Long share (and I haven't even started typing it yet...)

I'm Allison, and my 23yo daughter is the addict in my life.  She's had issues, was clean for a long time, but has been back on oxycontin recently.  She lives 200 mi away from me - I sent her to live in the town where my mom and sis live to get her away from a violent crackhead boyfriend, and that's where she got clean.  She worked in my sister's restaurant, saved up enough $ to get an apartment with a co-worker, and things were looking up.  She started dating again, didn't get serious with anyone, but about 6mos ago, met a guy with 2 young children, 4&5yo.  He apparently treats her like a queen, she considers the kids hers, and she moved in with him. 

Around that time, my brother-in-law fired her (I'm sure there were issues on BOTH sides, as he's a hot-tempered guy) and she worked at another restaurant, making pretty good money.  I should add that for the last year, my mom has spent about $7000 to put her through school for massage therapy.  Well, she and the boyfriend realized that they couldn't afford the rental they were in, so the BF took the kids and moved 2 weeks ago to a town an hour and a half away with his parents.  My daughter is supposed to follow him this week, and then they were going to save money and come to a town just an hour from me and buy their own place (no telling what the time frame on that plan was).  In the meantime, my daughter is throwing away the education she's gotten so far and sleeping on the couch of a friend.

This morning, my sister called me at work.  Apparently, my daughter spent last night in jail!  The charge was driving with a suspended license.  The reason the cops had her license at all was because she was in the process of being questioned about some FIFTY incidences of credit card fraud; she had been adding onto tips on customer's checks after they left the restaurant!!!  about 50 times!  I'm just beside myself.  If the total is over $1000, that is grand theft.

As far as the suspended license; I suspect that she quit paying her car insurance, which got the suspension, which she probably chose to ignore.  Her car, with everything she OWNS in it, was impounded; it'll cost a fortune to get it back.  She has been rescued from too many binds in the past by me, my sister and mostly my mother (2 years ago, $15K for a 45day rehab), and we're not doing it anymore.

This is all her doing.  She's 23yo, an adult.  I have gathered all kinds of information about legal services, homeless shelters, rehab and detox services - it's up to her to get the help she needs.  She has called my mom and my sister, has not called me yet - sis says she's going to try to call tonight, which is why I'm here and not at a F2F.  I will give her the info, but that's all I can do.

Her license was siezed, so she doesn't even have a photo ID.  She has no money, she has no car.  I don't even know if the BF knows what's happened, as she did not pay her last cell phone bill because she was moving.

So begins the process of detaching, with love.  I have a hole in my heart the size of the moon, and my stomach hasn't stopped churning since this morning.  I've worked the program, I've worked the steps, I know what I need to do.  But it still hurts like a sonofab*tch.

Let go, let God, ODAT, wisdom to know the difference.  I'm trying, God, I really am....