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Hi All I am thinking today about how to maintain detachment and move forward in dealing with my A son, age 27. It seems I can make progress in my Al Anon program, both F2F meetings, plus readings, working my steps, etc. but where the rubber meets the road it is still difficult. My goal is to achieve sereni...

Just checking in to report on the second day of my detachment experiment. My husband is still drinking, matter of face passed out in his easy chair as I type. I'm worried about his health. Not sure what can physically happen to him if this keeps up. Not sure what my responsibilty to call a doctor or so...

Greetings folks - I'm on day 3 of my "detachment with love" experiment and I must admit I'm wavering a bit. My AH (who began his binge on Saturday after 42 days of sobriety) woke up this morning very ill. He managed to get up to walk the dog, told me he made it to a 12:30 AA meeting but then I didn'...

I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...

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I had a relapse today and ended up calling my sponsor. I asked her to help "talk me off of the ledge." An acquaintance told me a few weeks ago the my AH (we've been separated for almost 10 months now) was frequenting a neighborhood bar. I was under the impression that he was going to meetings and...

I just need to share tonight. Nearly three weeks ago, I posted a couple of times. I was feeling so smart and empowered by what I was learning at Al-Anon. I made good healthy steps and difficult choices. I stopped arguing with him, mostly, when I knew he'd been drinking. I tried to listen more fully to him w...

I ran across this on Facebook today. Detachment has alway been a tough thing for me, so this really caught my attention: Detachment The concept of letting go can be confusing to many of us. When are we doing too much or trying too hard to control people and outcomes? When are we doing too little? When is...

My AD has broken off all communication from our family (except with her older sister) since my AH's memorial service this past January. Her twin sister, who is getting married in October, tried one last desperate attempt to make contact with her this past weekend. She and her fiancee visited the bar a...

Well, I've been busy this morning reading and relating to all these posts. My meeting is tomorrow, and I am looking forward to it, but this forum is a tremendous resource for me, too. Thank you to all of you who offer such thoughtfulness and sincerity. I must be detaching. AH constantly complains/crie...

Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...

So my AH is back to actively drinking. I've been going to F2F Al-Anon meetings weekly for the last 7 months. My AH has been attending AA on and off since January as well. He went about 3 months without drinking and then there'd be a slip here and there. The slips are happening more frequently in the past few...

Hi everyone. I've been married to an alcoholic for 6.5 years It started to become a problem about 5.5 years ago when I got pregnant and my husband started ramping up his drinking. I don't think I can adequately convey the feelings disappointment and horror of coming home with a 6 month old in tow, seein...

Hi all! Thoughtful today, and want to share my thoughts with you. I'm living on my own now for almost a month, having finally made a boundary with my abf that I'm going to live separately for 3 months, and after that time, if he is living sober and working on maintaining his sobriety, I will move back in. I h...

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Hi All I am thinking today about how to maintain detachment and move forward in dealing with my A son, age 27. It seems I can make progress in my Al Anon program, both F2F meetings, plus readings, working my steps, etc. but where the rubber meets the road it is still difficult. My goal is to achieve sereni...
Recovery Detachment Fellowship Gratitude Day 2 of Detachment (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	10	8842	Oct 16, 2011 by flopadopilus
Just checking in to report on the second day of my detachment experiment. My husband is still drinking, matter of face passed out in his easy chair as I type. I'm worried about his health. Not sure what can physically happen to him if this keeps up. Not sure what my responsibilty to call a doctor or so...
Recovery Detachment Gratitude Support Day 3 of Detachment (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	14	9525	Oct 16, 2011 by flopadopilus
Greetings folks - I'm on day 3 of my "detachment with love" experiment and I must admit I'm wavering a bit. My AH (who began his binge on Saturday after 42 days of sobriety) woke up this morning very ill. He managed to get up to walk the dog, told me he made it to a 12:30 AA meeting but then I didn'...
Crazytown detachment I Visited Crazytown Last Night- Thank God I Decided Not to Stay! (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	19	11308	Oct 25, 2011 by tommyecat
I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...
dry christmas alcoholic father sober hope detachment Update: Terrible Thanksgiving, dry Christmas? (long, sorry!) (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	7	8150	Dec 29, 2011 by Breakingfree
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detachment sponsor My Sponsor "Talked me off the ledge" Today (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	7	4728	Jan 29, 2012 by glad lee
I had a relapse today and ended up calling my sponsor. I asked her to help "talk me off of the ledge." An acquaintance told me a few weeks ago the my AH (we've been separated for almost 10 months now) was frequenting a neighborhood bar. I was under the impression that he was going to meetings and...
detachment sadness Detachment Is Not Easy (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	7	5947	Feb 6, 2013 by rehprof
I just need to share tonight. Nearly three weeks ago, I posted a couple of times. I was feeling so smart and empowered by what I was learning at Al-Anon. I made good healthy steps and difficult choices. I stopped arguing with him, mostly, when I knew he'd been drinking. I tried to listen more fully to him w...
Detachment Detachment (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	1	6348	Feb 18, 2013 by hotrod
I ran across this on Facebook today. Detachment has alway been a tough thing for me, so this really caught my attention: Detachment The concept of letting go can be confusing to many of us. When are we doing too much or trying too hard to control people and outcomes? When are we doing too little? When is...
detachment AD Continues to Isolate (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	8	3500	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
My AD has broken off all communication from our family (except with her older sister) since my AH's memorial service this past January. Her twin sister, who is getting married in October, tried one last desperate attempt to make contact with her this past weekend. She and her fiancee visited the bar a...
detachment codependency denial Definitions (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	7	11190	Jan 15, 2014 by Breakingfree
Well, I've been busy this morning reading and relating to all these posts. My meeting is tomorrow, and I am looking forward to it, but this forum is a tremendous resource for me, too. Thank you to all of you who offer such thoughtfulness and sincerity. I must be detaching. AH constantly complains/crie...
detachment getting out of their way focus on me happiness truth Getting out of their way / a revelation about revelations (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	6	15010	Apr 9, 2014 by oldergal
Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...
detachment active drinking resentment HELP! AH actively drinking & don't know how to detach. (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	13	8347	Jul 22, 2016 by Iamhere
So my AH is back to actively drinking. I've been going to F2F Al-Anon meetings weekly for the last 7 months. My AH has been attending AA on and off since January as well. He went about 3 months without drinking and then there'd be a slip here and there. The slips are happening more frequently in the past few...
Functioning alcoholic children detachment Difficulties in detaching (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	9	8136	Mar 16, 2017 by Jerry F
Hi everyone. I've been married to an alcoholic for 6.5 years It started to become a problem about 5.5 years ago when I got pregnant and my husband started ramping up his drinking. I don't think I can adequately convey the feelings disappointment and horror of coming home with a 6 month old in tow, seein...
detachment detaching focus on me recovery Detachment and other thoughts (Preview)	Al-Anon Family Group	7	9318	Jun 22, 2017 by Iamhere
Hi all! Thoughtful today, and want to share my thoughts with you. I'm living on my own now for almost a month, having finally made a boundary with my abf that I'm going to live separately for 3 months, and after that time, if he is living sober and working on maintaining his sobriety, I will move back in. I h...

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