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norasq · norasq

I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

When I was young, so much younger than today, I wore glasses. When I ran with the local street gang, I stopped wearing glasses because it wasn't cool and after all, I was trying to pretend I was someone I wasn't to get people to like me. In my twenties, I started wearing them again, but twenty years later th...

Overcome · Overcome

I'm in the Meeting/Chat room if anyone would like to join me for a meeting. http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Why do we keep coming back? (based on today's reading in Courage to Change) Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Monday 28th of January 2019 09:00:19 PM -- Edited by Overc...

wp · wp

What has become of MIP alanon meetings at 9 weekdays and 7 Sunday? I'm lost. wp

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/28 asks the question, why do we keep coming back? One reason is that the writer doesnt want to underestimate the lasting impact that alcoholism has had on them. They can find themselves feeling things becoming unmanageable again if they do not practice recovery. They al...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

It is so Spring-like her today in SoCAL, I just had to do a little tyding up around the house. In doing so, I FINALLY hung some of the art & wall decor I brought over from my previous life (slightly more than 1 year ago)... things that were important to me at the time, and still speak to me - either with col...

joker · joker

I have been working hard on my recovery with breaks in between so I do not get overwhelmed. I am accessing one on one therapy along with reading on line here and I had a break through. I have been dating two different type of men. One that is sober and does not drink and we get along very well and another that i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading describes different ways to find strength in the program when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, anxious or having difficulty staying in the present. The writer mentions the importance of meetings and phone calls in order to feel the support that is available. ...

Lyne · Lyne

Today my A is in a snit and guess what? I've decided to have a good weekend regardless. The sun is out, I am healthy, nobody has died, and I believe I can cope and have a good attitude. Thank you alanon! Lyne

Hbgchick · Hbgchick

Hi everyone, I'm new here and just I really want to talk about what's happening to me with people who have been there and done that. Well, when you hear the story I don't know that anyone has been exactly here, but at least some of you have maybe at least dealt with some form of this ridiculous situation tha...

TrishaNorth44 · TrishaNorth44

Pretty new here and for the most part I've been a lurker, absorbing everything I can about Alanon. I went to my 1st Alanon meeting five years ago, with pen and notebook in hand, eagerly waiting for all the experienced members to give me a checklist of how to get my son to stop drinking. Needless to say, I wa...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...

Nadinemel · Nadinemel

I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...

loranard · loranard

my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...

MelanieJ · MelanieJ

My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...

JerryF · JerryF

In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

LET IT BEGIN WITH ME ***************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...

Overcome · Overcome

Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM

mamalioness · mamalioness

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. --Carl Jung (1875 - 1961) The best portions of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts, of kindness and love. --William WordsworthAlone we can do so little; together we can do so much. --Helen...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm really trying not to react vs respond to what's going on at the moment. If there was a middle finger emoji it would so be flying .. and I apologize I get a little to real with things at times. I am utterly dumbfounded at the moment for someone who "isn't drinking" .. "living a Christian life" the man i...

Freetime · Freetime

When starting out in Al-Anon, the author was disturbed to hear that the best way to help an alcoholic is to focus on ourselves. It seemed heartless to stop helping our loved ones. Then another member shared that our desire to help is compassionate, but our old ways of helping may not be helpful. If we d...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about our own process of self-discovery using Al-Anon. The author discusses that perhaps searching from bar to bar, making scenes in public places and getting hysterical over little things is a bit insane. Often, we (friends and family) are the ones who agonize over the alc...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

OK.. I hope this will make you lol if you're not having a good day. Mine has been one of feeling powerless but just accepting it. So here goes.. I thought I might help the alcoholic in my life and myself to eat a little healthier. We both like desserts but they are often high fat and high sugar and we're beg...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author reflects on an important lesson they have learned in AlAnon - thinking before speaking. The author shares that they used to say everything that came to mind, even if they were not sure if what they said was true. Through work in the program, the autho...

joker · joker

As my dating life unfolds, the one man I had been dating, well last weekend, after 7 months of knowing him, he admitted to me he is an active alcoholic and said you can not leave any alcohol around my home as I will drink it. I was feeling a bit crazy and feeling a bit unstable being around him. I thought it was...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am rarely at a loss for words, but find myself there tonight. The details are not important - I am. So often, we can get bogged down in the what happened and the summary is my son has relapsed. Of course, as the evidence presented last evening, my mind goes off to the races wondering how long has this be...

