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Living apart in same home
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I am so dettached that I don't see what the point is... I don't care to be with him anymore, but I don't want to leave either. He is sick, just as I have health problems. He isn't leaving me because of it, but what is the point in living seperate lives in the same home?
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Joke
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Hi roomies,
I was in the chat room the other day and there was some talk of red-heads, and their hot tempers. LOL. (I resemble that remark) It was all said in fun so I just had to share this joke I got today with you all.
I hope I don't offend any blondes out there. If I do please let me know and I will refrain...
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good news...so why do I want to bawl?
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A. called me a bit ago. He went thru his assessment and starts out patient treatment a week from tomorrow.
I told him I was happy for him. Inside I am irritated, frustrated and want to just sit and cry.
I'm so angry at times, so disappointed and very detached.
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Gratitude and Thanksgiving
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Good morning all of my wonderful MIP family :)
As most everyone knows, I lost my husband a little over 3 weeks ago. After a period of shock and numbness I have spent about a week in the most unbelievable sadness I have ever felt. Until now, I didn't think that it was possible for a human bein...
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Communication? What's that?
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My A. has seemed on top of the world since he quit cold turkey a few weeks ago. He seems anxious to get his assessment done today and start out patient rehab. I'm happy for him.
Sunday I was feeling a bit down on myself trying to figure out why I can't feel the same way about him anymore..about us.
Th...
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HELP
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 i can't get into the chatroom and i am getting upset i have tried since 9 the morning and now it is 3:17 pm. i need help -- Edited by nycbt at 15:24, 2005-11-22 -- Edited by nycbt at 15:26, 2005-11-22
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Walk The Line movie
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Hi All!
I saw this movie Saturday night. It was a fabulous movie. I paid attention to the character of June Carter. She was such a great woman. She was Johnny Cash's(Johnny=alcoholic, drug abuser) true friend. She loved him but kept her boundaries with him. She accepted him for who he was. Dur...
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reading over
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I read over the last month of post because I like to paste them and bring them to my doctor so he can see my growth. Just in case I forgot anything it is already written in the post. I wirte everything down. I was amazing myself on the progress I made with in the month. Wow my writing shows me. The things that I h...
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similar story
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All I am able to say at this point is by reading the board lately I feel like it is the story of my life.
My ex the A his drinking and marijuana use at age 12, his not willing to be a dad, his enabling parents -his whole family (place a happy face on the family attitude) and the child (our son) who is left goin...
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Annoyed
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Hi guys
I feel like my h has no clue about anything sometimes!!
he just irked me to no end this am
He came home yesterday from his "program" and fell asleep. Didn't wake up for dinner or to say hello to anyone. but as we are going to sleep he decides to wake up and rile the kids up and...
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Nothing is forever
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One of the things my sponsor always tells me is, "nothing is forever." Not the bad, and not the good, either. Not the situation I am in. Not me. Not my happiness. Not my anger.
It helps me to remember this when I'm having a bad day - as in, "this too shall pass."
It helps me to remember this when I'm ha...
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trying
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I HAVE BEEN TRYING ALL DAY TO GET INTO THE CHATROOM SINCE 9:00 AM AND IT KEEPS SAYING IT IS CLOSED. WHAT TO DO.
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acceptance and gratitude
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The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance
Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work.We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we master o...
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laying the foundation
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Foundation First
"As we begin to function in society, our creative freedom helps us sort our priorities and do the basic things first."Basic Text pg. 83No sooner do we get clean than some of us begin putting other priorities ahead of our recovery. Careers, families, relationships - all these are p...
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depression or just plain grief
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Depression
All of us go through times of depression. When we were overeating, we may have felt depressed almost continually. We find that abstinence and the OA program lift us out of depression. The outward circumstances of life may not change radically, but by means of our program we experienc...
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Hard Time Handling.....
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Replying to someone else got me thinking about something I am having a problem with.
My A started her new job yesterday. Seemed to enjoy it. Good for her if she is enjoying it.
She is getting up at 6:30 for an 8:00 am job. She gets herself ready and nothing gets in her...
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my A is at the hospital
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Got a call from my A today that he followed up with our GP and he was sending him to the hospital for a CAT scan. I told him that I would meet him at the hospital, he said he didn't want me to leave work. I said I wouldn't Iwould finish out my day and meet him there after work. (the hospital is in between wor...
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Alanon Book Excerpt #1
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I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes.
Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics
Learning About Alcoholism
Alcoholism is a family disease. Compulsive drinking a...
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I told him he's in denial
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We had the best day yesterday - we visited my family and enjoyed each other's company all day. On the way home I thought to myself that I should mention to him that if he needed anything he should stop at the store. We live in the country, a trip to the store takes at least 30 minutes. I di...
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update
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well my a met up with an addictions counsellor and will see him again in a week. they set up some goals and plans for what to do with pressure or the urge creeps up to drink or use again. im not getting my hopes up but i will see what happens. i will stand by my man down the road to recovery but will have to leave if...
