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For the past week I have been experiencing some female problems that I've never had in my life before. At the beginning of this week timeframe, I looked up these symptoms in my medical book and saw words like "30 to 60% cause of hysterectomies" and "cancer". There went my mind - projecting to all the horrible things it might be, that I might have to go thru. Complete and total reacting, causing a lot of fear and upset.
Rather than keep this fear to myself, I began talking in private with other female members, telling them what was going on. Of course what I got was "have you made an appointment with a doctor?" So, yes, I made one, I go today. I realized that I could sit here and project and allow fear to rule me.... or I could respond to the situation by making that appointment and going to find out just what the problem really is.
The funny thing, in talking with someone last night, she said how she and another friend had something similiar happen and all it was, was their hormones being off balance. LOL
Another thing I've noticed, since I made the decision to stop worrying and just go to doc, it seems my stress level has dropped a tad, and I'm not in as much pain as I was. Hmmm, amazing how stress can really affect you physically.
This has truly been a good lesson for me in not allowing myself to project, to respond with self-care action rather than to just react with fear and worry.
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
I need to be reminded of this especially today and the next few days/weeks. Its hard not projecting and thinking of the What Ifs but I need to keep my mind in the here and now.
Kismet, good for you for taking your health into your own hands... ppl often get scared & just avoid! I think it is better to know.
Speaking on "Tension" I picked up a copy of Louise Hay's book Heal Your Body (ISBN#0-937611-35-2) ~ 22 years ago. I keep it inmy purse & refer to it nearly daily, it is like a bible to me, I have so many doodles & markings in there & have bought it & given it to many. I had to glue, rebind & lamenate the outside cover
I have no idea what you are suffering from but under cramps it says: Tension. Fear. Gripping, holding on. Then the Affirmation says: I relax and allow my mind to be peaceful.
Under Female Problems: Denial of the self. Rejection of the feminine principle, rejecting feminity. Then the Affirmation reads: I rejoice in my femaleness. I love being a woman, I love my body.
Here are a few more Affirmations re: female issues w/out giving the negative cause, just if you find any of them helpful...
Divine peace & harmony surround me & indwell me, I am safe, all is well in my world. I am balanced & peaceful in all changes and bless my body with love. I relax and love & approve of myself. I accept my full power as a woman. I an centered & rejoice in life, I flow & let life provide all that I need esaily & comfortably.
This book has helped me for years, love, -K
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Sometimes I WANT to feel bad. I have female problems too, totally associated with PMS and hormones. I crashed my car in an insane rage at my husband once (no damage thank GOD). I was sure that there had to be cancer (the answer to all our anguish sometimes) affecting my hormones or something, cause that so wasn't and isn't me. My husband agreed...LOL
Anyhow, to make a long story straight, i feel better knowing that it is NOT cancer, however my hormones are out of control, and totally rule me if I don't rule them...sound familiar???
I am kind of dissappointed (insanely i know) that it is NOT cancer, at least then I would have a reason to lash out. Now I know how to control it the best i can, too bad, I'd like to strangle someone today...LOL
Thanks to all of you for your replies. You guys are great!
Aron... lmao!!! I can totally relate to that pms rage - had that happen years ago. Was out for a nice Sunday drive with hubby #2 (ex now) and the 3 boys, everything was fine when suddenly I felt that rage surfacing. Absolutely no reason for it, and thankfully I realized it was my pms acting up and I was able to not react to it by being aware of what it was, so our drive wasn't disturbed in any way. But boy oh boy, what a feeling!
It is not just my moods this time. There are some physical things still going on. But we'll see what doc has to say. Could just be my age, natural changes that we go thru, that kinda stuff. Probably is. It ain't fun tho! hahahaha Well, then again, I've had a real good reason to stay off my feet this past week and hubby has been kind about it and taken care of a few things for me that normally I'd have to do, so I shouldn't complain, eh?
Well I will complain... I'm gonna miss the business meeting because my doc appt is at the same time!! Darn! LOL First things first though, right?
Thanks again.... and Cjo, you stole my line! heehee (course I stole it from someone else lmao). Wish you enough too!
Luv, Kis
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
(((kis))) thanks for a great share :) good luck at the dr's today. whenever I run into a medical "snafu" (as I am calling them these days...lol) my sponsor reminds me to just take the next step, and that the dr is "just the messenger"...my HP is already taking care of me. That's a nice way for me to think about it.
(((Kismet))) So very glad to hear you made the appointment
I understand “projecting” now –boy I was very guilty of it and grateful I do get it today.
I am amazed how I am able to practice the Al-Anon principles in my affairs, the outcome is night and day. Makes me “think” where was “I” before –hmm?
Thank you for sharing this and not keeping it to yourself. I so relate to stress affecting us physically, also the feeling I get by keeping things quiet inside (bottled up fears) -How it has the ability to just eat away (does that makes sense?) Anyway, again please keep us posted, and hope you get results if any tests were taken asap, so you will be more at ease with the situation. There’s only one you and your health should be a top priority. Lots of well wishes, tea
Someone once told me and excellent example of hope vs expectations and fear.
This person's daughter is an exceptional athlete. Unfortunately she was playing through pain to continue to help her team. They got to the state finals and it was obvious now that she needed medical attention.
Then went to the primary. He referred them for Xrays. The daughter said, maybe I'll still be able to perform. Xrays, said the same. Trip to the ortho....same going in. She had to miss the state championship. She was upset but she still took it well and accepted at it was what it was.
Her mom on the other hand, was frantic. What if she can never run again? What will the team do w/o her? How will this affect her mentally.
Her mom expected the worst and was a basketcase over it. The daughter kept hopes high but expectations low. Mom had no hopes and expected the worst.
I'm happy to hear your getting this taken care of. I'm also glad to hear that using principles paid dividents for your emotional and physical health as well here.
Good luck and keep us posted if you may. Bob
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You are a perfect child of God and God and I love you just the way you are! (added by me...in that special alanon way)
Plus, I just got reminded (HP nvr sleeps) physicians are just ppl & make mistakes too.