Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jitsuka · jitsuka

Posted on the hope to change aug 25tg, on holiday, feeling trapped, lonely and starting to feel rage. Had real visceral images of absolutely smashing and trashing the house, the car, with a crowbar. I'm sat by the pool practising my mental steps and trying to calm the churn that is my mind. I'v...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 8- 27 speaks about attending our first Al-Anon meeting. It points out that many are disappointed that they are not given a do's and don't list BUT instead are handed the steps and traditions and asked to believe in the concept of a higher power.The suggestion asks that w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things are finally calming down. My last post was awhile ago because I didn't want to temp fate. My former MSW was in a car accident that killed his son & left him pretty banged up. So, the thing is that I cried the Friday after it happened & was sure that he wouldn't make it. He seems to be doing OK. I...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have experienced shame and guilt. Shame being more about our inner selves (thoughts and feelings) and guilt having to do with our outer selves (words and actions). This page not only acknowledges how com...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today discusses how we could not have known what was happening. Denial is a major symptom of this disease, and one possibility is to just blame the A. We invent ways to survive the constant crises, broken promises, lost hopes, and embarrassments. Sometimes we deny the unpleasant,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all. Today's reading in courage is about what motivates our choices and our discovery process of authenticity in recovery. The writer comes to understand that fear ruled their life - Fear of saying No, Fear of showing hurt/anger, fear of being confused - and more - all held deep inside wh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my XAH will not email me back, I literally sent one line about Follow up - Can I get an update, surgeries, child support and so on. Thanks. What I wanted to say was a whole different issue .. LOL. I have a very sneaking suspicion that the whole coming out discussion was not what my son shared .. he's ve...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about sponsorship. The author finds joy and recovery in being a sponsor. It is a privilege to hear what a sponsee shares and to see their growth, which is a reminder of the author's progress too. The sponsee's difficulties also provide an opportunity for the sponsor to do some se...

JerryF · JerryF

I did my practice of reading the pages of the day and taking my time with it rather than just scan and run. As I have often been I am impressed with this tool of recovery in my life!! I have often felt that we have an army of gifted mentally and spiritually endowed family members right at my elbow to re-enf...

Irene66 · Irene66

Hello, I am new to this forum. I am at a loss. I have an adult daughter who drinks nearly daily and doesnt stop until she passes out every time. This has been going on for years and the past year she physically gets sick from drinking, but that doesnt make her stop. Ive helped her financially, emotionally,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Today's Hope is about un-abling. The author shares that it is not helping their child if they do things for him or her that he or she can and should do for themself. By diminishing expectations for the child, the author is diminishing the child's capabilities. Un-ablin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So .. it's been determined that my X is still in crazy land and keeps sending that train to come pick me up .. I'm very grateful for this program that I do not have to pick up the rope. I'm not sad to have missed the train, it places in me in a very weird position of observer to this. There are so many dynamics t...

bud · bud

HA! Who knew that I would need a tool kit for my daughter's wedding in a few weeks! It has been a year of "stuff" from her future in-laws that she tried so hard to dump on me. It has been a year of growth for me and quite a bit of growing pains as I bloom more into my authenticity. ... as I say "no" if something do...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 8- 20 speaks about minding our own business and keeping the focus on ourselves. It talks about a member whose hubby joined AA who then assigned herself the task OF attending meetings with him. The reading suggests that at this point it does seem like a child thinking t...

Lyne · Lyne

My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...

PinkInk · PinkInk

Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/19, talks about not be able to trust the one you love. It caused the author disappointment of broken promises, contradictions, and outright lies. But they began to realize that most of the heartache came from their own refusal to accept reality. The author started learn...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...

