Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

luv123 · luv123

I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...

DM2021 · DM2021

Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...

luv123 · luv123

HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...

imom · imom

I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...

glad lee · glad lee

This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...

Lyne · Lyne

Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...

newnoz · newnoz

It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.

DM2021 · DM2021

Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the different kinds of loss, and their impact. Types of loss include divorce, incarcerations, illness, death, emotional change, among others. When the author lost the person they loved most, they grieved and in their grief, pushed everyon...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This member likened the balance and vitality felt when living Alanon's Live and Let Live principle to flying downhill on a bicycle. Embracing all that comes their way, good and bad, was fueled by a meeting discussion proposing thanking god when encountering problems. Difficult at first, this enc...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Grief is so tough Got a lot of help Back on track Working the program One day at a time Thanks to all who care Kathleen

Lyne · Lyne

The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...

El · El

Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.

Lyne · Lyne

The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...

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	Putting My Son In Your Carre (Preview) I found this so helpful from the Al-anon website and thought I would share it. May have been shared in the past but is a gem worth repeating and re-reading (for me maybe daily right about now) Love to all! LUV123 FIND AT: https://al-anon.org/blog/im-putting-son-care/ Im Putting My Son in Your C...	luv123	3	2023	Jan 18, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	1/17/23 C2C - Restored to Sanity (Preview) This honest writer admitted they would likely be judged insane if observed while interacting with the alcoholic. A combination of poor behavior and poor state of mind were the results of trying to control alcohol with reason or force of will. Restoration of sanity was the promise, a higher power wa...	Enigmatic	2	1749	Jan 17, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/16, understanding humility (Preview) Today's writer did not understand the concept of humility nor how to develop it. Being teachable becomes an important aspect, and to accomplish this, listening is an extremely important skill. It also involves being open to what you hear. The alanon program works as long as we stay open, honest,...	Lyne	3	1706	Jan 17, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Wahoo!! (Preview) Had two chemo treatments to my bladder 3 months ago, was suppose to have 6 but was allergic to it and it was stopped. Read that in my case two treatments could do the trick. Well saw the urologist this morning and my bladder is cancer free!!!! Wahoo!!! Just had to share!!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	8	1899	Jan 15, 2023 by Fedora
	Hope for Today Jan 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what brings us to Al-Anon in the first place, and what we might learn about ourselves once we are here. The writer describes coming to the program because of her husbands drinking. What she had trouble understanding once there, was why she was answering...	yanksfan51	2	1724	Jan 15, 2023 by Fedora
	Morning Pages (Faith / HP Letters) (Preview) HI All, I was at a meeting in another state and I heard about this group of Al-anon members that wrote daily letters to God/HP and shared them with each other each day. I began doing it most days. Sounded like a good way to stay on top of communicating with each other, HP and a kind of tenth step/prayer...	luv123	2	1671	Jan 14, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C – January 13, 2023 (Preview) In today's C2C reading the author marvels at how once they established their faith in a God/HP, how centered/grounded their life became. Al-Anon helps and guides us to work at creating a personal connection to our individual faith and relationship with our Higher Powerbecause once we do, we will f...	DM2021	4	1276	Jan 13, 2023 by DM2021
	I'm back (Preview) I haven't been active in al-anon for many years. I finally left my AH in 2015. Sadly, just months later he was found deceased in our dream home...overdose. I have spent all these years since then working on myself and getting stronger while continuing to nurture and raise our two children (who are no...	imom	5	1255	Jan 13, 2023 by Enigmatic
	The Bridge... (Preview) This was posted here on MIP when I first began lurking six years ago. It convinced me to crawl into my first al-anon meeting.... Letting Go of Those Not in Recovery We can go forward with our life (and recoveries) even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the b...	glad lee	11	2049	Jan 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change January 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their new family - a family in which they are free to be themselves, a family where love isn't a point system, where the author is accepted for who they are and masking isn't needed. When the author faces a problem this second family empathizes, bu...	Skorpi	2	616	Jan 12, 2023 by Daffodils
	Question about Boundaries (Preview) My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living. She hates it and wants to come home. We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior t...	mamamary1964	5	809	Jan 11, 2023 by mamamary1964
	things aren't always as they seem(sad) (Preview) Things aren't always as they seem I guess. I am finding more about my husband of 23 years. It turns out he was a very sick man & I didn't know how sick. He had a lot of memories that weren't actually truths. He shared a lot w/ me but I am saddened to see that he had a lot of memories that might not have been how...	Hoot Nanny	3	880	Jan 11, 2023 by Lyne
