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UncleLou · UncleLou

She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...

Satori · Satori

During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...

marmare · marmare

Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok what I am sharing with you is something I have never shared with anyone..and something that I am not very proud of...SO don't judge me on it You may take what you like and leave the rest..or just don't read it at all I am sorry for being so cynical or blunt...but I just ya know..don't want you guys to t...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

The Memories are Fading Away You held me in your arms when I was first born, you snuggled me tight so I would be warm’ You told me you loved me and would never leave my side I should have known you lied Now I am sitting here thinking of why I believed all those things When they weren’t even...

ashraven · ashraven

I am so stressed out! The recovering alcoholic in my life, who happens to be my boyfriend, just relapsed not too long ago. Unfortunately, we don't live together so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together anyway and now he has to go to an AA meeting every night for the next 90 d...

Kim · Kim

Well, my friend cancelled tonight so another night alone. I'm a little disappointed and restless. There really isn't anything else for me to do, so I guess it's just me and the dog again. It's kinda depressing. I am trying really hard to keep on track. Focus on myself, not give in to things...

bobump · bobump

Oh the insidious disease. My HP gave me strength today thankfully. My a started on the asking for money again. Asking for $14. This is what her beverage of choice goes for today. I refused stating that I’m am not funding her addiction. She starts...

chrissy · chrissy

chuck didn't come back yet because of amanda.:( he said to give her a few days to get used to the idea of him being home again. i am so upset i really missed him even more last night. this really sucks. he is doing good though & he is still at his moms. i am so mad at amanda. but i know she is 13 an...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, When this topic was started a few days ago, I was upset. I did not see that we had a problem. But then i started wondering if someone would post this, would this be an issue? I guess the answer would be no. Now, I am starting to understand that there could be problems. That my perception did not...

captcodee · captcodee

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference three little lines, but it seems that the last few days I have neglected to make it to the last line (wisdom to know the difference) I seem to have adopte...

marmare · marmare

Well my A went snowmobiling today, called around 3:30 to tell me, they were okay and they might have to stay up in the mountains as it was snowing so badly. Then he called around 8:30 was back in town and would be headed home soon. Now his phone is turned off....is it starting all over a...

Kim · Kim

I came home from shopping today and was immediately filled with sadness. Christmas shopping today was a little hard at times b/c I was used to shopping for my family and now it is just limited to a few people (better for my pocketbook, not my psyche)...I had no plans this evening and I wanted to call my A. I...

Cyn · Cyn

Struggling VERY badly today with wanting to call him and hear his sweet voice again. But should I? I left him because he had a problem but I still love him soooo much. The last stupid conversation I ever had with him was about him planning on coming out to see me the next day and then&nb...

sunny1 · sunny1

I finally told my daughter that I LOVE HER. I have said it many times in passing or at the door or at night time. But honestly, today, I looked into her eyes and told her that I loved her and that I meant it. I hugged her so hard. She was shocked and said thanks mom. Im sure com...

Kim · Kim

So, another day without the A. Another promise broken. When he stopped over the other night to get his linens he mentioned calling the landscaper to do the fall cleanup. I said why don't you just come and help me do it, this way you don't have to pay the landscaper, I would appreciate your sweat mor...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day Who am I to judge other people? Have I proved by my great success in life that I know all the answers? Exactly the opposite. Until I came into A.A., my life could be called a failure. I made all the mistakes one could make. I took all the wrong roads there were to take. On the basis...