JerryF · JerryF

Been gone 2 months with only my wife's laptop to check into the group and not being able to let you all know I was doing it almost daily and often multiple times daily. I would not dismiss the ESH I get here so I did the best I could with what I had which resulted in me lurking and??? Now I am home late at night...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am subbing today for Iamhere. Thank you for allowing me to be of service. Today's Daily is from "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie and discusses Leaving Room for Feelings: "We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robo...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page talks about the importance of self-care, especially when we are in a crisis and think we do not have time for it. In times of crisis we need to be at our best. That is why we have to strengthen ourselves with good food, sleep, exercise, spiritual contact, emotional support. Reminder: "I am...

a4l · a4l

Ok lovely family. I don't know how familiar this is so I'd like to put it out there for some help. I am at a stage now where I excitedly feel like I've reached the middle ground between all or nothing. And accordingly I want to try and put the pieces of my puzzle together. Because this is both new and old, I am a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that, since coming to AlAnon, they have become aware of choices that they never knew they had. The author now realizes that if the are uncomfortable with something, they don't necessarily HAVE to do it! Of course, the author ref...

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday was Easter a day of Celebration for Christians however, I cried so much yesterday that today my eyes will barely open. You see, my husband walked out after 21 years together. He says he doesnt want to fight any more. Yet we werent fighting. He says that he is working on staying sober and I am...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I think I'm more tired today than I was yesterday we are done with the yearly trek until next year I hope. My X is absolutely in rare form and I am over it. I am trying to stay in my own hula hoop and mind my business I won't lie .. I did break out the bedazzled horns and adjusted them to make sure they still fit .....

a4l · a4l

For years I've been wanting two things: a massage and excercise. I've snuck in jogs here and there, did a lot of walking with the kids etc.

a4l · a4l

Good morning all! I have chosen to embark on a pathway to positivity. Choosing not to dwell on the past, not to always look at the half empty glass, but to focus on the positives and keep looking up. At the same time, to allow myself to remain positive, boundaries and good people around me are so very nec...

hotrod · hotrod

the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds. The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step. To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding. We will not always know what is best for other people and even oursel...

mamajo70 · mamajo70

Good evening, I am new here but not new to the program. I'm starting a new group in my town and looking for suggestions on a group name that is appealing and follows the guidelines set out. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

Fedora · Fedora

I have two kids, 9 and 12. I have not had a discussion with them about AH's drinking. My counselor (whom I have not seen in over a year now as she was in a different location) told me that "children see and know all". While I don't doubt that, I have not found the guts to come out and talk to them about dad's beh...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the unique support of alanon. Alcoholism is an isolating disease, so realizing that there is a place where people come together to share their stories is a comfort. There is a sentence on this page that describes the 12 steps as something which, when ta...

Lyne · Lyne

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.... Some days are really hard accepting my A...and today is one of those days, Lyne

texas yankee · texas yankee

I guess I'm one of those "fair weather friends" here, cause when things are going well for me (regarding my adult son), I'm pretty carefree - I've offered a few thoughts here to others dealing with stuff, and I go to FTF meetings, but I forgot that this Al Anon preparedness stuff is like exercise - if ya st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling so sick to my stomach! I have to learn that you don't mix certain things together one after the other! I need to practice more self-care. I am not doing things the a way I had been when I reached my goal weight. I had 30 or so lbs. to goal. It was so hard but I tried to use the program & my common se...

Freetime · Freetime

Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same prob...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family! Better late than never.....Today's Courage to Change discusses Step Six. This step suggests our lives will undergo great change, and many of us fear nothing will be left if we shed our characteristics that helped us cope. Many have fear of the unknown, yet if we've worked...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I could not ask for a day like today w/o praising my God! I am so grateful. Ordinary fits on a day where there is no pressure! I thought the day would be so difficult because of the nature of my involvement on a particular study. The topic was anger. One of the 12steppers was of the group. It wasn't Al anon at a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks about steps 10, 11, and 12. The author shares that they have often heard of these steps as "maintenance steps," but the author likes to think of them as growth steps- steps that let the author continue to challenge themself. The author tested the theory that...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all. Being of service, and posting the daily for tomorrow from Hotrod! The C2C reading for Tuesday, August 6 speaks about the feeling of being trapped in a burning building. It points out that ae stroing handis . Behind the flames and becons to me beckoning come through the dor. We kne...

