Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

UncleLou · UncleLou

I’m just trying to get through just one day at a time. I feel like I’m being held hostage by the love and concern for my kids. And fear of letting them out of my life. My ex asked me to stay in the house until after the holidays. Not that we had agreed I would move out, but a few months ago that’s what she wanted...

pixel04 · pixel04

Hi guys - thanks for the prayers. Turns out the problem I am having with headaches and numbness has a simple solution. Two vertebrae in my neck are rotated and pinching my nerves, causing the numbness in my hands and arms. So I'm going to have x-rays tomorrow, and then on Thursday am going to have them r...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hey, your pm is turned off ... they changed it to /umode -m (note the small m rather than capital M)... I need to speak with you again before the op meeting... am in room now or you can call me. Thanks! Kis

Kim · Kim

Well, I've been isolating myself and of course as all relapses occur I just went into a downward spiral. Depression has seemed to have gotten the best of me and as a result I have gone back to behaviors that I shouldn't. Found myself on Saturday in a fetal position on the couch in my pyjamas all day and to to...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail this morning and it was too nice to pass up sharing~ One morning, I went out for my daily sunrise walk on the beach. Off in the distance, I could see someone pick something up off the beach, wade a little ways into the ocean and then toss the object into the water. Then, the person,...

marmare · marmare

Are you still out there. I had sent you PM and hadn't heard back from you. Just wanted to know if all is okay? Hugs Mary

Conwolf · Conwolf

I am new to this forum and am looking for some help. Does anyone know some good sites that have info on alcoholism and its affects on the person's body and mind? I know I read some stuff before....but it was a long time ago and I need to refresh my memory. My husband is an alcoholic, and until lately I had let h...

nycbt · nycbt

I am working on step two. I am having a hard time doing it. Not knowing what I believe in right now. I am working on the question in the Path to Recovery with my sponsor who is being very patient with me. My past experience being religious is when my father was in the hospital and he was having open heart surge...

captcodee · captcodee

Well, the infamous captcodee is feeling like crap! I am tired. I am mad. I am playing emotional games with myself that are causing me trouble in all areas of my life. I am upset with myself for getting upset with myself. I tried to take it easy last night, as I can feel this bubble of irratio...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has been very good. I have been thinking about letting him take the car out and drive it again. Since he is doing so good. Well I talked about it with a couple of people and they have remind me the reason why I took the key in the first place. I have told my self that had a good reason at that time and I n...

marmare · marmare

Everytime I hear the new song by Carrie Underwood, it reminds me to just let go.....here are chorus of the song.... Jesus take the wheel Take it from my hands Cause I can't do this all on my own I'm letting go So give me one more chance To save me from this road I'm on Jesus take the wheel Hugs Mary

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: Sweet Surrender So we're ready to take on the world, at least to take the next step. That's when it hits. Or rather we hit it. The wall.Suddenly the path that looked so clear, so easy, so laid out in front of us disappears. Just a little glitch, we think. We take another run at it....

chrissy · chrissy

i am sorry i havent posted i have not been on the computer all weekend . some of my wonderful friends here were worried. i am fine just crazied with amanda & christmas & working and being a wife & a mother cooking ,cleaning the usual stuff. when i get home my day starts all over ag...

Faith73 · Faith73

I saw this today while I was out shopping and thought I'd share it with all of you. It really touched something in me..thanks for letting me share :) Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our darkness, tha...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

On Sat morn, I had to call 911 for my dad. He was having chest pains and couldnt breathe. He has been in the hospital since. He has double pneumonia, and is on monitors. I am very worried and scared. He is the only family I have left. Just asking you all to pray for...

megan · megan

Hi Roomies I am anxious and nervous so my best friend suggested that I post. I filed for divorce in August. My complaint was ugly and dirty laundry and sadly true. My husband’s answer to my complaint was due 10/22 and he got a 30 day extension. I have been nagging my lawyer to...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hi, I'm very grateful to have found this forum. I've posted before about my situation. I've been trying to stay "clear," but as time goes on, it becomes more and more apparent that I have given away my ownership of my emotions and every aspect of my life. When I was ready to face that my husband ha...

StacySCW · StacySCW

Hi - I'm new to this site but not to the program. I have 40 months in Al-Anon but don't currently have a home group. A little background: I have been married to my 'A' for 10 years. He has no intention of recovery at this point and I have found what serenity is possible with that, s...

