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desperate for help · desperate for help

Hello all! Me again........ Well AH has not drank since monday. I know that it's just a matter of time before he starts up again. He said he quit just to make me happy. (read thread "Am I being mean?) I go to my first f2f tomorrow morning. I am so nervous about it, I don't know why. I guess because...

maresie · maresie

I am so constantly aware that I have spent my entire life absolutely overinvolved in everything but my own life. During the past few weeks a room mate of mine has told me she has written an anonymous letter to her son's supervisor's supervisor about the conduct of his supervisor. I have really really w...

serendipity · serendipity

So, as my other post goes...feels like HP is punishing me directly. Which isn't how I think about my HP at all. Now, the excutor of my father's estate calls. He, the other excutor and the lawyer want to sit down next week. The estate isn't closing because the auctioneer hasn't paid us. So, I have been reci...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have tried really hard to stop yelling and being mean and I am REALLY struggling with it. I'm not sure how to get myself out of this and I'm thinking I'm in a rut where I'm just spinning my wheels and fall right back into the middle of it. My problem is me and I know this but I just can't seem to get it under c...

maresie · maresie

the job I am in is coming to an end (which is a good and a bad thing). I am going for an interview tomorrow afternoon for a job that would be better on some levels. They probably won't pay as much as I am currently getting but the commute would be easier. Please send up a few prayers for me that I get this one. ...

Becky1 · Becky1

This past few months, I have seen so many people dealing with the death of a loved one. P. , lost his mother, age 67, she went into a coma in church and never regained consciousness. B. , her brother went fishing Thanksgiving Day, and was missing until a week ago, when his body was found. M. , her brother in...

serendipity · serendipity

I woke up this morning sad. Feeling really despretly depressed. I started praying before I even opened my eyes. I prayed and cried. My ex seemed to be heavy on my mind. My feelings and my confusion. Also, my mother and my best friend"s daughter. Just all the really hard stuff. It was just there as I w...

concerned123 · concerned123

I am a new member and new to seeking help, not for myself, but for my long-time boyfriend. He has been drinking since he was 14 and it has taken him down some bad roads in the past. He has admitted to me that he is an alcoholic and has tried AA in the past, but eventually he decided that it was only a problem if...

cindy1359 · cindy1359

My Husband got really drunk last night and was doing his normal yelling and name calling at my 16 year old son and myself. My son had enough of dads name calling and threw something at Dad. The object missed but dad felt that this was his ticket to hit back. He kicked and hit and pushed my son. Today my hu...

omajoy · omajoy

I have been stuffing the drama of last week (EXDIL, grandchild issue, anger) down as deep as I can and doing small things. Dealing with spouse who is sick is enough for anyone to handle without the drama of the -ism, the son, etc. Anyway, here is the first update since EXDIL changed the rules on me: Tod...

Lani · Lani

Thought you would like this: What happens as we practice detachment more and more: "As our consciousness rises, our perspective becomes more and more impersonal. What does this mean? It means we are increasingly able to view our lives and the rest of the world with detachment. This does not mea...

afglin · afglin

Have you heard the new song by the Eagles? It's called One day at a Time. ENJOY! LIN http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9iIq3Tm44A

maresie · maresie

One of the core components of my codependency is feeling stuck and not having good boundaries. I have a room mate as you all know who orchestrated his firing in December. He really played a good number on being shocked the job he was in fired him after he took time off when he was told that was no leave. He...

"Family" members... · Diva

Look...Look! The MIP family now numbers over 4000. Amazing!! Diva

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Its my wedding anniversary today and I need your prayers and good thoughts. Its just so sad. My wedding day really was one of the happiest days of my life. It really was. But its like I bought a ticket to Paris, France and ended up in Paris, TX. somehow. Or worse. I know this is about my expectations again, a...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

really trying to get to grips with old habits and old responses and learning to own my reactions. The further I walk down this path of recovery the more courage I seem to be picking up. To date I have owned a number of reactions that I now see as being OTT or unhealthy or just plain fear-based or learned reac...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Alot of stuff has happened in the last two weeks with AH. It has gotten to the point that I just can handle it anymore. He gave excuse after excuse why he drinks. Finally i told him that he had to choose bewteen his family or the alcohol. I gave him time to think about this. I told him that he if chooses to...

serenity62 · serenity62

January Business Meeting Minutes MIP January Business Meeting Chair opened meeting with the Serenity Prayer. 1st thing on agenda is the current OP Schedule,which was posted. Discussion on empty chairperson slots were discussed. General responsibilities and requirements of chairing an...

round3 · round3

Sometimes I have really strong "how did I get this serenity?" days. Those days are such gifts. Today is not one of them. I have been writing and writing and soul-searching and soul-searching, and reading so many posts on this board...... just trying to understand my "stuff"...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I've been reading the posts about co-workers, and friends and real friends and so on. I've been thinking as I've been reading, "wow, thank god I'm not the only one in a toxic dysfunctional work environment." There's the awkward silences whenever I walk into the crowded break room,...