	1/10/23 C2C If I Could Put Time (spent in fear & worry) in a Bottle… (Preview) ...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment. To break the cycle of 'mental static', they: * got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, * learned to stay in and enjoy the pre...	Enigmatic	3	1089	Jan 11, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how prayer and meditation is helpful as a focus for the solutions to problems in our lives. The writer describes that having continuous communication with God was not an issue. The writer was also able to tune out distractions easily. Yet the writer was...	yanksfan51	3	1717	Jan 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
	My Brother Ruined Christmas Again, and other stories. (Preview) Hi everyone. Sorry I have abandoned my daily and haven't been around. There is a lot going on and I haven't felt very positive or like sharing with anyone. Honestly I feel defeated and sad and out of mojo. The situation with my brother has deteriorated a lot. I missed Christmas last year as my son-in-law...	Youknowme	3	716	Jan 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 1/9, Whose fault is my suffering? (Preview) The writer believed that the alcoholics caused their pain, suffering, and great unhappiness. But alanon suggested we take responsibility for our own happiness. The writer's sponsor thought it best to stop expecting the alcoholic's behavior to change. Instead, detach and change one's own at...	Lyne	3	1741	Jan 9, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C – January 5, 2023 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how to tell the difference between compassion for the alcoholic and enabling their bad behavior. They point out that it is not always clear but that looking at their motives for the intervention in that situation is helpful. Will interfering change the outc...	DM2021	5	2754	Jan 7, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change January 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their desperation when they found Al-Anon and their yearning for the serenity that other Al-Anon members possessed. They heard that going to meetings and sharing when they could, working the steps (but not all at once), getting a sponsor, rea...	Skorpi	5	1803	Jan 5, 2023 by DM2021
	37 wonderful years (Preview) I am celebrating tomorrow! 37 years ago I walked into my 1st Al anon meeting not knowing what a ride it would take me on,	Hoot Nanny	5	1777	Jan 4, 2023 by Daffodils
	1/3/23 C2C Every Long Journey Starts Somewhere (Preview) Great page that reminds us of the incredible importance of this day, today. If I want something different in my life, I can start or continue in the direction I want, today. We can't undo long established patterns or right all wrongs in a single day, but we can take a small step toward our goal. Small ste...	Enigmatic	3	1743	Jan 3, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, January 2, No bread in the hardware store (Preview) This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recogn...	Lyne	3	1786	Jan 3, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Jan 1 (Preview) Good morning and Happy New Year everyone- Todays reading is about the feeling of connectedness and support we can find in a place outside of our family of origin: our alanon group. The writer describes having had some negative reactions to the word home, not knowing what to expect there, being worrie...	yanksfan51	2	1747	Jan 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Happy New Year to my MIP family! (Preview) Thank you so much for all your support and caring all through the year. I appreciate everyone! Wishing you all a health and the best possible year ahead. Love, Lyne	Lyne	3	1320	Dec 31, 2022 by Hoot Nanny
	C2C – December 30, 2022 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the difficulties we can find ourselves in when someone, specifically the alcoholic in our lives, speaks to usin a way that makes us feel angry and hurt. The reading raises the issue of martyrdom and how we learn in Al-Anon that to view thealcoholic as we would anyone else w...	DM2021	5	2688	Dec 31, 2022 by DM2021
	Happy almost New Year, my beautiful AFG fellows (Preview) It is New Year even here and I'm thinking about what I do I want to see in next year. I'd love to have a sense of sanity in my life; an organized method of producing art, food, sewing and other basic activities that build my world. I put these off so how can I develop a process? Included in these are digital pr...	newnoz	2	876	Dec 31, 2022 by Lyne
	Getting ready for the New Year. (Preview) Hi to all, Just read all your responses on MIP to my wishes for Christmas. So now I extend them for New Year's Day. When I read them all, I read about the weather you all had, and as much as I would have loved to have seen it, I can only try to Image how cold and Freezing it would have been, and am so sorry for all of...	WendyP	2	1248	Dec 29, 2022 by Lyne
	12/27/22 C2C One Man’s Trash… (Preview) This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things. Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or se...	Enigmatic	2	1760	Dec 27, 2022 by DM2021
	Seasons greetings (Preview) Seasons greetings to those of you I already know and also to those of you that I don't know yet. I've spent the last few days at various gratitude meetings, some in this fellowship and some in other fellowships, some online meetings and some in-person meetings. A meeting is a meeting, right. I find that...	Wolfie55	4	1760	Dec 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
	So lonely & sad (Preview) Now that I have been out of the safety of the hospital for 10 days it is hitting me how lonely I am. Sure I have things to do & coping skills friends family lots of support & even a grief support group but the nights are still lonely. My husband was everything to me. I really want him back even for a mom...	Hoot Nanny	7	1949	Dec 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, 12/26, resigning from the doormat club (Preview) The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor. The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more. The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer. Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling l...	Lyne	1	1467	Dec 26, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at what serenity might be. Among other things, the writer describes serenity as: the space between impulse and action, understanding that reacting to life and responding to life are not the same thing, becoming a complete being with my body and mind i...	yanksfan51	2	1482	Dec 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	christmas Day (Preview) Hi It's Christmas Day here, in the Land Down Under, and I want to wish and hope that all on Board here has a lovely, Peaceful, Christmas Day. As I have decided to give myself the very best Christmas Day that I can, and I send my wishes to all. Love WendyP.	WendyP	10	708	Dec 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C – December 23, 2022 (Preview) Very interesting reading today about how the author, who attended an Al-Anon meeting to support a friend,felt guilty when they found that continuing to go to meetings, when they thought they did not fall under thecriteria to go because they did not have anyone in their lives that were alcoholics mad...	DM2021	4	2401	Dec 24, 2022 by DM2021