a4l · a4l

I am really grateful today for all the love in my life. The alanon program I feel has been like taking a stroll with a wisdom beyond myself, where everything I've struggled with emotionally, mentally and spiritually, has been lovingly broken down for me, into easy to understand parts with practice ex...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ok .. so as we ALL know as practicing parents .. this stuff is HARD. LOL!! One of the hardest not fun moments has been the whole letting go stuff. Letting go of gender expectation, letting go of enabling, letting go of the children I see as I watch them become struggling young adults (that's the hardes...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well the first leg of the trip is done and we will do it again next week. We had such a good time. The kids are where they are suppose to be at the moment. Our trip out involved a trip to Lambert's if you are in the area it's a must go to. After having a great time there we went and met up with my friends and had su...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 8/5, talks about how resentment can poison all your waking hours. The author could hold resentments for days or years! Since alanon, the author can feel their feelings, but does not have to rehearse and review the list of grievances. The writer tries to use their energy for...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi MIP family-Lately I am doing well, happy, coping well, and of course there are ups and downs. Today I have learned that a former colleague and friend is in the hospital. He has pancreatic cancer and was doing well until a tick bite came along. His prognosis is quite guarded. And my 14 year old dogg...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have learned not to express our anger, specifically to remain silent (and resentful) instead. The writer describes having grown up in a home with alcoholic parents and violence in the home. Learning that expressing anger equaled abuse...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It just keeps better & better! My God & i are turning things for the better. I thought it couldn't get better but it has.

Lindie · Lindie

I want to take control of our finances, we are always behind because of AH drinking. We both work full time jobs. AH is the one who brings in the most money. I want to be able to get things caught up, some in savings and start saving for our future, but how can I do that without taking control of AH drinking? We...

hotrod · hotrod

Work.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65766784/alanon-step-8-8-1-2019/

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon shows how much wisdom is condensed in the slogan Live and Let Live. The slogan tells us first to Live -- fully, richly, taking joy in what we do. The next part -- Let Live -- is more difficult because it calls on us to accept the right of all other human beings to liv...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Hi All! I just wanted to drop by here with an update. It's been awhile since I've checked in because I've been a bit busy! I got married last month to a wonderful man who is an amazing partner. We met online three and half years ago, neither of us with a plan to ever get married again. But you never know where...

DavidG · DavidG

~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...

Elabella · Elabella

Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...

Lindie · Lindie

My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...

lookingup · lookingup

hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....