Powerless · Powerless

I became cranky tonight and wasn't sure why, just sure that everyone noticed. I took a bath and thought about it. My husband came in and asked me what was wrong. I told him that he messed up Friday night in the worst way and he has just continued on like nothing happened. I was de...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hey yall seeing alot of good stuff and alot of gut level honesty. Please keep it up. Just wanted to tell yall I'm doing good. The university replaced the computers in the dorm with really nice ones....the only thing is, they don't connect to the internet. And being the good lazy doke I am, until I get a rea...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I realise this is a little off the board topic but hope it is ok to post. I recieved this poem from a friend and I think it embodies all I have found here. Hope you enjoy it as I did. Feather On Line Friends I had some free time, so what did I do? I checked the computer to see if I'd h...

Cyn · Cyn

First things first - I have an important job interview today that I am PRAYING I get - would make my life alot more simplified (in the long run) if I did get it. Many of you were not around last night for my share in the meeting - but as of late I am realizing that my HP had a specific plan for me that I am fin...

bigargon · bigargon

Hi I am ed, For about seven years I have been in Overeater anonymous, and i have experienced recovery i have been fre from compulsive eating for almost 4 years. but something is not quite right. I still have no peace. This time of year is tough, 10 years ago (on Dec 1st) my mom died from a combinnation of a...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dec. 11, I never thought I would be so relieved to see anger. My A appeared at the door with a very angry expression and handed me the cell phone. I have given him the spare phone but l I had to suspend the services. The phone was broken apart in two, no battery, and he had pulled the antena o...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I have woken this morning to the realization that I am jealous, just when I thought I had an understanding of my feelings concerning my A (Husband) and the tools to deal to with them healthily. What's worse is the circumstances this jealousy has arisen in. Three days ago we got the awful news tha...

tea2 · tea2

Recently the topic has come up of sad songs and a few here have been posting -which got me thinking this one certainly does it for me. Another one is "Old Man, by Neil Young" Although I am unable to find the lyrics it. In my cd Neil portrays it different then how I interpret it anyway, but to me it's jus...

sandie123 · sandie123

Some days are so hard to get through. I battle just staying afloat. Yesterday was one of then. I tried so many of the tools I have learned... I read my literature, I called my sponsor, I drew, I made cookies, I decorated the tree, I went to church, I took a bubble bath and the list does go on. As long as my m...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Keep It Simple God gave us memory that we might have roses in December.--James M. Barrie. Do you remember what it was like to not have sobriety? Remember the shame? Remember the loneliness? Remember lying and wishing you could stop? Remember the powerlessness? Do you remember, also, how it felt wh...

FrancesB · FrancesB

I have a younger sister (38), who has been married for 4 years and lving for 15 years to a much older man (50). He drinks heavily 3-4 times a week, spends whatever money he has on drink and drugs, brings home 'friends' he's made in the pub to party on in their home. They have a 12 year old daughter (my niece) an...

Cyn · Cyn

I think the interview went very well - I applied for an Aquatic Director position at a University - and I just bought a swim school that is run out of that same University. They seemed happy with me and the interview was more chatting than actual questions. I then went down to the pool office...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hey group, May I vent? Some of ya know I moved f/ a 2 to a 1 bed on Dec. 1. Everything that could go wrong, has and I have a lovely mix of that funky smoke smell coming thru heat vent everynight now permeating clothes furniture, etc. This morning, I woke to find the toliet, and ba...

ednaxray · ednaxray

i thought i would start a topic of foods for the holidays,,,since we have so much food talk in the room...and we could all share recipies. and also because i forgot who i was gonna give this to..lol chinese bbq pork..like for appitizers 1 c.soy sauce 1/2 c packed brown sugar 2 tbs cider vinega...

Conwolf · Conwolf

As I said before, I have just started the process of living my life despite being married to an alcoholic. I have a few more questions...but I need to give you a little more background. I have a chronic illness that prevents me from working and take many meds to live a semi-normal life. My husband says tha...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so angry that my hands are shaking and i think I may vomit. I posted a little while ago in response to someone else and began to get agitated. My mother-in-law called me and asked if I had heard from my husband yet. He is a truck driver and was due in at two o'clock this afternoon.&nb...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

this is so hard to write as i feel like i look like a fool. but this is what happened. my a came home to give me money for rent as right now i cant afford it by myself. he ended up telling me he didnt want to leave. i admitted my wrongs for starting a fight with him just because i was feeling insecure from the past....

