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I was talking to someone today about drugs and alcohol use and how it affects both the user and the people around them. I was talking about how when one is in a drug/alcohol induced state they do not think about purposely hurting someone else but the fact is they don’t think at all. Their brain is like a faucet and it is shut off till the drugs are gone and then the brain cells can flow again.
As I was talking, I was not thinking about what I was saying and was just letting my HP talk, and I said something which really made me think. I told her that before I asked my A to leave, I had been allowing my A to control my life and my kids’ lives when HE was NOT even able to control his own life. HOW STUPID IS THAT!!!!
I guess that is why we need to make boundaries and regain control of our own lives.
I know that since my talk I am thinking differently about my situation and pondering what lies in store for the future. That is up to me and my HP to decide… in good time.
For the present I will continue to keep the focus on me, and my kids, and keep doing all I can to become a better and stronger person.
"I guess that is why we need to make boundaries and regain control of our own lives.
I know that since my talk I am thinking differently about my situation and pondering what lies in store for the future. That is up to me and my HP to decide… in good time."
hmm... wtvr u wrote... wasn't that stupid ~ I was married for over 4 yrs, divorced for 6 & just realized he was an addict I forgave him.
I don't think comparing ourselves is the point.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Amazing what comes out of our mouths and then it all seems to make sense! Good for you! I have found letting life happen is a challenging feat but it can be done.
(((sandie))) Sometimes I find by openly talking things through or writing them down I get answers I didn’t even know I was looking for -Love those light bulb moments!
For the present I will continue to keep the focus on me, and my kids, and keep doing all I can to become a better and stronger person.
What more could anyone ask of you? By placing the focus on you, your children if they haven’t already begun to notice I’m sure will see a happier mom. You’re right it’s all in good time, go easy and please don’t forget to be gentle on you. Lots of well wishes,
Boundaries is one thing that I need to continue to work on. I have come far in it from where I used to be with absolutely none. I just need to focus on me and what I need, and stand firm in the boundaries, don't react and carry on. Thanks for reminding me of that issue. I need to work on that again.
Hugs
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..I brought my broken dreams to God Because He was my Friend..... At last I snatched them back and cried, "How could You be so slow?" "My child," He said, "what could I do? You never did let go?"