SLS · SLS

I woke up this morning and it seems to have run away. If anyone has any information about it, I would appreciate it if you would let me know. It was a line from Courage to Change, which is CAL, so I can't imagine that anyone found it objectionable. And, I would hope that if someone did find it objection...

maire rua · maire rua

Over the past few weeks, I have been so resentful, it is unreal. I have huge problems detaching. Ex-A comes in most nights p***** up to the eyeballs, I am not detaching as I should. Am on a diet and have lost 4IBs, he manages to put sweet stuff all around which I find hard to resist so yesterday I dumped it in t...

spirit · spirit

Hi, since it is not cool for me to go out to events without getting accused of something, is there an online Sponsor or is it here in the forum? thank you.

kissers · kissers

If Mr. A. is a social drinker and after a night of drinking he hits Mr. B's parked car, it would be right to blame Mr. A. for that wrong action (hitting the car) because it could very well result in Mr. A. changing his behavior (because Mr. A is a social drinker, he could stop drinking solely because of the co...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have noticed for me that the things that helped me were not things that he did or even things that I did but really just a change in the way that I think about things. I think the most important things for me have been to stop feeling responsible for the way other people feel. I remember being afraid to sa...

optimistundone · optimistundone

I am having a difficult day today. My AH has been asleep for close to 14 hours. He took off work last night. Needless to say, today has been difficult with the baby. She woke up earlier than normal and has been extra cranky b/c she is off schedule. Minimal writing done today. I am angry b/c I have such...

ally · ally

KT Tunstall - Saving My Face Lyrics See The Look On My Face From Staying Too Long In One Place But Every Time I Try To Leave I Find I Keep On Stalling Feel Like A Big Old Stone Standing By A Strength Of My Own But Every Time The Morning Breaks I Know Im Closer To Falling Im All Out Of Love, All Out Of Faith I Would Gi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was thinking about it after I calmed down yesterday and I decided this really wasn't such a bad thing. Don't get me wrong, this completely changes the way I feel about a few people at my job. I had told my boss repeatedly that I wanted to go and asked when they were going, even tried to set up going. She i...

barisax · barisax

Back in the early 90s, I had a rare gift come my way. My alcoholic father died long ago. I never knew him as a younger man - he was already in his 40s and on his second marriage when I was born. My father was, in hindsight, a teenager who never grew up. He could be bitter and sarcastic, smug and irresponsib...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Where have you vanished to?

Codependent · Codependent

Well, the A called this weekend and says he is going down South- running from something and to get a fresh start. Says there are no more fresh starts here anymore. Because of my missing keys I cannot post at home anymore, just wanted to take this time to ask you all to pray that our HP will guide and protec...

souljoy · souljoy

AH woke up after spending all night sleeping on the sofa. He woke up due to the cat wanting out. He got mad at the cat and booted her out of the house. Then he tried to go to bed and the dog had eaten the foam on his bed. So he put the dog in the kennel and is mad. He had been up an hour and a half saying he needs to go to w...

omajoy · omajoy

Well, so here we are just as I predicted. EXDIL just called me and said in response to all my earlier NO statements: "Well, that's OK if you don't drop him off. Which night do you want to pick him up TU or W to visit with him from 3:30 to 7?" I said, "Well, we would like to continue picking hi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just came in from lunch and was talking to one of the girls who is in a similar situation to mine and she was talking about going out dancing last weekend. I have asked her repeatedly to go out and she always says no. Then I come to find out that a large group from work had a "girls night out". I...

debilyn · debilyn

You may not believe this is alanon related but it is. Because of alanon I can remind myself one day at a time, the serenity prayer and more. The service I give to my animal sanctuary is all about my hp. I could not do what i do with out the support of hp. So in saying that, this is a piece of my life...the down and...