Christy · Christy

**snickering at what the subject line had you thinking...lol, I'm rotten While I was driving today alone, I had the opportunity for a little thought. I suppose my thought process came around from thinking about baby steps. Here's where it led me. When I walked through the doors of...

chrissy · chrissy

hi friends ,i am a little nervous my husband is coming home tomorrow and i am a little nervous. lol see what i mean lol any advice you can give would be appreciated.

thanks for always being here for me you are all wonderful!!

nycbt · nycbt

I am in a really tough spot right now. I have money in the joint savings account that is from the wedding and he is pressuring me into giving him 2000 dollars. I have said no. Now he wants me to take out a loan and I don't want do that. But he is mental draining me. He is pushing me in a corner of trying to we...

david62 · david62

I laughted so hard at Dolphin's "Waxing" post the other day....it reminded me of the last time I had read something that made me laugh so hard.... and I found it....so thought I would share it as sort of a rebuttal.... "tell a story on the guy-side" of the things...

I too, hope no one is offend...

debilyn · debilyn

(c: Your posts meant a lot to me. All of you had so many things great to say. Made me feel so much better. One of ya reminded me of the C2C book. I always kept mine close and becuz of you I gotta find it!! My poor A. This morn I asked him what got him going? He told me and was very nice. It is some...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

http://www.minnesotarecovery.info/literature/drydrunk.htm ),

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

last night i think i hit my bottom. my a hurt me so much by lying to me about where he was going. in the end today he told me he just wanted to go party with the guys and lied to me about going to a hockey game instead so we wouldnt fight. anyways... i was horrified he was cheating and i was just losing it. so my best...

debilyn · debilyn

First I am grateful to alanon, and the major part of that is the fact I can come on here and let this stuff out. The jewel to this is YOU people who understand and won't condemn me. It is the people who make alanon work by sharing, caring and being there. I am on disability for a few reasons. Some...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok...Like a lil while I just did a post and I looked back onto the board and it is not there...Now i am pissed because it was a good one..and I didn't save it,and don't know what happened to it... I am like crying right now because I am soo frustrated...I just can't take it anymore...It is...

kissers · kissers

Who are you not to be all loving and powerful????? God/HP did not create us to live in misery. We do NOT have to go there anymore. Put all of that misery and negative stuff it in a closet and burn it to the ground and tell yourself you don't need it anymore!!!!! We've suffered enough!!!! Today I choose to liv...

kitty · kitty

YES, I have been Blessed by this site/Board. I love this place, it has helped me immeasurably, inexplicably. The reponses to posts, even smply writing & venting, not to mention attending mtgs on-line, I have found to be more effective & profound than any F2F I have gone to but we...

bobump · bobump

Some of you know that I was anxious about the appointment I had with my wife’s addiction therapist and her. She was feeling pretty bold because the last visit he told her that I was controlling and my daughters therapist told her that me not giving her money is abusive and grounds for divorce. &...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Since coming to Al Anon and listening to the dialogue in F2F meetings and reading the posts here I realize that no one can tell me what I should or shouldn't do. HP gives us free will to decide what we will do and not do. So, why do I feel like my whole life I've made decisions based on what other'...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My A has moved out. He says he wants a divorce. He says he will never change and has given in to the disease. He doesn't drink but has many other addictions like computer games. It has been so difficult trying to cope with this new life that was not my choice. We try to talk but end up screaming at eac...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. --Malcolm X It does little good to complain about our mates or parents or lovers. We only accentuate our role as victims when we say, "I would be happier if he/she were different." "If he wo...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I finally spoke with my daughter last night about when she would be moving out and about doing some chores until she does. There are lots of "ifs" in this, since she has no place to go until she has a job & some money. I told her I'd like to see her up looking for a job in the morning whe...

Vermont635a · Vermont635a

I am an old time member, 18 years, not that it matters. I am dealing with dry drunk behavior. It had stopped for a long time. I've forgotten all the little tools to detach and how to survive without being blown away with every nastiness. many thanks.

camra · camra

ok someone help me out here I was just banned from the chat room.... Why was that??? please help me .. Thanks camra

kitty · kitty

Some ppl I see in the room, I never see on the Boards & vice versa. I come to the Boards to vent naturally but usually I am looking for the ESH from others. I go to the ch rm to vent wildly - but it's so funny to me how one sentence or two & ppl start to talk back, make their comments when they have neve...

