The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other troubles. Blaming others for what happens to us keeps us at a "spiritual standstill."
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I could not have agreed with the above thoughts before recovery. I easily blamed others for my feeling so lousy, worthless, and guilty. Through alanon I have come to see that I can have some amount of control over myself. I've learned how important my attitude is, and practice acceptance often. The 3 A's and 3 C's come to mind. Let me keep the focus on myself ODAT.
Thanks Lyne, and both for your Experience, Strength, and Hope...
Unless someone is beating me physically with a pipe, the rest is all my interpretation of sounds I'm hearing, meaning I'm assigning to words or light waves/particles bouncing off of surfaces.
The control I have over other people and things is minimal, the power I have over how I choose to perceive them is endless...grateful for the eternal wisdom of this spiritual program
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