spirit · spirit

hi everyone, my head is pounding. i came home and brought dinner only to find drunk and i knew, watch what and how i say things. i bought something for myself and showed him. i was happy today, i got asked Who bought that for you? where did you get it? then it got worse with the tears, him saying i dont care abo...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

Made it through the night without him (AH) and was pretty productive today. Graded a ton of papers and did menial house cleaning that has been neglected. He called tonight and I answered. He wants to come home. He misses his family ( me and his 14 yo son). He feels abandoned again. That's the line t...

mishka · mishka

I'm new here as al-anon person but am a recovering alcoholic - clean and sober since 1986. I am one of five siblings - sister sober fifteenish years, and three brothers; my older brother is a real out there alcoholic, my twin brother just does work and my baby brother does depression, obesity, food and...

omajoy · omajoy

Just finished keeping my grandchild for three days/nights while his mother went out of state to funeral of her grandmother. Son here to help us...no problems. Everyone fine. Last night EXDIL called to say the following: "I need to make some changes. I need for you to take _____ to school day-...

Loupiness · Loupiness

... more than ever I am convinced it is just a setting on the dryer. Last night some friends (two couples) invited me out to dinner. I was in the process of making dinner and they asked me if I could be spontaneous. They had no idea. I was at thier house within 20 minutes! LOL! We have all been friends for...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Let's see... My a brother is sitting in jail tonight. I haven't posted about him because I have been so consumed with my own life, but suffice to say, it sucks! An engineer turned failed entrepreuner, he has a wonderful wife and 5 beautiful kids. A few years ago they were living such a nice life - a Chri...

Alicia · Alicia

AH is going through a relapse after 3 years sober this time. This time around I am feeling just numb. I don't feel the drive to work through it. Does this mean I do not love him? The trust is gone. The last time this was all brought to light by an affair. I felt his sincerity in the desire to change. Wit...

bev · bev

hi all been 9 days since i posted..just need prayers for my daughter and unborn granddaughter.she has 9 weeks to go.but she is having problems..she has already started to dilate she is at 2 centimeters..she has been having lower back pain..the doctor she saw today,said the baby isnt gaining alot of w...

carolena · carolena

Hi, Everyone - I'm glad to be back home from my trip to WV. While there, I read posts when I could but was using library computers most of which were blocked from using forums ugh!). I went there alone and really enjoyed being away from my annoying (dry, not sober) ah. I really neede...

kissers · kissers

I love watching films with Julia Roberts. I especially loved the film, Runaway Bride. There was something about that movie that just resonated with me. Duh!! She grew up having to take care of her alcoholic father and lost herself so much she didn't know who she was, what she liked, what she wanted to do...

TXSusan · TXSusan

I left him August. but not really. The final straw was the day after my father's funeral. My oldest son caught him in the hot tub with "company" while I was still out of town going through my father's home. The AH's reaction? That I should explain to my children that adults are allowed ad...

serendipity · serendipity

I am all 4 at the moment. I am not sure how to start, maybe feed myself. I took the kids to school today as it is so cold here. On my way to drop the 13 yr old I saw a woman running and I thought "wow, that's not very healthy. It's -10 out." But I didn't say anything. I saw her again after dropping the 13y...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have been calling lawyer's offices all afternoon "shopping around" for a reasonable lawyer. I think that might be an oxymoron. I have a few that have said around $500 which I feel is fair considering he's in JAIL and won't be showing up! I would type up the papers and file them myself i...

david62 · david62

The agenda for tonights meeting: January 6TH AGENDA I. OP SCHEDULE A. Updating to current status II. SECRETARY'S REPORT A. Minutes Review/Approval from December Business Mtg. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS (None) V. NEW BUSINESS A. Keeping Meetings Al-Anon based That's what...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...I have been away from the family for the last week because I was struggling with the power of the spoken word...realising that some can be so horribly cruel, others can be so incrediblly healing whilst the absence of a softly spoken word can be devastating. Humility seems to be the one lesson that I a...

omajoy · omajoy

I am so glad to be writing 2008 this week. Last year was the absolutely worst of my 65 year old life. I was so down and out over the holidays with our relationship between us and ex- DIL so bad and the grandbaby the center of our concerns. The past three days we had the child and his daddy (our "binge-p...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