Christy · Christy

The writer composed the attached video/song after a true experience that took place. Please take a moment to see it and reflect. A huge "Thank You" to all our veterans. Christy A Pittance of Time

Emmie11 · Emmie11

My sponsor has ingrained in my head how crucial it is to look at my motives before taking any action or making any decision. My motives are are the seeds from which all my actions sprout. I can either plant flowers that beautify my surroundings and bring&nbs...

jpembert · jpembert

Here it is a friday night ny A is in bed with his drink next to him. I'm sitting alone doing nothing but thinking. That all I do these day is think about how all this happened. They say you don't cause a person to drink but he was not like this when we married 26 years ago what happened the girls are away for the w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Well I finally got up the nerve to ask someone else to be my f2f sponsor. She said Yes!!! I don't know where this will take me or if she is the right one... but she is a start! Today was a good day. I took care of myself... stayed in bed till 11:30, took a bubble bath with music and candles (wow, never did tha...

mastiff · mastiff

Funny thing, i ordered a new/used "dillema of the alcoholic marriage" book, and inside it was a clipping from an article about resentments. I can see what the person before me held on to it as it is a great reading so i thought i'd share it with you all too. Resent Somebody "The moment you begin...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok ...like right now my soab gramma said I have to get off the pc...OMG I go on to express my feeling instead of lashing my anger out on myself..because I am self injuring at times...So this is definetely an outlet I use to cope with my living conditions,and depression(which is anger turned inw...

sunny1 · sunny1

So, I went to the first night of my "retreat" or so I thought, it is actually a self motivation course, not what I thought at all. Well I did know that we were going to do some self exploration but not to the depth of it. Im staying at the hotel where it is taking place and I was glad to be finished a...

Gailey · Gailey

I now have my A son living with me. I have an in-law apt. next to my home for guest and he is staying there. He is in an intensive outpatient program now which he goes to for 3 hours a day...4 days a week. He really likes it. My problem of course, is me. I want to constantly talk to him about reconciling with his f...

bob6502 · bob6502

Heya my wonderful friends, Just for today, I wanted to express my gratitude for all the wonders of my life. Just for today, I have you my wonderful friends, to help guide me through my recovery. Just for today, I have life, breathe, and happiness. Just for today, I can smell the popcorn my son is...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has been after me to take a loan out of the bank so he can buy a truck. Mind you he has the money but he doesn't want to give the person the cash. Well I told him to use the money that he has that I wouldn't be helping him. He has been pressuring me alot waiting for me to break. I am getting close to that ti...

Kim · Kim

My A came last night to pick up some linens to move into the sober house. I put together a few things that were his when he moved in (that's about all he brought along with his clothes) and he spoke, I listened. I had very little to say. He asked how I felt about him staying at the sober house. I sa...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi I live with an active alchoic. When he is not drinking he is the best friend. He listen he is funny, he cuddles with me at night. He loves to give hugs. Those are things I love about him. He does the cooking and he does the bills. Those are too things I do not do. He helps clean he never wants me to do all of it. H...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday was a good night we spent the time talking and watching tv. Those are the days are love and then I remeber why I got married. But then there are days like Sunday and Tuesday that make me wonder why I am in this mess. However I am getting stronger and I am getting more help from people that has helped...

UncleLou · UncleLou

My kids had off school today and tomorrow. My ex took my daughter to work today and I was going to bring my son (14) with me. We told him he could earn some money helping, a basement renovation. I thought he would like to opportunity to earn some money, he's been asking for a job lately. This morning he said h...

