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ally · ally

(((Guys)))) I'm going through a very hard time right now.Emotionally..... I have a load of unanswered questions::: WHY....Was I born into a family with Alcoholism in it.... WHY....Have I been affected so badly by this.... WHY.... Has this put my Life on hold....Why has it held me back.... WHY...Do...

davidssibling · davidssibling

A beautiful song I think by Jim Brickman, I have a copy of this in a chest I have for my daughter for her to read after I am dead. A must read, so beautiful. May the angels protect you Trouble neglect you And heaven accept you when its time to go home May you always have plenty The glass never empty Know in your b...

maresie2 · maresie2

One thing I am aware of is how little patience I have. Now that I have decided I want to sever all ties with the A I want it yesterday and then some. I have to go to court to get the truck back. I also have to go to court to appeal the rental issue which seems to say that I have to pay rent while he remains in the un...

serendipity · serendipity

I am better but still this feeling inside me persists. I wonder when it will lessen? When I think I am choosing to turn my mind to something else, I feel like I am denying what I am feeling, what I am going thru. It is a real, physical feeling. And when I think of him telling me he is in love with this other woman...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am moving past all the ambivalence all the stuff that kept me tied up with the A. All the "ifs" "if onlys" the "why" even. I am moving past to say I have had enough. I can no longer take his actions. I can no longer be made all the time to be the patsy to the consequences...

desert_brat · desert_brat

So I am really not sure where to turn right now and I am struggling with this. My question is "is it ever okay to nudge the A along in their recovery?". I know this is "his" journey and I have tried to detach myself from "his" disease as best I can. I remove myself from sit...

steppgirl · steppgirl

I choose to live with my active A. I choose to put up with his jealousy and rude comments. I choose to take up his slack with responsability. I choose not to let it ruin my day or my life. Am I crazy? I make my own happiness. I will not let my A control my happiness! guess I just relly needed to say that this morni...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi guys, just wanted to share this letter with you that I wrote to my husband (currently in jail) a couple weeks ago. I changed the names to protect the guilty...LOL Dear Alcoholic/Junkie, This letter has been a long time coming and has taken me a while to get to writing. Im so glad that I came to pick yo...

stephie · stephie

How does life get here. My A. I love him I do, but, I'm tired, I have no self esteem left, I doubt my friends, I doubt my life, I doubt myself. Leave him, Leave him, leave him. I hear that so many times. Well that might be easier if a) I didn't love him b) we weren't married c) I had someplace to live d) I h...

janey225 · janey225

I am new here. My husband is an alcoholic. He has been attending AA meetings and been trying to get sober from what I can tell. He moved out last week. I have so much anger toward him. I worry about him all the time. I am so lost and I dont know what to do. I have 3 children with him.I love him so much but I feel lik...

ally · ally

Hey Guys, Came back from f2f tonight, Topic was...Helping the Alcoholic... I'm sitting here, with my jacket and shoes still on, been home two hrs....I feel so powerless over Ally..... The last two days I have been having emotional difficulties.....I am trying sooo hard to let go of someone...

nmike · nmike

Does anyone know when the Yosemite Conference is? Someone went one time and said it was great. Nancy

bobbie7277 · bobbie7277

Please give me some feedback on this subject. Thanks

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My regular meeting sponsor is NOT WORKING FOR ME!!! When I talk to her she is usually distracted and I feel like I'm wasting her time or she's not really interested in what I have to say. I haven't really been given any direction on working the steps. I know I am ready to move on in my recovery and think if...

blufan · blufan

My soon-to-be 21-year-old son is currently serving 40-day sentence in jail for a second DUI. He'll be out in 10 days. My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 15 years now (yay!), so I've been through this before. I have no idea if my son is an alcholic or just having too much fun and thought he could ge...

lin0606 · lin0606

Bought an old cassette at a garage sale yesterday. First song that came on when I popped it in seemed to be sent to all of you who are leaving, have just left, are thinking of leaving, your A. "Well I know it wasn't you who held me down Heaven knows it wasn't you who set me free So often times it happens T...