I hear the door opening at 5:30 am. He's sneaking back in again. I go in the living room and ask him to be quieter because our stepson and I are trying to sleep. He gets mad. I walk away and go back to bed. I hear the pill bottles rattling. After a few minutes, AH comes into the bedroom and turns on the li...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

http://www.baltimoresun2.com/talk/showthread.php?t=129863

sadako · sadako

he will be getting out, very shortly. he just called and asked me, "what do you need from me to feel safe if i come home?" i said, i need to know he has a plan to deal with stress far before it comes to feelings of suicide, and also i need to know he has a plan in case he feels suicidal. he says he does ha...

debilyn · debilyn

thank you to the ones who responded to my post. It helped me big time. Paws I liked your joke you nut. Jen it was good to hear from you. How is our beasty Sully? I wish you would at least write us an update what you are up to. cookie you are such warm person. thankyou sooooo much for your words. My home is Potter...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

He came back this afternoon after leaving at 5:30 am for his dad's. I toldhim that I cannot control him or what he does but I can control myself and the things that I do. After some tears, it boils down to that his cousin came and picked him up. He packed up a few bags of clothing and toiletries and is now g...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Lately, my ah has started giving gratitude and apologies for little things that happen, and I don't always know how to respond. The "thank yous" are pretty easy, for "your welcome" is an automatic answer, but I get stuck on the apologies. Examples: Last night my ah came and pick...

sadako · sadako

"blargle" is my word for "i can't believe i just heard that, that is so unbelievable that my brain cells are melting." i called one of my A's friends, a mutual friend who runs a prayer circle. i debated a long time before calling, but i knew i couldn't stay alone with this. so i did it...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Yesterday I met with an attorney for my disability appeal. I told her I did not want to stay on disability the rest of my life but wanted to get my health problems straightened out as much as possible and complete my education that has been strung out over the years while raising two girls by myself. I just...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I just stopped myself from allowing the A to hurt me. I pretended he was about 3 inches tall and under a small glass dome kind of like a bug specimen. Because he was so small he was actually squeaking instead of making adult sounds. How 'bout that? J.

