Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kitty · kitty

This disease makes me feel liike I am losing a battle... i really hate it & it sucks. A horrbile, trauma drama.

pixel04 · pixel04

"Keep it Simple, Stupid!" I laughed when I first heard this. Then, before I knew it, it became the slogan I use every day. I think there is a tendency to get used to the situation I am in. Like the frog that doesn't notice that the water around him is boiling - it gets hotter gradually and he doesn't...

txmom · txmom

http://i.euniverse.com/funpages/cms_content/2529/4candles.swf

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Last night my "A" went out and used, he did not come home. He went to the neighbors and was there all night. For the past few weeks he and the kids and I have been taking the bus to drop them off at daycare and then I take the ferry with him. He goes to do his job search and I walk to work. Well he ca...

Barbara · Barbara

"If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me." I work in the childrens room of our town library. The kids are always so excited. I have a few personally close kids who love coming into my off...

captcodee · captcodee

Hello my friends. As you may or may not know, I am married to an active alcoholic/addict. We both know he is, he admits it, but is unwilling to get help. Thankfully through Alanon I have the courage to change the things I can, and the serenity to accept the things I can't. Saturday was my comp...

Powerless · Powerless

I did it! I finally brought my baby home. I drove for an hour and a hlaf this morning with knots in my stomch, but I picked him up from school. I asked him if he wanted to return home and he said yes. So here we are. I just can't stop staring at him. I know his dad isn't just goin...

Maria123 · Maria123

((((Friends))))), One of my favorite Christmas songs. If you've never heard Amy Grant sing this, it's a beauty. I remind myself that Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's are the Bermuda Triangle of the hurting heart. So I enjoy the small beauties and gifts that this season...

bobump · bobump

This is funny on soooo many levels whether you see your own behavior or that of your A's. I think it should read oil change instructions for Alanoner but I'll post as I received. Oil Change instructions for Women: 1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since the last oil cha...

gknee · gknee

Forgive me for telling this story if you have already heard it(I think I told it in an online meeting once)---but I think it is such an amazing witness of my amazing HP. This summer, my husband (my A) and I were at odds. He was using, unhappy, critical and just a joy to live with. One Friday nite in Augus...

Cyn · Cyn

In some ways what is currently happening in my life is a blessing. I lived my life as such a good girl, so innocent at times and believing in the good in all people. I went to a Christian HS and didnt really have my eyes open to the world of drugs and alcohol. I didnt have my first drink unt...

liliana · liliana

Hi, I discovered this site about two weeks ago. I am so grateful for it, I have made 3 face to face meetings it feels good to concentrate on me for a change. My a even commented that I seem relaxed and he has no idea that I made the meetings. He's been up to his usual stuff and I feel hopeful for the first time in a...

bobump · bobump

In some of my relationships it seems as I get closer, the more critical I've become. It's almost like I enter a comfort zone where I feel ok to criticize someone. I don't know why this happens short of that and it's something I need to find out some day, HP willing through working my program. Maybe I un...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, We have a Group Conscience Meeting scheduled for 7pm Est on Wednesday, December 7th. As of this date our agenda is very limited. If you have issues, suggestions, ESH that you would like to have added to our meeting, please PM me either here on the message board or in the cha...

pixel04 · pixel04

I used to not pray about much of anything, so I was skeptical of prayer when I started this program a few years ago. When I did decide to pray, I did so privately. I didn't want to share with anyone about my attempts to have a relationship with a Higher Power, or my attempts to let Him handle what I was t...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this in an e-mail today. It fit well today since I have a second interview for a new job possibiliity. I hope others can look forward to a positive New Year with new opportunities also. I know that these oppertunities can feel scary and make us not as excited as we may think we should feel... howe...

kitty · kitty

Not feeling so well these days... I am still having trouble finding or rather MAKING time for me. My mother, is close to genius & still SO OCD, ADHD, ACOA & co-dependent on me to come & rescue her. I am tired of having ~ no life. I think par...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband got up our of the blue this evening and went to an NA meeting. I was very surprised and pleased. I tried not to make too big of a deal of it, but did tell him I am proud of him. He feels that he has to do certain things to make me happy so I won't leave again. He also knows that...