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	Feeling rage (Preview) Posted on the hope to change aug 25tg, on holiday, feeling trapped, lonely and starting to feel rage. Had real visceral images of absolutely smashing and trashing the house, the car, with a crowbar. I'm sat by the pool practising my mental steps and trying to calm the churn that is my mind. I'v...	jitsuka	12	2238	Aug 28, 2019 by jitsuka
	C2 C READING FOR 8-27 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 8- 27 speaks about attending our first Al-Anon meeting. It points out that many are disappointed that they are not given a do's and don't list BUT instead are handed the steps and traditions and asked to believe in the concept of a higher power.The suggestion asks that w...	hotrod	5	7088	Aug 27, 2019 by Iamhere
	things are calming down... (Preview) Things are finally calming down. My last post was awhile ago because I didn't want to temp fate. My former MSW was in a car accident that killed his son & left him pretty banged up. So, the thing is that I cried the Friday after it happened & was sure that he wouldn't make it. He seems to be doing OK. I...	Hoot Nanny	3	3822	Aug 27, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Aug 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have experienced shame and guilt. Shame being more about our inner selves (thoughts and feelings) and guilt having to do with our outer selves (words and actions). This page not only acknowledges how com...	yanksfan51	4	2008	Aug 27, 2019 by Fedora
	C2C, 8/26 (Preview) The reading for today discusses how we could not have known what was happening. Denial is a major symptom of this disease, and one possibility is to just blame the A. We invent ways to survive the constant crises, broken promises, lost hopes, and embarrassments. Sometimes we deny the unpleasant,...	Lyne	1	3818	Aug 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 8/22 (Preview) Greetings all. Today's reading in courage is about what motivates our choices and our discovery process of authenticity in recovery. The writer comes to understand that fear ruled their life - Fear of saying No, Fear of showing hurt/anger, fear of being confused - and more - all held deep inside wh...	Iamhere	6	3590	Aug 24, 2019 by bud
	New direction .. (Preview) So my XAH will not email me back, I literally sent one line about Follow up - Can I get an update, surgeries, child support and so on. Thanks. What I wanted to say was a whole different issue .. LOL. I have a very sneaking suspicion that the whole coming out discussion was not what my son shared .. he's ve...	SerenityRUS	2	3283	Aug 24, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, August 23 - Sponsorship (Preview) Today's reading is about sponsorship. The author finds joy and recovery in being a sponsor. It is a privilege to hear what a sponsee shares and to see their growth, which is a reminder of the author's progress too. The sponsee's difficulties also provide an opportunity for the sponsor to do some se...	Freetime	4	2328	Aug 23, 2019 by hotrod
	The power of our literature (Preview) I did my practice of reading the pages of the day and taking my time with it rather than just scan and run. As I have often been I am impressed with this tool of recovery in my life!! I have often felt that we have an army of gifted mentally and spiritually endowed family members right at my elbow to re-enf...	JerryF	2	2342	Aug 22, 2019 by bud
	Newbie Here - Adult Child Alcoholic (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum. I am at a loss. I have an adult daughter who drinks nearly daily and doesnt stop until she passes out every time. This has been going on for years and the past year she physically gets sick from drinking, but that doesnt make her stop. Ive helped her financially, emotionally,...	Irene66	3	1784	Aug 22, 2019 by canadianguy
	Today's Hope August 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Today's Hope is about un-abling. The author shares that it is not helping their child if they do things for him or her that he or she can and should do for themself. By diminishing expectations for the child, the author is diminishing the child's capabilities. Un-ablin...	Skorpi	5	656	Aug 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	And more is revealed .. (Preview) So .. it's been determined that my X is still in crazy land and keeps sending that train to come pick me up .. I'm very grateful for this program that I do not have to pick up the rope. I'm not sad to have missed the train, it places in me in a very weird position of observer to this. There are so many dynamics t...	SerenityRUS	8	723	Aug 22, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Tools for my daughter's wedding needed (Preview) HA! Who knew that I would need a tool kit for my daughter's wedding in a few weeks! It has been a year of "stuff" from her future in-laws that she tried so hard to dump on me. It has been a year of growth for me and quite a bit of growing pains as I bloom more into my authenticity. ... as I say "no" if something do...	bud	10	4404	Aug 21, 2019 by bud
	ODAT Reading 8-20 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 8- 20 speaks about minding our own business and keeping the focus on ourselves. It talks about a member whose hubby joined AA who then assigned herself the task OF attending meetings with him. The reading suggests that at this point it does seem like a child thinking t...	hotrod	7	523	Aug 21, 2019 by KT2015