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	Feeling alot of anxiety! (Preview) Hello all! Me again........ Well AH has not drank since monday. I know that it's just a matter of time before he starts up again. He said he quit just to make me happy. (read thread "Am I being mean?) I go to my first f2f tomorrow morning. I am so nervous about it, I don't know why. I guess because...	desperate for help	4	674	Jan 11, 2008 by Jen
	Over involvement. (Preview) I am so constantly aware that I have spent my entire life absolutely overinvolved in everything but my own life. During the past few weeks a room mate of mine has told me she has written an anonymous letter to her son's supervisor's supervisor about the conduct of his supervisor. I have really really w...	maresie	4	637	Jan 11, 2008 by Jen
	I hear y'all (Preview) So, as my other post goes...feels like HP is punishing me directly. Which isn't how I think about my HP at all. Now, the excutor of my father's estate calls. He, the other excutor and the lawyer want to sit down next week. The estate isn't closing because the auctioneer hasn't paid us. So, I have been reci...	serendipity	3	444	Jan 11, 2008 by maresie
	Still having problems with myself and my kids (Preview) So I have tried really hard to stop yelling and being mean and I am REALLY struggling with it. I'm not sure how to get myself out of this and I'm thinking I'm in a rut where I'm just spinning my wheels and fall right back into the middle of it. My problem is me and I know this but I just can't seem to get it under c...	carolinagirl	8	924	Jan 11, 2008 by Loupiness
	prayers needed interview tomorrow afternoon. (Preview) the job I am in is coming to an end (which is a good and a bad thing). I am going for an interview tomorrow afternoon for a job that would be better on some levels. They probably won't pay as much as I am currently getting but the commute would be easier. Please send up a few prayers for me that I get this one. ...	maresie	4	806	Jan 10, 2008 by carolinagirl
	So Much Death, But New Life (Preview) This past few months, I have seen so many people dealing with the death of a loved one. P. , lost his mother, age 67, she went into a coma in church and never regained consciousness. B. , her brother went fishing Thanksgiving Day, and was missing until a week ago, when his body was found. M. , her brother in...	Becky1	5	629	Jan 10, 2008 by gknee
	Why did this happen? (Preview) I woke up this morning sad. Feeling really despretly depressed. I started praying before I even opened my eyes. I prayed and cried. My ex seemed to be heavy on my mind. My feelings and my confusion. Also, my mother and my best friend"s daughter. Just all the really hard stuff. It was just there as I w...	serendipity	9	705	Jan 10, 2008 by nmike
	Please Help! (Preview) I am a new member and new to seeking help, not for myself, but for my long-time boyfriend. He has been drinking since he was 14 and it has taken him down some bad roads in the past. He has admitted to me that he is an alcoholic and has tried AA in the past, but eventually he decided that it was only a problem if...	concerned123	6	684	Jan 10, 2008 by desperate for help
	I am looking for words of wisdom (Preview) My Husband got really drunk last night and was doing his normal yelling and name calling at my 16 year old son and myself. My son had enough of dads name calling and threw something at Dad. The object missed but dad felt that this was his ticket to hit back. He kicked and hit and pushed my son. Today my hu...	cindy1359	12	548	Jan 10, 2008 by maresie
	stuffing the drama (Preview) I have been stuffing the drama of last week (EXDIL, grandchild issue, anger) down as deep as I can and doing small things. Dealing with spouse who is sick is enough for anyone to handle without the drama of the -ism, the son, etc. Anyway, here is the first update since EXDIL changed the rules on me: Tod...	omajoy	8	721	Jan 10, 2008 by omajoy
	PRACTICE DETACHMENT (Preview) Thought you would like this: What happens as we practice detachment more and more: "As our consciousness rises, our perspective becomes more and more impersonal. What does this mean? It means we are increasingly able to view our lives and the rest of the world with detachment. This does not mea...	Lani	3	477	Jan 10, 2008 by Codependent
	song-One day at a Time (Preview) Have you heard the new song by the Eagles? It's called One day at a Time. ENJOY! LIN http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9iIq3Tm44A	afglin	2	371	Jan 10, 2008 by Jean4444
	moving away from rather than towards (Preview) One of the core components of my codependency is feeling stuck and not having good boundaries. I have a room mate as you all know who orchestrated his firing in December. He really played a good number on being shocked the job he was in fired him after he took time off when he was told that was no leave. He...	maresie	1	565	Jan 10, 2008 by Jen
	"Family" members... (Preview) Look...Look! The MIP family now numbers over 4000. Amazing!! Diva	Diva	7	583	Jan 10, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Wedding Anniversary (Preview) Its my wedding anniversary today and I need your prayers and good thoughts. Its just so sad. My wedding day really was one of the happiest days of my life. It really was. But its like I bought a ticket to Paris, France and ended up in Paris, TX. somehow. Or worse. I know this is about my expectations again, a...	Jean4444	10	538	Jan 10, 2008 by Jean4444
