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Confronted Meeting Member · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone I'm working through some feelings after confronting a guy in my meeting about inappropriate behavior towards me. I have set a boundary with him and been clear but he is attention seeking and continues to ignore my personal boundary. Another member confronted him recently with our dist...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about one of the early lessons many of us learn in AlAnon - we do not need to tolerate unacceptable behavior. The author shares that they learned early in the program that they need not tolerate violence or abuse, and that they had choices they had not recognized be...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, February 19 speaks about attending alanon meetings: learning how to listen to others and to our own inner voice so we can make our own decisions. The reading point out alanon members do not give advise nor tell anyone to leave a marriage even if the situation appears ho...

texas yankee · texas yankee

If you are completely happy with your spiritual situation and have a rock-solid faith in your religious \ spiritual situation of choice, or if you only read conference approved literature, this recommendation probably isn't for you - but if you're like I was (faith challenged, constantly questio...

Junipurr · Junipurr

Hi allI am in a full out codependency relapse. I know I need to get back to face to face meetings. It feels awkward to go back. My AH has a past history of being a mean, obnoxious drunk and got sober in 2010 when he worked a rigorous AA program with a sponsor, a 90/90, he even sponsored someone.He stopped goin...

JerryF · JerryF

We had a newbie...1st meeting...sitting and listening and when it was my time to share I welcomed her and in the process offered the groups support including the other women in the group. The reaction of one old timer was resistance, telling me to stop and not say the women of the group might be avail...

Naomippb · Naomippb

My husband is an alcoholic. He is currently in rehab for the second time. I really wanted to try alanon last time he was treatment and went to one of the two meetings in my town. I was the only person under the age of 70, so to say the least I was out of place and did not like the vibe. It was very monotone and I was...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, Alanon in my neck of the woods was much the same as Alanon everywhere. Some trends have come and gone. But the best and most workable have been retained. The group was my sponsor for the first 10 years. Somehow there was a conscience meeting about sponsors. [I was not there]. And the meet...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Valentine's Day to one and all. Today's reading talks about confusion and that it can be a gift from God. As we look back on times when we felt desperately in need of a fast solution, we can often see that we really weren't ready to act. When we become fully ready, the informat...

joker · joker

I officially hit bottom. The crisis around me continues to overwhelm me. Last week, it was hell. I had to see the doctor and got bad news about my health condition. The doctor said I can not return to work. Not now, I may never be able to because of my health issue. I am being sent to another specialist for fo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/18, says that the daily practice of the alanon program helps the author be more tolerant of others. They began recognizing that they had similar shortcomings so easily to see in others. The author said: If my perceptions of myself have been so inaccurate, how reliable can...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's ODAT reading points out that hearing an Al-Anon member expressing gratitude is encouraging to those who are still feeling hopeless. It goes on to say that when we begin to worry less, we can see more of the beauty of the world. It helps when we can deal only with the problems that are ours, and no...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our perception and how it may change over time and through our work in the program. The writer describes how having grown up in an alcoholic family contributed to seeing the negative in situations first. Even the slogans had a negative connotation: h...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I may be late to this 'party' but stumbled upon a site that posts daily Al-Anon 'things'... I was away from my computer, and did a quick search for Al-Anon thought for the day, and got this: http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html I am one who is always willing to use any/every tool I can fi...

Twinkies · Twinkies

There are days when I really feel like Ive got this...Im going along, working the steps, making progress, and feeling proud of myself. Then...BAM! Something happens and all the old feelings come back. I become filled with anger, resentment, disappointment, frustration. I struggle to push those f...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I've posted here on and off for a few years, usually looking for ESH when the disease was particularly troublesome for my adult son - I like going to meetings, and I use the phone lists that I've acquired over the years, but sometimes collecting my thoughts here at the keyboard works pretty good and, LOL...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

The high point of our year is about here. It's an AA function, but there's lots of Alanon participation at it. I've been attending it for 21 years and we [my wife and I] have been attending as a couple for 20 years. We'll be taking in as many of the Alanon meetings as we can. Some of the guys I sponsor have teen...