El · El

Hello MIP family, I am sure I have written before about the undeniable progression of my AH's disease. It is obviously taking its toll on him physically and cognitively. The times we can be out doing "normal" activities is getting shorter and shorter before he is ready to pass out or even somewhat en...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all Coming up 36 years in Alanon... I am blessed, truly blessed to be here... it was hard at first- and nothing seemed to happen. "now, if not sooner" seems to be the motto at that stage. I am 13 or 14 in this photo. A wee squirt. By age 20 I was 5'6"... This was our family home- our kitchen. I had gotten...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, January,15 speaks about the erroneous assumption that once the alcoholic reaches sobriety all our problems will be solved. The reading points out that this is an illusion. Sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. We both need to work to overcome the emo...

Temple · Temple

Went to see my Primary Care Physician this morning. This is funny--first one in 40 years and he's retiring in 2 months. I'd been seen by his nurse, and therefor contaminated before I ever got to talk to him, and he's this big teddy bear of a man who comes in beaming at me. And I broke down sobbing while he w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about taking inventory, examining our behavior and participating in our own recovery. The writer describes meetings when a group inventory was taken. The writer felt impatient and anxious to get back to the meeting without the inventory. He/she began t...

Overcome · Overcome

Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room. Follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Unacceptable Behavior and dealing with lies and excuses from the alcoholic. Open topic as it applies to the al-anon program. Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Mo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the al...

gloves808 · gloves808

Good morning everyone. Had my first visit with the therapist today. Fortunate to meet with someone who I think I am going to stick with, so her personality meshes with my personality very well. We of course covered a lot of basics when it comes to what I want out of therapy/life. It felt good to sit down an...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BIG PROGRESS!!!! I went into work today and told everyone that I was still sore from my back and that I would work as long as it was still comfortable adn then I'm leaving when I get tired and sore.....so the folks may or may NOT get their W2's... I was stiff and a bit sore after 4 hrs.,doing my regular work, s...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Family... To Say I've had a Blessed Holiday would be an Understatement... I have Had So Many Wonderful Moments with my Kids, Grandkids, Nieces & Nephews, Mom, Siblings, and Friends...Even got a New Puppy to Love... and Her Name too is "Jozie" :D But For what ever Reason, My Heart is Just In Such...

mamalioness · mamalioness

the "kids" are playing waaay past our bedtime....older dog got sick and tired of the play so she got up, off her nice towel and LEFT...She is in the office, in her crate, crashed out on her stuff toys..... It 11pm so I'm gonna tell these kids to go to bed.... Got you these 2 videos...when you click on them, t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I made a NEW friend who is in recovery like me..we had a GREAT chat at coffee grateful that I have a warm, dry place to sleep in this soggy, cold weather

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t52215254/this-horrible-disease-took-away-my-ah-last-night/

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP Family -- That is exactly the topic of today's reading. The author feels lucky to have found a second family where they can speak freely, be accepted as they are, have the dignity to solve their own problems, and are freely given the empathy and love that they deserve just by being the...

Twinkies · Twinkies

The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are bu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses worry. The author suggests that when we succumb to worry, we open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices and relentless self-criticism. When we give substance to this worry, we lose touch with reality, and typically nothing useful...

mamalioness · mamalioness

The slogan says let go and let God, I just say let go let my higher power and boy was I tested with that this afternoon when I came home I fired up my computer and the profile would not load, I kept getting an error so I did deal let go and let God. And I also paused and prayed. I took deep breaths and said OK, will g...

Temple · Temple

When I came home from the hospital the second time, everything was very rosy around here. Husband had gotten enough of a scare about losing me to be over hisownself, and I had had my night of forgiveness and acceptance and all. And everything was more loving than it's been in decades. And I asked him on...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's C2C speaks about one of my own character defects: looking outside myself for approval. The author shares that when the approval of others becomes necessary in order for us to feel satisfaction in our own good works, when the applause of others become THE reason for our behavior o...