	12/20/22 C2C Love to All (Preview) Today's writer refers to Tradition 5 statement of Alanon's "one purpose: to help families of alcoholics", and how we carry out by following the 12 Steps of AA ourselves so that others are able to learn by our example rather than sermon. Trad 5 further suggests "encouraging and understanding our alco...	Enigmatic	6	1772	Dec 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on steps 8 and 9. They remember hearing another member say that when they made a list of people they had harmed, they put themselves at the top of the list. It hadn't occurred to the author to think of the harm they had caused themselves. The author had g...	Skorpi	2	1779	Dec 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the variety of people we meet through al-anon. The writer describes the power of hearing people of all backgrounds- married, single, divorced, young, old, of all ethnic backgrounds, from those in poverty to the extremely wealthy- all speak from the h...	yanksfan51	2	1761	Dec 20, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – December 16, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is kind of neat, it is a listing of all the things we think we have to take care of but, Al-Anon suggests that we do have choices and that not everything is our responsibility."I dont have to understand everything." "Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sens...	DM2021	5	1736	Dec 20, 2022 by Fedora
	C2C, Monday, December 19, alcoholism is a three-fold disease (Preview) The member says that the effects of alcoholism are a disease that effect us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Checking in with ourselves about our well-being is done by asking ourselves these (and other) questions: -Is my physical well-being a priority? -Do I eat well and get enough sle...	Lyne	2	1705	Dec 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	11/29/22 ODAT – Control…It Will Work This Time! (Preview) Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...	Enigmatic	5	773	Dec 19, 2022 by DM2021
	Getting better & better (Preview) I am so grateful that even grief can't ruin me.i have learned that I am strong beautiful & worthy. Thanks to al anon I can see the light at the end of the tunnel & just keep going. I won't just survive I will thrive! Thanks for being a part of my recovery & giving me a new perspective & a ne...	Hoot Nanny	4	1794	Dec 18, 2022 by Daffodils
	It's Your Special Day Daffodils (Preview) Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!	tiredtonite	3	1686	Dec 18, 2022 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change December 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the different kinds of loss, and their impact. Types of loss include divorce, incarcerations, illness, death, emotional change, among others. When the author lost the person they loved most, they grieved and in their grief, pushed everyon...	Skorpi	3	1838	Dec 15, 2022 by DM2021
	12/13/22 C2C Like Riding a Bike (Preview) This member likened the balance and vitality felt when living Alanon's Live and Let Live principle to flying downhill on a bicycle. Embracing all that comes their way, good and bad, was fueled by a meeting discussion proposing thanking god when encountering problems. Difficult at first, this enc...	Enigmatic	4	1653	Dec 15, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	Missing Betty (Preview) hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...	MeTwo2	7	753	Dec 13, 2022 by Hoot Nanny
	Was in a psychiatric hospital (Preview) Grief is so tough Got a lot of help Back on track Working the program One day at a time Thanks to all who care Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	4	1802	Dec 13, 2022 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 12/12, blaming others (Preview) The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...	Lyne	2	1726	Dec 13, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Dec 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...	yanksfan51	2	1748	Dec 11, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C – December 09, 2022 (Preview) The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...	DM2021	3	2678	Dec 9, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...	Skorpi	3	1748	Dec 8, 2022 by Lyne
	On Reflection. (Preview) Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...	WendyP	3	1805	Dec 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	12/6/22 C2C Taming the Pendulum (Preview) This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...	Enigmatic	3	1697	Dec 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	Bread in a hardware store (Preview) Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...	El	6	1951	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	My husband passed away (Preview) Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.	Hoot Nanny	9	1928	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	C2C, Monday, 12/5, fantasy vs. reality (Preview) The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...	Lyne	3	1510	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	C2C – December 02, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...	DM2021	10	1123	Dec 5, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Dec 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...	yanksfan51	2	1628	Dec 4, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	hey. sorry (Preview) Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...	Youknowme	3	1763	Dec 3, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...	Skorpi	3	1529	Dec 1, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 11/28, upside-down personality (Preview) This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...	Lyne	1	1705	Nov 28, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Nov 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...	yanksfan51	2	1716	Nov 27, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
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