TamSam07 · TamSam07

Who all will be attending the women's conference March 15-17? Has anyone been to Camp Canyon in Hinton, OK before? They say to bring linens, soap, towels and pillow but is there anything else that anyone would also recommend to bring? I can't find any pictures of the lodging anywhere online, just t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reminds us that each AlAnon member, like each snowflake, is different and unique. Although we share a common problem that brings us together, each of us is an individual with individual gifts, challenges, and situations. The author shares that comparing themselve...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I just realized today that this month is my 10 year Al-Anon anniversary. What a journey it has been! Without Al-Anon, I don't know how I would have survived those first four years. And these last six have enabled me to look at challenges with a new lens. I stop and think before I react and try to not start, n...

wenyuan · wenyuan

Hello all, This is Wenyuan from South Georgia. A grateful member of Al-Anon, I have been checking out this message bulletin regularly and this is my first post. Since I started my recovery two months ago, I have been absorbing the gracious teachings of this wonderful fellowship through literatur...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/11, talks about the author setting three goals from Tradition Five. First, to work the steps for themself, next, to have compassion for alcoholics, and finally, to have compassion for those who come to alanon. The author said: I know that I was pulled from despair by the lo...

hotrod · hotrod

I will be out of town Monday and part of Tuesday so I am posting the Tuesday reading a day early -- forgive me. The ODAT reading for today, February12 speaks about the art of listening at a meeting and still not truly absorbing what is said. The reading suggests that we use the slogan; "think" as this s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, I was born in 1951- at the height of the baby boom. Most of the males in my family, plus my grandmother had seen military service. I doubt of this had been the downfall of my family structure. I think that is had always been there. I was the oldest of 5 kids. I saw mum and dad, perhaps at their b...

Freetime · Freetime

Yesterday I participated in our Al-Anon district's all-day conference, and I was looking for a place to just sit and be quiet for a while. There was quiet meditation room, but when I went there it wasn't quiet enough for me. I looked at the workshop schedule and decided to go to the session that was host...

Jen · Jen

I don't know where to start, here. I haven't been here for awhile, but my local face2face meeting has closed and I can't get to meetings in another town. It's just too far to drive. My son is struggling. I think maybe with a bit of depression, or just being overwhelmed by being 18 and having to become an ad...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: I read the first line of todays reading and thought: this is about me! The writer describes two roles he/she played in the family growing up: caretaker and fixer. Some of the details are different, in that the writer often had to care for his/her mother, and that definitely was...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLife didn't promise to be wonderful. ---Teddy PendergrassLife doesn't promise us anything, except a chance. We have a chance to live any way we like. No matter how we choose to live, we'll have pain and we'll have joy. And we can learn from both.Because of our recovery program, we can hav...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please join in and share you experience Here is he link https://stepwo...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hello everyone, Sometimes that's been troubling me for a while in Al-Anon meetings is the chant at the end. Is this normal? I love saying the serenity prayer after meetings, I find that really peaceful and will always have a special place for me. But then after the serenity prayer, in the meetin...

Freetime · Freetime

The ODAT reading for February 8 recalls first coming into Al-Anon and being surprised that the people in the meeting were smiling and cheerful. We think those people must not have problems like ours -- until we find out that they do, and some are facing much worse problems. By listening, we discover w...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So, I guess my X actually did have a come to Jesus moment because come to find out he had 2 incidents at home and then another one in the ER at that point he flat lined. The kids talked to him last Wednesday and basically my oldest made the statement that ok mom, this is the first conversation I have ever had w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about self-care and personal well-being. There are many suggestions on actions to consider - all of which can/will contribute to improving well-being. As we consider and go about our day in recovery, we come to realize that small steps are the beginning of growth, and usual...

gloves808 · gloves808

Hi all! It's been a few weeks since I updated. There have been so many positives changes. I've been seeing a therapist, and we gave our first couples therapy session a try just last night. I learned something vital. You cannot be a true team if you and your partner are not completely open, honest, and com...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/4 discusses the authors feeling that when they are unhappy, they think God is punishing them. The author finds it helpful to call their sponsor, read literature, go to extra meetings, and be around nature. The author then feels the healing touch of HP. Reminder: When fac...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, 2-5-2019 speaks about working to uncover our shortcomings. This difficult task,.the reading suggest has a reward , because as we uncover our defects we also discover our assets which are hidden under these defects. The reading suggests that we appreciate thes...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! With apologies for the lateness: Today's reading in Courage to Change is about a piece of advice that many new members hear when they start the program. Rather than being told to "throw the bum out," today's author was met with the advice to make no major changes or decisions for the first 6...

wp · wp

Mip meeting tonight Wednesday Feb. 6 at 9 p eastern time. Looking forward to Edna's chair service tonight.