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	What Ex's Rehab Stint taught me (Preview) I have written here over the last few weeks about the mix of emotions I've experienced when my ex-husband of 3 years (married 20, divorced 3 that is) announced that he was going to rehab over the month of December and did indeed go. I was surprised at the strength of emotions it brought up in me, a lot of whi...	norasq	5	474	Jan 30, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 30 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change speaks to something very personal for me. The author shares that they learned, living with the impact of alcoholism, that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly. The author developed a mistrust of everyone and everythin...	Skorpi	2	473	Jan 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	I'm not sure where to begin .. (Preview) First off my instincts were right, I really just need to know I know what I know when I know and I knew something was way way off. This directly impacts me financially, my kids insurance and so on. I am soooo tired of this all at the moment. UGH. 7 blasted years we have been doing this and this is the year I...	SerenityRUS	9	909	Jan 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading 1-29 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves. The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into ano...	hotrod	4	515	Jan 30, 2019 by Lyne
	Marriage Counseling --can I talk about the alcohol? anyone have experience with marriage counseling? (Preview) So the 23 year year marriage has had bumps over the years. Marriage counseling in the past that did help. Now over the past 2-3 years things have really gotten rocky. Over the last 5 years is when alcohol by husband started to really increase, and that started a lot of his selfish behavior and lack of a...	Dancer66	16	927	Jan 29, 2019 by norasq
	Self-Care (Preview) When I was young, so much younger than today, I wore glasses. When I ran with the local street gang, I stopped wearing glasses because it wasn't cool and after all, I was trying to pretend I was someone I wasn't to get people to like me. In my twenties, I started wearing them again, but twenty years later th...	Wolfie55	8	565	Jan 28, 2019 by Overcome
	Evening Meeting starting in mip chat room (Preview) I'm in the Meeting/Chat room if anyone would like to join me for a meeting. http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: Why do we keep coming back? (based on today's reading in Courage to Change) Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Monday 28th of January 2019 09:00:19 PM -- Edited by Overc...	Overcome	1	1546	Jan 28, 2019 by Overcome
	evening meetings (Preview) What has become of MIP alanon meetings at 9 weekdays and 7 Sunday? I'm lost. wp	wp	1	444	Jan 28, 2019 by Overcome
	C2C, 1/28 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/28 asks the question, why do we keep coming back? One reason is that the writer doesnt want to underestimate the lasting impact that alcoholism has had on them. They can find themselves feeling things becoming unmanageable again if they do not practice recovery. They al...	Lyne	7	493	Jan 28, 2019 by tiredtonite
	An Interesting Observation About Me Today (Preview) It is so Spring-like her today in SoCAL, I just had to do a little tyding up around the house. In doing so, I FINALLY hung some of the art & wall decor I brought over from my previous life (slightly more than 1 year ago)... things that were important to me at the time, and still speak to me - either with col...	PosiesandPuppies	14	599	Jan 28, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Realization about why I am attracted to active alcoholics (Preview) I have been working hard on my recovery with breaks in between so I do not get overwhelmed. I am accessing one on one therapy along with reading on line here and I had a break through. I have been dating two different type of men. One that is sober and does not drink and we get along very well and another that i...	joker	14	4501	Jan 28, 2019 by Bo
	Hope for Today Jan 27 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading describes different ways to find strength in the program when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, anxious or having difficulty staying in the present. The writer mentions the importance of meetings and phone calls in order to feel the support that is available. ...	yanksfan51	5	560	Jan 27, 2019 by El
	Using my tools (Preview) Today my A is in a snit and guess what? I've decided to have a good weekend regardless. The sun is out, I am healthy, nobody has died, and I believe I can cope and have a good attitude. Thank you alanon! Lyne	Lyne	7	1636	Jan 27, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Need to talk/vent about AW and major issues! (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new here and just I really want to talk about what's happening to me with people who have been there and done that. Well, when you hear the story I don't know that anyone has been exactly here, but at least some of you have maybe at least dealt with some form of this ridiculous situation tha...	Hbgchick	13	2009	Jan 26, 2019 by Hbgchick