Rita G · Rita G

I have read several post that our some of the member are looking for or considering finding a sponsor. At my f2f meeting last night I found a pamphlet on Sponsorship. Although I can't type all of it, I thought I would post some of the info that I thought was really helpful. It is a really great pamp...

kissers · kissers

I was outside today taking a moment to let go of work related issues that were getting to me. I was looking up at the trees and asked HP if He was there. A bird landed on the fence to my left. He pooped and flew away. I guess HP was telling me to "Let Go, Let God".

davidssibling · davidssibling

Usually I am full of fun and jokes, actually still am, but inside I am feeling a boiling point of bitterness to all the A's in my life. All the A's in the world. Seriously have to get hold of myself. I feel if an A were to come to me for a sip of water, if I were to smell alcohol on them I would slam the door, even if I...

doxie · doxie

It has taken me a long time to be ready to share this. My son sent this to me while he was still in prison. He stated this was "his" life and this poem meant a lot to him. It meant so much to receive this from him and I was touched to the core of my being. I thought I would share it with you. BTW he has been...

sash · sash

I just really need to vent. My husband is in recovery and he is about a month and a half sober. I am so happy that his is doing well in his program and extremely proud of him. However, something that drives me really really nuts is when he gets into his "holier than thou" mode. I smoke cigarett...

TLM · TLM

I am always going on about "reason, season, lifetime," based on something I saw years ago, and strangely someone just sent it to me again today. I had to see it as a message from HP and wanted to share it. It has brought me a lot of peace in my life. Today - we might as well dance!! People come int...

TLC2 · TLC2

I am horrified at what John is going through, I have seen it before and I think it's from some jealous, spiteful person/persons. Then my son called me last night, really upset. ( he is the one who had that meat-eating chemical splashed full in his face a few weeks ago). He hasn't regained full vision,an...

david62 · david62

(((((Family)))) Some "Sunday Go Ta Meetin" humor with a moral for ya! *The Pastor's Donkey* *The pastor entered his donkey in a race and it won. * *The pastor was so pleased with the donkey that he entered in another race** ** and it won again.* * **The local paper read: * * PASTOR'S ASS OUT FRO...

Tammy · Tammy

I dont even know where to start... My life is such a mess. My A husband and I have been riding this wild rollercoaster since it seems like forever. Really it has been 2 1/2 years. We seperated in September then 5 days later he received a DUI, I thought that was his rock bottom. Although we were living ap...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Ok, I passed my CNA exam!! I started taking the class in late January, not long after I found MIP, as a way of building myself up. Most people know a CNA is a small victory, but it's significant for me- I have never completed any sort of training program before. Now I have a wider area of job opportunity and i...

debilyn · debilyn

Heartbroken in NJ reminded me of this question. My AH never made amends to me. Of all people in his life, the mother of his child, the woman who was his friend/lover and wife for way over thirty years, never received one. He even made amends to his horrible dysfunctional family members who surely did not...

SLS · SLS

and I am flying high on the program!! If you have an opportunity to attend a convention, I highly recommend it. This was my second convention and the experience just keeps getting better. I spent the weekend with 300 fellow Al-Anoners, socializing and attending workshops and panel discuss...

java · java

Lin0606's post got me to thinking how so many songs (if dissected have such deeper meaning...and maybe we can even find some al-anon philosophy in some, if we have our minds in the right place. Thanks Lin0606, for going to the garage sale! I am a substitute teacher and an english teacher wanted her 6th g...

Tammy · Tammy

Today is day two without my husband. I am trying to stay busy and not think about my heart that is broken but it is really hard. I am not crying so much so I think that is a start but I am not sure where to go from here. I havent called him either so that is HUGE for me.. Baby steps I guess... Everywhere I look I s...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello friends It's been quite a while since I've posted. I do visit and read new posts often, even if I don't always respond. I'm still around! I wanted to give you all a quick update. If you've been following along... you know that I left and divorced my A/Cocaine addict husband. The divorce was f...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Today is the first day without my best friend. We burried her yesterday. Have you ever really thought of what your wake would be like? How have you touched others? What have you given back for all that you receieved? For me I got the opportuenity once again to affirm my beleives about someone I cared ab...

Katy · Katy

It's been one whole year yesterday, since my A h put down the drink, for the first few weeks we had a honey moon period, and it was looking like we were going to have the man, husband, father, we alway's wanted, I thought he would be sooooooo happy to be free of the addiction he would start to live and enj...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

debilyn · debilyn

"It is sad when the person they were isn't there anymore, like alzheimers, alcoholism eventually robs us and them of themselves...who they were, that is sad. But it is THEIR choice. And it's my choice if I chose to love them anyway...." In my experience it is not a "choice" to hav...