Twinkies · Twinkies

As I continue to change and grow, Im beginning to see and feel fear from my AH. I understand. This is all scary for me too. I dont know what the next step will be. Ive been working on myself privately without any discussion with him about it but he knows things are changing. He wont come right out and ask thou...

JerryF · JerryF

I didn't really didn't want to be in and or around Al-Anon and especially AA when tagging behind my alcoholic/addict wife I found myself kinda in and around the rooms. Truthfully I hated it and influence from her sponsor kinda sorta also cause me to appear the good guy so I did a meeting or two without a...

joker · joker

I am nearing a breaking point again. I am feeling so tired, exhausted. I know its my fault for not setting boundaries. The sober man I have been spending time with is becoming a burden to me. I find being with him, a complete drain. He has so many unresolved issues of his past and being disabled as well, is i...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The kids wanted some friends over today. I knew AH would be drinking so I told them they could have them over for a couple of hours but that they couldnt stay the night. When AH found out they werent staying over he asked me why. I started to hem-haw around but he pushed so I was honest with him. I told him I did...

Conflicted · Conflicted

Hi Everyone, I was wondering if anyone could explain what acting "as if", looks like in action/real life? I read this today, Perhaps we feel 12 years old, instead of 42. To consciously behave like a responsible 42-year-old is out of the question. Acting "as if", is the next best thing, the program te...

Conflicted · Conflicted

Curious does AlAnon have any literature approaching this related to within meetings? Are there official guidelines related to cross talk? -- Edited by Conflicted on Friday 18th of January 2019 12:33:56 AM

Conflicted · Conflicted

Hi, Where can answers to these questions be found in our literature? (TIA)What is AlAnon's position on members bringing kids fundraisers for schools, bands, sports, etc..in to meeting rooms before, during and after meetings? What is AlAnon's position on members bringing in home business ite...

Freetime · Freetime

Last night at my home group meeting, we had a newcomer, and this was only her second meeting. She is trying to understand what Al-Anon is all about. She asked a question, "So, is the meaning of this program that we can all become better people?" I thought that was a great way of looking at us. What do you a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a description of acceptance. The writer describes being given a stuffed toy that ultimately does a number on his/her self esteem because the child is told the gift was given because of his/her resemblance to the toy. Over time, and with the help of a sponsor...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I'm going up my work street getting ready to go into left lane and I see these really nice young ladies, stopped in the road and I look and its a gorgeous white husky doggie that they hit.....I stopped and asked if i could help lthem, call someone, just assist...They said they called animal services He wo...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

For the past 6 months my husband has been in and out of detox and sober living. He only lived at home for about a week in October. We have 2 kids (7 and 11). He was a heavy drinker for a long time and I know that recovery will take a long time. Some days are good- he's happy, patient, and positive. Other days he...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the power of humility as we work the steps of recovery. The author shares that after working the program zealously for over a year, there was frustration over continued lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give wanted emotional suppo...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello. MIP, and welcome to February! In today's reading, the author had stopped enabling an alcoholic, and then felt frustrated because the drinking didn't stop. They wondered what they had done wrong. Then they realized that they were still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms. In Al-...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My niece's daughter arrived this morning! I am over the moon! I don't know when I will see her but I am excited!

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP - I haven't written an update in a while, so here goes! My XAH has almost disappeared over the last 6 months - ever since he got his share of the house money he has been on a very quick downward spiral from alcoholism into drug addiction as well. I wrote a while ago discussing my struggle with the deci...

mamalioness · mamalioness

A Brother calls me today and I am driving home from work, so the bluetooth rings and I see its him.....I hit answer and we talk He told me a boat owner fired him "temporary layoff" he said because "I acted out while drinking" so I listen and he goes on to say that its "not my fault..the guys an A*****e!!!! ...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Life Happens. No matter who we are, where we are, how we are, life happens. It's taken me some time to recenter after my son's recent relapse. I am not 'perfect' nor did I desire to be so but I did find peace through this spiritual program. I even made multiple plans this coming week and was really exci...

norasq · norasq

I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...