Barbara · Barbara

My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...

captcodee · captcodee

The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hi all, Well Im off on a weekend retreat, leaving tonight at 6pm my time. I was given a list of items to bring with me and was told to think about one topic that I would like to focus on. That's a hard one for me....I have so many things that I would like to change, improve or think about....

kitty · kitty

Almighty Master, Physician of our Souls bodies, You alone are prompt to defend us; quickly visit Your suffering servant Mother Earth. In Your mercy, deliver us all from sickness, bitterness, pain, suffering, relapse & poor choices. Heal us now, so that we may sing p...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Ok all, I got this at work and it made me laugh. Some of us share the same sense of humor, so I am hoping that I do not offend anyone. All hair removal methods have tricked women with their promises of easy, painless removal - The epilady, scissors, razors, Nair and now...the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I am soo kinda happy because I have been going to my moms house for the past three days..I haven't seen her since summer time. I refused to see her because she chose to drink,and I just did not want to be a part of it.. The first two days i was kinda like w/e im gonna c my mom..today we actually had...

Kim · Kim

I started the day worrying about my A. I ended my day doing things for me. I had taken the day off...started like Isaid calling my A and worrying about where he slept last night...byt the time he called me back this afternoon I had thought over things and realized I have nothing good to say to him rig...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hey folks, Just an update - haven't been on for awhile - if I have, it's been short to catch a meeting. I'm going crazy getting ready to move - going through stuff -OM gosh - where does it all come from? I've managed to mostly clean daughter's room - get stuffed animals & keepsakes into...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Well, I don't know if I'm really following the program or not, to me this is my way of detaching, but I wrote my A an email tonite. Last night, I called him to ask him a question and we talked for a few minutes and then he said hey I'm gonna go , I'm not much on talking on the phone, so see ya later. I said okeeee....

chrissy · chrissy

my husband just called said he left his moms already for today. he doent start work until 830am i heard a radio so i knew he was not home. he said he wants to come home he won't do it again he misses me. the two of us are so torn i am so drained i went to bed so early. i could have slept until 7 but the phone wok...