John · John

The Cross Room The young man was at the end of his rope. Seeing no way out, he dropped to his knees in prayer. "Lord, I can't go on," he said. "I have too heavy a cross to bear." The Lord replied, "My son, if you can't bear its weight, just place your cross inside this room. Then, o...

ally · ally

(((Guys)))))) You all know I opened a face to face group last week..I had six members...tonight I had five.. As the group is only new, I am the ONLY member...lol I asked someone would they like to chair tonight, she agreed, and I sat back thinking,"Ally Girl" see what you have achieved in you...

John · John

Acknowledging Alcoholism Can Begin RecoveryBobby: "Psssst. Don't tell anyone. It's our secret! There's an elephant in the living room, but we're pretending it's not really there and it's not really an elephant." Billy: "But it smells and it's enormous!" Bobby: "Jus...

melamom815 · melamom815

Tonight my twin sis and I hosted a baby shower for our best friend that we have had since highschool. I was a little bummed because I knew I was going to have to take my girls and I kind of wanted a night out without kids. My son went to stay with his dad so it was just the girls and me. We got there early to set u...

maresie2 · maresie2

I went to see the A the other night. He is surrounded by people who are obviously intoxicated. He is sitting in an empty duplex with two dogs who are so scared they look like zombies. The dogs know something is going on and they are frightened and upset and depressed. They are being fed and attended to...

serendipity · serendipity

Ok, here I am completly focused on him, but I have to write this down. I'd like to make it a chapter in the Big Book! The pattern is so obvious. We have been going thru this for years. He gets bored, scared, stressed, unhappy and he turns to drugs. When those feelings hit him and he's sober he turns to anothe...

ally · ally

Guys I am having a really challenging day...This morning I went to the GP's. (Docs)..Signed myself off the sick after 4 months..I will return to my job next week. Then I went into town to see my manager...I went in feeling great, confident with no aprehension at all....BUT, It didn't go as planned...

debilyn · debilyn

Found implies...... you were looking??? I do relate, from way back when. In my experience, detachment is the A's disease and him are two differnent things. His disease, if he uses or not, is commited or not to AA, going to his sponsor whatever, is none of my business. I don't have any desire to hear about...

pls · pls

I started the Alanon steps in February, got a temporary sponser in April. Now I am ready for a permanent sponser if anyone is willing. I am gradually working my way through the steps, but I realize I need some help with them sometimes. If you are willing let me know. Thanks!!!

Maria123 · Maria123

This is a very old letter that I received from someone in AA uses. I don't know the source; however, this truly helped me to understand that Alcoholism is a Disease not a choice. ================================================== Hello: Have we met before? If not let me tell you a little about myse...

kissers · kissers

I don't know why he is doing this. I work with an A. He is in sales and I am doing light sales. My boss asked me to contact a client to schedule an appointment with one of his clients. I called and scheduled the appointment. I walked over to the A and told him the date and time. He looked at his calendar and said o...

wp · wp

Congratulations to Stillkickin for tremendous achievements as mip student of the year !!!!!!!!

John · John

I just took a look at the activeboard.com's (who we purchase our message board from each month) stats information on their own site and what I found out is that they have 149,285 forums or message boards that are used for a variety of endeavors. And out of that hugh figure, this Al-Anon board is their si...

Morning Glory · Morning Glory

I just found this website and have not been to a meeting YET. My husband is halfway through a month-long rehab program. He drank heavily for 7 years before I met him, but hasn't touched alcohol for 20 years. But he has had an issue with prescription painkillers for about 15 years and displays what I'm t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

For FriendOfYours, and all my other MIP AFG/Alateen.... Sometimes, even when you DO your job, you still can't win. FOR MANY YEARS I worked as a receptionist and switchboard operator at a busy company. After a good annual review, my supervisor told me I was up for a raise, pending approval of the...

