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Twelve rewards to the Twelve Steps
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1. Hope instead of desperation.
2. Faith instead of despair.
3. Courage instead of fear.
4.Peace Of Mind instead of confusion.
5.self-Respect instead of contempt.
6.Self-confidence instead of helplessness.
7.Respect Others instead of pity and contempt.
8.A Clean Conscience i...
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For me people make my holidays :)
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This past week a friend of mine passed away from cancer. :( I am having company come tomorrow to stay with us from out of town. I am putting off decorating the house and getting things done for xmas. I decided that if I only have a small amount of decorations out before xmas that is fine. If the house is not as...
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My part in things
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Yesterday the answer to my divorce complaint came.
My husband denies everyone of my complaints.
Even though they are true
He has submitted a list of complaints about me.
My lawyer enclosed a letter stating that we deny all of my husbands complaints (before I even got a copy of the c...
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megan
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My BIG Cosmic Reward
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Over the Thanksgiving Holiday my mailbox was broken into and was not fixed until last Wednesday, Dec. 7. Meanwhile, while it was broken my parents sent me my Christmas card with $200 in cash enclosed. I never got the card. It is interesting that the reaction I typically get when I s...
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I haven't been keeping up
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I am trying to concentrate on my Bipolar since I went to my doctor's last week, it's hard to juggle the alcoholic and the bipolar at the same time. He put me on Depakote, but I won't take it because of the weight gain and hair loss. I am staying away from my A since he has been doing nothing but drinking, he eve...
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My HP has a sense of humor
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My HP has a sense of humor. I have to believe that because the only other option is he is out to get me. I thought things couldn't get any worse today. I started the day very down. I tried to read my husband's NA book and then threw the book across the room. I was angry that I r...
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A Lazy Drunk?
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Hi, I hope everyone is well.
My parents are coming to visit this weekend. The kids and I have really been looking forward to it. I have been feeling like I need a dose of Mom and Dad love.
Last night I ran into a problem. My Mom called to confirm the trip and she started telling me to make sure my husband wa...
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Jeannie
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worry by association
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My father called me yesterday. He had a question about earthquakes. There have been a lot of those lately, he reminds me. Perhaps I should consider moving out of the earthquake prone zone I live in. Obviously, the earth is in some unstable state, and if it can happen somewhere else, it can happen to me...
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hmmmmm?
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My day yesterday was so frustrating I was in tears a couple of times, I hate my job and know I don't need this job but I do need a job. Then I tried to tell my self how selfish I was being ......questioning why am I being so ungrateful? Then my 18 yr old son called, he recently has started driving,...
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Progressive Disease
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I am new to this web site and have already found it very helpful. I have been to a few al-anon meetings and have decided to start working the steps. My husband is an ACoA. His brother is also currently an active addict. The big question is, is he (hubby) an alcoholic? &nb...
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sonya
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I'm kind of surprised at how I felt.
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Yesterday in the parent meeting for my daughters therapist, my wife basically blames me for all our ills.
I do my share of blaming too, but I do step up to the plate and take responsibility for at least some of it.
The therapist was saying that we basically either have to work it out or get a divorc...
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Gratitude List
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I am feeling pretty decent lately so I wanted to (while I felt good) appreciate the things I am grateful for:
That I grew up with a nice roof over my head, never wanted for much of anything, went to good private schools, have my college education, have parents that will support me (however not in the way...
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Dolphin(Mandy), Karilynn, And Kim
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Hello
Haven't heard from you guys in a while-Just wanted to say "hi" and "how's it going?" And hope all is well.
Love
Julie D.
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I feel lost - can anyone help?
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I am new to this site but I feel that I need some new strategies in my life to keep my sanity and I was wondering if anyone on here had any ideas. I have been in an abusive relationship which has been getting worse for the past couple of years. My husband has just been sentenced to a two month jail...
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I am really hurting today
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I am hurting, angry, resentful and depressed. We still have not bought a single gift for the kids for Christmas. They are not going to get any this year. This is so not fair to them. They are only 2, 8 and 10. My 8 year old isn't home yet, but I still wanted to get her gifts...
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Powerless
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A NEWBIES THANKS
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Hey Everyone, it's missy in Va. I just wanted to take a few minutes and thank you all for the support and help you have been giving me over the last week since I started coming to the online chats.
My A is currently gone tho still driving me insane via the telephone til I finally turned it off. I hope...