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	Confronted Meeting Member (Preview) Hi Everyone I'm working through some feelings after confronting a guy in my meeting about inappropriate behavior towards me. I have set a boundary with him and been clear but he is attention seeking and continues to ignore my personal boundary. Another member confronted him recently with our dist...	tiredtonite	6	3687	Feb 20, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change February 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about one of the early lessons many of us learn in AlAnon - we do not need to tolerate unacceptable behavior. The author shares that they learned early in the program that they need not tolerate violence or abuse, and that they had choices they had not recognized be...	Skorpi	5	2542	Feb 20, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT READING 2-19 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, February 19 speaks about attending alanon meetings: learning how to listen to others and to our own inner voice so we can make our own decisions. The reading point out alanon members do not give advise nor tell anyone to leave a marriage even if the situation appears ho...	hotrod	4	1466	Feb 20, 2019 by DavidG
	Reading recommendation (not conference approved literature) (Preview) If you are completely happy with your spiritual situation and have a rock-solid faith in your religious \ spiritual situation of choice, or if you only read conference approved literature, this recommendation probably isn't for you - but if you're like I was (faith challenged, constantly questio...	texas yankee	4	3594	Feb 19, 2019 by mamalioness
	To gently confront or just say nothing.... (Preview) Hi allI am in a full out codependency relapse. I know I need to get back to face to face meetings. It feels awkward to go back. My AH has a past history of being a mean, obnoxious drunk and got sober in 2010 when he worked a rigorous AA program with a sponsor, a 90/90, he even sponsored someone.He stopped goin...	Junipurr	15	2330	Feb 19, 2019 by Bo
	At my morning meeting (Preview) We had a newbie...1st meeting...sitting and listening and when it was my time to share I welcomed her and in the process offered the groups support including the other women in the group. The reaction of one old timer was resistance, telling me to stop and not say the women of the group might be avail...	JerryF	9	695	Feb 19, 2019 by JerryF
	Online vs traditional meeting (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. He is currently in rehab for the second time. I really wanted to try alanon last time he was treatment and went to one of the two meetings in my town. I was the only person under the age of 70, so to say the least I was out of place and did not like the vibe. It was very monotone and I was...	Naomippb	14	552	Feb 19, 2019 by canadianguy
	Tradition One... (Preview) Hi y'all, Alanon in my neck of the woods was much the same as Alanon everywhere. Some trends have come and gone. But the best and most workable have been retained. The group was my sponsor for the first 10 years. Somehow there was a conscience meeting about sponsors. [I was not there]. And the meet...	DavidG	8	760	Feb 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 2/14/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Valentine's Day to one and all. Today's reading talks about confusion and that it can be a gift from God. As we look back on times when we felt desperately in need of a fast solution, we can often see that we really weren't ready to act. When we become fully ready, the informat...	Iamhere	7	611	Feb 18, 2019 by mamalioness
	Hit bottom (Preview) I officially hit bottom. The crisis around me continues to overwhelm me. Last week, it was hell. I had to see the doctor and got bad news about my health condition. The doctor said I can not return to work. Not now, I may never be able to because of my health issue. I am being sent to another specialist for fo...	joker	6	634	Feb 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 2/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/18, says that the daily practice of the alanon program helps the author be more tolerant of others. They began recognizing that they had similar shortcomings so easily to see in others. The author said: If my perceptions of myself have been so inaccurate, how reliable can...	Lyne	4	397	Feb 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - 2/15/2018 (Preview) Today's ODAT reading points out that hearing an Al-Anon member expressing gratitude is encouraging to those who are still feeling hopeless. It goes on to say that when we begin to worry less, we can see more of the beauty of the world. It helps when we can deal only with the problems that are ours, and no...	Freetime	7	697	Feb 18, 2019 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Feb 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about our perception and how it may change over time and through our work in the program. The writer describes how having grown up in an alcoholic family contributed to seeing the negative in situations first. Even the slogans had a negative connotation: h...	yanksfan51	5	488	Feb 18, 2019 by mamalioness
	Recovery Resource to Share... (Preview) I may be late to this 'party' but stumbled upon a site that posts daily Al-Anon 'things'... I was away from my computer, and did a quick search for Al-Anon thought for the day, and got this: http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html I am one who is always willing to use any/every tool I can fi...	Iamhere	5	2824	Feb 16, 2019 by Iamhere
