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December 7th Group Conscience Meeting
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Dear Friends,
We have a Group Conscience Meeting scheduled for 7pm Est on Wednesday, December 7th. As of this date our agenda is very limited. If you have issues, suggestions, ESH that you would like to have added to our meeting, please PM me either here on the message board or in the cha...
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bob6502
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prayer
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I used to not pray about much of anything, so I was skeptical of prayer when I started this program a few years ago.
When I did decide to pray, I did so privately. I didn't want to share with anyone about my attempts to have a relationship with a Higher Power, or my attempts to let Him handle what I was t...
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Anticipation
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I got this in an e-mail today. It fit well today since I have a second interview for a new job possibiliity.
I hope others can look forward to a positive New Year with new opportunities also. I know that these oppertunities can feel scary and make us not as excited as we may think we should feel... howe...
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sandie123
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I feel like I am losing myself
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Not feeling so well these days... I am still having trouble finding or rather MAKING time for me.
My mother, is close to genius & still SO OCD, ADHD, ACOA & co-dependent on me to come & rescue her. I am tired of having ~ no life.
I think par...
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kitty
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Trying not to make a big deal of this
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My husband got up our of the blue this evening and went to an NA meeting. I was very surprised and pleased. I tried not to make too big of a deal of it, but did tell him I am proud of him. He feels that he has to do certain things to make me happy so I won't leave again. He also knows that...
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Powerless
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helpful literature for daughter of suicide dad
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Hi Everyone
Can any of you guys reccommend a good book that i could give my niece to help her through the loss of her alcoholic father?
Her Dad (my brother) killed himself 10 days ago after an over-dose of booze and drugs. She is in her early 20`s with a young child of her own. She has lived...
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kiki
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You tell me...?
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Always On Your Side - Sheryl Crow
My yesterdays are all boxed up and neatly put away But every now and then you come to mind Cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called, you found a place to hide (When you knew that I was always on your side)
Well everything was...
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kismetstrand
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one small step
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Okay..just had to tell someone about my small accomplishment. I kicked my husband out last tuesday..he showed up saturday morning wanting to talk.So i let him in and we had a long discussion on his problem.I told him he could come back but don`t he dare drink here or come home after he`s been drinking.I...
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allison
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Promise Yourself
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I have a bookmark on my desk next to my Just For Today Al-Anon one-- both of them are helping me get through some tough situations right now and I want to share the message of the one entitled Promise Yourself, in hopes that it will be helpful to you too.
PROMISE YOURSELF
To be so strong that nothing can...
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Im glad I found AlAnon before the holidays
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I feel alot calmer going into the holidays than I would usually.
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Barbara
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I am drawn to the troubles of others
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As we all are, I'm sure. I am always on one mission or another. My mother and son suffer from severe mental illness. I worked for mental health for several years before moving here and enjoyed it very much. THat has a lot to do with planning on psychiatric nursing. I fin...
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Powerless
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Need to get this off my back
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I have a need to get this off my back, the only place i can talk about this is here, and I really need to get some peace.
Shortly before my husband and I split up a guy with a little boy moved in next door. His son is the same age as my daughter.
The weekend before I split up with my husband Doug (my neig...
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captcodee
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Pity Party for me today
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I am feeling so down today. I miss my big kids. I know that they have made their decision not to return home with me when I returned to my husband and know that they have a right to their own decision. They're 8 and 10, what do they know? Obviously more than me. What i...
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Thank u 4 here
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Hi 2 all,
I can hardly see this screen
except I can see it.
as good as I can, so on we go!
My good fortune is to have an
awareness increase which allows
me to unplug from them hill
billy a types - and to walk with
out a word of discontent ant 2 b
able 2 forgive as I go.
Just forgive - l g - l g - so
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wille
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another day well spent
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So, my Christmas tree is up.....listening to "Rat Pack Christmas" I celebrated my first tree alone. It was sad at times but for the most part I enjoyed the fact that I did it all myself. My A called during dinner. Wanted to know if we were ever going to see each other again. I really didn't knowwhat to say.&...
