Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...

DM2021 · DM2021

Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...

Lyne · Lyne

My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...

Lyne · Lyne

The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...

Youknowme · Youknowme

I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! I've been away for awhile but I've missed you guys. :) Mini update: The bad: exH was arrested for the 3rd, 4th, and 5th times since our divorce was finalized. He's currently got an ankle monitor strapped to his leg for a long time to come. The good (no, great): I have bought a new house! Despite th...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...

Lyne · Lyne

My A giving me a soliloquy (a drama giving inner thoughts) fortunately occurs less frequently than it used to, but it is impossible to have a rational conversation. And my A denies drinking. I think I handled it better than in the past--it was not a fight, no angry accusations happened, I did interje...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...

WendyP · WendyP

After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is about, "Dont just do something, sit there." Made me stop and think for sure!!! But what the author is trying to get across is that action is not always the best method to deal withsome issues. Always needing to take action is not always the best mindset; sometimes it is best to"not a...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the situations we may find ourselves in when we have the opportunity to deal with unresolved issues from our past. The writer describes facing people from childhood, or situations that felt like flashbacks to an alcoholic childhood home, (before com...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on negativity. The author shares that sometimes, they can get so bogged down in negativity, they forget where they are or where they are going in life. Negativity, the author realizes, keeps their life at a standstill. With Al-Anon, the author ha...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon guides us to take responsibility for our own, not others' actions. Our spiritual goal: not slide into anger or resentment when they try to blame us for their woes, and not to fall into the trap of escalation by defending ourselves. This is a challenge that one member likened to having the 'devil...

Lyne · Lyne

First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the importance service work for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up on an alcoholic home where she was told her fate was to be rejected from college, not amount to anything and end up barefoot and pregnant. The writer was determined to pr...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the author challenges the reader to change or "experiment" with one issuethat they maybe having on a daily basis. The goal is that if we change our habit of respondingto a particular difficult situation in a more positive way we may discover that we can turn"failures" into a more po...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

It is likely that we have witnessed irresponsible or irrational behavior executed by the alcoholic. The danger, suggests today's page, is that we allow ourselves to feel, hold and perhaps nurture contempt toward them. Alcoholics are not children who require our corrective measures, they are (i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, that author reflects on "placing principles above personalities." The author shared that during a business meeting, their pet project was shot down, but another passed. They were struggling with injured pride, when this Al-Anon slogan entered their head. They we...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Spoiler alert: we can't, and trying to leads to frustration for all. So concluded today's author who acknowledged trying to change a spouse's by trying to determine their thoughts and then attempting to steer them as they thought best. Alanon suggests this is not our job, right or responsibility, w...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer thought that anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear were "bad" feelings. But program says feelings are not bad or good--they are just a part of who we are. The writer goes on to say that good can sometimes come from those feelings: -anger can prompt constructive change-resentment can b...