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A good kick in the a$$
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Well, here I am 2 in the morning. Just back from the hospital. A got his appendix out.....a long night and what a fool I was!!! Taking his belongings from the hospital his phone was there and a call to "kerri" was made Sat. night. I immediately felt as if someone had kicked me in the appendix....
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Daughter not doing good
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As I sit here my 15 year old is in her room alseep. She should be in school. I have tried everything to get her to go to school,but she refuses to go. The next thing is the school putting a PINS on her. She did not use this weekend thank God,but her behavior is the same. I'm sooooooooo tired of this mess. ...
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Input Needed for An Idea
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Hi everyone!
I have purchased almost all of the Alanon books and I was thinking I could start a discussion by typing in excerpts from one of the books. Would anyone be interested? If so, let me know and I will set aside time every evening on a weekly basis. I know not everyone has the books, and this may he...
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losing hope - Prayers
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Today I prayed: Lord, give me a sign... I cannot go on this way. If I am not to get my beloved Hikari back, give me peace, a sign, let me know.
Not an hour later a simultaneous phone call & ring of the doorbell... a neighbor 3 houses down had my fat boy.
She siad he insisted...
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promises/discussions not followed through with - excuses excuses
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ahhhh I HATE it! excuses excuses
Last night we talked about going to look for a prelit Christmas tree after work tonight. Called husband at work and he now says hes not sure what time he'll even be home! Doesnt think we should try the place we discussed, doesnt think tree will fit in car, we dont have eno...
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I project myself negatively into the future
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gotten so use to husband calling in sick that when he doesnt feel good on a Sat I wonder if he'll call in sick on Mon - has a doctor apt Tues afternoon so I wonder if instead of just leaving work early he'll blow off work completely that day
I need to stop living negatively in the future and just deal with the...
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Cloud
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Just wanted to let y'all know that Cloud sends her love to y'all.
She's w/out a computer these days and she's staying strong but misses everyone and asked me to say hello.
~Maria
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I feel I'm making progress
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Hello Group,
Thank you everyone who responded to my last post about my "a" not quitting marijuana. We went ahead with our weekend at the beach. My boundary was if he was going to smoke it it had to be done when the children were in bed sleeping and away from them and other people. He r...
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Sunday got stronger
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After work on Sunday he went out to go to the store to get some stuff. Well after a while I called and he said he was at the store. Then an hour I called and he said he was at the bar getting hammer to come get him. I said no I am not going to get u at the bar. He called again and wanted me to come get him. The old me would...
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Serenity in Yosemite II
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Hello from Yosemite
The conference is over.
What a wonderful time of fellowship, learning sharing and healing.
A very special thanks to our local hosts for the invitation and the fellowship.
I encourage alanoners, if you can, attend a conference.
I went to my loca...
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megan
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No doubts, no second thoughts
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We just got back from a weekend at a hotel w/an indoor water park as a family. This had been planned for a long time and a few weeks ago when I told my A. that either he is leaving or I am he asked if he could still come along. I didn't see a reason why he shouldn't.
He hasn't drank for two weeks since that last...
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The Train of Life
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Hi all,
I got this at work and wanted to share it with you.
The Train of Life
Some folks ride the train of life
Looking out the rear,
Watching miles of life roll by,
And marking every year.
They sit in sad remembrance,
Of waste...
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Goodbye and Thank YOu
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Hi All
This morning I have realised that my nickname appears to offend some people and while it would be easy to change it - the name I chose is part of my identity and part of who I am - not merely religious but my lifestyle and as I am currently doing a lot of work on regaining who I am and focusing on who I am a...
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thank you
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thank you all so much for your wonderful replies. the love i know i deserve i get here. my a phoned this morning saying he didnt go to work, he didnt even call his boss. therefore is probably fired. not too happy here. he was crying and saying he needs help and he's going to get it. whatever. so he went too aa o...
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send some comfort please
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im at the end of my rope. i've had it. four binges this week. i just can't deal with this anymore. im pretty sure i want my a to leave and get out of my life for good. i don't see how i could ever be happy living in this situation. i just don't feel loved anymore. i feel used, disrespected, and unappreciated. th...
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holidays and family
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My A came back this evening to pick up his laundry. We started to talk about things a bit and we are both feeling a little depressed about the holidays. My A stated that it is a goal of his that we may be able to spend Christmas together. I said that we needed to take it a step at a time, but that a part of my...
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I slipped
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On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house...
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letting go of defects HURTS????
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Letting Our Defects Go
"If [character defects] contributed to our health and happiness, we would not have come to such a state of desperation."Basic Text pg. 34Getting started on the Sixth and Seventh Steps isn't always easy. We may feel as though we have so much wrong with us that we are totally d...
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He says I need to get a grip!!
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The other night the ex calls me, we have been separated for almost three months now. Obviously has a few drinks in him, not drunk though. We had a long talk, he says he is hating the way his life is now. That he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. That he wants his life back, he wants to come home. That h...
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Hikari the Enlightened One
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In Japanese Hikari means the quality of brilliant light sparkiling; or 'enlightenment' - I called him Kumo at first, it means a black & white cloud.
