Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...

SunnyFrog · SunnyFrog

I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...

DM2021 · DM2021

I must warn you all you may find this long! Today's C2C reading discusses how anyone new to Al-Anon expects that they will learn how to "cure" the alcoholic in their life. That the Al-Anon program will, in essence, produce their serenity, by easing all their past and present pain. What we soonlea...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This author worked hard learning and applying Alanon principles before falling prey to self pity and resentment over the perceived failures of the alcoholic to deliver emotional support. Meditation on Steps 6 and 7 shed light: were entirely ready, humbly asking higher power to remove our shortc...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading begins: " The alcoholic was obsessed with alcohol, and I was obsessed with the alcoholic.". The writer watched, monitored, controlled, felt hurt, self-pity, embarrassment, superiority, resentment, and anger. The writer also felt misery, wretchedness, and gloom, but eventuall...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Last week I mistakenly wrote a reflection on todays date in Hope for Today, so todays reflection will be from Jan 22, in case you have the book and are reading as well. Todays reading is a focus on the al-anon suggestions to seek progress rather than perfection and to mind our own b...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's C2C reading suggests that one cannot make changes for a multitude of issues, in one day. That sometimes we find our selves so troubled over a small issue when in fact that small issue is just the strawthat broke the camel's back. Talking it out with an Al-Anon member or sponsor ca...

shimo · shimo

A Credo of Detachment by Evelyn Leite You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs. I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain. I will try to have sympathy for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares about how hard it was to talk about themselves in meetings initially, and how hard it was to focus on themselves, their feelings, their wants, and their needs. With the help of their sponsor, the author realized that they were overly interested in others because...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers alcoholism as a disease, something that cannot be controlled by will power alone. If that is so, why do I perhaps act toward the alcoholic like it can be? Reminder - 'Arguments are useless against sickness.' Compassion and understanding are powerful and helpful because they...

WendyP · WendyP

HI it's WendyP, at the moment I am going through a very stressful family issue, and feeling the effects of it, not being able to sleep, eat, etc, and because I am in that zone at the moment, and feeling like I am, I started to Question myself, if I was working my program, and not working my program. I started...

Drpc · Drpc

My AH is now sober and active in AA. I found out that he cheated on me for years with different women and I am having so much trouble forgiving him. Is there anything in Al-anon that can specifically help with cheating or would I find a therapist?

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer is exploring how to understand and keep an attitude of gratitude. It isn't when life happens the way we want, nor a high from instant gratification. Instead, it has been learned that gratitude is an integral part of serenity, and it is often the means to restoring serenity. Gratitu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between our responsibilities and the responsibilities we take on out of some sense of obligation. The writer begins with a comparison between how the responsibility and authority of Al-anon world services belongs to al-anon grou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Apologies everybody- I wrote about the writing for 1/29. Next week I will double back and write about 1/22. sorry- the last thing I want to do is wish time away! m

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's reading it is about the spiritual foundation of one of Al-Anon's Traditions, "anonymity."The author tries to impress on the reader the importance of both the members and the alcoholicsanonymity and the obligation membership has to provide for each other a safe, free from labelsenviro...

youknowme2 · youknowme2

Me here. I had to make yet another new account. I'm so sorry- I must have 6 or 7 now. My computer was destroyed yesterday in a random electrical event (I am so sad about it, it's an expensive nightmare) and when I tried to log in from my old laptop it didn't have my details. I wasn't able to recover my password...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shared that they almost didn't come back to Al-Anon when they heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on oneself. The author interpreted Al-Anon as a heartless place, and a place that would force them to stop caring about their loved ones. The a...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently my ex Spouse managed to get his second (of 3) DUIs dismissed. This despite a staggeringly awful police report, and the fact that he couldn't even show up to the arraignment because he was in the hospital for alcohol withdrawl. And yet the legal system is very happy to ignore the fact that he dr...

luv123 · luv123

I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...

DM2021 · DM2021

Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...

luv123 · luv123

HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...

imom · imom

I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...

glad lee · glad lee

This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...

Lyne · Lyne

Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...

newnoz · newnoz

It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.

DM2021 · DM2021

Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!