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	Hope for Today Dec 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...	yanksfan51	2	802	Dec 4, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	hey. sorry (Preview) Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...	Youknowme	3	889	Dec 3, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...	Skorpi	3	791	Dec 1, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 11/28, upside-down personality (Preview) This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...	Lyne	1	882	Nov 28, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Nov 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...	yanksfan51	2	870	Nov 27, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – November 25, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...	DM2021	2	1290	Nov 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	3	957	Nov 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	11/22/22 C2C Turn Over Life/Will to Anything but Me (Preview) Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...	Enigmatic	4	921	Nov 22, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 11/21, shouldn't I be all better? (Preview) The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...	Lyne	3	939	Nov 21, 2022 by El
	Hope for Today Nov 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...	yanksfan51	3	946	Nov 20, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – November 18, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...	DM2021	3	990	Nov 20, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change Nov. 16 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...	Skorpi	2	946	Nov 16, 2022 by Daffodils
	11/15/22 C2C Sticks and Stones… (Preview) Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...	Enigmatic	2	939	Nov 15, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope or Today Nov 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...	yanksfan51	6	1014	Nov 15, 2022 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 11/14, prayer and gratitude (Preview) The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...	Lyne	2	1008	Nov 14, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – November 11, 2022 (So Sorry I Am Late Today!!) (Preview) The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...	DM2021	1	994	Nov 12, 2022 by Lyne
	A has a purple face (Preview) My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...	Lyne	2	1114	Nov 11, 2022 by pinkchip
	I am a survivor! (Preview) Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su	Hoot Nanny	3	1000	Nov 11, 2022 by DM2021
	11/8/22 C2C – What is the Why for the What (Preview) This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...	Enigmatic	3	1536	Nov 8, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 11/7, family disease (Preview) The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...	Lyne	1	1000	Nov 7, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today November 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...	yanksfan51	1	1036	Nov 6, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – November 04, 2022 (Preview) Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	4	1582	Nov 4, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c November 3rd I'll share by listening today (Preview) Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....	Youknowme	2	1051	Nov 4, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...	Skorpi	2	1047	Nov 3, 2022 by DM2021
	11/1/22 ODAT Less Me, More Program = Better Help (Preview) Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...	Enigmatic	2	1032	Nov 1, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 10/31, moving through fear (Preview) The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...	Lyne	2	1052	Oct 31, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Oct 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...	yanksfan51	2	1071	Oct 30, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	expectations & fear of tomorrow (Preview) I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...	Hoot Nanny	3	1201	Oct 29, 2022 by Lyne
	10/25/22 C2C Own, Acknowledge, Change (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...	Enigmatic	3	1106	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C – October 28, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...	DM2021	3	1641	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	c2c October 27th Your higher power is not a pie (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...	Youknowme	2	1107	Oct 27, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change October 26 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...	Skorpi	2	1128	Oct 26, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 23 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...	yanksfan51	2	1424	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, 10/24, wounds from the past (Preview) The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...	Lyne	2	1051	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C October 20th (Preview) Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...	Youknowme	3	1245	Oct 22, 2022 by Lyne
	Don't just do something, sit there! (Preview) I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...	Youknowme	5	1167	Oct 22, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – October 21, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...	DM2021	1	1094	Oct 21, 2022 by Lyne
	When you realize that your marriage was like a tree that was rotten from the inside -from the beginning (Preview) Hello! I've been away for awhile but I've missed you guys. :) Mini update: The bad: exH was arrested for the 3rd, 4th, and 5th times since our divorce was finalized. He's currently got an ankle monitor strapped to his leg for a long time to come. The good (no, great): I have bought a new house! Despite th...	Fedora	5	1674	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Rainforrest Holidays, Catastrophic Floods and the Magic of Letting Go. (Preview) Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...	Youknowme	3	1170	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	monologue by A (Preview) My A giving me a soliloquy (a drama giving inner thoughts) fortunately occurs less frequently than it used to, but it is impossible to have a rational conversation. And my A denies drinking. I think I handled it better than in the past--it was not a fight, no angry accusations happened, I did interje...	Lyne	2	1197	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Courage to Change October 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...	Skorpi	1	1059	Oct 19, 2022 by DM2021
	10/18/22 C2C Practice: Making Situational Successes Global (Preview) Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...	Enigmatic	3	1099	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today, Oct 14th. (Preview) After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...	WendyP	3	885	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/17, separating the "drunk" from the person (Preview) The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...	Lyne	2	1770	Oct 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...	yanksfan51	2	785	Oct 16, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – October 14, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...	DM2021	4	484	Oct 15, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change October 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...	Skorpi	3	778	Oct 15, 2022 by Lyne
	10/11/22 C2C If Knowledge is Power... (Preview) A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...	Enigmatic	3	1133	Oct 12, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – October 07, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is about, "Dont just do something, sit there." Made me stop and think for sure!!! But what the author is trying to get across is that action is not always the best method to deal withsome issues. Always needing to take action is not always the best mindset; sometimes it is best to"not a...	DM2021	3	1894	Oct 11, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/10, Step One Backwards (Preview) The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...	Lyne	1	1128	Oct 10, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the situations we may find ourselves in when we have the opportunity to deal with unresolved issues from our past. The writer describes facing people from childhood, or situations that felt like flashbacks to an alcoholic childhood home, (before com...	yanksfan51	2	1126	Oct 9, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change October 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on negativity. The author shares that sometimes, they can get so bogged down in negativity, they forget where they are or where they are going in life. Negativity, the author realizes, keeps their life at a standstill. With Al-Anon, the author ha...	Skorpi	3	968	Oct 5, 2022 by Daffodils
	10/4/22 ODAT (Preview) Alanon guides us to take responsibility for our own, not others' actions. Our spiritual goal: not slide into anger or resentment when they try to blame us for their woes, and not to fall into the trap of escalation by defending ourselves. This is a challenge that one member likened to having the 'devil...	Enigmatic	2	969	Oct 4, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 10/3, How do you get compassion for an A? (Preview) First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to t...	Lyne	2	1173	Oct 3, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the importance service work for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up on an alcoholic home where she was told her fate was to be rejected from college, not amount to anything and end up barefoot and pregnant. The writer was determined to pr...	yanksfan51	1	1131	Oct 2, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – September 30, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the author challenges the reader to change or "experiment" with one issuethat they maybe having on a daily basis. The goal is that if we change our habit of respondingto a particular difficult situation in a more positive way we may discover that we can turn"failures" into a more po...	DM2021	1	1220	Sep 30, 2022 by Lyne
	9/20/22 ODAT How do I Really Feel About Them? (Preview) It is likely that we have witnessed irresponsible or irrational behavior executed by the alcoholic. The danger, suggests today's page, is that we allow ourselves to feel, hold and perhaps nurture contempt toward them. Alcoholics are not children who require our corrective measures, they are (i...	Enigmatic	5	1216	Sep 29, 2022 by Seahorse7
	Courage to Change September 28 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, that author reflects on "placing principles above personalities." The author shared that during a business meeting, their pet project was shot down, but another passed. They were struggling with injured pride, when this Al-Anon slogan entered their head. They we...	Skorpi	2	1249	Sep 29, 2022 by Lyne
	9/27/22 ODAT – How To: Manage Others’ Lives (Preview) Spoiler alert: we can't, and trying to leads to frustration for all. So concluded today's author who acknowledged trying to change a spouse's by trying to determine their thoughts and then attempting to steer them as they thought best. Alanon suggests this is not our job, right or responsibility, w...	Enigmatic	3	1201	Sep 27, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C, Monday, 9/26, when negative becomes positive (Preview) This writer thought that anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear were "bad" feelings. But program says feelings are not bad or good--they are just a part of who we are. The writer goes on to say that good can sometimes come from those feelings: -anger can prompt constructive change-resentment can b...	Lyne	3	1306	Sep 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
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