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	God, just let me die (Preview) She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...	UncleLou	19	852	Nov 14, 2005 by gardengal
	I don't want to fight you! (Preview) During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...	Satori	5	725	Nov 14, 2005 by lildee
	5pm (Preview) Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...	marmare	3	323	Nov 14, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am Lost... (Preview) Ok what I am sharing with you is something I have never shared with anyone..and something that I am not very proud of...SO don't judge me on it You may take what you like and leave the rest..or just don't read it at all I am sorry for being so cynical or blunt...but I just ya know..don't want you guys to t...	Lauren ashley	8	686	Nov 14, 2005 by kissers
	more of my poems (Preview) The Memories are Fading Away You held me in your arms when I was first born, you snuggled me tight so I would be warm’ You told me you loved me and would never leave my side I should have known you lied Now I am sitting here thinking of why I believed all those things When they weren’t even...	Lauren ashley	6	517	Nov 14, 2005 by kitty
	So Stressful (Preview) I am so stressed out! The recovering alcoholic in my life, who happens to be my boyfriend, just relapsed not too long ago. Unfortunately, we don't live together so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together anyway and now he has to go to an AA meeting every night for the next 90 d...	ashraven	2	341	Nov 14, 2005 by nmike
	Sat night and I ain't got nobody (Preview) Well, my friend cancelled tonight so another night alone. I'm a little disappointed and restless. There really isn't anything else for me to do, so I guess it's just me and the dog again. It's kinda depressing. I am trying really hard to keep on track. Focus on myself, not give in to things...	Kim	7	424	Nov 13, 2005 by nmike
	maybe I'm learning how to comm. with my HP (Preview) Oh the insidious disease. My HP gave me strength today thankfully. My a started on the asking for money again. Asking for $14. This is what her beverage of choice goes for today. I refused stating that I’m am not funding her addiction. She starts...	bobump	2	580	Nov 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	he is giving amanda a few days to get used to the idea:( (Preview) chuck didn't come back yet because of amanda.:( he said to give her a few days to get used to the idea of him being home again. i am so upset i really missed him even more last night. this really sucks. he is doing good though & he is still at his moms. i am so mad at amanda. but i know she is 13 an...	chrissy	4	618	Nov 13, 2005 by kissers
	Gossip and Backstabbing- Yes, this means U---- Thank You ^Lucy (Preview) Roomies, When this topic was started a few days ago, I was upset. I did not see that we had a problem. But then i started wondering if someone would post this, would this be an issue? I guess the answer would be no. Now, I am starting to understand that there could be problems. That my perception did not...	Dolphin123	0	364	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I'm trying too hard to be perfect (Preview) God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference three little lines, but it seems that the last few days I have neglected to make it to the last line (wisdom to know the difference) I seem to have adopte...	captcodee	7	409	Nov 13, 2005 by captcodee
	All over again? (Preview) Well my A went snowmobiling today, called around 3:30 to tell me, they were okay and they might have to stay up in the mountains as it was snowing so badly. Then he called around 8:30 was back in town and would be headed home soon. Now his phone is turned off....is it starting all over a...	marmare	4	502	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Friday night. Nothing to do...but so what? (Preview) I came home from shopping today and was immediately filled with sadness. Christmas shopping today was a little hard at times b/c I was used to shopping for my family and now it is just limited to a few people (better for my pocketbook, not my psyche)...I had no plans this evening and I wanted to call my A. I...	Kim	6	494	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Miss my a (exboyfriend) want to call (Preview) Struggling VERY badly today with wanting to call him and hear his sweet voice again. But should I? I left him because he had a problem but I still love him soooo much. The last stupid conversation I ever had with him was about him planning on coming out to see me the next day and then&nb...	Cyn	6	396	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I finally told my daughter... (Preview) I finally told my daughter that I LOVE HER. I have said it many times in passing or at the door or at night time. But honestly, today, I looked into her eyes and told her that I loved her and that I meant it. I hugged her so hard. She was shocked and said thanks mom. Im sure com...	sunny1	2	392	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	promises, promises (Preview) So, another day without the A. Another promise broken. When he stopped over the other night to get his linens he mentioned calling the landscaper to do the fall cleanup. I said why don't you just come and help me do it, this way you don't have to pay the landscaper, I would appreciate your sweat mor...	Kim	4	658	Nov 13, 2005 by lin0606