	Good focus, good boundaries (Preview) My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...	Lyne	8	881	Aug 21, 2019 by KT2015
	Newbie here! (Preview) Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...	PinkInk	15	4949	Aug 20, 2019 by KT2015
	C2C, 8/19 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/19, talks about not be able to trust the one you love. It caused the author disappointment of broken promises, contradictions, and outright lies. But they began to realize that most of the heartache came from their own refusal to accept reality. The author started learn...	Lyne	4	1591	Aug 19, 2019 by Lil99
	Update :) (Preview) Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...	SerenityRUS	13	5305	Aug 19, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	To my dearest Al-Anon Family.... (Preview) Been gone 2 months with only my wife's laptop to check into the group and not being able to let you all know I was doing it almost daily and often multiple times daily. I would not dismiss the ESH I get here so I did the best I could with what I had which resulted in me lurking and??? Now I am home late at night...	JerryF	6	2336	Aug 18, 2019 by Freetime
	Today's Daily 08/15/19 (Preview) I am subbing today for Iamhere. Thank you for allowing me to be of service. Today's Daily is from "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie and discusses Leaving Room for Feelings: "We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robo...	PosiesandPuppies	3	5323	Aug 16, 2019 by bud
	Courage to Change, 8/16 -- Self Care! (Preview) Today's page talks about the importance of self-care, especially when we are in a crisis and think we do not have time for it. In times of crisis we need to be at our best. That is why we have to strengthen ourselves with good food, sleep, exercise, spiritual contact, emotional support. Reminder: "I am...	Freetime	4	2947	Aug 16, 2019 by bud
	ESH on boundaries. (Preview) Ok lovely family. I don't know how familiar this is so I'd like to put it out there for some help. I am at a stage now where I excitedly feel like I've reached the middle ground between all or nothing. And accordingly I want to try and put the pieces of my puzzle together. Because this is both new and old, I am a...	a4l	7	4987	Aug 16, 2019 by a4l
	Courage to Change August 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that, since coming to AlAnon, they have become aware of choices that they never knew they had. The author now realizes that if the are uncomfortable with something, they don't necessarily HAVE to do it! Of course, the author ref...	Skorpi	5	4692	Aug 15, 2019 by bud
	The end of a 21 year relationship with an "a" (Preview) Yesterday was Easter a day of Celebration for Christians however, I cried so much yesterday that today my eyes will barely open. You see, my husband walked out after 21 years together. He says he doesnt want to fight any more. Yet we werent fighting. He says that he is working on staying sober and I am...	Tammy	9	2280	Aug 14, 2019 by bud
	i'm sooo tired .. (Preview) I think I'm more tired today than I was yesterday we are done with the yearly trek until next year I hope. My X is absolutely in rare form and I am over it. I am trying to stay in my own hula hoop and mind my business I won't lie .. I did break out the bedazzled horns and adjusted them to make sure they still fit .....	SerenityRUS	6	4011	Aug 13, 2019 by andromeda
	Did something for me :-) (Preview) For years I've been wanting two things: a massage and excercise. I've snuck in jogs here and there, did a lot of walking with the kids etc.	a4l	7	3591	Aug 13, 2019 by a4l
	Still human still capable of biting. (Preview) Good morning all! I have chosen to embark on a pathway to positivity. Choosing not to dwell on the past, not to always look at the half empty glass, but to focus on the positives and keep looking up. At the same time, to allow myself to remain positive, boundaries and good people around me are so very nec...	a4l	9	4891	Aug 13, 2019 by Choriste
	ODAT Reading 8-13 (Preview) the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds. The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us...	hotrod	5	872	Aug 13, 2019 by bud
	C2C, 8/12 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step. To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding. We will not always know what is best for other people and even oursel...	Lyne	5	2333	Aug 12, 2019 by bud
	Group Name (Preview) Good evening, I am new here but not new to the program. I'm starting a new group in my town and looking for suggestions on a group name that is appealing and follows the guidelines set out. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!	mamajo70	4	3108	Aug 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	How much to tell children? (Preview) I have two kids, 9 and 12. I have not had a discussion with them about AH's drinking. My counselor (whom I have not seen in over a year now as she was in a different location) told me that "children see and know all". While I don't doubt that, I have not found the guts to come out and talk to them about dad's beh...	Fedora	10	2205	Aug 12, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Hope for Today Aug 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the unique support of alanon. Alcoholism is an isolating disease, so realizing that there is a place where people come together to share their stories is a comfort. There is a sentence on this page that describes the 12 steps as something which, when ta...	yanksfan51	4	1912	Aug 11, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	God grant me.... (Preview) God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.... Some days are really hard accepting my A...and today is one of those days, Lyne	Lyne	5	4148	Aug 11, 2019 by hotrod