kiki · kiki

Hi Everyone Can any of you guys reccommend a good book that i could give my niece to help her through the loss of her alcoholic father? Her Dad (my brother) killed himself 10 days ago after an over-dose of booze and drugs. She is in her early 20`s with a young child of her own. She has lived...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Always On Your Side - Sheryl Crow My yesterdays are all boxed up and neatly put away But every now and then you come to mind Cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called, you found a place to hide (When you knew that I was always on your side) Well everything was...

allison · allison

Okay..just had to tell someone about my small accomplishment. I kicked my husband out last tuesday..he showed up saturday morning wanting to talk.So i let him in and we had a long discussion on his problem.I told him he could come back but don`t he dare drink here or come home after he`s been drinking.I...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I have a bookmark on my desk next to my Just For Today Al-Anon one-- both of them are helping me get through some tough situations right now and I want to share the message of the one entitled Promise Yourself, in hopes that it will be helpful to you too. PROMISE YOURSELF To be so strong that nothing can...

Barbara · Barbara

I feel alot calmer going into the holidays than I would usually.

Powerless · Powerless

As we all are, I'm sure. I am always on one mission or another. My mother and son suffer from severe mental illness. I worked for mental health for several years before moving here and enjoyed it very much. THat has a lot to do with planning on psychiatric nursing. I fin...

captcodee · captcodee

I have a need to get this off my back, the only place i can talk about this is here, and I really need to get some peace. Shortly before my husband and I split up a guy with a little boy moved in next door. His son is the same age as my daughter. The weekend before I split up with my husband Doug (my neig...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling so down today. I miss my big kids. I know that they have made their decision not to return home with me when I returned to my husband and know that they have a right to their own decision. They're 8 and 10, what do they know? Obviously more than me. What i...

wille · wille

Hi 2 all, I can hardly see this screen except I can see it. as good as I can, so on we go! My good fortune is to have an awareness increase which allows me to unplug from them hill billy a types - and to walk with out a word of discontent ant 2 b able 2 forgive as I go. Just forgive - l g - l g - so ...

Kim · Kim

So, my Christmas tree is up.....listening to "Rat Pack Christmas" I celebrated my first tree alone. It was sad at times but for the most part I enjoyed the fact that I did it all myself. My A called during dinner. Wanted to know if we were ever going to see each other again. I really didn't knowwhat to say.&...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I got this at work this morning hope it makes you all smile! Please join me in remembering a great icon of the entertainment community. The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly....

Cyn · Cyn

Well as of today my life has completely taken a different path and I should be jumping for joy - but instead I am bawling my eyes out in exhaustion, frustration and being overwhelmed. I bought a swim school today - my own business. My own opportunity to build my life and make a name for myse...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hi, everyone. I really need some help. And a big pity party, sorry. Back in August I posted about my husband's abuse of Robitussin (after being clean and sober, at least I "think" so, for several years). Since then my life has been in a horrible downward spiral. I'd asked h...

Kim · Kim

This weekend has been busy. Went out with friends Friday night, yesterday I got up and started cleaning/decorating for Christmas. It was hard and I knew it would be....going through our Christmas stuff, stockings with everyone's names on it (my A, my stepdaughter, my dog who passed in...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been reasing the book SELF MATTERS by Dr. Phil. I have been doing the book work along with the step work. I have been having a very difficult time reliving things best forgotten. I am running through all of the feelings of abandonment. doubt, fear, confusion, hopelessness a...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I am living with an alcholic...I do not drink or smoke...I am in pain at least once or more times a week when he drinks...tonight I said the wrong thing...i am accused of everything. I cannot cry. It gets worse...it is all my fault, everything is...I am told...I am crying so deep and silently now...i...

seashell · seashell

I was trying to get online for a meeting. I am not that clear on java, is there some way just to log online? Thanks

Powerless · Powerless

I decided today to go back to school. I want to start next month by taking one or two classes at the local community college. I have two years of courses, but think I would like to get into psychiatric nursing. In fact, i have thought long and hard about this and know this is what I want t...

nycbt · nycbt

In a month I have gotten real strong. I have learned that it is ok to say no. To stick to my guns and not give him back the key that I took from him. For not giving in an letting him drive the car by himself. I took the key because he is not in recovery and I am afaird that he is going to get a DWI and my car will be taken...