	who am i to judge ANYone???? (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Who am I to judge other people? Have I proved by my great success in life that I know all the answers? Exactly the opposite. Until I came into A.A., my life could be called a failure. I made all the mistakes one could make. I took all the wrong roads there were to take. On the basis...	rosie light shines	1	690	Nov 13, 2005 by bobump
	You are all a bunch of babies!! (Preview) **snickering at what the subject line had you thinking...lol, I'm rotten While I was driving today alone, I had the opportunity for a little thought. I suppose my thought process came around from thinking about baby steps. Here's where it led me. When I walked through the doors of...	Christy	10	545	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	my husband is coming home tomorrow (Preview) hi friends ,i am a little nervous my husband is coming home tomorrow and i am a little nervous. lol see what i mean lol any advice you can give would be appreciated. thanks for always being here for me you are all wonderful!!	chrissy	4	476	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	NEED SUGGESTION (Preview) I am in a really tough spot right now. I have money in the joint savings account that is from the wedding and he is pressuring me into giving him 2000 dollars. I have said no. Now he wants me to take out a loan and I don't want do that. But he is mental draining me. He is pushing me in a corner of trying to we...	nycbt	3	319	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	One Man and a Tazer (Preview) I laughted so hard at Dolphin's "Waxing" post the other day....it reminded me of the last time I had read something that made me laugh so hard.... and I found it....so thought I would share it as sort of a rebuttal.... "tell a story on the guy-side" of the things... I too, hope no one is offend...	david62	6	401	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	thoink you, and smoinks! (Preview) (c: Your posts meant a lot to me. All of you had so many things great to say. Made me feel so much better. One of ya reminded me of the C2C book. I always kept mine close and becuz of you I gotta find it!! My poor A. This morn I asked him what got him going? He told me and was very nice. It is some...	debilyn	5	414	Nov 13, 2005 by bob6502
	Could I Be A Dry Drunk? (Preview) http://www.minnesotarecovery.info/literature/drydrunk.htm ),	BlueCloud	5	496	Nov 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	i finally did it!!!! (Preview) last night i think i hit my bottom. my a hurt me so much by lying to me about where he was going. in the end today he told me he just wanted to go party with the guys and lied to me about going to a hockey game instead so we wouldnt fight. anyways... i was horrified he was cheating and i was just losing it. so my best...	notsonew1111	4	370	Nov 13, 2005 by gardengal
	Feeling alone (Preview) First I am grateful to alanon, and the major part of that is the fact I can come on here and let this stuff out. The jewel to this is YOU people who understand and won't condemn me. It is the people who make alanon work by sharing, caring and being there. I am on disability for a few reasons. Some...	debilyn	7	438	Nov 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	man I am soo stupid (Preview) Ok...Like a lil while I just did a post and I looked back onto the board and it is not there...Now i am pissed because it was a good one..and I didn't save it,and don't know what happened to it... I am like crying right now because I am soo frustrated...I just can't take it anymore...It is...	Lauren ashley	6	395	Nov 12, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	To All Of You (Preview) Who are you not to be all loving and powerful????? God/HP did not create us to live in misery. We do NOT have to go there anymore. Put all of that misery and negative stuff it in a closet and burn it to the ground and tell yourself you don't need it anymore!!!!! We've suffered enough!!!! Today I choose to liv...	kissers	3	397	Nov 12, 2005 by Diva
	weirdo (Preview) YES, I have been Blessed by this site/Board. I love this place, it has helped me immeasurably, inexplicably. The reponses to posts, even smply writing & venting, not to mention attending mtgs on-line, I have found to be more effective & profound than any F2F I have gone to but we...	kitty	4	439	Nov 12, 2005 by bobump
	I made it thru the a's therapist appt. (Preview) Some of you know that I was anxious about the appointment I had with my wife’s addiction therapist and her. She was feeling pretty bold because the last visit he told her that I was controlling and my daughters therapist told her that me not giving her money is abusive and grounds for divorce. &...	bobump	4	359	Nov 12, 2005 by canadianguy
	My Life Is Worth More Than This... (Preview) Since coming to Al Anon and listening to the dialogue in F2F meetings and reading the posts here I realize that no one can tell me what I should or shouldn't do. HP gives us free will to decide what we will do and not do. So, why do I feel like my whole life I've made decisions based on what other'...	twinmom2	6	477	Nov 12, 2005 by kissers