	Out of the blue . . . . (Preview) I guess I'm one of those "fair weather friends" here, cause when things are going well for me (regarding my adult son), I'm pretty carefree - I've offered a few thoughts here to others dealing with stuff, and I go to FTF meetings, but I forgot that this Al Anon preparedness stuff is like exercise - if ya st...	texas yankee	14	5238	Aug 10, 2019 by bud
	I feel so sick! (Preview) I am feeling so sick to my stomach! I have to learn that you don't mix certain things together one after the other! I need to practice more self-care. I am not doing things the a way I had been when I reached my goal weight. I had 30 or so lbs. to goal. It was so hard but I tried to use the program & my common se...	Hoot Nanny	5	2617	Aug 10, 2019 by hotrod
	C2C, August 9 -- Being Myself (Preview) Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same prob...	Freetime	7	562	Aug 9, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 8/8 (Preview) Good morning MIP family! Better late than never.....Today's Courage to Change discusses Step Six. This step suggests our lives will undergo great change, and many of us fear nothing will be left if we shed our characteristics that helped us cope. Many have fear of the unknown, yet if we've worked...	Iamhere	2	1973	Aug 9, 2019 by Lyne
	update just an ordinary day! (Preview) I could not ask for a day like today w/o praising my God! I am so grateful. Ordinary fits on a day where there is no pressure! I thought the day would be so difficult because of the nature of my involvement on a particular study. The topic was anger. One of the 12steppers was of the group. It wasn't Al anon at a...	Hoot Nanny	2	2349	Aug 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change August 7 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks about steps 10, 11, and 12. The author shares that they have often heard of these steps as "maintenance steps," but the author likes to think of them as growth steps- steps that let the author continue to challenge themself. The author tested the theory that...	Skorpi	4	1344	Aug 7, 2019 by El
	From HotRod - Courage to Change 8/6 (Preview) Greetings all. Being of service, and posting the daily for tomorrow from Hotrod! The C2C reading for Tuesday, August 6 speaks about the feeling of being trapped in a burning building. It points out that ae stroing handis . Behind the flames and becons to me beckoning come through the dor. We kne...	Iamhere	2	2808	Aug 6, 2019 by Iamhere
	A gratitude share. (Preview) I am really grateful today for all the love in my life. The alanon program I feel has been like taking a stroll with a wisdom beyond myself, where everything I've struggled with emotionally, mentally and spiritually, has been lovingly broken down for me, into easy to understand parts with practice ex...	a4l	2	1596	Aug 6, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Parenting .. (Preview) Ok .. so as we ALL know as practicing parents .. this stuff is HARD. LOL!! One of the hardest not fun moments has been the whole letting go stuff. Letting go of gender expectation, letting go of enabling, letting go of the children I see as I watch them become struggling young adults (that's the hardes...	SerenityRUS	0	3382	Aug 5, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	We made it ... LOL (Preview) Well the first leg of the trip is done and we will do it again next week. We had such a good time. The kids are where they are suppose to be at the moment. Our trip out involved a trip to Lambert's if you are in the area it's a must go to. After having a great time there we went and met up with my friends and had su...	SerenityRUS	5	4290	Aug 5, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C, 8/5 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 8/5, talks about how resentment can poison all your waking hours. The author could hold resentments for days or years! Since alanon, the author can feel their feelings, but does not have to rehearse and review the list of grievances. The writer tries to use their energy for...	Lyne	4	540	Aug 5, 2019 by a4l
	Sadness amongst happiness (Preview) Hi MIP family-Lately I am doing well, happy, coping well, and of course there are ups and downs. Today I have learned that a former colleague and friend is in the hospital. He has pancreatic cancer and was doing well until a tick bite came along. His prognosis is quite guarded. And my 14 year old dogg...	Lyne	5	2378	Aug 5, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Aug 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have learned not to express our anger, specifically to remain silent (and resentful) instead. The writer describes having grown up in a home with alcoholic parents and violence in the home. Learning that expressing anger equaled abuse...	yanksfan51	6	619	Aug 4, 2019 by a4l