Jersey · Jersey

Well, I did it. I've wanted to for a long time but was too afraid of what might really happen. I told my A either you clean up or I'm leaving. I didn't mean it as a threat and I didn't mean to force him to do anything. The thing is, I just can't hang on anymore. If he isn't willing to get help, then he isn't, but a...

Michele · Michele

I found a picture that my eight year old son drew yesterday. It was very violent. It showed a boy being stabbed by swords and axes. I asked him about it and he said he was just bored. When I showed it to my husband, my A, he thought it was funny and it was just a "boy" thing. I didn't think so and showed it to my p...

TLC2 · TLC2

Has anyone heard from Debilyn? Debilyn, if you see this, sure would like to know if you're ok!! Love and lotsa TLC

bobump · bobump

I had an interesting thought that while maybe not original, really meant something to me tonday in my f2f. Two people shared about going back and forth on something. I've constantly found myself doing this and many times I'm comforted w/ esh that says not to be hard on myself, prog...

sandie123 · sandie123

I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a fau...

seashell · seashell

I just found this site and registered. I had been quite active at local meetings for over 7 years. Then I stopped the meetings, I moved, but still read my books daily. I think it is time to bring it back into my life more and focus on me. I just keep doing too much for others ...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel terrible, yet relieved. I was really missing my big kids today. they are still with their dad and do not want to return home as long as I live with my husband. He kept bothering me and asking me what was wrong. I told him that it's his fault the kids and I left to begin with an...

pixel04 · pixel04

Last night my sponsor reminded me admitting powerlessness means letting go of self will so there is room for God's will to come in. I hear all the time in Alanon that you can't fill a cup that's already full. That Alanon helps us let go of a lot of the crap we bring in with us so that there's room for somethi...

flumpy · flumpy

Hiya Pico, Only me flumpy, just wondering how you are. I hope you are doing ok, and staying strong for yourself. Hope you come back to the room soon, coz I would really love to chat with you again. Stay strong for you and only you and be true to yourself.. All the flumpy love in the world, flump...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

hello all.... Hmmm I want to make this short and sweet.I went to a ftf yesterday,and one of the members there said something to me that stuck.She said that she is glad I go to the meetings because I add a kick to them.I haven't been going too often because I was sick.Anyways this member also said that she...

hopeful · hopeful

Hallo it has been along time since i visiteed this site.I have been in the programme for about 3 years and during this period i have felt alot of warmth and support from the members of the local groups that i regularly attended.At this very moment i feel very sad,frustrated lonely,and broken hea...

bluecrow · bluecrow

It was just seven days ago that my A was under the influance of Meth., once again, It was hell living with the anger that gets triggered by the drug. He calls me terrible names and looks at me as if he would like me dead. His uncommunicative and all efforts to com...

Cyn · Cyn

Dear H I am thankful for being able to share the time I did with you. It was the most wonderful time of my life - always is. 8 years we have been "dancing" around what it would be to truly commit to a relationship to each other - and we finally got to experience it. It was beautiful, spec...

Cyn · Cyn

I am walking out the door with no expectations - going to meet up with some old friends and meet some new friends while watching a club hockey game. Once again I will repeat it to myself - I wasnt the problem - drugs were the problem and I ended the relationship for my own health and sanity. This is goo...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

uncle lou, i hope your ok, havent seen you post in a while. hope you do soon.

teddybear · teddybear

Thank you to each one of you, for responding to my post. You all helped me to feel a sense of belonging. Within the last few days, I have been going through a difficult time. It is difficult sometimes, and almost impossible for me to have a lot of self-disclosure, becau...