	On overwhelm but gaining insights (Preview) Hi all, My A has moved out. He says he wants a divorce. He says he will never change and has given in to the disease. He doesn't drink but has many other addictions like computer games. It has been so difficult trying to cope with this new life that was not my choice. We try to talk but end up screaming at eac...	nmike	2	366	Nov 12, 2005 by WakingUp
	nobody's gonna GIVE me justice!! i must TAKE it!!! (Preview) *Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. --Malcolm X* It does little good to complain about our mates or parents or lovers. We only accentuate our role as victims when we say, "I would be happier if he/she were different." "If he wo...	rosie light shines	1	336	Nov 12, 2005 by kitty
	I Did It (Preview) I finally spoke with my daughter last night about when she would be moving out and about doing some chores until she does. There are lots of "ifs" in this, since she has no place to go until she has a job & some money. I told her I'd like to see her up looking for a job in the morning whe...	WakingUp	6	376	Nov 12, 2005 by WakingUp
	Dry Drunk (Preview) I am an old time member, 18 years, not that it matters. I am dealing with dry drunk behavior. It had stopped for a long time. I've forgotten all the little tools to detach and how to survive without being blown away with every nastiness. many thanks.	Vermont635a	2	374	Nov 12, 2005 by lin0606
	banned (Preview) ok someone help me out here I was just banned from the chat room.... Why was that??? please help me .. Thanks camra	camra	2	371	Nov 12, 2005 by camra
	the chat rm is strange sometimes (Preview) Some ppl I see in the room, I never see on the Boards & vice versa. I come to the Boards to vent naturally but usually I am looking for the ESH from others. I go to the ch rm to vent wildly - but it's so funny to me how one sentence or two & ppl start to talk back, make their comments when they have neve...	kitty	8	461	Nov 12, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	In rememberance of our Vets... (Preview) The writer composed the attached video/song after a true experience that took place. Please take a moment to see it and reflect. A huge "Thank You" to all our veterans. Christy A Pittance of Time	Christy	7	741	Nov 12, 2005 by nmike
	Thought for the Day/Motives (Preview) My sponsor has ingrained in my head how crucial it is to look at my motives before taking any action or making any decision. My motives are are the seeds from which all my actions sprout. I can either plant flowers that beautify my surroundings and bring&nbs...	Emmie11	1	387	Nov 12, 2005 by hopefortoday
	just another night (Preview) Here it is a friday night ny A is in bed with his drink next to him. I'm sitting alone doing nothing but thinking. That all I do these day is think about how all this happened. They say you don't cause a person to drink but he was not like this when we married 26 years ago what happened the girls are away for the w...	jpembert	1	292	Nov 11, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	I got up the nerve!!! (Preview) Well I finally got up the nerve to ask someone else to be my f2f sponsor. She said Yes!!! I don't know where this will take me or if she is the right one... but she is a start! Today was a good day. I took care of myself... stayed in bed till 11:30, took a bubble bath with music and candles (wow, never did tha...	sandie123	7	584	Nov 11, 2005 by lmt123
	resentments are slave drivers (Preview) Funny thing, i ordered a new/used "dillema of the alcoholic marriage" book, and inside it was a clipping from an article about resentments. I can see what the person before me held on to it as it is a great reading so i thought i'd share it with you all too. Resent Somebody "The moment you begin...	mastiff	7	380	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	I can't do this anymore...I am gonna loose it pretty darn soon (Preview) Ok ...like right now my soab gramma said I have to get off the pc...OMG I go on to express my feeling instead of lashing my anger out on myself..because I am self injuring at times...So this is definetely an outlet I use to cope with my living conditions,and depression(which is anger turned inw...	Lauren ashley	9	575	Nov 11, 2005 by rosie light shines
	light bulb moment (Preview) So, I went to the first night of my "retreat" or so I thought, it is actually a self motivation course, not what I thought at all. Well I did know that we were going to do some self exploration but not to the depth of it. Im staying at the hotel where it is taking place and I was glad to be finished a...	sunny1	2	320	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Too many questions!!! (Preview) I now have my A son living with me. I have an in-law apt. next to my home for guest and he is staying there. He is in an intensive outpatient program now which he goes to for 3 hours a day...4 days a week. He really likes it. My problem of course, is me. I want to constantly talk to him about reconciling with his f...	Gailey	6	432	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Just for Today Gratitude (Preview) Heya my wonderful friends, Just for today, I wanted to express my gratitude for all the wonders of my life. Just for today, I have you my wonderful friends, to help guide me through my recovery. Just for today, I have life, breathe, and happiness. Just for today, I can smell the popcorn my son is...	bob6502	1	327	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Hard night (Preview) My husband has been after me to take a loan out of the bank so he can buy a truck. Mind you he has the money but he doesn't want to give the person the cash. Well I told him to use the money that he has that I wouldn't be helping him. He has been pressuring me alot waiting for me to break. I am getting close to that ti...	nycbt	10	378	Nov 11, 2005 by Christy