	Do I want Relief or Recovery? (Preview) Pretty new here and for the most part I've been a lurker, absorbing everything I can about Alanon. I went to my 1st Alanon meeting five years ago, with pen and notebook in hand, eagerly waiting for all the experienced members to give me a checklist of how to get my son to stop drinking. Needless to say, I wa...	TrishaNorth44	6	775	Jan 25, 2019 by Lyne
	ODAT - January 25 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day At a Time in Al-Anon points out that we can't simply eliminate our faults. Forcing ourselves to stop a bad habit or compulsion doesn't work. We need to replace the defect with something better. Today's Reminder provides some examples: If I am morose and discontented, I wil...	Freetime	4	966	Jan 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Today's Share: January 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! I usually post from Courage to Change, but I also keep that book in my office, and with all the snow we got, I can't get to it. (2 hours of shoveling, though! No need to hit the gym today, as it is still snowing, and I know I'll get the opportunity to shovel the driveway again later today.) Today'...	Skorpi	7	6020	Jan 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Game ideas for a conference (Preview) I am looking for some game ideas for our conference when we are gathering and between events. Any ideas please?	Nadinemel	2	1763	Jan 25, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/24/19 (Preview) Today's reading starts with a simple yet bold statement - I will dare to be myself. Six simple words that for me are a great way to start the day! The reminder tells us: I have a right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on those feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from...	Iamhere	6	623	Jan 24, 2019 by mamalioness
	someone help (Preview) my name is Lora and my wife is an alcoholic. both of her parents are alcoholics and she also suffers from depression, ptsd, anxiety, and is disassociative. our relationship has been steadily going downhill since I would say...right after we got married in July. she blames me for everything. lit...	loranard	22	2124	Jan 24, 2019 by Hbgchick
	Relapse after 120 days (Preview) My daughter (sober 120 days on Jan 14th) was brought home tonight by a co-worker. She was drunk. Things have been going so well and we have been so grateful. She and her 5 year old live with me, the little one is at her other g-ma's tonight, thank God. Anyway, I lost it. Blame, shame, yelling and cryin...	MelanieJ	12	4476	Jan 24, 2019 by Maresie
	Sitting with an old unpleasant feeling (Preview) I had a parent from the school call me to talk to me about how her daughter was upset by my daughter's name calling. My first reaction was to do whatever I could to improve my daughter's behaviour (they are both six) and to protect her daughter from further upset. My daughter is quite full on and, I believe...	Faintly Falling	4	879	Jan 24, 2019 by Maresie
	Well I never.... (Preview) In the 40+ years of recovery including being a therapist in a large in/out recovery program have seen this but once and that was this morning!! It blew me away when the cake pastry past before my eyes as the husband handed it to his recovering wife as she celebrated her 6th year of sobriety as I had to spe...	JerryF	5	1805	Jan 23, 2019 by Twinkies
	ODAT Reading 1-22-2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January 22 speaks about trusting HP, through prayer and asking for guidance The reading suggests that the temptation to go it alone and force solutions is one of our frequent"go to" actions. I know that i always made up a solution, to my issues such as- deny realit...	hotrod	5	677	Jan 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Little moments can have a big impact (Preview) The weekend started off on a bad note for me. I took something AH did (or rather, didnt do) personally. But I came and posted here, got my feelings out, and that by itself helped me to regain some perspective. The responses that followed from some of you helped even more and by the end of the evening, my min...	Twinkies	6	638	Jan 22, 2019 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Jan 20 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our recovery is directly affected by the amount of effort we put into it. The writer compares this to a student who may get by in school, but will have minimal results if the student makes a habit of skipping homework, staying up late, missing classes...	yanksfan51	6	723	Jan 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C, 1/21 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs. Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP. They would check in with themself-h...	Lyne	6	634	Jan 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	My slogan for today (Preview) LET IT BEGIN WITH ME *************************** Today, I was in a pissy mood...stuff going wrong, stuff coming at me that I didn't like and I tossed a temper tantrum that would scare the squirrrels out of the trees. AFTER I vented my spleen, hitting a busted ole keyboard on a chair and letting lo...**	mamalioness	7	650	Jan 21, 2019 by Temple
