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Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...

I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...

I have been harboring a great deal of anger these past couple of weeks due to increasing financial challenges that are a big issue with my pending divorce with my AH. I had a session with my therapist this week and asked her if using a "punching bag" or trying kick-boxing were really viable op...

Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...

Hello - This is my first post in this group. My husband of 10 years is a RAH- he started trying a few years back, had some relapses, but is finally going to AA and appears to be getting something from it- I am relieved and I feel blessed that he is doing this- We have a 2 and 3 year old and they deserve a whole fami...

My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...

I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...

AH Called this week. He received his 30 day chip. My response wasn't supportive, nor was it non supportive. My feeling is that of the fact he's been a damn drunk for 12 years, and while yes, everyone must start somewhere, I cannot be proud of a 30 day sobriety. especially since I know it's because he's...

When the disease is fed an audience, it will want more. On some days reality and sanity don't play well together. Yesterday was like that for me. I visited my parents in the nursing home. I was approached by my Mom's nurse who said that my sister spent several hours with the nursing home clergy sobbin...

Trying to get myself to start al-anon. Facing the same obstacles that I know many have faced and I know my story will be nothing new. Concerns: RELIGION AND HIGHER POWER Yes, I am an hardcore atheist. Posts by spookyMulder and Enigmatic were helpful in working towards mitigating this obstacle, but...

AH has been abusing marijuana and Alcohol for as long as I have known him and for many years before that. When we met, we were in the party scene but never did hard drugs so I guess I never thought it was a big deal. Fast forward 17 years, 2 kids later I'm no longer in the party scene, he still is and is drinkin...

I have a very high functioning AH. He pays all the bills except childcare, my gas, groceries and the garbage bill. He goes to work everyday and works anywhere from 50-60 hours a week. He almost never calls in. When he does he is either actually sick or its due to staying up to late and drinking too much...

I am brand new here and absorbing information like a sponge this morning. April 24 - I "came out of the closet" you could say. My AH of 23 years crossed the line on drinking -I have had it. I told him that I was done - I am so angry, tired, fed up, hurt, broken due to this disease and everything else on my plat...

My husband destroyed our friendships, his career, his body (he looks like a skeleton with skin), and, his brain, our relationship when he relapsed while I was pregnant near 4 years ago now. When I discovered what was really going on with him, I kicked him out of the house. I was 7 months pregnant and we ha...

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Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...
anger verbal abuse neglect I need help in dealing with ANGER (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	10	6450	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...
anger gratitude Anger Management (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	2	4605	May 18, 2012 by Oksie
I have been harboring a great deal of anger these past couple of weeks due to increasing financial challenges that are a big issue with my pending divorce with my AH. I had a session with my therapist this week and asked her if using a "punching bag" or trying kick-boxing were really viable op...
forgiveness feelings finding new perspectives anger Forgiveness & feelings and my side of the street (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	5	5678	Sep 26, 2012 by bud
Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...
Anger Resentment How do I deal with my anger and resentment? (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	4	6464	Apr 28, 2013 by Jerry F
Hello - This is my first post in this group. My husband of 10 years is a RAH- he started trying a few years back, had some relapses, but is finally going to AA and appears to be getting something from it- I am relieved and I feel blessed that he is doing this- We have a 2 and 3 year old and they deserve a whole fami...
Child opiates anger bipolar family My worst nightmare came true. (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	9	5366	May 6, 2013 by Highlyfavored
My husband is bipolar and over the 25 years of our marriage has amused cocaine and crack to "self medicate". That is what my two boys grew up in the middle of. The three of us shared the hurt, pain, anger and financial crisis that are part of the reality of growing up with an addict. He has been st...
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I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...
Anger resentment disgust hate blather 30 day chip and other blather (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	8	6399	Oct 14, 2014 by Flower49
AH Called this week. He received his 30 day chip. My response wasn't supportive, nor was it non supportive. My feeling is that of the fact he's been a damn drunk for 12 years, and while yes, everyone must start somewhere, I cannot be proud of a 30 day sobriety. especially since I know it's because he's...
family of origin coping anger abuse If you give the disease an audience (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	13	6976	Dec 23, 2014 by bud
When the disease is fed an audience, it will want more. On some days reality and sanity don't play well together. Yesterday was like that for me. I visited my parents in the nursing home. I was approached by my Mom's nurse who said that my sister spent several hours with the nursing home clergy sobbin...
newbie religion higher power loneliness anger first meeting I need a push and I'm stubborn as hell. ( 1 2 ) (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	67	15393	May 29, 2015 by almostThere
Trying to get myself to start al-anon. Facing the same obstacles that I know many have faced and I know my story will be nothing new. Concerns: RELIGION AND HIGHER POWER Yes, I am an hardcore atheist. Posts by spookyMulder and Enigmatic were helpful in working towards mitigating this obstacle, but...
marijuana alcohol cheating anger rehab Brand New here - AH in Rehab for 4 days... what to expect? (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	4	5905	Jun 2, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
AH has been abusing marijuana and Alcohol for as long as I have known him and for many years before that. When we met, we were in the party scene but never did hard drugs so I guess I never thought it was a big deal. Fast forward 17 years, 2 kids later I'm no longer in the party scene, he still is and is drinkin...
AH high functioning kids lost anger hate Where have I gone? (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	13	6868	Jul 13, 2015 by Skorpi
I have a very high functioning AH. He pays all the bills except childcare, my gas, groceries and the garbage bill. He goes to work everyday and works anywhere from 50-60 hours a week. He almost never calls in. When he does he is either actually sick or its due to staying up to late and drinking too much...
boundaries anger repeatng the cycle new Have I waited too long (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	9	6390	May 20, 2016 by Shawnie
I am brand new here and absorbing information like a sponge this morning. April 24 - I "came out of the closet" you could say. My AH of 23 years crossed the line on drinking -I have had it. I told him that I was done - I am so angry, tired, fed up, hurt, broken due to this disease and everything else on my plat...
Anger relapse drugs suboxone I think I hate my husband (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	10	5357	Jan 9, 2017 by KT2015
My husband destroyed our friendships, his career, his body (he looks like a skeleton with skin), and, his brain, our relationship when he relapsed while I was pregnant near 4 years ago now. When I discovered what was really going on with him, I kicked him out of the house. I was 7 months pregnant and we ha...

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