	Sometimes it’s really hard to not engage (Preview) There are days when I really feel like Ive got this...Im going along, working the steps, making progress, and feeling proud of myself. Then...BAM! Something happens and all the old feelings come back. I become filled with anger, resentment, disappointment, frustration. I struggle to push those f...	Twinkies	12	5094	Feb 16, 2019 by milkwood
	Never lose hope - no matter how bad it gets! (Preview) I've posted here on and off for a few years, usually looking for ESH when the disease was particularly troublesome for my adult son - I like going to meetings, and I use the phone lists that I've acquired over the years, but sometimes collecting my thoughts here at the keyboard works pretty good and, LOL...	texas yankee	22	1011	Feb 14, 2019 by Junipurr
	Conference Time (Preview) The high point of our year is about here. It's an AA function, but there's lots of Alanon participation at it. I've been attending it for 21 years and we [my wife and I] have been attending as a couple for 20 years. We'll be taking in as many of the Alanon meetings as we can. Some of the guys I sponsor have teen...	Wolfie55	3	1533	Feb 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	37th Annual Heart To Heart Women's Conference in Hinton, OK (Preview) Who all will be attending the women's conference March 15-17? Has anyone been to Camp Canyon in Hinton, OK before? They say to bring linens, soap, towels and pillow but is there anything else that anyone would also recommend to bring? I can't find any pictures of the lodging anywhere online, just t...	TamSam07	1	3117	Feb 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change February 13 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reminds us that each AlAnon member, like each snowflake, is different and unique. Although we share a common problem that brings us together, each of us is an individual with individual gifts, challenges, and situations. The author shares that comparing themselve...	Skorpi	5	1605	Feb 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Thankful for 10 Year Al-Anon Anniversary (Preview) I just realized today that this month is my 10 year Al-Anon anniversary. What a journey it has been! Without Al-Anon, I don't know how I would have survived those first four years. And these last six have enabled me to look at challenges with a new lens. I stop and think before I react and try to not start, n...	Green Eyes	9	939	Feb 13, 2019 by hotrod
	Need Your Insights (Preview) Hello all, This is Wenyuan from South Georgia. A grateful member of Al-Anon, I have been checking out this message bulletin regularly and this is my first post. Since I started my recovery two months ago, I have been absorbing the gracious teachings of this wonderful fellowship through literatur...	wenyuan	11	2309	Feb 12, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 2/11 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/11, talks about the author setting three goals from Tradition Five. First, to work the steps for themself, next, to have compassion for alcoholics, and finally, to have compassion for those who come to alanon. The author said: I know that I was pulled from despair by the lo...	Lyne	4	414	Feb 12, 2019 by andromeda
	ODAT Tues 2-12 (Preview) I will be out of town Monday and part of Tuesday so I am posting the Tuesday reading a day early -- forgive me. The ODAT reading for today, February12 speaks about the art of listening at a meeting and still not truly absorbing what is said. The reading suggests that we use the slogan; "think" as this s...	hotrod	5	466	Feb 12, 2019 by mamalioness
	Mystory... steps one thru 12... (Preview) Hi y'all, I was born in 1951- at the height of the baby boom. Most of the males in my family, plus my grandmother had seen military service. I doubt of this had been the downfall of my family structure. I think that is had always been there. I was the oldest of 5 kids. I saw mum and dad, perhaps at their b...	DavidG	15	648	Feb 12, 2019 by DavidG
	In Any Language (Preview) Yesterday I participated in our Al-Anon district's all-day conference, and I was looking for a place to just sit and be quiet for a while. There was quiet meditation room, but when I went there it wasn't quiet enough for me. I looked at the workshop schedule and decided to go to the session that was host...	Freetime	5	419	Feb 11, 2019 by JerryF
	Struggling today. (Preview) I don't know where to start, here. I haven't been here for awhile, but my local face2face meeting has closed and I can't get to meetings in another town. It's just too far to drive. My son is struggling. I think maybe with a bit of depression, or just being overwhelmed by being 18 and having to become an ad...	Jen	7	2078	Feb 10, 2019 by wp
	Hope for Today Feb 10 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: I read the first line of todays reading and thought: this is about me! The writer describes two roles he/she played in the family growing up: caretaker and fixer. Some of the details are different, in that the writer often had to care for his/her mother, and that definitely was...	yanksfan51	5	655	Feb 10, 2019 by El
	KEEP IT SIMPLE_10 FEB (Preview) Keep It SimpleLife didn't promise to be wonderful. ---Teddy PendergrassLife doesn't promise us anything, except a chance. We have a chance to live any way we like. No matter how we choose to live, we'll have pain and we'll have joy. And we can learn from both.Because of our recovery program, we can hav...	mamalioness	3	1816	Feb 10, 2019 by El