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missylost
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Thinking too much
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I realized today that I really do love my husband but I cut my feelings off so completely when he is using that I don't "know" that I love him. Is that sick? It is so sad for me when he starts using that I just fall apart and then to pick myself up again I "hate" him again. This is very damagi...
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If it walks like a duck...
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I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT
Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...
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Leaving the City of Regret
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Morning ((((((((Group)))))))
Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...
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Merry Christmas
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I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked.
Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14
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Trying to post this again...
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15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time:
Mission Impossible" theme.
12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats!
13 Hide in a clothing...
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EXPECTATIONS & HOLIDAYS
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One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...
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Why I remain with an active alcoholic/addict
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My dear friends in recovery;
Here are some basic facts about me.
1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...
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What is he doing???
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Hey guys
Hope everyone is well
Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!!
It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...
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unreasonable-women's issues
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this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...
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got caught
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My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...
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Holding myself Back----RAMBLE
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Hi, I have been on a long hiatus (sp.?) from the boards. But have to get into counseling to untangle many threads. Medication changes, too. Seems like I hold myself back, and I do not even know the reasons why. Husband is sober, but I still h...
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STUCK in the middle
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I could use some insight of those who have grown up in alcoholic families or who have been stuck in the middle of parents. People who were stuck in the middle, between the angry mother and father. Those who were constantly put in between the parents … divorced or not.
I have no experience on being in thi...
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sandie123
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The Manipulator
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My a called me on our son's cell phone Sunday because he knows I'll answer if I see it's our son. During our "Chat" I requested that he contribute to our cell phone bill. He refused because I got the phones and he doesn't have\want one. But he was talking on one of them! When I told him to forget it, it isn...
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December Music
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www.alighthouse.com/dec.htm ENJOY! (May have to type in)
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wallsal55
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just in need of a hug
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christmas is just too hard on me this yr..want to move on to Jan, but it wouldn't be fair to the kids..money is not here..struggling, tired of it all, and worn out..just need a hug, that isn't there...happy holidays..well, wouldn't say that, but have a nice one anyway...kat
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interested in my a's sober friend
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The strangest thing has happened. My a and I were away with friends last weekend and my a has one sober friend (more of a friend of a friend). Everyone in the group was totally trashed the entire trip except me and this nice guy. I met him recently at a birthday party, and spent much of the trip talking to him...
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liliana
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support system
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When I first came to Alanon I only had my mom and my sister for my support system. Then when I came to Alanon on went online who the told me to get into a face to face group. Then I meet two of the most awsome people who are online an have help me alot. One is my best friend and the other is my sponsor. However one of...
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Funny email I got today - hope it makes everyone laugh
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15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time:
Mission Impossible" theme.
12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats!
13 Hide in a clothi...
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Cyn
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Forget it...:(
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I tried to post something really funny but only half of it wants to go up even though it all pastes perfectly onto my post
That makes me sad - it really made me laugh :(
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Cyn
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I DID IT
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I have come along way. Yesterday I came home and did my wash that is a great thing in itself. I have problems doing my wash. I have waited months to do it. I have done it every week since I wash my clothes on Friday of Thanksgiving. Then I took a shower which I have had problems doing that as well. So that is two g...
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Ex I think has been calling
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We had our staff meeting at work today - and the front desk person brought it up in the meeting that lately noone has been able to find me in the building. Usually noone is ever looking for me and never needs to know when I am in - but they say I keep getting alot of calls. Funny how the calls reall...
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Cyn
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Chistmas Request
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The Miracles In Progress Recovery House in Wilmington, NC has eight men living in it who are in the early stages of recovery from alcoholism and/or addiction. They do not appear to have family or friends from which to gain healthy holiday wishes. As we all know, the holidays can be a hard t...
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John
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One more time...
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1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking.
Mission Impossible" theme.
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Cyn
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give up...give in...let go...sounds soo easy huh????
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Subject: Step Three
"Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." Many of us have confused ideas about what it means to surrender to the care of God. Anyone who has battled with control issues may have a hard time giving up, giving in, and lettin...
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question
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can someone tell me what exactly the mip house is?
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Keep plugging through...
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Hello Group
Last night my a and I started working on the book that our therapist suggested. We were only supposed to get together on it for 15-20 minutes, but it dragged on because I wanted to share with him the skills I have been working on for parenting. So, before we even start he smokes...
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Cherish........Quote for Today
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Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate accomplishments.---Napoleon Hill
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wallsal55
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Happy Birthday Lucy
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Hope you have a great day !!!
