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I am on a roller coaster right now. It is even affecting my sleep! My ah is acting out. I guess it is all about him. He us a recovering alcoholic but he is mean then nice. He is not facing something that is making him accusatory & flat out bullying me. I am trying not to react but it is hard. He is pushing me & said I should admit myself to a mental facility like I have dine before. If you pray please pray for him. Our 20th anniversary is on the 17th. I will be prepared today!
Hoot Nanny-I live with mean than nice. Yes it is a roller coaster . I understand. I live with a dry drunk who is not getting alcohol treatment. I realize this past week that when I am expecting positive change I get angry and frustrated. When I am bullied I speak up. Im not accepting that behavior. I need to focus on me, stay with my tools all day, every day, and continue to fix me. Please take care of you, whatever that is. Hugs, Lyne
"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I can't write it all down what happened last Saturday but we were talking divorce. He was saying that I am insane & i don't know it! I am not insane of course! Friends have been praying & was trying to use my tools. I have to admit that I yelled & tried to defend myself. Who wouldn't be upset when the man who you love call you insane. I have issues but so does. Not trying to point the finger! So it turns out that he was frustrated & that he didn't want to be my caretaker. He felt like he was losing it & that he was losing it! But it was to him all my fault. Today so far is better than Saturday. I know the prayers worked! God is good! He answers my prayers.