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that when i left me "A" after he started his drinking binge that i cant let go. emotionally.... i mean i was the one to leave...my choice, my decision etc.. so how come after 4 mths of crying, frustrated with life in general and questioning everything even my HP... why am i still in the same pl...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Sat. Dec. 10, The police has adviced him not to come to our house again or he will be arrested. They escort him to the bus stop. Browneyes In answer to your questions: a. Emergancy Room he was taken there a few days ago and released. This is typical they can't do a thing for him, the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Sarah McLachlan Angel~ spend all your time waiting for that second chance for a break that would make it okay there's always one reason to feel not good enough and it's hard at the end of the day I need some distraction oh beautiful release memory seeps from my veins let me be empty ...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

Last night a friend let me know that she was uncomfortable being part of my support network because she has feelings for me and doesn't like the person I am currently "seeing". It is very frustrating to me that one of the few people that I have been able to begin to open up to, has closed herself to me...

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that men are twisted!!!! anyone?? i just got off the phone from my "A"....ex boyf who insists we are still a couple and we are just going throu a bad patch!!!! yea right! we had an arguement... petty words were exchanged and then a heated arguement ensued ending up in a full blown screamin...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Last night at my face-to-face meeting, the leader read a passage from "Courage to Change" that spoke about the power of ES&H (Experience, Strength, and Hope). This reading held real power for me. For so long, I've thought of my experience growing up in an alcoholic househou...

Froggie · Froggie

I'm fairly new here and with family visiting for the month haven't had much time to log on. I really need to vent right now. Last August I left my home in MA to move to FL with my A. It was going to be fresh start for both of us. Driving down from MA he got a DUI in NC. He had to app...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi Everybody, I haven't posted in a while. But I have still been here every day, reading and learning. Anyway, a lot has happened lately. My husband, a meth addict, admitted to being high to his parole officer on Halloween. So his officer made him do meetings. Then he wa...

pixel04 · pixel04

Hi guys, I mentioned a while back I started going to counseling in addition to alanon, at the suggestion of my sponsor, to deal with something that is going on in my marriage. As part of the working through the issue in my marriage, we have fallen on issues relating to my parents. We learn what we...

kat4u · kat4u

thank you for all your support, I do appreciate it. I am still dragging myself through these holidays...no feeling for them really...I detached from most everything, except the As in my life..thought I had done really well, and then one came back into my life.my father..and hes brought the ba...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi ((((((everyone)))))) I just thought I would let you all know that I am doing well under the STRESS that my family and I are experincing right now with the lose of my Hubbys job yesterday!!! I just keep thinking" one day at a time" and" take it easy "and that my Hp will see us through this and to lo...

Powerless · Powerless

I guess I would have been really tickled by pounds of gummi bears because he spent his entire paycheck on crack. Gee, he was nice enough to bring me home a pack of cigarettes. All I have heard is more promises and how scared he is and how powerless he is. Big flippin deal. I've li...

bluecrow · bluecrow

I try to take one day at a time, But sometimes several day's attck me at once. Timeline Monday Dec.5, am I call police and have my A arrested for under the influance. Last used meth. on Sunday. He was disorented, anxiety,confused, age...

Cyn · Cyn

I went to a baby shower yesterday - dreaded going because 1. they make me depressed an 2. it was about 20 minutes away from my ex's house. But I went and I interacted, etc. The shower was for my ex-neighbor who is also my godmother's daughter. My godmother's son is my oldest friend and someon...

hopeful · hopeful

I feel very confused. I have had days of mental torment.I feel very guilty of my feelings,i feel like i have been a waking dead.My nights seems very confused i have endless dreams fearing that i have been trying to question my relationship with a loving God.It feels like i have always had a clear conciou...

Rebecca · Rebecca

can someone explain or show me what or where to find the recovery programme for alanon members? is it only the alcoholics that have the 12 step programme? or do we have our own? any help would be greatly appreciated rebecca xxx

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have had plenty of time to think, I know scary thing, today while I am at work. A thought just hit me, am I really progressing in my program? Sure my "A" went out all night, he was doing what he does while he is active. I am upset over this, again, so am I progressing if it still hurts. Sure I know th...

lebe27 · lebe27

My A called me at work today to say his father (also an A) is coming for xmas. He will be staying with us for day or two (his day or two ends up 2 weeks). He runs up our phone bill, eats all the food and doesn't chip in at all. Last time he stayed with us when my A was very sick year and a half ago....