hudsond · hudsond

Hi everybody. I haven't posted in a couple of weeks, but I have gone to a couple of f2f meetings. I've been feeling and doing pretty well. My a has been doing well. I think I was scared last time I posted because he was suppose to come by with his check and didn't show up -so I just k...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Holidays are here. They are the toughest...i am usually alone, but for the past few yrs, I have been with Him...all of his family drinks....I am going out of town the Christmas week...we will be with his realtives..they ALL drink ...last yr. there was one person that did not. and of course the kids dont...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I read this wonderful book last night. It is by Jeanet Geringer Woititz, author of Adult Children of Alcoholics. The name of the book is "Marriage on the Rocks, Learning to Live with yourslef and an Alcoholic." The book is amazing. I felt like the author was sitting in the room talking one on one wit...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon Friends, I said goodbye yesterday to my oldest son who is in the military. He is going into combat for the third time and he is only 22 years old. He knows exactly what he is getting into and it was hard to watch him prepare to go. We helped him clear out his apartment. I brought his Christmas st...

pixel04 · pixel04

I called my father yesterday, trying to get hold of my mother. She and I had been playing phone tag for several days. So yesterday I tried at 11 am - she wasn't answering at work. 2 pm - she wasn't at home, my father said. 6 pm (9pm their time), he tells me she never came home, she hasn't been home for 3 days, s...

gknee · gknee

Hi Boarders- I am pasting in a wonderful comment by a member of a different board I post on. She so eloquently describes a good alanon attitude(and she is not talking about A!!). It really spoke to me. My A (currently inactive) and I were talking last nite and he was discussing possibly using ag... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Powerless · Powerless