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Kim
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A sad note!
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Hello all,
I got this at work this morning hope it makes you all smile!
Please join me in remembering a great icon of the entertainment community.
The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly....
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Dolphin123
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Sad when I should be ecstatic (sp?)
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Well as of today my life has completely taken a different path and I should be jumping for joy - but instead I am bawling my eyes out in exhaustion, frustration and being overwhelmed.
I bought a swim school today - my own business. My own opportunity to build my life and make a name for myse...
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Cyn
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Ruined sobriety redux
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Hi, everyone.
I really need some help. And a big pity party, sorry.
Back in August I posted about my husband's abuse of Robitussin (after being clean and sober, at least I "think" so, for several years).
Since then my life has been in a horrible downward spiral.
I'd asked h...
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phoebemoonpie
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manipulations and boundaries
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This weekend has been busy. Went out with friends Friday night, yesterday I got up and started cleaning/decorating for Christmas. It was hard and I knew it would be....going through our Christmas stuff, stockings with everyone's names on it (my A, my stepdaughter, my dog who passed in...
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Kim
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Self Matters
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I have been reasing the book SELF MATTERS by Dr. Phil. I have been doing the book work along with the step work. I have been having a very difficult time reliving things best forgotten. I am running through all of the feelings of abandonment. doubt, fear, confusion, hopelessness a...
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Powerless
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I cry silently
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Hi, I am living with an alcholic...I do not drink or smoke...I am in pain at least once or more times a week when he drinks...tonight I said the wrong thing...i am accused of everything. I cannot cry. It gets worse...it is all my fault, everything is...I am told...I am crying so deep and silently now...i...
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alanon_2002
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Having issues getting on for a meeting
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I was trying to get online for a meeting. I am not that clear on java, is there some way just to log online? Thanks
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seashell
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Good idea or asking for trouble?
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I decided today to go back to school. I want to start next month by taking one or two classes at the local community college. I have two years of courses, but think I would like to get into psychiatric nursing. In fact, i have thought long and hard about this and know this is what I want t...
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Powerless
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Look back for the month
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In a month I have gotten real strong. I have learned that it is ok to say no. To stick to my guns and not give him back the key that I took from him. For not giving in an letting him drive the car by himself. I took the key because he is not in recovery and I am afaird that he is going to get a DWI and my car will be taken...
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nycbt
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What next?
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Well, I did it. I've wanted to for a long time but was too afraid of what might really happen. I told my A either you clean up or I'm leaving.
I didn't mean it as a threat and I didn't mean to force him to do anything. The thing is, I just can't hang on anymore. If he isn't willing to get help, then he isn't, but a...
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Jersey
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So sad
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I found a picture that my eight year old son drew yesterday. It was very violent. It showed a boy being stabbed by swords and axes. I asked him about it and he said he was just bored.
When I showed it to my husband, my A, he thought it was funny and it was just a "boy" thing. I didn't think so and showed it to my p...
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Michele
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Debilyn?
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Has anyone heard from Debilyn? Debilyn, if you see this, sure would like to know if you're ok!! Love and lotsa TLC
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TLC2
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the pendulum of program
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I had an interesting thought that while maybe not original, really meant something to me tonday in my f2f. Two people shared about going back and forth on something. I've constantly found myself doing this and many times I'm comforted w/ esh that says not to be hard on myself, prog...
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bobump
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The need for Boundries...
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I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a fau...
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sandie123
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Nice 2 meet u
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I just found this site and registered. I had been quite active at local meetings for over 7 years. Then I stopped the meetings, I moved, but still read my books daily. I think it is time to bring it back into my life more and focus on me. I just keep doing too much for others ...
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seashell
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Huge amount of resentment
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I feel terrible, yet relieved. I was really missing my big kids today. they are still with their dad and do not want to return home as long as I live with my husband. He kept bothering me and asking me what was wrong. I told him that it's his fault the kids and I left to begin with an...