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

For the past week I have been experiencing some female problems that I've never had in my life before. At the beginning of this week timeframe, I looked up these symptoms in my medical book and saw words like "30 to 60% cause of hysterectomies" and "cancer". There went my mind - projecting...

hudsond · hudsond

Why is it that I know I am powerless--I get that--over my a's drinking and drugging, and yet I still get upset when things aren't going the way I think they should be going. This week hasn't been a bad week, necessarily. My a has been "off" not using I think, but something just isn't right. (I say n...

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

Last week I had to have a protective order served on my husband. He was drinking and started an argument with me over my son calling home to wake him up. My son was letting me know he would be late coming home. My husband went into a rage, dumped all of my instructional items out of my teacher bag and began pac...

toto12 · toto12

Hi, It's Sat., the 10th of Dec., and I can't get into chat room again. It says connecting 6667 but you wait forever and no connect. It's the morning meeting, your time ESt about 9:00. Help! a computer desperate toto

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I had a bit of a fall out today...

my grandparents are still downsizing alanon,and saying why dont I hang around kids my age.hello kids my age are rebels,and do weird things.I don't want to be like that My grandparents should be happy I am putting most of my time to something positive,and s...

afglin · afglin

A freind in ALAnon called me yesterday. Her husband got arrested for DUI again. He called and betggged her to bail him out and she said no. He said he was having heart flutterings and refused to tell them. She said what if he dies and I did not go bail him out? I was trying not to give advice...but wh...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a came home after work and grabbed the two bags i had packed last night wouldn't give me his keys and said he'll be back another time to give me money to pay the rent. he said he has to go to the casino with his mom. i hate this feeling so much. he is acting like he just doesnt care and i know he's lying abou...

