Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Lyne · Lyne

The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...

DM2021 · DM2021

Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.

Lyne · Lyne

The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...

El · El

Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...

Lyne · Lyne

My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...

Lyne · Lyne

The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...

Youknowme · Youknowme

I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...

WendyP · WendyP

After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...

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	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 12/12, blaming others (Preview) The writer ponders what happens when we blame others. They say that much of what happens to us is self-created, and that much of our unhappiness is due to the way we react when hurt or disappointed. The writer is convinced that we can be the "captain" of our soul and ward off disappointments and other t...	Lyne	2	505	Dec 13, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Dec 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about patience within the alanon program; its about how there are no timetables in the program; its about letting go of the phrase why me?. The writer describes coming to alanon with complaints. Why was he/she given alcoholic parents? Why did he/she have to s...	yanksfan51	2	463	Dec 11, 2022 by Daffodils
	It's Your Special Day Daffodils (Preview) Happy Birthday ((Daffodils)))) !! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with serenity and all good things! Continued health and happiness in the year ahead!	tiredtonite	3	500	Dec 18, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C – December 09, 2022 (Preview) The topic of todays reading has to do with Tradition Eleven, which is an Al-Anon policy that describes how"attraction rather than promotion" to Al-Anon by the membership is its best policy. How we approachand/or tell other folks about our participation and why, is best done with the question to ou...	DM2021	3	651	Dec 9, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change December 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on what they used to think "being good to myself" meant, and what they have come to understand it to mean with the help of the program. In the past, the author thought that being good to themselves meant buying whatever they wanted, eating whatever th...	Skorpi	3	496	Dec 8, 2022 by Lyne
	On Reflection. (Preview) Hi to all on MIP, it has been awhile since I shared here, not that I don't read all the sharings, as I do, and learn a lot, and helps me to stay centered. Recently, I read a sharing from Paul about insane behaviour, and just had to share about. It is about the changes I have had made in myself, and what I have dis...	WendyP	3	527	Dec 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	12/6/22 C2C Taming the Pendulum (Preview) This writer describes a common evolution for new fellowship members: first discover or acknowledge the anger long suppressed or denied, the anger now untethered flexes its power until it contributes to more pain; it turns out that the alcoholic is not responsible for all of our unhappiness. Alano...	Enigmatic	3	473	Dec 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 12/5, fantasy vs. reality (Preview) The writer was waiting for the perfect partner, and they waited and waited. No one showed up. Then in an alanon meeting, they learned about gratitude, and everything changed. They were able to see how many wonderful things already existed. They had been brushing all the love they were receiving a...	Lyne	3	429	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	Hope for Today Dec 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how, in spite of what many of us thought would happen by coming to alanon (our qualifier would no longer drink), the real change that takes place is within us. The writer describes coming to alanon when her alcoholic husband left her to raise their son...	yanksfan51	2	467	Dec 4, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Missing Betty (Preview) hi to mip family members .. it's been years since I've posted .. I admit i see a lot of new names and not many of the older but admit also i only did a brief scan .. but I was reading a few small words tonight in old messages that were shared in moments i had reached out to Betty in the past .. (hotrod) .. I miss he...	MeTwo2	7	338	Dec 13, 2022 by Hoot Nanny
	hey. sorry (Preview) Sorry for going awol guys. So much going on. In happy news, I got into a masters for next year! I'm really pretty pleased with myself. In less good news, a lot of bad things have happened. I'm OK, I' ll get my head back on straight but I don't do trauma well anymore. I used to wear my strength like a badge, now I...	Youknowme	3	489	Dec 3, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C – December 02, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discusses how when one does not accept their powerlessnessover the alcoholic, one will tend to spend too much time internalizing and/or externally try tojustify their feelings and actions. They are trying to change that person they are having difficultywith, only t...	DM2021	10	512	Dec 5, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change November 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on our interconnectedness. The author shares that everyone who plays a part in our lives can offer something that we can learn. Others can act as our mirrors, reflecting our better or worse qualities, help us to work through unresolved past conflicts, or act a...	Skorpi	3	456	Dec 1, 2022 by DM2021