When I was gone, I felt such freedom, relief and hope. I also felt fear, lonely, alone, scared, angry, resentful, confused and befuddled. I relished the feeling of freedom and the suspense of not knowing what tomorrow would bring. I could ahve turned my life into anything I wanted to. I k...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	I Hate Losing (Preview) This disease makes me feel liike I am losing a battle... i really hate it & it sucks. A horrbile, trauma drama.	kitty	4	523	Dec 6, 2005 by Karilynn
	K.I.S.S. (Preview) "Keep it Simple, Stupid!" I laughed when I first heard this. Then, before I knew it, it became the slogan I use every day. I think there is a tendency to get used to the situation I am in. Like the frog that doesn't notice that the water around him is boiling - it gets hotter gradually and he doesn't...	pixel04	3	2219	Dec 6, 2005 by tea2
	Please take the time to check this out (Preview) http://i.euniverse.com/funpages/cms_content/2529/4candles.swf	txmom	5	474	Dec 6, 2005 by Karilynn
	Reflection on another night alone (Preview) Hello Roomies, Last night my "A" went out and used, he did not come home. He went to the neighbors and was there all night. For the past few weeks he and the kids and I have been taking the bus to drop them off at daycare and then I take the ferry with him. He goes to do his job search and I walk to work. Well he ca...	Dolphin123	2	489	Dec 6, 2005 by whitie
	Courage to Change - Dec 5 (Preview) "If I can't recognize the love that already exists in my life, would I really appreciate receiving more? Let me acknowledge what has already been given to me." I work in the childrens room of our town library. The kids are always so excited. I have a few personally close kids who love coming into my off...	Barbara	2	610	Dec 6, 2005 by Jane Avril
	Making it through a fight with an alcoholic (Preview) Hello my friends. As you may or may not know, I am married to an active alcoholic/addict. We both know he is, he admits it, but is unwilling to get help. Thankfully through Alanon I have the courage to change the things I can, and the serenity to accept the things I can't. Saturday was my comp...	captcodee	6	461	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	My baby is home!!!! (Preview) I did it! I finally brought my baby home. I drove for an hour and a hlaf this morning with knots in my stomch, but I picked him up from school. I asked him if he wanted to return home and he said yes. So here we are. I just can't stop staring at him. I know his dad isn't just goin...	Powerless	2	632	Dec 6, 2005 by captcodee
	My Grown Up Christmas List (Preview) ((((Friends))))), One of my favorite Christmas songs. If you've never heard Amy Grant sing this, it's a beauty. I remind myself that Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's are the Bermuda Triangle of the hurting heart. So I enjoy the small beauties and gifts that this season...	Maria123	5	492	Dec 6, 2005 by Rebecca
	Oil change instructions...made me laugh. (Preview) This is funny on soooo many levels whether you see your own behavior or that of your A's. I think it should read oil change instructions for Alanoner but I'll post as I received. Oil Change instructions for Women: 1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since the last oil cha...	bobump	5	463	Dec 6, 2005 by toto12
	Prayers Answered (weird story) (Preview) Forgive me for telling this story if you have already heard it(I think I told it in an online meeting once)---but I think it is such an amazing witness of my amazing HP. This summer, my husband (my A) and I were at odds. He was using, unhappy, critical and just a joy to live with. One Friday nite in Augus...	gknee	6	658	Dec 6, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Ignorance (Preview) In some ways what is currently happening in my life is a blessing. I lived my life as such a good girl, so innocent at times and believing in the good in all people. I went to a Christian HS and didnt really have my eyes open to the world of drugs and alcohol. I didnt have my first drink unt...	Cyn	4	471	Dec 6, 2005 by Rebecca
	feeling positive (Preview) Hi, I discovered this site about two weeks ago. I am so grateful for it, I have made 3 face to face meetings it feels good to concentrate on me for a change. My a even commented that I seem relaxed and he has no idea that I made the meetings. He's been up to his usual stuff and I feel hopeful for the first time in a...	liliana	5	496	Dec 6, 2005 by canadianguy
	I can be such a good friend..... (Preview) In some of my relationships it seems as I get closer, the more critical I've become. It's almost like I enter a comfort zone where I feel ok to criticize someone. I don't know why this happens short of that and it's something I need to find out some day, HP willing through working my program. Maybe I un...	bobump	7	498	Dec 6, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	December 7th Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) Dear Friends, We have a Group Conscience Meeting scheduled for 7pm Est on Wednesday, December 7th. As of this date our agenda is very limited. If you have issues, suggestions, ESH that you would like to have added to our meeting, please PM me either here on the message board or in the cha...	bob6502	2	405	Dec 6, 2005 by Christy