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	I'm allowing myself to be held hostage (Preview) I’m just trying to get through just one day at a time. I feel like I’m being held hostage by the love and concern for my kids. And fear of letting them out of my life. My ex asked me to stay in the house until after the holidays. Not that we had agreed I would move out, but a few months ago that’s what she wanted...	UncleLou	15	559	Dec 14, 2005 by diamond
	update (Preview) Hi guys - thanks for the prayers. Turns out the problem I am having with headaches and numbness has a simple solution. Two vertebrae in my neck are rotated and pinching my nerves, causing the numbness in my hands and arms. So I'm going to have x-rays tomorrow, and then on Thursday am going to have them r...	pixel04	3	401	Dec 14, 2005 by cdb
	John/OP_Present (Preview) Hey, your pm is turned off ... they changed it to /umode -m (note the small m rather than capital M)... I need to speak with you again before the op meeting... am in room now or you can call me. Thanks! Kis	kismetstrand	0	377	Dec 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	A friend from this board reached out to me.... (Preview) Well, I've been isolating myself and of course as all relapses occur I just went into a downward spiral. Depression has seemed to have gotten the best of me and as a result I have gone back to behaviors that I shouldn't. Found myself on Saturday in a fetal position on the couch in my pyjamas all day and to to...	Kim	8	450	Dec 14, 2005 by kat4u
	starfish (Preview) I got this e-mail this morning and it was too nice to pass up sharing~ One morning, I went out for my daily sunrise walk on the beach. Off in the distance, I could see someone pick something up off the beach, wade a little ways into the ocean and then toss the object into the water. Then, the person,...	sandie123	8	407	Dec 13, 2005 by leo
	Magpie? (Preview) Are you still out there. I had sent you PM and hadn't heard back from you. Just wanted to know if all is okay? Hugs Mary	marmare	2	359	Dec 13, 2005 by lin0606
	New here and looking for info.... (Preview) I am new to this forum and am looking for some help. Does anyone know some good sites that have info on alcoholism and its affects on the person's body and mind? I know I read some stuff before....but it was a long time ago and I need to refresh my memory. My husband is an alcoholic, and until lately I had let h...	Conwolf	6	549	Dec 13, 2005 by kmk
	working on step two (Preview) I am working on step two. I am having a hard time doing it. Not knowing what I believe in right now. I am working on the question in the Path to Recovery with my sponsor who is being very patient with me. My past experience being religious is when my father was in the hospital and he was having open heart surge...	nycbt	6	470	Dec 13, 2005 by bobump
	Life feels like it sucks right now (Preview) Well, the infamous captcodee is feeling like crap! I am tired. I am mad. I am playing emotional games with myself that are causing me trouble in all areas of my life. I am upset with myself for getting upset with myself. I tried to take it easy last night, as I can feel this bubble of irratio...	captcodee	12	483	Dec 13, 2005 by twinmom2
	Am I getting stronger? (Preview) My husband has been very good. I have been thinking about letting him take the car out and drive it again. Since he is doing so good. Well I talked about it with a couple of people and they have remind me the reason why I took the key in the first place. I have told my self that had a good reason at that time and I n...	nycbt	14	496	Dec 13, 2005 by tea2
	Lyrics (Preview) Everytime I hear the new song by Carrie Underwood, it reminds me to just let go.....here are chorus of the song.... Jesus take the wheel Take it from my hands Cause I can't do this all on my own I'm letting go So give me one more chance To save me from this road I'm on Jesus take the wheel Hugs Mary	marmare	2	387	Dec 13, 2005 by jrtjosey
	i want to be like WATER!!! (Preview) Today's thought is: Sweet Surrender So we're ready to take on the world, at least to take the next step. That's when it hits. Or rather we hit it. The wall.Suddenly the path that looked so clear, so easy, so laid out in front of us disappears. Just a little glitch, we think. We take another run at it....	rosie light shines	2	413	Dec 13, 2005 by kitty
	i'm fine :) (Preview) i am sorry i havent posted i have not been on the computer all weekend . some of my wonderful friends here were worried. i am fine just crazied with amanda & christmas & working and being a wife & a mother cooking ,cleaning the usual stuff. when i get home my day starts all over ag...	chrissy	7	579	Dec 13, 2005 by chrissy
	Our deepest fear... (Preview) I saw this today while I was out shopping and thought I'd share it with all of you. It really touched something in me..thanks for letting me share :) Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our darkness, tha...	Faith73	7	502	Dec 13, 2005 by cdb
	For my Dad (Preview) On Sat morn, I had to call 911 for my dad. He was having chest pains and couldnt breathe. He has been in the hospital since. He has double pneumonia, and is on monitors. I am very worried and scared. He is the only family I have left. Just asking you all to pray for...	bcraindrop70	12	503	Dec 13, 2005 by nycbt
	anxious and nervous (Preview) Hi Roomies I am anxious and nervous so my best friend suggested that I post. I filed for divorce in August. My complaint was ugly and dirty laundry and sadly true. My husband’s answer to my complaint was due 10/22 and he got a 30 day extension. I have been nagging my lawyer to...	megan	18	608	Dec 13, 2005 by nycbt