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Powerless
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self will vs God's will
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Last night my sponsor reminded me admitting powerlessness means letting go of self will so there is room for God's will to come in. I hear all the time in Alanon that you can't fill a cup that's already full. That Alanon helps us let go of a lot of the crap we bring in with us so that there's room for somethi...
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picowitch
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Hiya Pico,
Only me flumpy, just wondering how you are.
I hope you are doing ok, and staying strong for yourself.
Hope you come back to the room soon, coz I would really love to chat with you again.
Stay strong for you and only you and be true to yourself..
All the flumpy love in the world,
flump...
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flumpy
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Sharing from the heart
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hello all....
Hmmm I want to make this short and sweet.I went to a ftf yesterday,and one of the members there said something to me that stuck.She said that she is glad I go to the meetings because I add a kick to them.I haven't been going too often because I was sick.Anyways this member also said that she...
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Lauren ashley
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Please someone help iam worn out
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Hallo it has been along time since i visiteed this site.I have been in the programme for about 3 years and during this period i have felt alot of warmth and support from the members of the local groups that i regularly attended.At this very moment i feel very sad,frustrated lonely,and broken hea...
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hopeful
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One A Parent's Love
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It was just seven days ago that my A was under the influance of Meth., once again, It was hell living with the anger that gets triggered by the drug. He calls me terrible names and looks at me as if he would like me dead. His uncommunicative and all efforts to com...
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bluecrow
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My letter to my A
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Dear H
I am thankful for being able to share the time I did with you. It was the most wonderful time of my life - always is. 8 years we have been "dancing" around what it would be to truly commit to a relationship to each other - and we finally got to experience it. It was beautiful, spec...
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Cyn
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Doing something for me tonight
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I am walking out the door with no expectations - going to meet up with some old friends and meet some new friends while watching a club hockey game. Once again I will repeat it to myself - I wasnt the problem - drugs were the problem and I ended the relationship for my own health and sanity. This is goo...
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Cyn
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uncle lou, where are you?
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uncle lou, i hope your ok, havent seen you post in a while. hope you do soon.
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Thank you leo, DanaAngel, Dolphin123
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Thank you to each one of you, for responding to my post. You all helped me to feel a sense of belonging. Within the last few days, I have been going through a difficult time. It is difficult sometimes, and almost impossible for me to have a lot of self-disclosure, becau...
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teddybear
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afraid I showed too much
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Hi everybody. I haven't posted in a couple of weeks, but I have gone to a couple of f2f meetings. I've been feeling and doing pretty well. My a has been doing well. I think I was scared last time I posted because he was suppose to come by with his check and didn't show up -so I just k...
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hudsond
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Holidays
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Holidays are here. They are the toughest...i am usually alone, but for the past few yrs, I have been with Him...all of his family drinks....I am going out of town the Christmas week...we will be with his realtives..they ALL drink ...last yr. there was one person that did not. and of course the kids dont...
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alanon_2002
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To parents - a good read
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I read this wonderful book last night. It is by Jeanet Geringer Woititz, author of Adult Children of Alcoholics.
The name of the book is "Marriage on the Rocks, Learning to Live with yourslef and an Alcoholic."
The book is amazing. I felt like the author was sitting in the room talking one on one wit...
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Jeannie
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my son went to war
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Hi Alanon Friends,
I said goodbye yesterday to my oldest son who is in the military. He is going into combat for the third time and he is only 22 years old. He knows exactly what he is getting into and it was hard to watch him prepare to go.
We helped him clear out his apartment. I brought his Christmas st...
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nmike
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then and now
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I called my father yesterday, trying to get hold of my mother. She and I had been playing phone tag for several days. So yesterday I tried at 11 am - she wasn't answering at work. 2 pm - she wasn't at home, my father said. 6 pm (9pm their time), he tells me she never came home, she hasn't been home for 3 days, s...
