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The beauty of every day
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I remembered today that I used to think I was lucky to be living my life. The last time I thought that was far too long ago. I want to feel that way again, I think I am ready.
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sallyb
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Do you like the wind??
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It is so windy here today. I come from a very windy place, but recently moved away. I have been feeling very lonesome, but not able to go home.
As I sit here I suddenly hear the rush of the wind through a small crack in my office window. (How blessed I am that I have a win...
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captcodee
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Question about custody arrangements for those separated from A with kids
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Hi everyone,
I really think that I will not be able to continue to live like this (with an active A) for the long term. I have a good job, have family close by for support, and I could do it on my own if I finally make that decision. I think the biggest thing concerning me right now is wha...
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Magpie
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i feel like ive been beaten up friday sucks
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every friday i go through the same crappy nightmare. will he screw up again? i know with all the scary stuff i went through with amanda ,that i should relax. i went to sleep and woke up with such a migraine & i havent heard from my a since 1130:pm he said he would call me when he got to his mom...
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chrissy
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Does It Get Any Better???
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You know when I first met my husband over three years ago I can remember a time I couldn't wait to get home to him. I wanted to spend every waking hour with him. It's not like that anymore and I feel such guilt.
I love my husband but so much has happened and I'm still harboring some resentment...
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JulieLynn
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Commandments for calm living
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Hi Everyone,
When alcoholism affects our lives, it is very difficult to stay calm, so I thought I would share this. I know for myself I need to fear less and not worry about the future.
Commandments for calm living:
Thou shalt not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all huma...
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Diane43
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I'm Not Alright
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I am so very mixed up or something. since my friend Donna died, I can't get with the program, I can't sit still, I can't stay in a meeting for the full time, I'm bored, I'm fidgeting, I'm restless. I think why her? why not me? I am just about to EXPLODE!!!! I can't get the feelings out, no one will listen and ca...
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jonibaloni21
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God said, No.
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Just received this in an email from another friend in recovery...you may enjoy it too.
I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His Spirit is whole, his body is only tempora...
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Satori
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can you actually be working the steps w/out formally realizing youre doing so?
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Seems alot of my thinking has been step related even though Im not "officially" working the steps. Is it actually a mix? different times doing different steps?
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Barbara
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so he didn't go to rehab...
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So, this morning I try to call him about driving him to rehab...I was home waiting...although I am sick as well with a viral thing and was out from work yesterday so i was home but had to go in for a meeting today after 12...He didn't answer the phone and of course I thought the worst. 10 minutes later I get a c...
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Kim
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a way to let go of the past
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last night i looked over my diary from over the past two years. the only stuff i ever wrote in it was all the lousy stuff my a did to me and how lousy i felt and how my life was so wrong. the thoughts of when i was suicidal. basically the whole thing was written about my a and how i let everything he ever did make me...
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notsonew1111
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Growing PAINS
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I have some growing pains going on inside me. My sponsor who I love to death is helping me but it is hard to do. I am going to do what she asks me because I want to get better. Like writing done all my obessives thought. I am planning on getting a notebook because I have alot of obessive thoughts. Writing down e...
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nycbt
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dont wait
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notsonew1111
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Gossip and Backstabbing- Yes, this means U
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The drama of other people's problems can be very distracting, but in Al-Anon we discover that the problem does not lie solely within another person, the problem lies within us.
The behavior of a friend, spouse, child, sibling, parent may have led us to alanon but we soon realize that o...
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^Lucy
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I need some input
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In previous post I talked about leaving my husband and being gone for 6weeks. I have since returned. While cleaning the house I came across a receipt for oxycodone written to a lady I believe works with my husband in our bedroom. There was also a message on our answering machine that my hus...
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JulieLynn
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the dog....
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good morning all,
okay so heres the deal, I can not let this one go....
yesterday I posted about the dog, Im going to a retret this weekend and my bf was having issues about where the dog is going. thx to all your comments I have decided to give him to my brother and wife, who are real dog lovers, th...
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sunny1
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belonging and connecting....what do YOU guys think???
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Belonging And Connecting
We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with th...
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rosie light shines
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damn it!! i DO belong
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A SENSE OF BELONGING Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105
That's what it is -- belonging! After a session of meditation I knew that the feeling I was experiencing was a sense of belonging b...
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rosie light shines
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anyone on here from Massachusetts?
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Barbara
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Anger has got a hold on me
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I'm having a hard time since he didn't go to rehab. I'm sick to my stomach. I didn't think it would be affecting me this way. I'm angry at him, the insurance companies and a variety of others....but mostly I am angry at myself. I am obsessing again....worried about about every little thing he does. I feel...
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Kim
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Take what you like, and leave the rest
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This is an important part of the suggested closing in alanon.
"Take what you like, and leave the rest"
Many people in recovery, weather it be Alanon, or AA, or any program, are coming from a terrible place, a place where we all were once ourselves. It is hard to break some of the nasty di...