Gailey · Gailey

Today is not a good day. I keep trying to turn my thoughts over to my HP. It works for a little while and then I am back wallowing in them. I see my A son getting worse. He cannot deal with problems he has and believe me they are mountains for him to get over. We make plans to help him get some things cleared up and...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi Everyone, I was thinking about all thats going on with another allegation on John. I also saw the last ones. It got me to thinking alot since it has happened. I am a little disturbed because things like this happen in our personal lives also, in work or, at home. It also made me remember how very much t...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi,i recently posted that i found a small whiskey bottle in my hubbys chester drawer empty so i jumped the guns and thought he had drank it and stuck the empty bottle there but i was wrong" thank gosh",i did question him on it and he said that one of the guys at his gaurd unit gave i...

marmare · marmare

I wanted all of you to know that I haven't forgotten you. I read the postings when time allows. I am busy with work, then taking a class two times a week, and then visiting with friends and family on my days off. My A is finding some sort of balance, he is still drinking but not using. We try and do things t...

hopefully · hopefully

I did it. I went this a.m. and everyone was sooo nice. I had a very surprising reaction tho--I was very emotional the whole time & felt like I was going to start crying at any minute. I've never been this way before-so emotional--esp. in public, with people I didn't know. Very strange. But I am going t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), First full day w/hubby home from the hospital. The inhome nurse is here and cleaning his surgical site and giving him an anti-blood clotting shot. I'm a bit tired as I am not use to getting up every couple of hours. But I am starting to get back to semi-normal. (I was never normal...

hopefully · hopefully

I'm new to alanon & don't know much. My A is functional (never misses work) & in denial. However, he keeps a bottle in his car so he can manage the 20 min. ride home before he does some serious drinking. (he gets off at 3:00) He works 4 days a week so he has 3 days he can start drinking at 9 a.m. (It's 5 o'...

MaggiG · MaggiG

I just felt compelled to write. Alot of you know that I have had a series of losses in teh last year. To include the love of my life and my best friend just last night. No experience is ever not worth sharing especially what the experience touches you down deep to teh very fiber of your being. I had to lear...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Wow I can't beleive I have been in Al-anon for 3 years already this month.... It has been a journey let me tell ya it hasn't been rosey either but each year I see growth and each year I look back and say wow I made it through that tight spot..... When I came here in May 2004 my life was a living HELL and I didn't kn...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So yesterday evening I'm dancing around the kitchen singing this song by Diana Ross...having a "I'm feeling really good" moment and celebrating overcoming a few challenges in my life. When my A calls. (if this board had sound effects you'd hear the sound of doom lol) Have you ever just w...

