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Post Info TOPIC: C2C October 28, 2022


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C2C October 28, 2022


The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer.

They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone for

a particular reason that it usually is because they do not like themselves for the same reason and the reverse can also be true.

Reminder: "Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I can see how projecting can cause unkindness/rudeness especially if I am feeling defensive. Learning that I no longer need to justify

my thoughts/feelings/actions, just knowing that I am treating someone fair and kindly and that arguing serves no good purpose at all.

I would rather find beauty to be grateful for and move on, especially when the issues are not of a life threatening nature.

What are your thoughts on the subject?



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Debbie



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Thanks Debbie for your service and share. I'm a strong believer in treating others as I want to be treated, even when it is not returned. When I can act in a mature, responsible manner towards others, it improves my confidence and self-esteem. This gets my vote!

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Lyne



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Thanks Debb and Lyne. Always a good practice to afford others the same respect and kindness I would like to receive. Because of Al-anon I can now choose to practice courtesy with healthy boundaries rather than people pleasing.



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Thank you Debbie for your service and helpful shares. Thanks for the reminders to treat others with courtesy, kindness and respect. I am ashamed to admit that I've been testy during a period when my spouse needs support. Grateful for message to keep my attitude/behaviour in check...be grateful and move on :)

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Thanks Debbie, and everyone for your shares. I like what you have said here- "I'd rather find beauty to be grateful for and move on"- I think that sums up my attitude to most difficulties too

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