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captcodee
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Tired and have the blahs
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Things are going o.k. I'm just not in a good mood this week. My a hasn't gone to meetings this week because he is very busy with work. I understand this, but I am still frustrateda and scared, because when he doesn't go that gets his stinkin' thinkin' going again. He gets grouc...
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hudsond
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BOY, i am really showing you all my heart!!! would love ESH
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Beliefs about Money
I was starting a new job for a corporation. I was good at what I did for a living. The personnel manager and I were down to the details of employment, and he asked me how much money I believed I deserved. I thought about it and came up with a figure of $400 a month. This was back in the...
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Friday,11/11 OP Needed for AM Meeting
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Hello - I will be unable to do this Friday's AM meeting. I am posting this as a friendly reminder and a "Thank You" to whoever takes over Have a Great Day, Wishes, Tea2
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this sux
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I have to go to therapy right now............grrrr i fuckin hate therapy..its boring and my therapist is a bitch..she bitched that I go to alanon..and not alateen..I said well at least I am going somewhere to help me....I told her I wanted a new therapist,and shes like why..I said just becau...
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Lauren ashley
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question to all who have stayed
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i just read a bunch of replies to someones post about what life was like living with an active a. many people said that they live separate lives from their a and are happy. so my question is are all of you just existing in a relationship? or are your need actually being fullfilled? is there still intimacy?...
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notsonew1111
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If I had one wish
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Hi all,
Everytime someone is asked about what one thing they would like to change in the world, most people answer "World Peace". That is all well and good, but I would say "a cure for alcoholism/addiction". A belief I have is that curing that would have a domino affect and many issues we have would go a...
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Dolphin123
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i know we probaly know this already but may be it could help
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Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Alcohol Dependence)
by Debra Wood, RNDefinition
Alcohol abuse is a disease that involves desire for alcohol and continuing to drink even when faced with alcohol-related job, legal, social, health, or family problems. Alcohol abuse can progress to alcoholism...
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chrissy
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quick ?????
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Hi all,
I have a quesiton. I read alot about gob bag or god box. What is it how do you use it? I don't let go enough wondering if this would help me.
Thanks Nikkilou.
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nikkilou
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THIS IS THE HARD TIME
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This is when it is the hardest time is when he is so sweet. You think to yourself wow this is going to be a good day. He doesn't seem to be getting into trouble today. So you let your guard down and then there you go you are in the same mess again.
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nycbt
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accepting love...HEALTHY love!!!
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Accepting Love
Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or mo...
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rosie light shines
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I am back to HATRED, god help me
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Ok, so my 'rents made a truce... the A promised to disclose where & when he was going, to be discreet - she told him to do wtvr he wanted.
Last night he was still saying, promising everything, not be lying or drinking. But my mom has friends that are his associates that have already sd otherwi...
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kitty
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wedding anniversary/feeling low
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Today is my anniversary. 14 years married.
It will, if all goes according to plan, be the last anniversay of my marriage in which I am married to my husband.
I feel sad, lonely and tired.
i will not call him. After the dirt throwing Sunday morning he has called several times, I don't answer and he...
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megan
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was having trouble facing the fact that what I thought should be As bottom wasnt his bottom
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and I think I just realized what I was doing - which is what got me here in the first place.
DH lost a kidney beginning of August. Doc found a large cancer lump so they removed it. DS & I went to FL shortly after Husbands operation (day before he was released - this was ok w/all). A few wks after we return...
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Barbara
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re my god bag the power of hp
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hi guys it me again ,i got a phone call from the woman i am going to be watching her son she said she wouldn't need me until next month because the girl she had didnt know when she was leaving. so i said ok just let me know don't worry i will still do it. i hung up and i was so depressed . i wrote anothe...
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chrissy
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How does one accomplish this?? part 2
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So the A. asks me if we can "talk". Something he hardly ever does. We go into a closed room and he asks me "You're planning on leaving, right?" My response...."One of us will be leaving". He's not happy (which I didn't expect him to be). He tells me how now is the time that...
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sg
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Progress for me
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Hello all,
Funny thing, I realized my own progress lastnight and today.
I have been having a situation with my boyfriend. He works away 21 days then is home for 7. We do not live together and have only been in a relationship for 10ms. When I met him I was scard to death of do...
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sunny1
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celebrating my 48th bday w/out my A husband
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taking son away this wknd to a hotel w/indoor wavepool - will have my 1st massage while there. Learning not to wait for others to help me celebrate. Will return Sun (after I take son to my birthday lunch) and ask A to take his A friend home. That boundary I will ask for as its "my special day"
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Barbara
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ME
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I am upset about what happen last night. I had to take away a car key which was the easy part part. Not giving it back is going to be a hard part. I have to stand my ground. I always give to him. This is going to be hard for me.
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nycbt
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Detachment?
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I am coming to terms with my alcoholic fiance and have recently learned about detachment through local Al-Anon meetings and Al-Anon literature.