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	WHY.....WHY......WHY...WHY... (Preview) (((Guys)))) I'm going through a very hard time right now.Emotionally..... I have a load of unanswered questions::: WHY....Was I born into a family with Alcoholism in it.... WHY....Have I been affected so badly by this.... WHY.... Has this put my Life on hold....Why has it held me back.... WHY...Do...	ally	15	771	May 9, 2007 by Lexie
	Never Alone (Preview) A beautiful song I think by Jim Brickman, I have a copy of this in a chest I have for my daughter for her to read after I am dead. A must read, so beautiful. May the angels protect you Trouble neglect you And heaven accept you when its time to go home May you always have plenty The glass never empty Know in your b...	davidssibling	2	296	May 9, 2007 by TLC2
	Letting go and letting god (Preview) One thing I am aware of is how little patience I have. Now that I have decided I want to sever all ties with the A I want it yesterday and then some. I have to go to court to get the truck back. I also have to go to court to appeal the rental issue which seems to say that I have to pay rent while he remains in the un...	maresie2	4	640	May 9, 2007 by TLC2
	How long will my detox from him take? (Preview) I am better but still this feeling inside me persists. I wonder when it will lessen? When I think I am choosing to turn my mind to something else, I feel like I am denying what I am feeling, what I am going thru. It is a real, physical feeling. And when I think of him telling me he is in love with this other woman...	serendipity	6	666	May 8, 2007 by CriedOut2
	moving to separation (Preview) I am moving past all the ambivalence all the stuff that kept me tied up with the A. All the "ifs" "if onlys" the "why" even. I am moving past to say I have had enough. I can no longer take his actions. I can no longer be made all the time to be the patsy to the consequences...	maresie2	2	373	May 8, 2007 by rtexas
	ESH question???? (Preview) So I am really not sure where to turn right now and I am struggling with this. My question is "is it ever okay to nudge the A along in their recovery?". I know this is "his" journey and I have tried to detach myself from "his" disease as best I can. I remove myself from sit...	desert_brat	10	677	May 8, 2007 by desert_brat
	Choice (Preview) I choose to live with my active A. I choose to put up with his jealousy and rude comments. I choose to take up his slack with responsability. I choose not to let it ruin my day or my life. Am I crazy? I make my own happiness. I will not let my A control my happiness! guess I just relly needed to say that this morni...	steppgirl	5	424	May 8, 2007 by Maria123
	Letter I wrote to my husband a while back (Preview) Hi guys, just wanted to share this letter with you that I wrote to my husband (currently in jail) a couple weeks ago. I changed the names to protect the guilty...LOL Dear Alcoholic/Junkie, This letter has been a long time coming and has taken me a while to get to writing. Im so glad that I came to pick yo...	carolinagirl	5	475	May 8, 2007 by Friendofyours
	hurt again (Preview) How does life get here. My A. I love him I do, but, I'm tired, I have no self esteem left, I doubt my friends, I doubt my life, I doubt myself. Leave him, Leave him, leave him. I hear that so many times. Well that might be easier if a) I didn't love him b) we weren't married c) I had someplace to live d) I h...	stephie	5	554	May 8, 2007 by evey
	I am so confused (Preview) I am new here. My husband is an alcoholic. He has been attending AA meetings and been trying to get sober from what I can tell. He moved out last week. I have so much anger toward him. I worry about him all the time. I am so lost and I dont know what to do. I have 3 children with him.I love him so much but I feel lik...	janey225	6	529	May 8, 2007 by maresie2
	FEELING VERY CONFUSED TONIGHT (Preview) Hey Guys, Came back from f2f tonight, Topic was...Helping the Alcoholic... I'm sitting here, with my jacket and shoes still on, been home two hrs....I feel so powerless over Ally..... The last two days I have been having emotional difficulties.....I am trying sooo hard to let go of someone...	ally	5	392	May 8, 2007 by maresie2
	Yosemite Conference???? (Preview) Does anyone know when the Yosemite Conference is? Someone went one time and said it was great. Nancy	nmike	1	372	May 8, 2007 by david62
	Acceptance vs Submission (Preview) Please give me some feedback on this subject. Thanks	bobbie7277	4	3028	May 8, 2007 by bobbie7277
	I need a sponsor... (Preview) My regular meeting sponsor is NOT WORKING FOR ME!!! When I talk to her she is usually distracted and I feel like I'm wasting her time or she's not really interested in what I have to say. I haven't really been given any direction on working the steps. I know I am ready to move on in my recovery and think if...	carolinagirl	6	589	May 8, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Where do I draw the line with son? (Preview) My soon-to-be 21-year-old son is currently serving 40-day sentence in jail for a second DUI. He'll be out in 10 days. My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 15 years now (yay!), so I've been through this before. I have no idea if my son is an alcholic or just having too much fun and thought he could ge...	blufan	5	683	May 8, 2007 by Jillanne
	Song Lyrics (Preview) Bought an old cassette at a garage sale yesterday. First song that came on when I popped it in seemed to be sent to all of you who are leaving, have just left, are thinking of leaving, your A. "Well I know it wasn't you who held me down Heaven knows it wasn't you who set me free So often times it happens T...	lin0606	4	1474	May 8, 2007 by lin0606