	Owning my reactions... (Preview) really trying to get to grips with old habits and old responses and learning to own my reactions. The further I walk down this path of recovery the more courage I seem to be picking up. To date I have owned a number of reactions that I now see as being OTT or unhealthy or just plain fear-based or learned reac...	Heartbroken	1	498	Jan 10, 2008 by Jen
	Am I being mean? (Preview) Alot of stuff has happened in the last two weeks with AH. It has gotten to the point that I just can handle it anymore. He gave excuse after excuse why he drinks. Finally i told him that he had to choose bewteen his family or the alcohol. I gave him time to think about this. I told him that he if chooses to...	desperate for help	20	786	Jan 10, 2008 by optimistundone
	January Business Meeting Minutes: (Preview) January Business Meeting Minutes MIP January Business Meeting Chair opened meeting with the Serenity Prayer. 1st thing on agenda is the current OP Schedule,which was posted. Discussion on empty chairperson slots were discussed. General responsibilities and requirements of chairing an...	serenity62	0	383	Jan 10, 2008 by serenity62
	Overcome or Accept? (Preview) Sometimes I have really strong "how did I get this serenity?" days. Those days are such gifts. Today is not one of them. I have been writing and writing and soul-searching and soul-searching, and reading so many posts on this board...... just trying to understand my "stuff"...	round3	7	475	Jan 9, 2008 by round3
	posts past couple of days re work (Preview) I've been reading the posts about co-workers, and friends and real friends and so on. I've been thinking as I've been reading, "wow, thank god I'm not the only one in a toxic dysfunctional work environment." There's the awkward silences whenever I walk into the crowded break room,...	Tiger2006	5	693	Jan 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	Has anyone seen my signature, I think it ran away.... (Preview) I woke up this morning and it seems to have run away. If anyone has any information about it, I would appreciate it if you would let me know. It was a line from Courage to Change, which is CAL, so I can't imagine that anyone found it objectionable. And, I would hope that if someone did find it objection...	SLS	3	587	Jan 9, 2008 by Jen
	feeling so resentful (Preview) Over the past few weeks, I have been so resentful, it is unreal. I have huge problems detaching. Ex-A comes in most nights p***** up to the eyeballs, I am not detaching as I should. Am on a diet and have lost 4IBs, he manages to put sweet stuff all around which I find hard to resist so yesterday I dumped it in t...	maire rua	3	394	Jan 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	Is there such a thing as Online Sponsers? (Preview) Hi, since it is not cool for me to go out to events without getting accused of something, is there an online Sponsor or is it here in the forum? thank you.	spirit	3	557	Jan 9, 2008 by nycbt
	Now I understand but it still doesn't take away the anger and hurt (Preview) If Mr. A. is a social drinker and after a night of drinking he hits Mr. B's parked car, it would be right to blame Mr. A. for that wrong action (hitting the car) because it could very well result in Mr. A. changing his behavior (because Mr. A is a social drinker, he could stop drinking solely because of the co...	kissers	2	543	Jan 9, 2008 by Jen
	The way we think about things. (Preview) I have noticed for me that the things that helped me were not things that he did or even things that I did but really just a change in the way that I think about things. I think the most important things for me have been to stop feeling responsible for the way other people feel. I remember being afraid to sa...	carolinagirl	5	675	Jan 8, 2008 by Jen
	Expectations and Anger (Preview) I am having a difficult day today. My AH has been asleep for close to 14 hours. He took off work last night. Needless to say, today has been difficult with the baby. She woke up earlier than normal and has been extra cranky b/c she is off schedule. Minimal writing done today. I am angry b/c I have such...	optimistundone	7	634	Jan 8, 2008 by possible future
	LISTEN TO THIS SONG:: (Preview) KT Tunstall - Saving My Face Lyrics See The Look On My Face From Staying Too Long In One Place But Every Time I Try To Leave I Find I Keep On Stalling Feel Like A Big Old Stone Standing By A Strength Of My Own But Every Time The Morning Breaks I Know Im Closer To Falling Im All Out Of Love, All Out Of Faith I Would Gi...	ally	6	574	Jan 8, 2008 by getoverit
	You know what? (Preview) I was thinking about it after I calmed down yesterday and I decided this really wasn't such a bad thing. Don't get me wrong, this completely changes the way I feel about a few people at my job. I had told my boss repeatedly that I wanted to go and asked when they were going, even tried to set up going. She i...	carolinagirl	4	633	Jan 8, 2008 by Jen
	My Crazy Uncle (Preview) Back in the early 90s, I had a rare gift come my way. My alcoholic father died long ago. I never knew him as a younger man - he was already in his 40s and on his second marriage when I was born. My father was, in hindsight, a teenager who never grew up. He could be bitter and sarcastic, smug and irresponsib...	barisax	3	537	Jan 8, 2008 by round3
	Kim 65 (Preview) Where have you vanished to?	carolinagirl	5	799	Jan 8, 2008 by Jen