The point (in my mind) of having a spouse is to have someone in life to share experiences with, someone to love and who will love me in...
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sallyb
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attn diva
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Thank you for your words about my dog, I have added another post if you could read it. Anyone else got comments about my situation, I would be intereseted to hear?
Topic....my progress
Sunny1
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sunny1
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what would u do?
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Here's the latest pickle I've gotten myself into....
Last week at our marriage counselling session, I agreed to put up with my A smoking pot at his
friend's house--as long as he left it there, didn't do it elsewhere,etc. This was our "experiment".
I knew that when we left the appointment that he...
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gknee
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what a drug....!!
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I know that we are here due to the desiese of A, but this came to me via a friend who's cousin is in jail right now, and the wife is slowly dying. I have researched this terrible drug to be more aware, this poem is a hard reality.
Hope you dont mind me sharing it, sorry if it offends anyone.
Sunny1:s...
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sunny1
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LAST NIGHT
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Yesterday I drove home from my parents excited to see Rick. When I got home from work I patiently wanted for him to come home. Didn't call all day. We went to vote. I had no idea who to really vote for but voted. Then around 7:00 he told me that he had to starighten out the mes he made on Sunday and that he would b...
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nycbt
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Feeling some relief
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Thanks to everyone who posted replies to my "Can't Shake this one off" post. It really helped to hear different perspectives. I confronted my "a" with how I was feeling. I simply told him that I could appreciate his fear about losing me because I'm overweight, but I could not toler...
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twinmom2
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Funny thing happened at my meeting last night
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Hi all,
Back in the beginning of October I had to get a new Driver's License and I did that. Well in my area they give you a paper license and then mail you a plastic one about two weeks later. So I got my plastic one about mid-October and took it to work to make a copy for work for the insurance so I can drive a w...
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Dolphin123
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I am blessed :)
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I am blessed with so many things and it is so wonderful when a person can feel and see these things. These things may not be easy now for me with my mom and dad's failing health but I see the blessings in it and am embracing them now. Alzheimer's is still an awful horrible disease and for me espe...
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cdb
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What a cool board this is....
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And I think EVERYONE associated with it should accept a well deserved hug and pat on the back... I find it quite amazing, to see the love and caring of so many people here - reaching out to those in need, even ignoring or looking past their anger and words - and recognizing it for what it is....
The...
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canadianguy
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WHY SO HARD
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I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verb...
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nycbt
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The Disease Concept
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Dear Friends,
I was reminded recently about compassion for the alcoholic. This was something that I knew about but had not put into practice for a while. I had become angry and resentful towards the alcoholics in my life for the damage they had caused me. I was angry at the diseas...
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bob6502
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Tired of being a fool
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What is wrong with me? Why do I have hopes and dreams and disappointments. I am so sick of this crap. I went out shopping with my ex the a. He had called last Saturday night asking me if I wanted to go shopping with him Monday evening, spend some time together. He called me...
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hadit
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i can choose what kind of me i am gonna have
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Hope for Today - November 9
I grew up affected by someone else's drinking. I seldom knew what was good for me, yet I knew what was best for others and didn't hesitate to tell them. I didn't know what I enjoyed doing for fun, but I could tell you what activities the alcoholic enjoyed. I feared o...
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rosie light shines
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ok guys I need the push - tonights the night
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Thinking of trying my 2nd Al-Anon meeting (this time around). Tonight at 730. Someone please give me the push I need - thanks
I went to 1 3wks ago but didnt return.
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Barbara
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a new moment/day
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Each & every day we can change our attitudes, thoughts, actons in a split second.
In a moment we can change & we keep moving into the future of new moments where we have a choice to make a change!
(from Collective Soul, "in a moment")... "we can wake up & be laughing,...
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kitty
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how do you know whats the alcoholism? whats just being a man? and whats being a jerk?
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How do you know when to blame the alcoholism? Im seeing trails in my husband that would happen in other non-alcoholics too. How do you know whats the alcoholism? whats "being a man"? and whats just being a plain ole jerk?
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Barbara
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great website
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another great website is www.gettingthemsober.com
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healing today
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anyone ever attend those Al-Anon conventions at hotels?
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Barbara
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I just need to think,and stop being vulnerable
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Ok today i went to my moms house..We had a very good time,but she drank the whole time I was there.. I did not like that,but she said it was just wine. I know its not hard liquor,but she does have a problem
I want her to realize she is missing out on my entire childhood,and that I won't be a ki...
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Kathy S
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Hey Kathy, I shared about my A and you asked me how I'm doing. I'm doing ok. I really am. Everyday is a tough chore for me. It really is. But to live with an alcoholic and for him to really want to try is also a blessing. Thank you so much for being concerned. We all have problems and some days we think our proble...
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Cathy
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i am there my cousin sent this to me
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http://www.unityworldhq.org/JDF/IamThere.html 
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chrissy
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