	11/29/22 ODAT – Control…It Will Work This Time! (Preview) Quote from an Alanon brochure points to the possibility of the partner of the alcoholic demonstrating more irrational behavior than the alcoholic. This can happen as they ride an emotional rollercoaster while trying to outwit and control the uncontrollable. It is with great relief that we reco...	Enigmatic	5	344	Dec 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 11/28, upside-down personality (Preview) This writer comments on Step 4: what they thought were virtues (worrying about other people, sacrificing their own happiness, etc.), turned out to be the cause of their misery. And the traits they ignored (talent, self-discipline, etc.), turned out to be truly positive qualities. Through wok...	Lyne	1	505	Nov 28, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Nov 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the importance of service and how that contributes to recovery. The writer sees tradition seven through a new perspective: every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions always made the writer think of financia...	yanksfan51	2	508	Nov 27, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – November 25, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the topic is the fact that through crisis we learn just how much the Al-Anon program and the friendswe make can facilitate our recovery. The author learned that their "leisurely approach to the program" was not enoughwhen they lost someone close to them and that service, calling o...	DM2021	2	698	Nov 25, 2022 by Daffodils
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Wishing all the MIP Family who are celebrating today, a Happy Thanksgiving!! I have been a vegetarian for the past 35 years so the attached makes me smile!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	3	521	Nov 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	11/22/22 C2C Turn Over Life/Will to Anything but Me (Preview) Alanon = recovery = regaining something lost, so reminds today's contributor. Somewhere along our journey we lost belief or contact with that within and around us that can guide us through any challenge or trial...a higher power. Important not is its definition or nature, but that it is greater th...	Enigmatic	4	541	Nov 22, 2022 by Daffodils
	My husband passed away (Preview) Not ready to share much yet but he died Sunday night.	Hoot Nanny	9	606	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	C2C, Monday, 11/21, shouldn't I be all better? (Preview) The writer sometimes thinks that something is wrong if they continue to have problems. When they came to alanon, they had one problem: how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking. Now they have many challenges: taking risks, facing fears, making changes, speaking up, and making themself availab...	Lyne	3	566	Nov 21, 2022 by El
	Hope for Today Nov 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the role that truth plays in our lives. The writer states that truth can be comforting or disturbing. We might hear someone speak the truth and feel grateful. We might hear the truth in another situation and feel intimidated. There are times we may hear t...	yanksfan51	3	564	Nov 20, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – November 18, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading talks about the many aspects of life that define how we see or envision what the second step talks about . our "sanity." Learning to see the humor in our daily lives is being able to not "dwell" or "let go" of those negatives that in essence can "control" life. This author suggests tha...	DM2021	3	511	Nov 20, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Bread in a hardware store (Preview) Hello MIP, Well, it has been ages since I signed in. I dont know why..I certainly need the ESH provided here. In the last 24 hours Ive experienced a heaping helping of bread in a hardware store. I had a very nasty fall on Saturday morning. I went to the ED on Sunday and was in the hospital for 2 days. Im using...	El	6	635	Dec 6, 2022 by Taraxacum1
	Courage to Change Nov. 16 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the slogan "let go and let God." The author found this very hard to do, and they were looking for a concrete way to do this. When listening at a meeting, they heard how another Al-Anon member turned loved ones over to their Higher Power. And, while t...	Skorpi	2	551	Nov 16, 2022 by Daffodils
	11/15/22 C2C Sticks and Stones… (Preview) Today's writer recalled that others' harsh word or criticism was inevitably hurtful. Thanks to growth in Alanon, they were able to put such exchanges into better perspective: others' behavior and tone is more about what is going on inside them and need not be negatively impactful. Extreme sensit...	Enigmatic	2	543	Nov 15, 2022 by Lyne
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 11/14, prayer and gratitude (Preview) The writer says that for them, God is most vivid in consciousness when in the depths of despair and asking for help. But another reason for prayer is to acknowledge gratitude. The writer suggests that gratitude itself is a healing force and becomes more real when we make part of our routine prayer. ...	Lyne	2	577	Nov 14, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope or Today Nov 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on some of the programs slogans. The writer describes coming to Alanon as a reaction to her boyfriends drinking. Like many of us, she thought of alanon as a solution for trouble with another persons drinking. As members began sharing slogans with he...	yanksfan51	6	606	Nov 15, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – November 11, 2022 (So Sorry I Am Late Today!!) (Preview) The author of this days reading speaks about the "insanity" of doing the same thing(s) over and over and expecting a differentoutcome. How Step Three helps us, in Al-Anon, to make that "decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood Him." Reminder: "I may find it...	DM2021	1	586	Nov 12, 2022 by Lyne