	Sponsorship, What It's All About (Preview) I have read several post that our some of the member are looking for or considering finding a sponsor. At my f2f meeting last night I found a pamphlet on Sponsorship. Although I can't type all of it, I thought I would post some of the info that I thought was really helpful. It is a really great pamp...	Rita G	2	7200	May 8, 2007 by ally
	HP Has a Funny Sense of Humor (Preview) I was outside today taking a moment to let go of work related issues that were getting to me. I was looking up at the trees and asked HP if He was there. A bird landed on the fence to my left. He pooped and flew away. I guess HP was telling me to "Let Go, Let God".	kissers	2	417	May 8, 2007 by Rita G
	Bitter (Preview) Usually I am full of fun and jokes, actually still am, but inside I am feeling a boiling point of bitterness to all the A's in my life. All the A's in the world. Seriously have to get hold of myself. I feel if an A were to come to me for a sip of water, if I were to smell alcohol on them I would slam the door, even if I...	davidssibling	3	459	May 8, 2007 by carolinagirl
	It took a long time for me to share this, but here goes (Preview) It has taken me a long time to be ready to share this. My son sent this to me while he was still in prison. He stated this was "his" life and this poem meant a lot to him. It meant so much to receive this from him and I was touched to the core of my being. I thought I would share it with you. BTW he has been...	doxie	8	718	May 7, 2007 by doxie
	I can be really hateful -- and I hate that! (Preview) I just really need to vent. My husband is in recovery and he is about a month and a half sober. I am so happy that his is doing well in his program and extremely proud of him. However, something that drives me really really nuts is when he gets into his "holier than thou" mode. I smoke cigarett...	sash	11	702	May 7, 2007 by Friendofyours
	A Reason, A Season, or a Lifetime (Preview) I am always going on about "reason, season, lifetime," based on something I saw years ago, and strangely someone just sent it to me again today. I had to see it as a message from HP and wanted to share it. It has brought me a lot of peace in my life. Today - we might as well dance!! People come int...	TLM	0	395	May 7, 2007 by TLM
	SHEESH! WHAT IS THIS? SH*T ON GOOD PEOPLE WEEK? (Preview) I am horrified at what John is going through, I have seen it before and I think it's from some jealous, spiteful person/persons. Then my son called me last night, really upset. ( he is the one who had that meat-eating chemical splashed full in his face a few weeks ago). He hasn't regained full vision,an...	TLC2	10	725	May 7, 2007 by TLC2
	The Pastor's Donkey (Preview) (((((Family)))) Some "Sunday Go Ta Meetin" humor with a moral for ya! The Pastor's Donkey The pastor entered his donkey in a race and it won. The pastor was so pleased with the donkey that he entered in another race* ** and it won again.* * *The local paper read: * PASTOR'S ASS OUT FRO...	david62	11	582	May 7, 2007 by davidssibling
	How do I begin ??? (Preview) I dont even know where to start... My life is such a mess. My A husband and I have been riding this wild rollercoaster since it seems like forever. Really it has been 2 1/2 years. We seperated in September then 5 days later he received a DUI, I thought that was his rock bottom. Although we were living ap...	Tammy	7	724	May 7, 2007 by Rita G
	one down, more to go (Preview) Ok, I passed my CNA exam!! I started taking the class in late January, not long after I found MIP, as a way of building myself up. Most people know a CNA is a small victory, but it's significant for me- I have never completed any sort of training program before. Now I have a wider area of job opportunity and i...	RainyJamie	6	353	May 7, 2007 by Rita G
	Did you ever receive amends??? (Preview) Heartbroken in NJ reminded me of this question. My AH never made amends to me. Of all people in his life, the mother of his child, the woman who was his friend/lover and wife for way over thirty years, never received one. He even made amends to his horrible dysfunctional family members who surely did not...	debilyn	11	1217	May 7, 2007 by hudsond
	Just back from an Area Al-Anon Convention... (Preview) and I am flying high on the program!! If you have an opportunity to attend a convention, I highly recommend it. This was my second convention and the experience just keeps getting better. I spent the weekend with 300 fellow Al-Anoners, socializing and attending workshops and panel discuss...	SLS	3	454	May 7, 2007 by hudsond
	The River (Preview) Lin0606's post got me to thinking how so many songs (if dissected have such deeper meaning...and maybe we can even find some al-anon philosophy in some, if we have our minds in the right place. Thanks Lin0606, for going to the garage sale! I am a substitute teacher and an english teacher wanted her 6th g...	java	1	413	May 7, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Day two.... (Preview) Today is day two without my husband. I am trying to stay busy and not think about my heart that is broken but it is really hard. I am not crying so much so I think that is a start but I am not sure where to go from here. I havent called him either so that is HUGE for me.. Baby steps I guess... Everywhere I look I s...	Tammy	5	620	May 7, 2007 by Lunamoth