	Awful beautiful life. (Preview) It just keeps better & better! My God & i are turning things for the better. I thought it couldn't get better but it has.	Hoot Nanny	6	3646	Aug 4, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	How do you gain control with out controlling the alcoholic? (Preview) I want to take control of our finances, we are always behind because of AH drinking. We both work full time jobs. AH is the one who brings in the most money. I want to be able to get things caught up, some in savings and start saving for our future, but how can I do that without taking control of AH drinking? We...	Lindie	11	5042	Aug 4, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Step 8 posted to Step Board please join in and share yourESH (Preview) Work.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65766784/alanon-step-8-8-1-2019/	hotrod	2	2624	Aug 3, 2019 by Lyne
	ODAT, August 2 - Live and Let Live (Preview) Today's page in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon shows how much wisdom is condensed in the slogan Live and Let Live. The slogan tells us first to Live -- fully, richly, taking joy in what we do. The next part -- Let Live -- is more difficult because it calls on us to accept the right of all other human beings to liv...	Freetime	5	4158	Aug 2, 2019 by DavidG
	My Miracle in Progress- An Update (Preview) Hi All! I just wanted to drop by here with an update. It's been awhile since I've checked in because I've been a bit busy! I got married last month to a wonderful man who is an amazing partner. We met online three and half years ago, neither of us with a plan to ever get married again. But you never know where...	Green Eyes	4	2074	Aug 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	A Love Story... (Preview) ~sigh~ I made this couple my mum and dad... I believed in them. Lois was most likely the better behaved. Bill had feet of clay... not angel's wings... but he rose from this... ... I visited their home once- in up-state New York... and had this tremendous sense of family. That I had sisters and brothe...	DavidG	6	3550	Aug 1, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 8/1/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP - Happy August! Today's reading is primary about the three C's we learn in Al-Anon. We did not cause alcoholism, we can't control alcoholism and we can't cure it either. The writer, like so many came to Al-Anon to learn how to get a loved one to stop drinking. The writer had hopes tha...	Iamhere	2	3284	Aug 1, 2019 by Lyne
	Lies & Deception.... (Preview) Just a question on how you all deal with the lies and deception from the alcoholic? Im having a very hard time with it. For me its kind of a no brainer that if someone lies and is deceitful with you, then theres really no true relationship, especially in a marriage. How do you continue to be in a marriage whe...	Elabella	16	4249	Aug 1, 2019 by 2HP
	I need to find the strength (Preview) My AH is changing shifts at work , so now I am going to be around AH more on the weekends. When he worked nights, he would be up until 1pm and get up at 8pm. Now he is going to be up from 3pm until 1 am most likely. I go to bed at 9pm. So there is going to be constant 6hrs around him and the drinking. What am I going to d...	Lindie	8	2066	Aug 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	God's Timing (Preview) Hi, it's Wendy P. I wanted to share about something that happened to me yesterday, and on thinking about it all, I am still amazed at "God's Timing". Even after many years in Alanon, it still can amaze me. On Monday Mornings, I go up town to do my normal Shopping, because I am a planner, had it all worked ou...	WendyP	8	816	Jul 31, 2019 by WendyP
	Trying to keep my mouth shut (Preview) I'm in process of trying to keep my mouth shut. I am feeling my oats so to speak so therefore have a tendency to speak way more bluntly than necessary. It's a character defect and I am aware of it. Some of it could be the anxiety of the trip. While we planned it out the money is going to be tight to get the ki...	SerenityRUS	6	973	Jul 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	FOO (Preview) hi everyone, im bringing this topic up in hopes i can hear whats helped others in dealing with foo. i did separate myself for a very long time,so that i could heal, im finding that when i talk with foo,i seem to get sucked in like a vaccume, negative talk ,etc,all that goes with being raised in a A home ,no re...	lookingup	4	1124	Jul 31, 2019 by lookingup
	Courage to Change July 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! I today's reading in Courage to Change the author speaks about a source of friction that had always existed between the author and their alcoholic loved one: housekeeping. The author shares that they are usually so overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done, that they cannot get org...	Skorpi	4	1995	Jul 31, 2019 by El
	C2C reading Tuesday 7-30 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July30, my birthday speaks about finding " happiness". The reading suggests that happiness is an 'inside job'and that we cannot be happy all the time but if we are willing to break old habits and work hard to achieve our goal we can change our negative attitudes....	hotrod	8	624	Jul 31, 2019 by bud
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