	Everything I've done has been a reaction ... (Preview) Hi, I'm very grateful to have found this forum. I've posted before about my situation. I've been trying to stay "clear," but as time goes on, it becomes more and more apparent that I have given away my ownership of my emotions and every aspect of my life. When I was ready to face that my husband ha...	phoebemoonpie	6	443	Dec 13, 2005 by cdb
	Intimate Issues ** Adult content (Preview) Hi - I'm new to this site but not to the program. I have 40 months in Al-Anon but don't currently have a home group. A little background: I have been married to my 'A' for 10 years. He has no intention of recovery at this point and I have found what serenity is possible with that, s...	StacySCW	12	531	Dec 13, 2005 by cdb
	Don't know what I'm feeling (Preview) I became cranky tonight and wasn't sure why, just sure that everyone noticed. I took a bath and thought about it. My husband came in and asked me what was wrong. I told him that he messed up Friday night in the worst way and he has just continued on like nothing happened. I was de...	Powerless	3	491	Dec 13, 2005 by nycbt
	hey yall (Preview) Hey yall seeing alot of good stuff and alot of gut level honesty. Please keep it up. Just wanted to tell yall I'm doing good. The university replaced the computers in the dorm with really nice ones....the only thing is, they don't connect to the internet. And being the good lazy doke I am, until I get a rea...	Tiger2006	3	434	Dec 13, 2005 by nycbt
	This is lovely and appropriate... (Preview) Hi! I realise this is a little off the board topic but hope it is ok to post. I recieved this poem from a friend and I think it embodies all I have found here. Hope you enjoy it as I did. Feather On Line Friends I had some free time, so what did I do? I checked the computer to see if I'd h...	Feather	3	371	Dec 13, 2005 by nycbt
	Today is about me - hope it stays that way (Preview) First things first - I have an important job interview today that I am PRAYING I get - would make my life alot more simplified (in the long run) if I did get it. Many of you were not around last night for my share in the meeting - but as of late I am realizing that my HP had a specific plan for me that I am fin...	Cyn	8	404	Dec 13, 2005 by phoebemoonpie
	New, is this where I belong?? (Preview) Hi I am ed, For about seven years I have been in Overeater anonymous, and i have experienced recovery i have been fre from compulsive eating for almost 4 years. but something is not quite right. I still have no peace. This time of year is tough, 10 years ago (on Dec 1st) my mom died from a combinnation of a...	bigargon	9	440	Dec 13, 2005 by WakingUp
	Up For Air (Preview) Dec. 11, I never thought I would be so relieved to see anger. My A appeared at the door with a very angry expression and handed me the cell phone. I have given him the spare phone but l I had to suspend the services. The phone was broken apart in two, no battery, and he had pulled the antena o...	bluecrow	5	430	Dec 13, 2005 by leo
	Jealous of support!!! (Preview) Hi! I have woken this morning to the realization that I am jealous, just when I thought I had an understanding of my feelings concerning my A (Husband) and the tools to deal to with them healthily. What's worse is the circumstances this jealousy has arisen in. Three days ago we got the awful news tha...	Feather	9	459	Dec 13, 2005 by Feather
	speaking of sad songs (Preview) Recently the topic has come up of sad songs and a few here have been posting -which got me thinking this one certainly does it for me. Another one is "Old Man, by Neil Young" Although I am unable to find the lyrics it. In my cd Neil portrays it different then how I interpret it anyway, but to me it's jus...	tea2	7	471	Dec 12, 2005 by mollyann
	HOT lava (Preview) Some days are so hard to get through. I battle just staying afloat. Yesterday was one of then. I tried so many of the tools I have learned... I read my literature, I called my sponsor, I drew, I made cookies, I decorated the tree, I went to church, I took a bubble bath and the list does go on. As long as my m...	sandie123	5	559	Dec 12, 2005 by Maria123
	HP don't let me forget how i USED to be (Preview) Keep It Simple God gave us memory that we might have roses in December.--James M. Barrie. Do you remember what it was like to not have sobriety? Remember the shame? Remember the loneliness? Remember lying and wishing you could stop? Remember the powerlessness? Do you remember, also, how it felt wh...	rosie light shines	4	394	Dec 12, 2005 by leo
	Sister in crisis (Preview) I have a younger sister (38), who has been married for 4 years and lving for 15 years to a much older man (50). He drinks heavily 3-4 times a week, spends whatever money he has on drink and drugs, brings home 'friends' he's made in the pub to party on in their home. They have a 12 year old daughter (my niece) an...	FrancesB	6	431	Dec 12, 2005 by just me
	Update on Interview... (Preview) I think the interview went very well - I applied for an Aquatic Director position at a University - and I just bought a swim school that is run out of that same University. They seemed happy with me and the interview was more chatting than actual questions. I then went down to the pool office...	Cyn	6	412	Dec 12, 2005 by leo
