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Post Info TOPIC: C2C, Monday, 11/21, shouldn't I be all better?


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C2C, Monday, 11/21, shouldn't I be all better?


The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems.  When they came to alanon, they had one problem:  how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking.  Now they have many challenges:  taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself available to life.  They still get overwhelmed and want to hide.  But the conclusion is that alanon cannot remove all ones' problems.  But what it can do is to give us the courage and insight to "turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones."

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About my 2nd or 3rd year in program, I felt so much better, I saw light at the end of the tunnel, and people around me could see my changes.  But of course life happened as it always does, and over the years I have had many ups and downs.  That's reality.  But one of the things I love about alanon is that it truly is teaching me a much better way to handle life.  I'm given skills to cope and grow that I never had.  So when the rough times come, I am more equipped to handle them and they do pass.  I can weather storms much better.



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Thank you so much Lyne for your service, today's reading and lovely ESH.

I so agree with you on every point you discussed, that seeing the light and feeling the

slow changes over the years that Al-Anon has exposed and taught to me. I am

so much more comfortable and less anxious with a touch more wisdom.

Always so grateful to Al-Anon and the MIP Family for the continued support

and lessons learned. {{HUGS}}

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Debbie



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Thank you Lyne for your service and all above shares. MIP provided relief and guided me to new ideas. At first I was thrilled to have tools to attack "the problem ". Eventually I discovered I was the problem and have slowly been applying Al-Anon tools to keep the focus on me. I never expected a problem free life and have discovered the many ways I complicate it. Keep an Open Mind/ Listen and Learn are the current slogans I'm leaning on to simplify my life.

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El


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Thank you Lyne and for all the shares.  Sometimes Im on top of the program using tools like Ive finally got it only to be reminded that its a journey with steps forward and back. I do know Ive progressed however and am so grateful for alanon to point the focus back on myself each and every time.



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Thanks Lyne for your service and to all for their shares. Early in Al-anon, progress felt slow. Our suggested Al-anon meeting opening assures the newcomer that they can be happy whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. This gave me hope but also required an honest inventory and acceptance of responsibility for myself. It meant lifting the veil of denial to accept life on life's terms, see myself and others as we truly are rather than through of a fog of fantasy and illusion, expectations. I'm grateful for all of our literature as well as outside recovery reading. The reward has been greater understanding of the disease of alcoholism and it's progression along with it's effects not only on the alcoholic but family. Grateful as well for Al-anon tools to apply  for family enmeshment, codependency. My early practices of self sufficiency rather than dependency on another felt awkward, lonely, had a quality of dis-ease. Accepting and cultivating my first relationship which is the one with a loving higher power has strengthened me, given me courage. I'm not alone. I can navigate life on life's terms. I can trust in my own decision making guided by that higher power and that whatever the outcome, I will continue to be taken care of by that hp. Taking risks to grow and still standing has been the proof I've needed to continue to muster courage to keep making decisions, choices, let go of what no longer works and sit with ambiguity and not fear the other shoe dropping. Grateful to have moved from living for others and voluntarily in the shadow of others to refocusing on my own life and my hp's will for me odaat.



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Tuesday 22nd of November 2022 11:45:38 AM

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