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ATTACHMENTS


 

Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?

~W. B. Yeats

Throughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to caring for a baby, knowing someday this person will say good bye to make his or her own life. We lie close to our lover in a special moment, yet we know that this, too, will be limited by the years of our lives.

We want to defiantly say, "No! If I can't have permanence I'll take nothing at all!" Most of us have wished we could outmaneuver life with such a power play. The loss feels so painful we might think holding back our love will save us pain. But holding back brings a greater unhappiness. When we submit to it, life is generous in its kaleidoscope of forms. Each attachment, each loss, is followed by more rewards and attachments. Loss and death itself are part of life. There is peace in accepting and living fully in the cycle of seasons.

God, help me to engage with life fully and to accept change.

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Being attached is OK...NOT being willing to let go is where it gets unhealthy....I am very attached to my pets, but I realize that their life spans are much shorter than humans (too bad on that one)  So I know. at one point, I will have to day goodbye....I have an older friend up the street with BAD heart issues and who most likely is on her last 1-2 years of life..she is not getting better, but worse...It will be hard to say goodbye, but I know it is coming....so do I dump her to avoid that pain??? OF COURSE NOT!!!!! I will love and enjoy chatting her up while she is here...Deal with her leaving when it comes and in meantime, have as much fun with her as we can

People would ask me "why do you go out and rescue another dog when you just recently said goodbye to the one you just lost???"  and I tell them  "lives need to be saved and there are rescues at the shelters who need a loving home-----AND----What better way to deal with my grief, but to transfer it to saving another life"

my 9 year old is on her last 2 years or so...I'll lovingly say goodbye to her when it comes, cry , grieve,  then go out and save another "pound puppy"  I call it transferring the grief....



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Great reminder Rose Thanks

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Want a giggle, Rosie?

I saw ATTACHMENTS and thought "Puppy pictures!"

Duh!
Temple

p.s. What you said was also very good.

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Very good reminder that all is not permanent... enjoy those people and pets that give you joy when you can!

I too, "moved on" very quickly when I lost one of my pets. My Ex could never understand it...for me, it is a coping mechanism. For in GIVING my love to another (pet), I am HEALING my loss. It never means that my pet who had to depart this world is ever less in my eyes and heart!

Hug that furbaby for me!

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PnP you said "For in GIVING my love to another (pet), I am HEALING my loss. It never means that my pet who had to depart this world is ever less in my eyes and heart!"
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GIRL!!! I knew you were special to me for a reason....reaching out and saving another life, HONORS my departed pet....and no!! I will never forget my dearly departed fur babies...I loved them ALL....and I will see them again, one day....I can see it now....I pass on.....go to the ole pearly gates and i am overrun and knocked on my ass by about 100 furbabies I had since a kid , and they all want to play with me NOW!!!! BEFORE I even get settled....

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Temple.......I saw ATTACHMENTS and thought "Puppy pictures!"

Duh!
Temple
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HAHAHAHA.....Oh yea, You thought PICTURES....yaaaay....I know!!! I owe you some!!!! and they will be arriving soon, and yea, I did get a BIG giggle out of your post and I can see why you thought that.....miss fat girl is doing better each day....boy that wound was a doozy but with salt/hot/most towel treatments, peroxide and the meds, now, it is responding well....she is galloping in the yard and I am doing my best to "temper" her playfulness till it is closed up.....Shes a tough ole broad, like me....

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