Hikari Kumo: http://star_of_asia.tripod.com/
In case anyone didn't see...
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it was a great day
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chuck is home for good !!. it was a great night and a wonderful day we had two parties one with his boss parents 50th anniversary and we had a great time chuck didnt even have one drink for the champagne toast i gave him my coke & he danced like crazy . before he would only dance when he was&n...
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Update
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First I have to post that I am being good to myself! I am still doing my readings each day, praying, and reading the posts here. Work has been crazy and it seems everyone is needing an evaluation for their DUI's....must have been a lot of judges and attorneys on vacation during the summer mo...
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What Your Computer Should Do For You!
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http://www.cse.unsw.edu.au/~geoffo/humour/flattery.html
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One of the Hadest things I have ever done!
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Hi all,
For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch.
Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-work...
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Dolphin123
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Choices
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Hi all,
I went to a great meeting last night on choices, oh wow great shares and great ESH.
We all have choices in our lives and it is up to us to make them. Sometimes we make bad ones, and hopefully learn from them, and sometimes we make good ones and we learn from them as well.
The best choice I ever mad...
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Dolphin123
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Almost There!
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Roomies, (Hope I don't gross anyone out)
LOL, I had to share this. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. I also have a 3 year old. And today for the first time ever my 2 year old son sat on the potty and went pee! 
I can see the light at the end of the 6 year diaper tunnel. LOL.
This sad to in a wa...
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Grateful
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Roomies,
I have been to some awesome meetings this week. Tuesday was "choices" ( I posted on that one earlier), Thursday was gratitude, and Friday was also gratitude.
The ESH has been truly amazing! And then after these awesome meetings I come here, and get some more ESH.
I am so gr...
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need chair for 11/25 sunday am meeting please
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hi all, i will be out of state and unable to get to a computer for next sunday's am meeting. Can sombody fill in for me please?
thanks in advance for you who steps up, lots of love, trina
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opportunity for growth
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I keep hearing wtvr we lack w/in ourselves, is what we attract in another, as an opportunity for growth.
What I have learned from attracting addicts/alcoholics is that I need to learn to put myself first & love myself.
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kitty
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Is he scared or what?
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I told you he "moved" out last night and I assumed he was drinking again. But - surprise, surprise - he didn't. He is however still in a denial but I can see the fear and a sort of "I'll show YOU' behavior. He called this morning while I was out and left a message that he was calling...
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Are You Grateful?
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I am hosting Thanksgiving for my family this year, and I did my shopping today. I was having a pity party for myself most of the day because everywhere I look, everyone seems to be married and there are cute little kids all around. I have a new boyfriend, but he lives out of town, and we don't s...
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program is reflected everywhere
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Hello All,
This has been a learning experience. God is unceasing in fulfilling the Will Of the The Divine Plan. It doesn't surprise me anymore when I see "the program" overlapping in other areas of our life in recovery.
Continually learning the "same lessons over again" I suppose -...
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kitty
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Didn't go but my A was not the reason
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Hello all and good morning:
I wound up not going to NYC last night but it was nice that it was my own voice of reason and not worrying about my A that kept me home. After taking care of some bills and looking ahead to Christmas, i realized this was not the time to be spending money on a night on the town...
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Kim
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"How come you don't.."(caution-adult nature)
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This morning my A. says "I have a question for you. How come you don't have an orgasm anymore."
He just doesn't understand. I keep telling him how emotional intimacy, trust, security and safety for my well being is important to me to even get to a point where I can even delve into a fulfilling physica...
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starting over
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Its been a month, and grieving process is starting. Just - this is hard. My expectations were in the way , naturally. I have to come to terms with making long term plans. This seems like an unsurmountable task. God has made me strong, sometimes I resent that. I feel like curling up in a ball...
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he thinks he's gone...
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Last night I was getting to run errands with a borrowed car when my A husband pulled up to let me know the status on my own car which was being fixed by a friend of ours. He was his usual "I took care of it" mode, trying to act just like his normal self. He asked where I was going, said...
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spoke w/my 13yr son today
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Told him Im going to AlAnon and when/if he's ready he can go to AlAteen (but I wasnt going to force him).
We spoke about Dad being grumpy especially after he's had a night drinking.
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Barbara
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It shows
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Yesterday I took care of my money needs. Because of my husband asking me for money I put the money in a CD for 6 months so it can't be touch. While it is sitting there it might as well collect more interst then it does in the saving account. Well when I got home I placed the envoople of the cd on the bed he picked i...
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I'm new, too
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I never knew this place existed and am very happy at having found it! Many years ago I went to Al-Anon for about 2 years as both my Mom and husband were active alcoholics. I found the rooms to be a sort of haven for me and I felt good that I was finally doing something to try and understand...
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Serenity In Yosemite
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Hello from the Yosemite,Ca AA/Alanon Summit Conference
There is a program of Alanon meetings, AA meetings, Alanon speakers and AA Speakers.
This is all set among great natural splendor.
Here are some pictures: Maria, David, Megan by Bridalveilfalls, Ha...
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