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	Hey All...Sharing my Life Updates (Preview) Hey all. It's been a while, a long while. Last I posted, I believe I was headed from KS to AZ to deal with my parents. I've made several trips back/forth trying to be of service -- so wish they lived closer. My mother passed away on New Year's Day so went out to be with my dad, clear things from the memory c...	Iamhere	12	2244	Feb 4, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	Forgiveness (Preview) I know there's already lots of topics on forgiveness but I wanted to create a new one. I have been praying,meditating ,using all the tools I know of trying to forgive and let go of past things that the A in my life did. Some of them just seem/feel unforgivable. Although I am no longer with him,this anger I s...	SunnyFrog	21	1394	Feb 3, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C – February 3, 2023 – Al-Anon & Your HP (Preview) *I must warn you all you may find this long*! Today's C2C reading discusses how anyone new to Al-Anon expects that they will learn how to "cure" the alcoholic in their life. That the Al-Anon program will, in essence, produce their serenity, by easing all their past and present pain. What we soonlea...	DM2021	3	3283	Feb 3, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	1/31/23 C2C Hard Work: Necessary, but not Sufficient (Preview) This author worked hard learning and applying Alanon principles before falling prey to self pity and resentment over the perceived failures of the alcoholic to deliver emotional support. Meditation on Steps 6 and 7 shed light: were entirely ready, humbly asking higher power to remove our shortc...	Enigmatic	4	2014	Feb 2, 2023 by Taraxacum1
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/30, obsession (Preview) This reading begins: " The alcoholic was obsessed with alcohol, and I was obsessed with the alcoholic.". The writer watched, monitored, controlled, felt hurt, self-pity, embarrassment, superiority, resentment, and anger. The writer also felt misery, wretchedness, and gloom, but eventuall...	Lyne	2	1958	Jan 30, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Jan 29 (22) (Preview) Good morning everyone- Last week I mistakenly wrote a reflection on todays date in Hope for Today, so todays reflection will be from Jan 22, in case you have the book and are reading as well. Todays reading is a focus on the al-anon suggestions to seek progress rather than perfection and to mind our own b...	yanksfan51	2	2093	Jan 29, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – January 27, 2023 - Ironing out those rough spots!! (Preview) The author of today's C2C reading suggests that one cannot make changes for a multitude of issues, in one day. That sometimes we find our selves so troubled over a small issue when in fact that small issue is just the strawthat broke the camel's back. Talking it out with an Al-Anon member or sponsor ca...	DM2021	3	3072	Jan 28, 2023 by Lyne
	A Credo of Detachment (Preview) A Credo of Detachment by Evelyn Leite You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with his own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs. I know that when you lash out at me in anger it is because you are in pain. I will try to have sympathy for...	shimo	11	6257	Jan 26, 2023 by PK
	Courage to Change January 25 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares about how hard it was to talk about themselves in meetings initially, and how hard it was to focus on themselves, their feelings, their wants, and their needs. With the help of their sponsor, the author realized that they were overly interested in others because...	Skorpi	3	1946	Jan 26, 2023 by Daffodils
	1/24/23 ODAT Alcoholism – a Disease? (Preview) Today's page considers alcoholism as a disease, something that cannot be controlled by will power alone. If that is so, why do I perhaps act toward the alcoholic like it can be? Reminder - 'Arguments are useless against sickness.' Compassion and understanding are powerful and helpful because they...	Enigmatic	3	2099	Jan 25, 2023 by DM2021
	Being an older member and The Head of the Family in Al-Anon. (Preview) HI it's WendyP, at the moment I am going through a very stressful family issue, and feeling the effects of it, not being able to sleep, eat, etc, and because I am in that zone at the moment, and feeling like I am, I started to Question myself, if I was working my program, and not working my program. I started...	WendyP	4	1618	Jan 25, 2023 by DM2021
	Infidelity (Preview) My AH is now sober and active in AA. I found out that he cheated on me for years with different women and I am having so much trouble forgiving him. Is there anything in Al-anon that can specifically help with cheating or would I find a therapist?	Drpc	3	1167	Jan 24, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/23, maintaining an attitude of gratitude (Preview) Today's writer is exploring how to understand and keep an attitude of gratitude. It isn't when life happens the way we want, nor a high from instant gratification. Instead, it has been learned that gratitude is an integral part of serenity, and it is often the means to restoring serenity. Gratitu...	Lyne	4	835	Jan 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between our responsibilities and the responsibilities we take on out of some sense of obligation. The writer begins with a comparison between how the responsibility and authority of Al-anon world services belongs to al-anon grou...	yanksfan51	4	818	Jan 22, 2023 by serenity47
	Wrong date for hope for today ! (Preview) Apologies everybody- I wrote about the writing for 1/29. Next week I will double back and write about 1/22. sorry- the last thing I want to do is wish time away! m	yanksfan51	1	1701	Jan 22, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C – January 20, 2023 (Preview) In today's reading it is about the spiritual foundation of one of Al-Anon's Traditions, "anonymity."The author tries to impress on the reader the importance of both the members and the alcoholicsanonymity and the obligation membership has to provide for each other a safe, free from labelsenviro...	DM2021	1	2006	Jan 21, 2023 by Lyne
	Woohoo! And a question (Preview) Me here. I had to make yet another new account. I'm so sorry- I must have 6 or 7 now. My computer was destroyed yesterday in a random electrical event (I am so sad about it, it's an expensive nightmare) and when I tried to log in from my old laptop it didn't have my details. I wasn't able to recover my password...	youknowme2	3	2007	Jan 20, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change January 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shared that they almost didn't come back to Al-Anon when they heard that the best way to help an alcoholic was to focus on oneself. The author interpreted Al-Anon as a heartless place, and a place that would force them to stop caring about their loved ones. The a...	Skorpi	4	1981	Jan 19, 2023 by El