	Step 2 has benn posted to the step board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please join in and share you experience Here is he link https://stepwo...	hotrod	5	792	Feb 10, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Keep coming back chant (Preview) Hello everyone, Sometimes that's been troubling me for a while in Al-Anon meetings is the chant at the end. Is this normal? I love saying the serenity prayer after meetings, I find that really peaceful and will always have a special place for me. But then after the serenity prayer, in the meetin...	Lil99	8	2193	Feb 9, 2019 by Lil99
	ODAT - 2/8/2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for February 8 recalls first coming into Al-Anon and being surprised that the people in the meeting were smiling and cheerful. We think those people must not have problems like ours -- until we find out that they do, and some are facing much worse problems. By listening, we discover w...	Freetime	5	1145	Feb 8, 2019 by El
	Cautiously Hopeful (Preview) So, I guess my X actually did have a come to Jesus moment because come to find out he had 2 incidents at home and then another one in the ER at that point he flat lined. The kids talked to him last Wednesday and basically my oldest made the statement that ok mom, this is the first conversation I have ever had w...	SerenityRUS	6	1958	Feb 8, 2019 by 2HP
	Courage to Change 2/7/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about self-care and personal well-being. There are many suggestions on actions to consider - all of which can/will contribute to improving well-being. As we consider and go about our day in recovery, we come to realize that small steps are the beginning of growth, and usual...	Iamhere	6	749	Feb 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Growing every day (Preview) Hi all! It's been a few weeks since I updated. There have been so many positives changes. I've been seeing a therapist, and we gave our first couples therapy session a try just last night. I learned something vital. You cannot be a true team if you and your partner are not completely open, honest, and com...	gloves808	4	1853	Feb 7, 2019 by Twinkies
	C2C, 2/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/4 discusses the authors feeling that when they are unhappy, they think God is punishing them. The author finds it helpful to call their sponsor, read literature, go to extra meetings, and be around nature. The author then feels the healing touch of HP. Reminder: When fac...	Lyne	4	479	Feb 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	ODAT READING 2-5 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, 2-5-2019 speaks about working to uncover our shortcomings. This difficult task,.the reading suggest has a reward , because as we uncover our defects we also discover our assets which are hidden under these defects. The reading suggests that we appreciate thes...	hotrod	6	620	Feb 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change February 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! With apologies for the lateness: Today's reading in Courage to Change is about a piece of advice that many new members hear when they start the program. Rather than being told to "throw the bum out," today's author was met with the advice to make no major changes or decisions for the first 6...	Skorpi	3	1917	Feb 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	Meeting tonight (Preview) Mip meeting tonight Wednesday Feb. 6 at 9 p eastern time. Looking forward to Edna's chair service tonight.	wp	0	1423	Feb 6, 2019 by wp
	Sometimes I just don’t know what to say (Preview) As I continue to change and grow, Im beginning to see and feel fear from my AH. I understand. This is all scary for me too. I dont know what the next step will be. Ive been working on myself privately without any discussion with him about it but he knows things are changing. He wont come right out and ask thou...	Twinkies	8	4091	Feb 6, 2019 by Twinkies
	Way different than from not wanting to be here. (Preview) I didn't really didn't want to be in and or around Al-Anon and especially AA when tagging behind my alcoholic/addict wife I found myself kinda in and around the rooms. Truthfully I hated it and influence from her sponsor kinda sorta also cause me to appear the good guy so I did a meeting or two without a...	JerryF	8	3258	Feb 6, 2019 by Lyne
	Nearing breaking point (Preview) I am nearing a breaking point again. I am feeling so tired, exhausted. I know its my fault for not setting boundaries. The sober man I have been spending time with is becoming a burden to me. I find being with him, a complete drain. He has so many unresolved issues of his past and being disabled as well, is i...	joker	12	1917	Feb 5, 2019 by Bo
	Feeling guilty (Preview) The kids wanted some friends over today. I knew AH would be drinking so I told them they could have them over for a couple of hours but that they couldnt stay the night. When AH found out they werent staying over he asked me why. I started to hem-haw around but he pushed so I was honest with him. I told him I did...	Twinkies	6	563	Feb 5, 2019 by milkwood
	Acting "as if" (Preview) Hi Everyone, I was wondering if anyone could explain what acting "as if", looks like in action/real life? I read this today, Perhaps we feel 12 years old, instead of 42. To consciously behave like a responsible 42-year-old is out of the question. Acting "as if", is the next best thing, the program te...	Conflicted	10	713	Feb 4, 2019 by Iamhere