	Coming up 4 Air? - NOT (Preview) Hey group, May I vent? Some of ya know I moved f/ a 2 to a 1 bed on Dec. 1. Everything that could go wrong, has and I have a lovely mix of that funky smoke smell coming thru heat vent everynight now permeating clothes furniture, etc. This morning, I woke to find the toliet, and ba...	cedarpines	6	678	Dec 12, 2005 by cedarpines
	food, for fun (Preview) i thought i would start a topic of foods for the holidays,,,since we have so much food talk in the room...and we could all share recipies. and also because i forgot who i was gonna give this to..lol chinese bbq pork..like for appitizers 1 c.soy sauce 1/2 c packed brown sugar 2 tbs cider vinega...	ednaxray	10	539	Dec 12, 2005 by Sherry
	Few more questions and advice needed if you dont mind.... (Preview) As I said before, I have just started the process of living my life despite being married to an alcoholic. I have a few more questions...but I need to give you a little more background. I have a chronic illness that prevents me from working and take many meds to live a semi-normal life. My husband says tha...	Conwolf	8	459	Dec 12, 2005 by bobump
	FURIOUS!!! (Preview) I am so angry that my hands are shaking and i think I may vomit. I posted a little while ago in response to someone else and began to get agitated. My mother-in-law called me and asked if I had heard from my husband yet. He is a truck driver and was due in at two o'clock this afternoon.&nb...	Powerless	7	504	Dec 12, 2005 by cdb
	update (Preview) this is so hard to write as i feel like i look like a fool. but this is what happened. my a came home to give me money for rent as right now i cant afford it by myself. he ended up telling me he didnt want to leave. i admitted my wrongs for starting a fight with him just because i was feeling insecure from the past....	notsonew1111	9	475	Dec 12, 2005 by TLC2
	lost....over and over again... (Preview) why is it that when i left me "A" after he started his drinking binge that i cant let go. emotionally.... i mean i was the one to leave...my choice, my decision etc.. so how come after 4 mths of crying, frustrated with life in general and questioning everything even my HP... why am i still in the same pl...	Rebecca	5	421	Dec 12, 2005 by twinmom2
	Timeline Day 6 & 7 (Preview) Sat. Dec. 10, The police has adviced him not to come to our house again or he will be arrested. They escort him to the bus stop. Browneyes In answer to your questions: a. Emergancy Room he was taken there a few days ago and released. This is typical they can't do a thing for him, the...	bluecrow	7	687	Dec 12, 2005 by Jeannie
	songs that make you think..and even sometimes cry (Preview) Sarah McLachlan Angel~ spend all your time waiting for that second chance for a break that would make it okay there's always one reason to feel not good enough and it's hard at the end of the day I need some distraction oh beautiful release memory seeps from my veins let me be empty ...	Lauren ashley	4	439	Dec 12, 2005 by AlaMom
	lost a friend (Preview) Last night a friend let me know that she was uncomfortable being part of my support network because she has feelings for me and doesn't like the person I am currently "seeing". It is very frustrating to me that one of the few people that I have been able to begin to open up to, has closed herself to me...	angelinme908	5	423	Dec 12, 2005 by bobump
	mad and angry..in that order!!! (Preview) why is it that men are twisted!!!! anyone?? i just got off the phone from my "A"....ex boyf who insists we are still a couple and we are just going throu a bad patch!!!! yea right! we had an arguement... petty words were exchanged and then a heated arguement ensued ending up in a full blown screamin...	Rebecca	7	468	Dec 12, 2005 by Faith73
	The Power of ES&H (Preview) All, Last night at my face-to-face meeting, the leader read a passage from "Courage to Change" that spoke about the power of ES&H (Experience, Strength, and Hope). This reading held real power for me. For so long, I've thought of my experience growing up in an alcoholic househou...	BlueCloud	1	978	Dec 12, 2005 by pixel04
	No Trust (Preview) I'm fairly new here and with family visiting for the month haven't had much time to log on. I really need to vent right now. Last August I left my home in MA to move to FL with my A. It was going to be fresh start for both of us. Driving down from MA he got a DUI in NC. He had to app...	Froggie	4	457	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	I GIVE UP (Preview) Hi Everybody, I haven't posted in a while. But I have still been here every day, reading and learning. Anyway, a lot has happened lately. My husband, a meth addict, admitted to being high to his parole officer on Halloween. So his officer made him do meetings. Then he wa...	browneyes	9	565	Dec 11, 2005 by browneyes
	still lost on the point (Preview) Hi guys, I mentioned a while back I started going to counseling in addition to alanon, at the suggestion of my sponsor, to deal with something that is going on in my marriage. As part of the working through the issue in my marriage, we have fallen on issues relating to my parents. We learn what we...	pixel04	6	445	Dec 11, 2005 by angelinme908