	Legal system - Sanctioned Gaslighting - Looking for my own pot of courage. (Preview) Recently my ex Spouse managed to get his second (of 3) DUIs dismissed. This despite a staggeringly awful police report, and the fact that he couldn't even show up to the arraignment because he was in the hospital for alcohol withdrawl. And yet the legal system is very happy to ignore the fact that he dr...	Fedora	9	2177	Jan 19, 2023 by luv123
	Putting My Son In Your Carre (Preview) I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...	luv123	3	2357	Jan 18, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	1/17/23 C2C - Restored to Sanity (Preview) This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...	Enigmatic	2	2027	Jan 17, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/16, understanding humility (Preview) Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...	Lyne	3	2021	Jan 17, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Wahoo!! (Preview) Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	8	2298	Jan 15, 2023 by Fedora
	Hope for Today Jan 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...	yanksfan51	2	2004	Jan 15, 2023 by Fedora
	Morning Pages (Faith / HP Letters) (Preview) HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...	luv123	2	1945	Jan 14, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C – January 13, 2023 (Preview) In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...	DM2021	4	1528	Jan 13, 2023 by DM2021
	I'm back (Preview) I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...	imom	5	1495	Jan 13, 2023 by Enigmatic
	The Bridge... (Preview) This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...	glad lee	11	2360	Jan 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change January 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...	Skorpi	2	730	Jan 12, 2023 by Daffodils
	Question about Boundaries (Preview) My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...	mamamary1964	5	951	Jan 11, 2023 by mamamary1964
	things aren't always as they seem(sad) (Preview) Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...	Hoot Nanny	3	1046	Jan 11, 2023 by Lyne
	1/10/23 C2C If I Could Put Time (spent in fear & worry) in a Bottle… (Preview) ...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...	Enigmatic	3	1292	Jan 11, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...	yanksfan51	3	2019	Jan 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
	My Brother Ruined Christmas Again, and other stories. (Preview) Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...	Youknowme	3	842	Jan 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/9, Whose fault is my suffering? (Preview) The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...	Lyne	3	2034	Jan 9, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C – January 5, 2023 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...	DM2021	5	3252	Jan 7, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change January 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...	Skorpi	5	2091	Jan 5, 2023 by DM2021
	37 wonderful years (Preview) I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,	Hoot Nanny	5	2098	Jan 4, 2023 by Daffodils
	1/3/23 C2C Every Long Journey Starts Somewhere (Preview) Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...	Enigmatic	3	2026	Jan 3, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, January 2, No bread in the hardware store (Preview) This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...	Lyne	3	2071	Jan 3, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 1 (Preview) Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...	yanksfan51	2	2031	Jan 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Happy New Year to my MIP family! (Preview) Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne	Lyne	3	1535	Dec 31, 2022 by Hoot Nanny
	C2C – December 30, 2022 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...	DM2021	5	3178	Dec 31, 2022 by DM2021
	Happy almost New Year, my beautiful AFG fellows (Preview) It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...	newnoz	2	1018	Dec 31, 2022 by Lyne
	Getting ready for the New Year. (Preview) Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...	WendyP	2	1467	Dec 29, 2022 by Lyne
	12/27/22 C2C One Man’s Trash… (Preview) This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...	Enigmatic	2	2038	Dec 27, 2022 by DM2021
	Seasons greetings (Preview) Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...	Wolfie55	4	2078	Dec 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
	So lonely & sad (Preview) Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...	Hoot Nanny	7	2275	Dec 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, 12/26, resigning from the doormat club (Preview) The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...	Lyne	1	1717	Dec 26, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...	yanksfan51	2	1746	Dec 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	christmas Day (Preview) Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.	WendyP	10	882	Dec 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C – December 23, 2022 (Preview) Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...	DM2021	4	2844	Dec 24, 2022 by DM2021
	12/20/22 C2C Love to All (Preview) Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...	Enigmatic	6	2078	Dec 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...	Skorpi	2	2055	Dec 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...	yanksfan51	2	2047	Dec 20, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – December 16, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...	DM2021	5	2028	Dec 20, 2022 by Fedora
	C2C, Monday, December 19, alcoholism is a three-fold disease (Preview) The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...	Lyne	2	2001	Dec 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	11/29/22 ODAT – Control…It Will Work This Time! (Preview) Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...	Enigmatic	5	901	Dec 19, 2022 by DM2021
	Getting better & better (Preview) I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...	Hoot Nanny	4	2111	Dec 18, 2022 by Daffodils
	It's Your Special Day Daffodils (Preview) Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!	tiredtonite	3	1973	Dec 18, 2022 by Daffodils
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