	He says he is leavin...please pray (Preview) Well, the A called this weekend and says he is going down South- running from something and to get a fresh start. Says there are no more fresh starts here anymore. Because of my missing keys I cannot post at home anymore, just wanted to take this time to ask you all to pray that our HP will guide and protec...	Codependent	10	860	Jan 8, 2008 by Codependent
	Not Sure What to do (Preview) AH woke up after spending all night sleeping on the sofa. He woke up due to the cat wanting out. He got mad at the cat and booted her out of the house. Then he tried to go to bed and the dog had eaten the foam on his bed. So he put the dog in the kennel and is mad. He had been up an hour and a half saying he needs to go to w...	souljoy	4	632	Jan 8, 2008 by debilyn
	drama outcome---not good (Preview) Well, so here we are just as I predicted. EXDIL just called me and said in response to all my earlier NO statements: "Well, that's OK if you don't drop him off. Which night do you want to pick him up TU or W to visit with him from 3:30 to 7?" I said, "Well, we would like to continue picking hi...	omajoy	10	642	Jan 8, 2008 by greta
	I'm really hurt right now (Preview) I just came in from lunch and was talking to one of the girls who is in a similar situation to mine and she was talking about going out dancing last weekend. I have asked her repeatedly to go out and she always says no. Then I come to find out that a large group from work had a "girls night out". I...	carolinagirl	11	772	Jan 8, 2008 by DD
	beware explicit pig story (c: (Preview) You may not believe this is alanon related but it is. Because of alanon I can remind myself one day at a time, the serenity prayer and more. The service I give to my animal sanctuary is all about my hp. I could not do what i do with out the support of hp. So in saying that, this is a piece of my life...the down and...	debilyn	8	709	Jan 7, 2008 by debilyn
	I hate the weekends (Preview) hi everyone, my head is pounding. i came home and brought dinner only to find drunk and i knew, watch what and how i say things. i bought something for myself and showed him. i was happy today, i got asked Who bought that for you? where did you get it? then it got worse with the tears, him saying i dont care abo...	spirit	10	575	Jan 7, 2008 by spirit
	He says he feels abandoned (Preview) Made it through the night without him (AH) and was pretty productive today. Graded a ton of papers and did menial house cleaning that has been neglected. He called tonight and I answered. He wants to come home. He misses his family ( me and his 14 yo son). He feels abandoned again. That's the line t...	Lost but still trying	7	847	Jan 7, 2008 by gknee
	new/hurting. (Preview) I'm new here as al-anon person but am a recovering alcoholic - clean and sober since 1986. I am one of five siblings - sister sober fifteenish years, and three brothers; my older brother is a real out there alcoholic, my twin brother just does work and my baby brother does depression, obesity, food and...	mishka	5	824	Jan 7, 2008 by mishka
	drama continues (Preview) Just finished keeping my grandchild for three days/nights while his mother went out of state to funeral of her grandmother. Son here to help us...no problems. Everyone fine. Last night EXDIL called to say the following: "I need to make some changes. I need for you to take _____ to school day-...	omajoy	6	607	Jan 7, 2008 by carolinagirl
	What is normal anyhow? (Preview) ... more than ever I am convinced it is just a setting on the dryer. Last night some friends (two couples) invited me out to dinner. I was in the process of making dinner and they asked me if I could be spontaneous. They had no idea. I was at thier house within 20 minutes! LOL! We have all been friends for...	Loupiness	4	541	Jan 7, 2008 by gknee
	What a night! (Preview) Let's see... My a brother is sitting in jail tonight. I haven't posted about him because I have been so consumed with my own life, but suffice to say, it sucks! An engineer turned failed entrepreuner, he has a wonderful wife and 5 beautiful kids. A few years ago they were living such a nice life - a Chri...	Loupiness	3	607	Jan 7, 2008 by serendipity
	Have I fallen out of love with him...or is it the alcoholism (Preview) AH is going through a relapse after 3 years sober this time. This time around I am feeling just numb. I don't feel the drive to work through it. Does this mean I do not love him? The trust is gone. The last time this was all brought to light by an affair. I felt his sincerity in the desire to change. Wit...	Alicia	7	785	Jan 7, 2008 by Alicia
	prayers needed (Preview) hi all been 9 days since i posted..just need prayers for my daughter and unborn granddaughter.she has 9 weeks to go.but she is having problems..she has already started to dilate she is at 2 centimeters..she has been having lower back pain..the doctor she saw today,said the baby isnt gaining alot of w...	bev	11	738	Jan 7, 2008 by mel123
	Carolena's back (Preview) Hi, Everyone - I'm glad to be back home from my trip to WV. While there, I read posts when I could but was using library computers most of which were blocked from using forums ugh!). I went there alone and really enjoyed being away from my annoying (dry, not sober) ah. I really neede...	carolena	5	613	Jan 6, 2008 by Jerry F
	Funny Realization (Preview) I love watching films with Julia Roberts. I especially loved the film, Runaway Bride. There was something about that movie that just resonated with me. Duh!! She grew up having to take care of her alcoholic father and lost herself so much she didn't know who she was, what she liked, what she wanted to do...	kissers	6	1244	Jan 6, 2008 by Jerry F