	A look at the Serenity Prayer (Preview) We treasure our "Serenity Prayer" because it brings a new light to us that can dissipate our oldtime and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try t...	mamalioness	5	779	Jan 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Can you simply stop talking about it? (Preview) Its been a couple of months now that Ive been pretty consistent in the way I conduct myself in regards to AHs drinking. When I first made the decision to disengage a year ago, my actions were unpredictable and Im pretty sure AH never knew what to expect from me. I never knew what to expect from me either. It...	Twinkies	7	5439	Jan 21, 2019 by Twinkies
	Why does it hurt so much? (Preview) Ive come to the realization that I cant change my AH. Been working on accepting that for a while now and Im finally there. Im learning to disengage when hes been drinking (which is pretty much daily now) and doing a pretty good job at it too. Im learning to live my life for me and allow him to join in as he desi...	Twinkies	11	1033	Jan 21, 2019 by Twinkies
	Men in Al-Anon (Preview) I was reading through some recent posts today, and one of the 'flavors' that comes up every so often is gender differences - real of perceived - within the rooms of Al-Anon. When I was attending meetings regularly, I lived in a small town of roughly 30,000 people, so there were four Al-Anon meetings ev...	canadianguy	6	1377	Jan 20, 2019 by DavidG
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) Evening Meeting starting in chat room, follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topic: How to keep a positive attitude in the alcoholic home. -- Edited by Overcome on Friday 18th of January 2019 09:34:48 PM	Overcome	1	467	Jan 19, 2019 by Loser1963
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_17 JAN (Preview) Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. --Carl Jung (1875 - 1961) The best portions of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts, of kindness and love. --William WordsworthAlone we can do so little; together we can do so much. --Helen...	mamalioness	5	480	Jan 19, 2019 by Temple
	Irritated .. (Preview) I'm really trying not to react vs respond to what's going on at the moment. If there was a middle finger emoji it would so be flying .. and I apologize I get a little to real with things at times. I am utterly dumbfounded at the moment for someone who "isn't drinking" .. "living a Christian life" the man i...	SerenityRUS	9	665	Jan 19, 2019 by Maresie
	Courage to Change, January 18 (Preview) When starting out in Al-Anon, the author was disturbed to hear that the best way to help an alcoholic is to focus on ourselves. It seemed heartless to stop helping our loved ones. Then another member shared that our desire to help is compassionate, but our old ways of helping may not be helpful. If we d...	Freetime	9	550	Jan 18, 2019 by Freetime
	Courage to Change 1/17/19 (Preview) Today's reading talks about our own process of self-discovery using Al-Anon. The author discusses that perhaps searching from bar to bar, making scenes in public places and getting hysterical over little things is a bit insane. Often, we (friends and family) are the ones who agonize over the alc...	Iamhere	6	443	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	My Half Baked Idea (Preview) OK.. I hope this will make you lol if you're not having a good day. Mine has been one of feeling powerless but just accepting it. So here goes.. I thought I might help the alcoholic in my life and myself to eat a little healthier. We both like desserts but they are often high fat and high sugar and we're beg...	tiredtonite	9	770	Jan 17, 2019 by wp
	Courage to Change January 16 (Preview) In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author reflects on an important lesson they have learned in AlAnon - thinking before speaking. The author shares that they used to say everything that came to mind, even if they were not sure if what they said was true. Through work in the program, the autho...	Skorpi	8	530	Jan 17, 2019 by El
	Received validation (Preview) As my dating life unfolds, the one man I had been dating, well last weekend, after 7 months of knowing him, he admitted to me he is an active alcoholic and said you can not leave any alcohol around my home as I will drink it. I was feeling a bit crazy and feeling a bit unstable being around him. I thought it was...	joker	6	521	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Relapse and Denial (Preview) I am rarely at a loss for words, but find myself there tonight. The details are not important - I am. So often, we can get bogged down in the what happened and the summary is my son has relapsed. Of course, as the evidence presented last evening, my mind goes off to the races wondering how long has this be...	Iamhere	25	862	Jan 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Watching the progression (Preview) Hello MIP family, I am sure I have written before about the undeniable progression of my AH's disease. It is obviously taking its toll on him physically and cognitively. The times we can be out doing "normal" activities is getting shorter and shorter before he is ready to pass out or even somewhat en...	El	5	489	Jan 16, 2019 by Iamhere