	A new beginning! (Preview) Hello friends It's been quite a while since I've posted. I do visit and read new posts often, even if I don't always respond. I'm still around! I wanted to give you all a quick update. If you've been following along... you know that I left and divorced my A/Cocaine addict husband. The divorce was f...	artygirl	3	356	May 7, 2007 by Karilynn
	do not take for granted your friends (Preview) Today is the first day without my best friend. We burried her yesterday. Have you ever really thought of what your wake would be like? How have you touched others? What have you given back for all that you receieved? For me I got the opportuenity once again to affirm my beleives about someone I cared ab...	MaggiG	6	409	May 7, 2007 by Karilynn
	so much to think about (Preview) It's been one whole year yesterday, since my A h put down the drink, for the first few weeks we had a honey moon period, and it was looking like we were going to have the man, husband, father, we alway's wanted, I thought he would be sooooooo happy to be free of the addiction he would start to live and enj...	Katy	2	526	May 7, 2007 by abbyal
	Thought y'all would like these... (Preview)	Tiger2006	2	439	May 6, 2007 by Diva
	Java/choice? (Preview) "It is sad when the person they were isn't there anymore, like alzheimers, alcoholism eventually robs us and them of themselves...who they were, that is sad. But it is THEIR choice. And it's my choice if I chose to love them anyway...." In my experience it is not a "choice" to hav...	debilyn	6	653	May 6, 2007 by ShelBell
	The Cross Room (Story and Poem) (Preview) The Cross Room The young man was at the end of his rope. Seeing no way out, he dropped to his knees in prayer. "Lord, I can't go on," he said. "I have too heavy a cross to bear." The Lord replied, "My son, if you can't bear its weight, just place your cross inside this room. Then, o...	John	3	5449	May 6, 2007 by TLC2
	HELP....BEFORE I JUMP IN THERE AGAIN (Preview) (((Guys)))))) You all know I opened a face to face group last week..I had six members...tonight I had five.. As the group is only new, I am the ONLY member...lol I asked someone would they like to chair tonight, she agreed, and I sat back thinking,"Ally Girl" see what you have achieved in you...	ally	11	792	May 6, 2007 by ally
	Elephant in da Living Room? (Preview) Acknowledging Alcoholism Can Begin RecoveryBobby: "Psssst. Don't tell anyone. It's our secret! There's an elephant in the living room, but we're pretending it's not really there and it's not really an elephant." Billy: "But it smells and it's enormous!" Bobby: "Jus...	John	4	630	May 6, 2007 by Tiger2006
	HP stepped in... (Preview) Tonight my twin sis and I hosted a baby shower for our best friend that we have had since highschool. I was a little bummed because I knew I was going to have to take my girls and I kind of wanted a night out without kids. My son went to stay with his dad so it was just the girls and me. We got there early to set u...	melamom815	1	348	May 5, 2007 by carolena
	Watching the A go down. (Preview) I went to see the A the other night. He is surrounded by people who are obviously intoxicated. He is sitting in an empty duplex with two dogs who are so scared they look like zombies. The dogs know something is going on and they are frightened and upset and depressed. They are being fed and attended to...	maresie2	4	559	May 5, 2007 by rtexas
	it's all about him--be warned! (Preview) Ok, here I am completly focused on him, but I have to write this down. I'd like to make it a chapter in the Big Book! The pattern is so obvious. We have been going thru this for years. He gets bored, scared, stressed, unhappy and he turns to drugs. When those feelings hit him and he's sober he turns to anothe...	serendipity	3	683	May 5, 2007 by hopefully
	STRUGGLING TODAY (Preview) Guys I am having a really challenging day...This morning I went to the GP's. (Docs)..Signed myself off the sick after 4 months..I will return to my job next week. Then I went into town to see my manager...I went in feeling great, confident with no aprehension at all....BUT, It didn't go as planned...	ally	7	551	May 5, 2007 by ally
	finding evidence, commitment gauging (Preview) Found implies...... you were looking??? I do relate, from way back when. In my experience, detachment is the A's disease and him are two differnent things. His disease, if he uses or not, is commited or not to AA, going to his sponsor whatever, is none of my business. I don't have any desire to hear about...	debilyn	6	696	May 5, 2007 by pls
	NEED A PERMANENT SPONSER PLEASE!!!! (Preview) I started the Alanon steps in February, got a temporary sponser in April. Now I am ready for a permanent sponser if anyone is willing. I am gradually working my way through the steps, but I realize I need some help with them sometimes. If you are willing let me know. Thanks!!!	pls	2	474	May 5, 2007 by pls
	Alcoholism is a Disease, Not a Choice (Preview) This is a very old letter that I received from someone in AA uses. I don't know the source; however, this truly helped me to understand that Alcoholism is a Disease not a choice. ================================================== Hello: Have we met before? If not let me tell you a little about myse...	Maria123	7	789	May 5, 2007 by pls
