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Post Info TOPIC: Rainforrest Holidays, Catastrophic Floods and the Magic of Letting Go.


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Rainforrest Holidays, Catastrophic Floods and the Magic of Letting Go.


Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and will still be doing Thursdays.
The holiday was a real exercise in letting go as we left daughter's partner in charge of the house and animals. I have a lack of faith in others which is quite hard to shake and was constantly predicting a disaster. I find it extremely hard to leave the animals and worry constantly that something bad will happen to them so I really needed my full toolkit to prevent worry from ruining our time away. Then the news started going on constantly about a massive storm and the biggest rains and flood events near my home in 100 years and my grandmother started messaging me every 5 minutes about how my house would flood, the roof would cave in, the animals would drown, daughter's partner would crash driving in the rain to get us from the airport etc etc. I don't know why she does this but she's been doing it my whole life and it contributes a lot to the whole family's anxiety problems. But I don't like to ignore her or argue with her as she basically raised me and I think years of living with a violent alcoholic really messed her up but unlike me she didn't have a million treatment options or al-anon or any of the wonderful resources I have to facilitate recovery. But gee it stressed me out.
I think I did a pretty good job of not letting worry consume me (last time I went on a holiday without my daughter and I let worry destroy my trip that time so I'll consider this a mark of progress) but this time I managed to restrain myself from harassing daughter's partner with text messages to ask how things were and I was rewarded with a daily text to let me know all was well. 
The house didn't flood, the roof didn't cave in, the animals were all very healthy and well and my family experienced no road fatalities whatsoever. And we had a truly amazing holiday to boot so I am calling this a roaring success and a great marker of recovery for me



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Yes YKM, progress indeed! Congrats! Will look forward to your post this week. Thanks for your update. :)

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(((youknowme))))) Glad all is well and you had a great time on your vacation! Wonderful example of not giving your power away - responding rather than reacting. Thanks for sharing your progress!



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So happy that all is well and you and your daughter had a great holiday!!! Yeah!!!

I too am glad you let us know how you are cause I worry when I don't see you post. {{HUGS}}

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I am so glad to hear you had a great vacation! Also great program work in play here, Letting go is not easy or first in my nature either, but it is one of the many tools in my tool kit that many wise old al-anoner's have passed down to me. Thanks for sharing! Sending you love and support!


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