018 by lgnutah
	Prayers in Paradise.... (Preview) That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))	JerryF	7	5075	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Struggling to maintain my serenity this evening (Preview) The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...	Lil99	10	1344	Nov 10, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change, November 9 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...	Freetime	9	3878	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	A Reason, A Season... (Preview) I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...	tiredtonite	7	3795	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) November 10 (Preview) Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...	a4l	4	1592	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Curious .. (Preview) I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...	SerenityRUS	4	3729	Nov 9, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 11/8/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...	Iamhere	7	4856	Nov 9, 2018 by a4l
	Mini 4th step ideas needed (for relationship) (Preview) The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...	luv123	6	4636	Nov 8, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Hey Everyone (Preview) Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...	andromeda	9	2445	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Not accepting a consolation cookie for this! (Preview) Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...	bud	22	2460	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 11-6 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...	hotrod	6	651	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...	Skorpi	5	2272	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	cynicism (Preview) What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...	a4l	10	902	Nov 6, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Nov 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...	yanksfan51	8	3671	Nov 6, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/5 (Preview) Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...	Lyne	5	673	Nov 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	Step11 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...	hotrod	4	2380	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change, November 2 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...	Freetime	6	682	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Updates - crack use :( (Preview) Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...	VickiR	11	2168	Nov 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 3/11/2018 (Preview) Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...	a4l	4	1931	Nov 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Anxiety (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...	joker	4	1859	Nov 3, 2018 by a4l
	God (higher power) with skin on (Preview) MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...	luv123	11	3569	Nov 3, 2018 by luv123
	Keeping my mindset is hard (Preview) It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...	JustForMeNow	8	580	Nov 2, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change 11/1/18 (Preview) Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...	Iamhere	6	509	Nov 2, 2018 by KT2015
	C2C, 10/29 (Preview) Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...	Lyne	7	514	Nov 1, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...	Skorpi	4	461	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Watching is painful (Preview) AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...	serenity47	6	659	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Let it begin with me (sort of) (Preview) I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...	Lyne	5	520	Nov 1, 2018 by Jozie
	Just For Today... (Preview) Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...	Iamhere	17	3070	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 10-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...	hotrod	5	634	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	HP has given me more practice (Preview) Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...	Skorpi	9	630	Oct 31, 2018 by Skorpi
	Been awhile.... (Preview) Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...	El	6	566	Oct 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	sorry for the miscue with Hope for Today (Preview) I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...	JerryF	4	590	Oct 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope For Today 3/7/2018 (Preview) Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...	JerryF	3	545	Oct 29, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Oct 28 (Preview) Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...	yanksfan51	4	612	Oct 28, 2018 by a4l
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