	The A at work is out to destroy me (Preview) I don't know why he is doing this. I work with an A. He is in sales and I am doing light sales. My boss asked me to contact a client to schedule an appointment with one of his clients. I called and scheduled the appointment. I walked over to the A and told him the date and time. He looked at his calendar and said o...	kissers	4	574	May 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Still award (Preview) Congratulations to Stillkickin for tremendous achievements as mip student of the year !!!!!!!!	wp	2	414	May 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Wow.. Amazed... Mind Boggling... (Preview) I just took a look at the activeboard.com's (who we purchase our message board from each month) stats information on their own site and what I found out is that they have *149,285* forums or message boards that are used for a variety of endeavors. And out of that hugh figure, this Al-Anon board is their *si...*	John	5	901	May 4, 2007 by CJ
	Boundaries and detachment--Help! (Preview) I just found this website and have not been to a meeting YET. My husband is halfway through a month-long rehab program. He drank heavily for 7 years before I met him, but hasn't touched alcohol for 20 years. But he has had an issue with prescription painkillers for about 15 years and displays what I'm t...	Morning Glory	5	733	May 4, 2007 by lin0606
	For FriendOfYours... (Preview) For FriendOfYours, and all my other MIP AFG/Alateen.... Sometimes, even when you DO your job, you still can't win. FOR MANY YEARS I worked as a receptionist and switchboard operator at a busy company. After a good annual review, my supervisor told me I was up for a raise, pending approval of the...	Tiger2006	1	366	May 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	rambling....long!!!!! (Preview) Today is not a good day. I keep trying to turn my thoughts over to my HP. It works for a little while and then I am back wallowing in them. I see my A son getting worse. He cannot deal with problems he has and believe me they are mountains for him to get over. We make plans to help him get some things cleared up and...	Gailey	5	461	May 4, 2007 by irish54
	Lets Show John What he does for us. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I was thinking about all thats going on with another allegation on John. I also saw the last ones. It got me to thinking alot since it has happened. I am a little disturbed because things like this happen in our personal lives also, in work or, at home. It also made me remember how very much t...	kerry5	9	663	May 4, 2007 by Jeannie
	catastrophizing agin as usual (Preview) hi,i recently posted that i found a small whiskey bottle in my hubbys chester drawer empty so i jumped the guns and thought he had drank it and stuck the empty bottle there but i was wrong" thank gosh",i did question him on it and he said that one of the guys at his gaurd unit gave i...	pattyann1963	4	743	May 4, 2007 by barisax
	Short Update (Preview) I wanted all of you to know that I haven't forgotten you. I read the postings when time allows. I am busy with work, then taking a class two times a week, and then visiting with friends and family on my days off. My A is finding some sort of balance, he is still drinking but not using. We try and do things t...	marmare	3	308	May 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	My first f2f!! (Preview) I did it. I went this a.m. and everyone was sooo nice. I had a very surprising reaction tho--I was very emotional the whole time & felt like I was going to start crying at any minute. I've never been this way before-so emotional--esp. in public, with people I didn't know. Very strange. But I am going t...	hopefully	9	911	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Now I can regroup! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), First full day w/hubby home from the hospital. The inhome nurse is here and cleaning his surgical site and giving him an anti-blood clotting shot. I'm a bit tired as I am not use to getting up every couple of hours. But I am starting to get back to semi-normal. (I was never normal...	Karilynn	6	539	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	How do I set boundaries? (Preview) I'm new to alanon & don't know much. My A is functional (never misses work) & in denial. However, he keeps a bottle in his car so he can manage the 20 min. ride home before he does some serious drinking. (he gets off at 3:00) He works 4 days a week so he has 3 days he can start drinking at 9 a.m. (It's 5 o'...	hopefully	3	1044	May 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	Family! (Preview) I just felt compelled to write. Alot of you know that I have had a series of losses in teh last year. To include the love of my life and my best friend just last night. No experience is ever not worth sharing especially what the experience touches you down deep to teh very fiber of your being. I had to lear...	MaggiG	6	602	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	MAY is 3 years in this Program........... (Preview) Wow I can't beleive I have been in Al-anon for 3 years already this month.... It has been a journey let me tell ya it hasn't been rosey either but each year I see growth and each year I look back and say wow I made it through that tight spot..... When I came here in May 2004 my life was a living HELL and I didn't kn...	bubbles1990	6	461	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	I'm coming out.... :-) (Preview) So yesterday evening I'm dancing around the kitchen singing this song by Diana Ross...having a "I'm feeling really good" moment and celebrating overcoming a few challenges in my life. When my A calls. (if this board had sound effects you'd hear the sound of doom lol) Have you ever just w...	Lunamoth	6	565	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
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