	another small triumph (Preview) My A came last night to pick up some linens to move into the sober house. I put together a few things that were his when he moved in (that's about all he brought along with his clothes) and he spoke, I listened. I had very little to say. He asked how I felt about him staying at the sober house. I sa...	Kim	4	355	Nov 11, 2005 by canadianguy
	things i love about my husband (Preview) Hi I live with an active alchoic. When he is not drinking he is the best friend. He listen he is funny, he cuddles with me at night. He loves to give hugs. Those are things I love about him. He does the cooking and he does the bills. Those are too things I do not do. He helps clean he never wants me to do all of it. H...	nycbt	5	620	Nov 11, 2005 by marmare
	GOOD NIGHT (Preview) Yesterday was a good night we spent the time talking and watching tv. Those are the days are love and then I remeber why I got married. But then there are days like Sunday and Tuesday that make me wonder why I am in this mess. However I am getting stronger and I am getting more help from people that has helped...	nycbt	3	319	Nov 11, 2005 by marmare
	More insanity at home (Preview) My kids had off school today and tomorrow. My ex took my daughter to work today and I was going to bring my son (14) with me. We told him he could earn some money helping, a basement renovation. I thought he would like to opportunity to earn some money, he's been asking for a job lately. This morning he said h...	UncleLou	5	387	Nov 11, 2005 by TLC2
	anyone else with the "at home" drinker? (Preview) My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...	Barbara	6	794	Nov 11, 2005 by bcanuck
	Not sure if I am okay (Preview) The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...	captcodee	3	492	Nov 11, 2005 by WakingUp
	My Journal.... (Preview) Hi all, Well Im off on a weekend retreat, leaving tonight at 6pm my time. I was given a list of items to bring with me and was told to think about one topic that I would like to focus on. That's a hard one for me....I have so many things that I would like to change, improve or think about....	sunny1	5	296	Nov 11, 2005 by leo
	a prayer for all of us (Preview) Almighty Master, Physician of our Souls bodies, You alone are prompt to defend us; quickly visit Your suffering servant Mother Earth. In Your mercy, deliver us all from sickness, bitterness, pain, suffering, relapse & poor choices. Heal us now, so that we may sing p...	kitty	1	423	Nov 11, 2005 by kitty
	Waxing! (Funny) (Preview) Ok all, I got this at work and it made me laugh. Some of us share the same sense of humor, so I am hoping that I do not offend anyone. All hair removal methods have tricked women with their promises of easy, painless removal - The epilady, scissors, razors, Nair and now...the...	Dolphin123	12	2749	Nov 11, 2005 by kitty
	I tried...... (Preview) I am soo kinda happy because I have been going to my moms house for the past three days..I haven't seen her since summer time. I refused to see her because she chose to drink,and I just did not want to be a part of it.. The first two days i was kinda like w/e im gonna c my mom..today we actually had...	Lauren ashley	4	640	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	The rest of the day was about me (Preview) I started the day worrying about my A. I ended my day doing things for me. I had taken the day off...started like Isaid calling my A and worrying about where he slept last night...byt the time he called me back this afternoon I had thought over things and realized I have nothing good to say to him rig...	Kim	4	530	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Moving out & Moving On (Preview) Hey folks, Just an update - haven't been on for awhile - if I have, it's been short to catch a meeting. I'm going crazy getting ready to move - going through stuff -OM gosh - where does it all come from? I've managed to mostly clean daughter's room - get stuffed animals & keepsakes into...	cedarpines	3	823	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	email to my A (Preview) Well, I don't know if I'm really following the program or not, to me this is my way of detaching, but I wrote my A an email tonite. Last night, I called him to ask him a question and we talked for a few minutes and then he said hey I'm gonna go , I'm not much on talking on the phone, so see ya later. I said okeeee....	jonibaloni21	2	309	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	my a just called at 530am (Preview) my husband just called said he left his moms already for today. he doent start work until 830am i heard a radio so i knew he was not home. he said he wants to come home he won't do it again he misses me. the two of us are so torn i am so drained i went to bed so early. i could have slept until 7 but the phone wok...	chrissy	6	625	Nov 10, 2005 by marmare
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