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said it better than I could ever
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Hi Boarders-
I am pasting in a wonderful comment by a member of a different board I post on.
She so eloquently describes a good alanon attitude(and she is not talking about A!!).
It really spoke to me. My A (currently inactive) and I were talking last nite and he was
discussing possibly using ag... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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gknee
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I felt such freedom and hope
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When I was gone, I felt such freedom, relief and hope. I also felt fear, lonely, alone, scared, angry, resentful, confused and befuddled. I relished the feeling of freedom and the suspense of not knowing what tomorrow would bring. I could ahve turned my life into anything I wanted to. I k...
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Powerless
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Getting worse
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Hi,
Okay, my husband has been doing his IOP program. I am trying to stay out of his program, but I have some concerns about the family.
He is so much worse instead of better. I realize this is normal. He has justified himslef that everything is my fault. But what else is new. He has justified that he sho...
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Jeannie
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just beginning, help
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My a is a crack addict. He has a good job but I believe he blew it this week when he left monday night (it's thursday night) and hasn't been back since and never called into work. He's out doing drugs. he's found a new place where they sell the stuff right downstairs so he doesn't ever ha...
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cabma
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each day requires strength
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This morning I awoke somewhat anxious. I had a busy day and had to interview about 5 people, but still my mind was buzzing again about my A. My first instinct was to call and lash out at him, but I set my sights on work and before I knew it I was in the throws of my day and my mind was off of it. He called this evenin...
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Kim
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Denial - on my part
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I know my ex is in denial - but so am I. Its been almost 2 weeks since I last spoke to him - and 2 weeks since I bottomed out wanting to end my life because the person I love couldnt handle being the nice person he always was to me - because he is an ADDICT. I took it personally - and in some ways still d...
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Cyn
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in the depths of despair, i found a light
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You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. --Albert Camus
Sometimes we suddenly see or sense opposite emotions within ourselves. The cold of win...
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rosie light shines
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shooting the messenger
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Sometimes being the bearer of the truth is just so hard -- they always shoot the messenger.
Everyone asks for the truth but then they rip you to pieces over it... yes, the sword... I feel like I drag it around.
I would never want to hurt anyone, I would hurt myself first. It is amaz...
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kitty
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im not so weak anymore...
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hi guys,
i came home from work today and was informed by my mom that my "a" (ex-boyfriend) had left his rehab after only 6 weeks...out of a 12 week programme
i knew deep down he wouldnt last. when i saw him sunday he seemed detached like he knew what he was gonna do. hes in a homeless shelter now tonight i...
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Rebecca
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WAHOO!! big lesson on detachment
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Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...
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rosie light shines
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I have to move back to Step 1
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I had a bad morning today... My one son gets up in the middle of the night continuously. He was the good sleeper, now it's the other one that doesn't give me trouble at night. The kids are not listening to me at all lately. Yes, they're two and tantrums and selective hearing is e...
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twinmom2
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I went to a f2f meeting
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And it felt real good. I even went before I went to work. They told me not to make any big decisions (like kicking him out) for a while, unless of course it's dangerous for me. They said leaving when he drinks is okay for me since it allows me to step away from the situation and I am less likely to try to control...
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Evilynn
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good fear....bad fear
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Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...
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rosie light shines
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My mom's having trouble with my alcoholic brother too
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and been having trouble for a long time. He's 42 but still lives at home, sometimes temporarily employed (seems to be when he feels like it). He wouldnt come to my house for Christmas last year so she drove herself and my mentally handicapped older brother 1.5hrs each way. They ended up getting lost. Th...
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Barbara
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You'd think I have a new orifice, LOL
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Well, I if you were in chat you know I kinda went off on my A this morning.
I tried to make amends....well ya know what I didn't try. I did make amends. I said I was sorry, I explained that I my concern but that I shouldn't have acted like I did. Making sure I understood my lesson f...
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bobump
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