	Cross Talk (Preview) Curious does AlAnon have any literature approaching this related to within meetings? Are there official guidelines related to cross talk? -- Edited by Conflicted on Friday 18th of January 2019 12:33:56 AM	Conflicted	11	3048	Feb 4, 2019 by JerryF
	What is AlAnons position? (Preview) Hi, Where can answers to these questions be found in our literature? (TIA)What is AlAnon's position on members bringing kids fundraisers for schools, bands, sports, etc..in to meeting rooms before, during and after meetings? What is AlAnon's position on members bringing in home business ite...	Conflicted	6	2276	Feb 4, 2019 by Bo
	Better People (Preview) Last night at my home group meeting, we had a newcomer, and this was only her second meeting. She is trying to understand what Al-Anon is all about. She asked a question, "So, is the meaning of this program that we can all become better people?" I thought that was a great way of looking at us. What do you a...	Freetime	14	672	Feb 3, 2019 by WendyP
	Hope for Today feb 3 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a description of acceptance. The writer describes being given a stuffed toy that ultimately does a number on his/her self esteem because the child is told the gift was given because of his/her resemblance to the toy. Over time, and with the help of a sponsor...	yanksfan51	6	414	Feb 3, 2019 by Wolfie55
	NOT alanon, but I'm traumatized (Preview) I'm going up my work street getting ready to go into left lane and I see these really nice young ladies, stopped in the road and I look and its a gorgeous white husky doggie that they hit.....I stopped and asked if i could help lthem, call someone, just assist...They said they called animal services He wo...	mamalioness	6	502	Feb 3, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Difficulty holding my boundaries (Preview) For the past 6 months my husband has been in and out of detox and sober living. He only lived at home for about a week in October. We have 2 kids (7 and 11). He was a heavy drinker for a long time and I know that recovery will take a long time. Some days are good- he's happy, patient, and positive. Other days he...	JustForMeNow	4	433	Feb 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/31/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the power of humility as we work the steps of recovery. The author shares that after working the program zealously for over a year, there was frustration over continued lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give wanted emotional suppo...	Iamhere	3	2411	Feb 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, February 1 (Preview) Hello. MIP, and welcome to February! In today's reading, the author had stopped enabling an alcoholic, and then felt frustrated because the drinking didn't stop. They wondered what they had done wrong. Then they realized that they were still trying to control alcoholism and its symptoms. In Al-...	Freetime	6	561	Feb 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	great niece arrives! (Preview) My niece's daughter arrived this morning! I am over the moon! I don't know when I will see her but I am excited!	Hoot Nanny	8	2076	Feb 1, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	How easily I doubt myself (Preview) Hi MIP - I haven't written an update in a while, so here goes! My XAH has almost disappeared over the last 6 months - ever since he got his share of the house money he has been on a very quick downward spiral from alcoholism into drug addiction as well. I wrote a while ago discussing my struggle with the deci...	VickiR	6	2187	Feb 1, 2019 by VickiR
	But its not my faaaaauuuuuult!!!!! (Preview) A Brother calls me today and I am driving home from work, so the bluetooth rings and I see its him.....I hit answer and we talk He told me a boat owner fired him "temporary layoff" he said because "I acted out while drinking" so I listen and he goes on to say that its "not my fault..the guys an A*****e!!!! ...	mamalioness	3	3993	Feb 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trudging the Road.... (Preview) Life Happens. No matter who we are, where we are, how we are, life happens. It's taken me some time to recenter after my son's recent relapse. I am not 'perfect' nor did I desire to be so but I did find peace through this spiritual program. I even made multiple plans this coming week and was really exci...	Iamhere	22	1964	Jan 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	What Ex's Rehab Stint taught me (Preview) I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...	norasq	5	456	Jan 30, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 30 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...	Skorpi	2	460	Jan 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	I'm not sure where to begin .. (Preview) First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...	SerenityRUS	9	883	Jan 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading 1-29 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...	hotrod	4	503	Jan 30, 2019 by Lyne
	Marriage Counseling --can I talk about the alcohol? anyone have experience with marriage counseling? (Preview) So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...	Dancer66	16	901	Jan 29, 2019 by norasq
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