	prayer (Preview) I used to not pray about much of anything, so I was skeptical of prayer when I started this program a few years ago. When I did decide to pray, I did so privately. I didn't want to share with anyone about my attempts to have a relationship with a Higher Power, or my attempts to let Him handle what I was t...	pixel04	3	447	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	Anticipation (Preview) I got this in an e-mail today. It fit well today since I have a second interview for a new job possibiliity. I hope others can look forward to a positive New Year with new opportunities also. I know that these oppertunities can feel scary and make us not as excited as we may think we should feel... howe...	sandie123	3	420	Dec 6, 2005 by leo
	I feel like I am losing myself (Preview) Not feeling so well these days... I am still having trouble finding or rather MAKING time for me. My mother, is close to genius & still SO OCD, ADHD, ACOA & co-dependent on me to come & rescue her. I am tired of having ~ no life. I think par...	kitty	4	650	Dec 6, 2005 by leo
	Trying not to make a big deal of this (Preview) My husband got up our of the blue this evening and went to an NA meeting. I was very surprised and pleased. I tried not to make too big of a deal of it, but did tell him I am proud of him. He feels that he has to do certain things to make me happy so I won't leave again. He also knows that...	Powerless	4	475	Dec 6, 2005 by hudsond
	helpful literature for daughter of suicide dad (Preview) Hi Everyone Can any of you guys reccommend a good book that i could give my niece to help her through the loss of her alcoholic father? Her Dad (my brother) killed himself 10 days ago after an over-dose of booze and drugs. She is in her early 20`s with a young child of her own. She has lived...	kiki	6	411	Dec 6, 2005 by kiki
	You tell me...? (Preview) Always On Your Side - Sheryl Crow My yesterdays are all boxed up and neatly put away But every now and then you come to mind Cause you were always waiting to be picked to play the game But when your name was called, you found a place to hide (When you knew that I was always on your side) Well everything was...	kismetstrand	2	572	Dec 6, 2005 by txmom
	one small step (Preview) Okay..just had to tell someone about my small accomplishment. I kicked my husband out last tuesday..he showed up saturday morning wanting to talk.So i let him in and we had a long discussion on his problem.I told him he could come back but don`t he dare drink here or come home after he`s been drinking.I...	allison	3	525	Dec 5, 2005 by canadianguy
	Promise Yourself (Preview) I have a bookmark on my desk next to my Just For Today Al-Anon one-- both of them are helping me get through some tough situations right now and I want to share the message of the one entitled Promise Yourself, in hopes that it will be helpful to you too. PROMISE YOURSELF To be so strong that nothing can...	Emmie11	3	439	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Im glad I found AlAnon before the holidays (Preview) I feel alot calmer going into the holidays than I would usually.	Barbara	1	355	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	I am drawn to the troubles of others (Preview) As we all are, I'm sure. I am always on one mission or another. My mother and son suffer from severe mental illness. I worked for mental health for several years before moving here and enjoyed it very much. THat has a lot to do with planning on psychiatric nursing. I fin...	Powerless	3	526	Dec 5, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Need to get this off my back (Preview) I have a need to get this off my back, the only place i can talk about this is here, and I really need to get some peace. Shortly before my husband and I split up a guy with a little boy moved in next door. His son is the same age as my daughter. The weekend before I split up with my husband Doug (my neig...	captcodee	5	541	Dec 5, 2005 by Jeannie
	Pity Party for me today (Preview) I am feeling so down today. I miss my big kids. I know that they have made their decision not to return home with me when I returned to my husband and know that they have a right to their own decision. They're 8 and 10, what do they know? Obviously more than me. What i...	Powerless	4	424	Dec 5, 2005 by Powerless
	Thank u 4 here (Preview) Hi 2 all, I can hardly see this screen except I can see it. as good as I can, so on we go! My good fortune is to have an awareness increase which allows me to unplug from them hill billy a types - and to walk with out a word of discontent ant 2 b able 2 forgive as I go. Just forgive - l g - l g - so ...	wille	1	432	Dec 5, 2005 by bobump
	another day well spent (Preview) So, my Christmas tree is up.....listening to "Rat Pack Christmas" I celebrated my first tree alone. It was sad at times but for the most part I enjoyed the fact that I did it all myself. My A called during dinner. Wanted to know if we were ever going to see each other again. I really didn't knowwhat to say.&...	Kim	4	618	Dec 5, 2005 by canadianguy
	A sad note! (Preview) Hello all, I got this at work this morning hope it makes you all smile! Please join me in remembering a great icon of the entertainment community. The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly....	Dolphin123	3	423	Dec 5, 2005 by marmare