	I am a survivor! (Preview) Real quick! I am surviving my husband's su	Hoot Nanny	3	590	Nov 11, 2022 by DM2021
	11/8/22 C2C – What is the Why for the What (Preview) This page suggests: Perform a good deed for others without being discovered. Benefits: * Encourages good deeds without expectation and possible control * Everyone benefits from pure giving * It is the basis of spiritual well-being Reminder: By putting unconditional love into action and give fr...	Enigmatic	3	863	Nov 8, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 11/7, family disease (Preview) The writer discusses how alcohol not only affects the alcoholic, but those people who care about that person as well. The family and friends of the alcoholic can end up with distorted ideas. But alanon can help us break the unhealthy patterns so we can heal, find sanity and peace, and like ourselves...	Lyne	1	586	Nov 7, 2022 by DM2021
	A has a purple face (Preview) My A fell while I wasn't here. A's face is swollen, scratched, including eye area, blue and purple. Was drinking involved? I asked and the answer was no. I'll never know the truth, but this is the worst facial bruise (s) I have ever seen in person. She went to the chiropractor and optometrist. She i...	Lyne	2	678	Nov 11, 2022 by pinkchip
	Hope for Today November 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on how we can use boundaries for the practice of not accepting unacceptable behavior. The writer acknowledges that the concept of not accepting the unacceptable was confusing at first, since we cannot control other people. What the writer came to...	yanksfan51	1	611	Nov 6, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – November 04, 2022 (Preview) Todays C2C topic is about fear and disappointment and that in order to live a life that does not revolve around constant fear insteadlearn to "put acceptance to work." The authors sponsor suggested that having a "Plan A and/or Plan B" would ease the anxiety ofliving in fear that the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	4	917	Nov 4, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c November 3rd I'll share by listening today (Preview) Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....	Youknowme	2	642	Nov 4, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...	Skorpi	2	629	Nov 3, 2022 by DM2021
	11/1/22 ODAT Less Me, More Program = Better Help (Preview) Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...	Enigmatic	2	615	Nov 1, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 10/31, moving through fear (Preview) The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...	Lyne	2	627	Oct 31, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Oct 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...	yanksfan51	2	664	Oct 30, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – October 28, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...	DM2021	3	943	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	c2c October 27th Your higher power is not a pie (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...	Youknowme	2	669	Oct 27, 2022 by Lyne
	expectations & fear of tomorrow (Preview) I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...	Hoot Nanny	3	741	Oct 29, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change October 26 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...	Skorpi	2	677	Oct 26, 2022 by DM2021
	10/25/22 C2C Own, Acknowledge, Change (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...	Enigmatic	3	683	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C, 10/24, wounds from the past (Preview) The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...	Lyne	2	633	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today Oct 23 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...	yanksfan51	2	959	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – October 21, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...	DM2021	1	617	Oct 21, 2022 by Lyne
	Don't just do something, sit there! (Preview) I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...	Youknowme	5	713	Oct 22, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C October 20th (Preview) Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...	Youknowme	3	785	Oct 22, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change October 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...	Skorpi	1	631	Oct 19, 2022 by DM2021
	10/18/22 C2C Practice: Making Situational Successes Global (Preview) Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...	Enigmatic	3	671	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today, Oct 14th. (Preview) After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...	WendyP	3	532	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/17, separating the "drunk" from the person (Preview) The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...	Lyne	2	1010	Oct 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Rainforrest Holidays, Catastrophic Floods and the Magic of Letting Go. (Preview) Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...	Youknowme	3	711	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Hope for Today Oct 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...	yanksfan51	2	489	Oct 16, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – October 14, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...	DM2021	4	352	Oct 15, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change October 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...	Skorpi	3	446	Oct 15, 2022 by Lyne
	10/11/22 C2C If Knowledge is Power... (Preview) A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...	Enigmatic	3	688	Oct 12, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/10, Step One Backwards (Preview) The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...	Lyne	1	689	Oct 10, 2022 by DM2021
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