	thanks for being here (Preview) thank you for all your support, I do appreciate it. I am still dragging myself through these holidays...no feeling for them really...I detached from most everything, except the As in my life..thought I had done really well, and then one came back into my life.my father..and hes brought the ba...	kat4u	4	411	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	updated on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hi ((((((everyone)))))) I just thought I would let you all know that I am doing well under the STRESS that my family and I are experincing right now with the lose of my Hubbys job yesterday!!! I just keep thinking" one day at a time" and" take it easy "and that my Hp will see us through this and to lo...	bubbles1990	6	687	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	I am numb and emotionless (Preview) I guess I would have been really tickled by pounds of gummi bears because he spent his entire paycheck on crack. Gee, he was nice enough to bring me home a pack of cigarettes. All I have heard is more promises and how scared he is and how powerless he is. Big flippin deal. I've li...	Powerless	6	474	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Taking one Day at a time, But (Preview) I try to take one day at a time, But sometimes several day's attck me at once. Timeline *Monday Dec.5, am* *I call police and have my A arrested for under the influance. Last used meth. on Sunday. He was disorented, anxiety,confused, age...*	bluecrow	6	415	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	The world surprises me daily (Preview) I went to a baby shower yesterday - dreaded going because 1. they make me depressed an 2. it was about 20 minutes away from my ex's house. But I went and I interacted, etc. The shower was for my ex-neighbor who is also my godmother's daughter. My godmother's son is my oldest friend and someon...	Cyn	5	391	Dec 11, 2005 by toto12
	Feeling insane and sane and confused (Preview) I feel very confused. I have had days of mental torment.I feel very guilty of my feelings,i feel like i have been a waking dead.My nights seems very confused i have endless dreams fearing that i have been trying to question my relationship with a loving God.It feels like i have always had a clear conciou...	hopeful	3	410	Dec 11, 2005 by wille
	please help.... (Preview) can someone explain or show me what or where to find the recovery programme for alanon members? is it only the alcoholics that have the 12 step programme? or do we have our own? any help would be greatly appreciated rebecca xxx	Rebecca	5	518	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Is it progress? (Preview) Hi all, I have had plenty of time to think, I know scary thing, today while I am at work. A thought just hit me, am I really progressing in my program? Sure my "A" went out all night, he was doing what he does while he is active. I am upset over this, again, so am I progressing if it still hurts. Sure I know th...	Dolphin123	4	412	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Unwelcome Xmas Visitor (Preview) My A called me at work today to say his father (also an A) is coming for xmas. He will be staying with us for day or two (his day or two ends up 2 weeks). He runs up our phone bill, eats all the food and doesn't chip in at all. Last time he stayed with us when my A was very sick year and a half ago....	lebe27	8	627	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	Responding vs Reacting to Projecting (Preview) For the past week I have been experiencing some female problems that I've never had in my life before. At the beginning of this week timeframe, I looked up these symptoms in my medical book and saw words like "30 to 60% cause of hysterectomies" and "cancer". There went my mind - projecting...	kismetstrand	13	852	Dec 11, 2005 by cdb
	feeling down (Preview) Why is it that I know I am powerless--I get that--over my a's drinking and drugging, and yet I still get upset when things aren't going the way I think they should be going. This week hasn't been a bad week, necessarily. My a has been "off" not using I think, but something just isn't right. (I say n...	hudsond	3	455	Dec 10, 2005 by Faith73
	He's Out of The House (Preview) Last week I had to have a protective order served on my husband. He was drinking and started an argument with me over my son calling home to wake him up. My son was letting me know he would be late coming home. My husband went into a rage, dumped all of my instructional items out of my teacher bag and began pac...	meowzmusic	6	590	Dec 10, 2005 by tea2
	Oz computor,help again John (Preview) Hi, It's Sat., the 10th of Dec., and I can't get into chat room again. It says connecting 6667 but you wait forever and no connect. It's the morning meeting, your time ESt about 9:00. Help! a computer desperate toto	toto12	1	374	Dec 10, 2005 by tea2
	I am sad... (Preview) I had a bit of a fall out today... my grandparents are still downsizing alanon,and saying why dont I hang around kids my age.hello kids my age are rebels,and do weird things.I don't want to be like that My grandparents should be happy I am putting most of my time to something positive,and s...	Lauren ashley	6	513	Dec 10, 2005 by marmare
	bail out or not? (Preview) A freind in ALAnon called me yesterday. Her husband got arrested for DUI again. He called and betggged her to bail him out and she said no. He said he was having heart flutterings and refused to tell them. She said what if he dies and I did not go bail him out? I was trying not to give advice...but wh...	afglin	7	526	Dec 10, 2005 by afglin
	this is it (Preview) well my a came home after work and grabbed the two bags i had packed last night wouldn't give me his keys and said he'll be back another time to give me money to pay the rent. he said he has to go to the casino with his mom. i hate this feeling so much. he is acting like he just doesnt care and i know he's lying abou...	notsonew1111	5	445	Dec 10, 2005 by abbyal
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