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Post Info TOPIC: Hope for Today July 21


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Hope for Today July 21


Good morning everyone:

Todays reading is about the power of a group and the unity within it.  The writer describes having grown up in a family that did not communicate well and did not demonstrate unity, but rather isolation.  Part of the strength of alanon is coming to a place where others have shared experiences and emotions.  Within the program there are guiding principles and traditions which are explained in the reading. Whole recovery is certainly a personal and individual process, the importance of unity in the groups is part of what makes that all possible.

When I attended alanon meetings for the first time, it was extremely emotional and often my part was to sit there tearfully and listen.  I never felt that it was a problem for me to do just what I needed to and thats what kept me going back.  The message I felt from the people around me was: I see you. I hear you. I am with you

I hope everyone enjoys their Sunday!

Mary



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Good morning Mary and thank you for your service!

What a beautiful message and I cherish my MIP and face to face Alanon families. The group has given me what I did have and what I couldn't give to myself. One of the best advice someone gave me years back was to just keep coming back... at the time, I didn't think Alanon was for me lol, but I came to realize how much more I can enjoy life with Alanon.

Happy Sunday!

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Good morning  Mary The principle of Unity is extremely important to my recovery . Feeling safe, heard and understood are important gifts of attending a meeting .Love the simple principles of this fantastic program .  Thanks for your service.



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Thank you Mary for your service and the daily. Thanks to those above me who share their ESH on this and other topics. Before I arrived, I truly felt isolated, alone and so defeated. I was convinced that others would look at my life and my problems, and set me aside. The God of my understanding gave me the courage to just attend, and I observed with an open mind (also God-given) how wrong I truly was. I felt embraced and accepted even without opening my mouth. I'm grateful no 'program nazi' came up to me with the you need to.... and you should .... It was all I had within me to just walk from my car into the rooms.

Today, I really try to embrace the unity of recovery. I do believe that my HP speaks to me through others in all my affairs/exchanges! Especially when two or more of us are gathered, formally or informally! When I remain open and willing, it's the unity that helps me do the next right thing and recover.

Happy Sunday all - off to a meeting shortly! Our heat wave has broken (grateful) and looking forward to cooler temps! (((Hugs)))

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Thank you Mary for your service, and a special thank you to all my MIP family members who share their ESH!

I love what you shared, Mary... "The message I felt from the people around me was: I see you. I hear you. I am with you."

Even though I sat and cried the first 5 meetings, and began crying after some poignant share in countless more, that was the sentiment I also felt from the members. Acceptance.

I love this forum b/c as I delve deeper into myself and reveal and understand my flaws, I am still accepted and loved!

A treasure at my fingertips for sure!!

 

Today I am feeling low and vulnerable... yesterday I had to put my beloved Boxer to sleep. Because of her disease, her body was failing, but her mind was not. I suddenly realized that I was putting in all the effort of caring for her (completely paralyzed now) because I was too afraid to live without her. Despite her having all my love, and the best of care, I was being selfish. 11 1/2 years ago, I took a year to research and eventually find just the right rescue Boxer, and she was my rock both times my relationship with my spouse fell apart due to addiction. She understood when few could not. I was afraid to be without that support, or the feeling of having that "protector" in my home. But she was no longer living what I term "A Dog's Life." You know the kind... the kind of life you say you want to return as when you die, it's that good. So I asked for strength and guidance on Friday night, and awoke in the morning knowing it was time. I will miss her deeply. She was the best companion.

I have had a lot of stressors this month that I have not written about...this is just the cherry...I will be giving myself some TLC today, and supporting my son with his grief as well.

I appreciate and love my MIP family!



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aww Thanks Mary, and Y'all... smile

When I first came to Alanon I was more numbed than emotional. I first had to find a voice- and then learn boundaries around the use of that voice.

When and where to speak. But Alanon gave the base to start from.  Long journey- but lots of it seem just like yesterday! Old and painful memories were slowly replaced by these... and healing took place... slowly, but surely... smile ...

-thanks... aww ...



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