	Addicted to the Adict? (Preview) I left him August. but not really. The final straw was the day after my father's funeral. My oldest son caught him in the hot tub with "company" while I was still out of town going through my father's home. The AH's reaction? That I should explain to my children that adults are allowed ad...	TXSusan	4	558	Jan 6, 2008 by Just For Now
	H.A.L.T......vent (Preview) I am all 4 at the moment. I am not sure how to start, maybe feed myself. I took the kids to school today as it is so cold here. On my way to drop the 13 yr old I saw a woman running and I thought "wow, that's not very healthy. It's -10 out." But I didn't say anything. I saw her again after dropping the 13y...	serendipity	8	451	Jan 6, 2008 by Just For Now
	Feeling DRAINED and IRRITATED (Preview) So I have been calling lawyer's offices all afternoon "shopping around" for a reasonable lawyer. I think that might be an oxymoron. I have a few that have said around $500 which I feel is fair considering he's in JAIL and won't be showing up! I would type up the papers and file them myself i...	carolinagirl	8	562	Jan 6, 2008 by Just For Now
	Business Meeting Tonight - 9 pm EST (Preview) The agenda for tonights meeting: January 6TH AGENDA I. OP SCHEDULE A. Updating to current status II. SECRETARY'S REPORT A. Minutes Review/Approval from December Business Mtg. III. TREASURER'S REPORT IV. OLD BUSINESS (None) V. NEW BUSINESS A. Keeping Meetings Al-Anon based That's what...	david62	0	413	Jan 6, 2008 by david62
	The power of the spoken word.... (Preview) ...I have been away from the family for the last week because I was struggling with the power of the spoken word...realising that some can be so horribly cruel, others can be so incrediblly healing whilst the absence of a softly spoken word can be devastating. Humility seems to be the one lesson that I a...	Heartbroken	3	558	Jan 6, 2008 by Maria123
	purging 2007 (Preview) I am so glad to be writing 2008 this week. Last year was the absolutely worst of my 65 year old life. I was so down and out over the holidays with our relationship between us and ex- DIL so bad and the grandbaby the center of our concerns. The past three days we had the child and his daddy (our "binge-p...	omajoy	8	456	Jan 6, 2008 by Just For Now
	Gone (Preview) I hear the door opening at 5:30 am. He's sneaking back in again. I go in the living room and ask him to be quieter because our stepson and I are trying to sleep. He gets mad. I walk away and go back to bed. I hear the pill bottles rattling. After a few minutes, AH comes into the bedroom and turns on the li...	Lost but still trying	2	426	Jan 6, 2008 by Karilynn
	Bathing in ignorance (Preview) http://www.baltimoresun2.com/talk/showthread.php?t=129863	wbfox58	4	581	Jan 6, 2008 by carolena
	he's out of the hospital (Preview) he will be getting out, very shortly. he just called and asked me, "what do you need from me to feel safe if i come home?" i said, i need to know he has a plan to deal with stress far before it comes to feelings of suicide, and also i need to know he has a plan in case he feels suicidal. he says he does ha...	sadako	10	698	Jan 6, 2008 by Lost but still trying
	brrrrr frozen Eden (Preview) thank you to the ones who responded to my post. It helped me big time. Paws I liked your joke you nut. Jen it was good to hear from you. How is our beasty Sully? I wish you would at least write us an update what you are up to. cookie you are such warm person. thankyou sooooo much for your words. My home is Potter...	debilyn	1	484	Jan 6, 2008 by Christy
	Surreal (Preview) He came back this afternoon after leaving at 5:30 am for his dad's. I toldhim that I cannot control him or what he does but I can control myself and the things that I do. After some tears, it boils down to that his cousin came and picked him up. He packed up a few bags of clothing and toiletries and is now g...	Lost but still trying	5	535	Jan 5, 2008 by carolinagirl
	How to respond? (Preview) Lately, my ah has started giving gratitude and apologies for little things that happen, and I don't always know how to respond. The "thank yous" are pretty easy, for "your welcome" is an automatic answer, but I get stuck on the apologies. Examples: Last night my ah came and pick...	Loupiness	7	643	Jan 5, 2008 by serendipity
	blargle! (Preview) "blargle" is my word for "i can't believe i just heard that, that is so unbelievable that my brain cells are melting." i called one of my A's friends, a mutual friend who runs a prayer circle. i debated a long time before calling, but i knew i couldn't stay alone with this. so i did it...	sadako	4	494	Jan 5, 2008 by sadako
	Overcoming the fear (Preview) Yesterday I met with an attorney for my disability appeal. I told her I did not want to stay on disability the rest of my life but wanted to get my health problems straightened out as much as possible and complete my education that has been strung out over the years while raising two girls by myself. I just...	Tenderheartsks	8	602	Jan 5, 2008 by sadako
	It works if you work it... (Preview) I just stopped myself from allowing the A to hurt me. I pretended he was about 3 inches tall and under a small glass dome kind of like a bug specimen. Because he was so small he was actually squeaking instead of making adult sounds. How 'bout that? J.	Jean4444	7	729	Jan 5, 2008 by sadako
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