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Robinks
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Don't know what to do
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Good morning to all. If you can't tell by my username, I am a 28 year old daughter of an alcoholic, actually, of 2, in my opinion. My father is an alcoholic, but I am not considering him a raging alcoholic. My father has been drinking for years on end, having a rum and coke e...
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DaddysLilGirl
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Surprise Visit
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I got a phone call last night from a friend who popped back into town for the night (he lives in Delaware now) and wanted to know if I wanted to go out. I had SOOOO much work to do for my new business and was totally exhausted so I declined and said I might go out tonight instead. About 10pm I saw a h...
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Cyn
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Christmas Eve is my anniversary....
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Hi Alanon friends,
My recovering A husband and I will be married 32 years on Christmas Eve. We married on that day because of convenience not out of religion, etc. He told me a year ago November that he wanted out of the marriage, he wanted a divorce, and that his quest was for his own happiness. H...
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nmike
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How am I going to get through this?
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Hi everyone,
I really could use some support.
I've been having a rough time lately. My husband, who was nearly 20 years sober started drinking again last winter. He wouldn't do it often--in the spring it was more often and more serious. The reason he started, was because some...
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allikat
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A Spiritual Experience
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I really want to share an experience I had Saturday morning. I've been working my NA program very intensely this past week and so many suggestions are the same in Al Anon such as Just for Today and the theme of taking one day at a time. If you're thinking of the past or projecting into t...
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KathyS
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I'm allowing myself to be held hostage
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I’m just trying to get through just one day at a time. I feel like I’m being held hostage by the love and concern for my kids. And fear of letting them out of my life. My ex asked me to stay in the house until after the holidays. Not that we had agreed I would move out, but a few months ago that’s what she wanted...
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UncleLou
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update
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Hi guys - thanks for the prayers. Turns out the problem I am having with headaches and numbness has a simple solution. Two vertebrae in my neck are rotated and pinching my nerves, causing the numbness in my hands and arms. So I'm going to have x-rays tomorrow, and then on Thursday am going to have them r...
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John/OP_Present
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Hey, your pm is turned off ... they changed it to /umode -m (note the small m rather than capital M)... I need to speak with you again before the op meeting... am in room now or you can call me. Thanks!
Kis
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A friend from this board reached out to me....
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Well, I've been isolating myself and of course as all relapses occur I just went into a downward spiral. Depression has seemed to have gotten the best of me and as a result I have gone back to behaviors that I shouldn't. Found myself on Saturday in a fetal position on the couch in my pyjamas all day and to to...
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Kim
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starfish
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I got this e-mail this morning and it was too nice to pass up sharing~
One morning, I went out for my daily sunrise walk on the beach. Off in the distance, I could see someone pick something up off the beach, wade a little ways into the ocean and then toss the object into the water.
Then, the person,...
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sandie123
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Magpie?
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Are you still out there. I had sent you PM and hadn't heard back from you. Just wanted to know if all is okay?
Hugs Mary
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marmare
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New here and looking for info....
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I am new to this forum and am looking for some help. Does anyone know some good sites that have info on alcoholism and its affects on the person's body and mind? I know I read some stuff before....but it was a long time ago and I need to refresh my memory. My husband is an alcoholic, and until lately I had let h...
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working on step two
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I am working on step two. I am having a hard time doing it. Not knowing what I believe in right now. I am working on the question in the Path to Recovery with my sponsor who is being very patient with me. My past experience being religious is when my father was in the hospital and he was having open heart surge...
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nycbt
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Life feels like it sucks right now
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Well, the infamous captcodee is feeling like crap!
I am tired.
I am mad.
I am playing emotional games with myself that are causing me trouble in all areas of my life. I am upset with myself for getting upset with myself.
I tried to take it easy last night, as I can feel this bubble of irratio...
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captcodee
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Am I getting stronger?
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My husband has been very good. I have been thinking about letting him take the car out and drive it again. Since he is doing so good. Well I talked about it with a couple of people and they have remind me the reason why I took the key in the first place. I have told my self that had a good reason at that time and I n...
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Lyrics
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Everytime I hear the new song by Carrie Underwood, it reminds me to just let go.....here are chorus of the song....
Jesus take the wheel Take it from my hands Cause I can't do this all on my own I'm letting go So give me one more chance To save me from this road I'm on Jesus take the wheel
Hugs Mary
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marmare
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