	Sad when I should be ecstatic (sp?) (Preview) Well as of today my life has completely taken a different path and I should be jumping for joy - but instead I am bawling my eyes out in exhaustion, frustration and being overwhelmed. I bought a swim school today - my own business. My own opportunity to build my life and make a name for myse...	Cyn	5	542	Dec 5, 2005 by Rebecca
	Ruined sobriety redux (Preview) Hi, everyone. I really need some help. And a big pity party, sorry. Back in August I posted about my husband's abuse of Robitussin (after being clean and sober, at least I "think" so, for several years). Since then my life has been in a horrible downward spiral. I'd asked h...	phoebemoonpie	8	525	Dec 5, 2005 by Diva
	manipulations and boundaries (Preview) This weekend has been busy. Went out with friends Friday night, yesterday I got up and started cleaning/decorating for Christmas. It was hard and I knew it would be....going through our Christmas stuff, stockings with everyone's names on it (my A, my stepdaughter, my dog who passed in...	Kim	8	490	Dec 5, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Self Matters (Preview) I have been reasing the book SELF MATTERS by Dr. Phil. I have been doing the book work along with the step work. I have been having a very difficult time reliving things best forgotten. I am running through all of the feelings of abandonment. doubt, fear, confusion, hopelessness a...	Powerless	0	400	Dec 4, 2005 by Powerless
	I cry silently (Preview) Hi, I am living with an alcholic...I do not drink or smoke...I am in pain at least once or more times a week when he drinks...tonight I said the wrong thing...i am accused of everything. I cannot cry. It gets worse...it is all my fault, everything is...I am told...I am crying so deep and silently now...i...	alanon_2002	13	832	Dec 4, 2005 by alanon_2002
	Having issues getting on for a meeting (Preview) I was trying to get online for a meeting. I am not that clear on java, is there some way just to log online? Thanks	seashell	5	405	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Good idea or asking for trouble? (Preview) I decided today to go back to school. I want to start next month by taking one or two classes at the local community college. I have two years of courses, but think I would like to get into psychiatric nursing. In fact, i have thought long and hard about this and know this is what I want t...	Powerless	3	454	Dec 4, 2005 by Flora123
	Look back for the month (Preview) In a month I have gotten real strong. I have learned that it is ok to say no. To stick to my guns and not give him back the key that I took from him. For not giving in an letting him drive the car by himself. I took the key because he is not in recovery and I am afaird that he is going to get a DWI and my car will be taken...	nycbt	5	418	Dec 4, 2005 by liza
	What next? (Preview) Well, I did it. I've wanted to for a long time but was too afraid of what might really happen. I told my A either you clean up or I'm leaving. I didn't mean it as a threat and I didn't mean to force him to do anything. The thing is, I just can't hang on anymore. If he isn't willing to get help, then he isn't, but a...	Jersey	2	473	Dec 4, 2005 by Diva
	So sad (Preview) I found a picture that my eight year old son drew yesterday. It was very violent. It showed a boy being stabbed by swords and axes. I asked him about it and he said he was just bored. When I showed it to my husband, my A, he thought it was funny and it was just a "boy" thing. I didn't think so and showed it to my p...	Michele	5	468	Dec 4, 2005 by leo
	Debilyn? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Debilyn? Debilyn, if you see this, sure would like to know if you're ok!! Love and lotsa TLC	TLC2	3	466	Dec 4, 2005 by search41
	the pendulum of program (Preview) I had an interesting thought that while maybe not original, really meant something to me tonday in my f2f. Two people shared about going back and forth on something. I've constantly found myself doing this and many times I'm comforted w/ esh that says not to be hard on myself, prog...	bobump	5	594	Dec 4, 2005 by pixel04
	The need for Boundries... (Preview) I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a fau...	sandie123	5	469	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Nice 2 meet u (Preview) I just found this site and registered. I had been quite active at local meetings for over 7 years. Then I stopped the meetings, I moved, but still read my books daily. I think it is time to bring it back into my life more and focus on me. I just keep doing too much for others ...	seashell	10	498	Dec 4, 2005 by seashell
	Huge amount of resentment (Preview) I feel terrible, yet relieved. I was really missing my big kids today. they are still with their dad and do not want to return home as long as I live with my husband. He kept bothering me and asking me what was wrong. I told him that it's his fault the kids and I left to begin with an...	Powerless	2	502	Dec 4, 2005 by jrtjosey
	self will vs God's will (Preview) Last night my sponsor reminded me admitting powerlessness means letting go of self will so there is room for God's will to come in. I hear all the time in Alanon that you can't fill a cup that's already full. That Alanon helps us let go of a lot of the crap we bring in with us so that there's room for somethi...	pixel04	4	1535	Dec 3, 2005 by tiredtonite
