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Post Info TOPIC: C2C – October 14, 2022


~*Service Worker*~

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C2C – October 14, 2022


Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step.  How the author tries to keep check on

how their mistaken "opinions i.e.:  prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"

affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. 

The author reminds us that the Tenth Step helps to take their personal inventory in those areas

of personality where they tend to make these mistakes and that trusting their Higher Power

helps smooth out those mistaken traits. 

Reminder:  "It is not easy task to change the thinking of a lifetime, even when I am sure that

I want to change."  "The Tenth Step allows me to be aware of sliding back into faulty thinking." 

"I dont have to abuse myself when it happens, that doesnt help at all."  "By promptly admitting

when Im wrong, I am doing what I can to change."

I found that working the Tenth Step daily is a rewarding challenge, but so worth the work.

The reward has been peace for me because when I am judgmental is when I am the most 

unsettled.  TGIF MIP Family!!

Have you found the same reward(s)?



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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 



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Thank you Debbie for your service and share. I certainly relate to sliding back into faulty thinking and trying not to abuse myself when that happens. I think I've reached a point in my recovery where I don't have to consciously think of the 10th step. I am aware often when my thinking is poor and if I call myself a name--I say "stop it" right away. If I think I've hurt or done wrong to someone I address it. And when I need to I remind myself that my thinking is off and I need to change the topic--that's usually a good time for the Serenity Prayer. I'm a work in progress and yes it is a lot of work to change years of bad habits, but I also want to feel at peace and that means not harming myself or others.

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Lyne



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Lovely shares Lyne and TT. Thank you so much for this conversation and others as well.

I always learn from you both when we share our thoughts and experience!!

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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 



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Thank you Debbie for providing me with a rewarding challenge yesterday. It was my mother- in- law's funeral and this helped me set internal boundaries to conduct myself in a manner that would leave little to no room for regrets. I am proud to note I fit myself to be of service and in awkward situations, I placed principles above personalities. Today I skipped my (much needed) meeting and when I checked MIP, I discovered additional in-depth sharing that gives me new material to reflect upon as I putter around the house. Thank you all. You have no idea how much you help me in becoming more spiritually grounded.

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~*Service Worker*~

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C2C – October 14, 2022


Sending you peaceful thoughts {{Daffodils}} and so happy you are finding your serenity

at such a difficult time.

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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

 

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