	picowitch (Preview) Hiya Pico, Only me flumpy, just wondering how you are. I hope you are doing ok, and staying strong for yourself. Hope you come back to the room soon, coz I would really love to chat with you again. Stay strong for you and only you and be true to yourself.. All the flumpy love in the world, flump...	flumpy	2	432	Dec 3, 2005 by Flora123
	Sharing from the heart (Preview) hello all.... Hmmm I want to make this short and sweet.I went to a ftf yesterday,and one of the members there said something to me that stuck.She said that she is glad I go to the meetings because I add a kick to them.I haven't been going too often because I was sick.Anyways this member also said that she...	Lauren ashley	4	455	Dec 3, 2005 by Flora123
	Please someone help iam worn out (Preview) Hallo it has been along time since i visiteed this site.I have been in the programme for about 3 years and during this period i have felt alot of warmth and support from the members of the local groups that i regularly attended.At this very moment i feel very sad,frustrated lonely,and broken hea...	hopeful	7	633	Dec 3, 2005 by gardengal
	One A Parent's Love (Preview) It was just seven days ago that my A was under the influance of Meth., once again, It was hell living with the anger that gets triggered by the drug. He calls me terrible names and looks at me as if he would like me dead. His uncommunicative and all efforts to com...	bluecrow	5	495	Dec 3, 2005 by Maria123
	My letter to my A (Preview) Dear H I am thankful for being able to share the time I did with you. It was the most wonderful time of my life - always is. 8 years we have been "dancing" around what it would be to truly commit to a relationship to each other - and we finally got to experience it. It was beautiful, spec...	Cyn	9	520	Dec 3, 2005 by Karilynn
	Doing something for me tonight (Preview) I am walking out the door with no expectations - going to meet up with some old friends and meet some new friends while watching a club hockey game. Once again I will repeat it to myself - I wasnt the problem - drugs were the problem and I ended the relationship for my own health and sanity. This is goo...	Cyn	4	483	Dec 3, 2005 by notsonew1111
	uncle lou, where are you? (Preview) uncle lou, i hope your ok, havent seen you post in a while. hope you do soon.	notsonew1111	2	416	Dec 3, 2005 by UncleLou
	Thank you leo, DanaAngel, Dolphin123 (Preview) Thank you to each one of you, for responding to my post. You all helped me to feel a sense of belonging. Within the last few days, I have been going through a difficult time. It is difficult sometimes, and almost impossible for me to have a lot of self-disclosure, becau...	teddybear	3	443	Dec 2, 2005 by leo
	afraid I showed too much (Preview) Hi everybody. I haven't posted in a couple of weeks, but I have gone to a couple of f2f meetings. I've been feeling and doing pretty well. My a has been doing well. I think I was scared last time I posted because he was suppose to come by with his check and didn't show up -so I just k...	hudsond	6	684	Dec 2, 2005 by lin0606
	Holidays (Preview) Holidays are here. They are the toughest...i am usually alone, but for the past few yrs, I have been with Him...all of his family drinks....I am going out of town the Christmas week...we will be with his realtives..they ALL drink ...last yr. there was one person that did not. and of course the kids dont...	alanon_2002	3	398	Dec 2, 2005 by alanon_2002
	To parents - a good read (Preview) I read this wonderful book last night. It is by Jeanet Geringer Woititz, author of Adult Children of Alcoholics. The name of the book is "Marriage on the Rocks, Learning to Live with yourslef and an Alcoholic." The book is amazing. I felt like the author was sitting in the room talking one on one wit...	Jeannie	3	430	Dec 2, 2005 by txmom
	my son went to war (Preview) Hi Alanon Friends, I said goodbye yesterday to my oldest son who is in the military. He is going into combat for the third time and he is only 22 years old. He knows exactly what he is getting into and it was hard to watch him prepare to go. We helped him clear out his apartment. I brought his Christmas st...	nmike	12	737	Dec 2, 2005 by Karilynn
	then and now (Preview) I called my father yesterday, trying to get hold of my mother. She and I had been playing phone tag for several days. So yesterday I tried at 11 am - she wasn't answering at work. 2 pm - she wasn't at home, my father said. 6 pm (9pm their time), he tells me she never came home, she hasn't been home for 3 days, s...	pixel04	4	614	Dec 2, 2005 by Flora123
	said it better than I could ever (Preview) Hi Boarders- I am pasting in a wonderful comment by a member of a different board I post on. She so eloquently describes a good alanon attitude(and she is not talking about A!!). It really spoke to me. My A (currently inactive) and I were talking last nite and he was discussing possibly using ag... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>	gknee	2	538	Dec 2, 2005 by Emmie11
	I felt such freedom and hope (Preview) When I was gone, I felt such freedom, relief and hope. I also felt fear, lonely, alone, scared, angry, resentful, confused and befuddled. I relished the feeling of freedom and the suspense of not knowing what tomorrow would bring. I could ahve turned my life into anything I wanted to. I k...	Powerless	2	529	Dec 2, 2005 by TLC2
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