	Some memories... (Preview) Hi y'all Coming up 36 years in Alanon... I am blessed, truly blessed to be here... it was hard at first- and nothing seemed to happen. "now, if not sooner" seems to be the motto at that stage. I am 13 or 14 in this photo. A wee squirt. By age 20 I was 5'6"... This was our family home- our kitchen. I had gotten...	DavidG	6	513	Jan 16, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading 1-15-2019 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, January,15 speaks about the erroneous assumption that once the alcoholic reaches sobriety all our problems will be solved. The reading points out that this is an illusion. Sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. We both need to work to overcome the emo...	hotrod	5	500	Jan 15, 2019 by hotrod
	Prayers/good thoughts, etc. requested (Preview) Went to see my Primary Care Physician this morning. This is funny--first one in 40 years and he's retiring in 2 months. I'd been seen by his nurse, and therefor contaminated before I ever got to talk to him, and he's this big teddy bear of a man who comes in beaming at me. And I broke down sobbing while he w...	Temple	24	959	Jan 15, 2019 by Temple
	Jan 13 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about taking inventory, examining our behavior and participating in our own recovery. The writer describes meetings when a group inventory was taken. The writer felt impatient and anxious to get back to the meeting without the inventory. He/she began t...	yanksfan51	11	632	Jan 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room (Preview) Monday evening meeting starting in the chat room. Follow this link to get in: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Unacceptable Behavior and dealing with lies and excuses from the alcoholic. Open topic as it applies to the al-anon program. Overcomer -- Edited by Overcome on Mo...	Overcome	0	399	Jan 14, 2019 by Overcome
	C2C, 1/14 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the al...	Lyne	3	354	Jan 14, 2019 by hotrod
	Therapy visits (Preview) Good morning everyone. Had my first visit with the therapist today. Fortunate to meet with someone who I think I am going to stick with, so her personality meshes with my personality very well. We of course covered a lot of basics when it comes to what I want out of therapy/life. It felt good to sit down an...	gloves808	12	698	Jan 13, 2019 by Maresie
	How did I take care of me today???? (Preview) BIG PROGRESS!!!! I went into work today and told everyone that I was still sore from my back and that I would work as long as it was still comfortable adn then I'm leaving when I get tired and sore.....so the folks may or may NOT get their W2's... I was stiff and a bit sore after 4 hrs.,doing my regular work, s...	mamalioness	7	491	Jan 13, 2019 by mamalioness
	My Soul Just Hurts! (Preview) Hey Family... To Say I've had a Blessed Holiday would be an Understatement... I have Had So Many Wonderful Moments with my Kids, Grandkids, Nieces & Nephews, Mom, Siblings, and Friends...Even got a New Puppy to Love... and Her Name too is "Jozie" :D But For what ever Reason, My Heart is Just In Such...	Jozie	11	740	Jan 12, 2019 by Temple
	TEMPLE (Preview) the "kids" are playing waaay past our bedtime....older dog got sick and tired of the play so she got up, off her nice towel and LEFT...She is in the office, in her crate, crashed out on her stuff toys..... It 11pm so I'm gonna tell these kids to go to bed.... Got you these 2 videos...when you click on them, t...	mamalioness	4	482	Jan 12, 2019 by Temple
	what am i grateful for today (Preview) I made a NEW friend who is in recovery like me..we had a GREAT chat at coffee grateful that I have a warm, dry place to sleep in this soggy, cold weather	mamalioness	6	1675	Jan 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	A New Start (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t52215254/this-horrible-disease-took-away-my-ah-last-night/	Green Eyes	8	749	Jan 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change, January 11 (Preview) Good morning, MIP Family -- That is exactly the topic of today's reading. The author feels lucky to have found a second family where they can speak freely, be accepted as they are, have the dignity to solve their own problems, and are freely given the empathy and love that they deserve just by being the...	Freetime	6	485	Jan 11, 2019 by Lyne
	Stepping out of my comfort zone tonight (Preview) The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are bu...	Twinkies	10	479	Jan 10, 2019 by Mattie
	Courage to Change 1/10/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses worry. The author suggests that when we succumb to worry, we open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices and relentless self-criticism. When we give substance to this worry, we lose touch with reality, and typically nothing useful...	Iamhere	5	405	Jan 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Let go. Let HP (Preview) The slogan says let go and let God, I just say let go let my higher power and boy was I tested with that this afternoon when I came home I fired up my computer and the profile would not load, I kept getting an error so I did deal let go and let God. And I also paused and prayed. I took deep breaths and said OK, will g...	mamalioness	2	1817	Jan 10, 2019 by Lyne
	If I told you this already, forgive me. Bear of very small mind presently. (Preview) When I came home from the hospital the second time, everything was very rosy around here. Husband had gotten enough of a scare about losing me to be over hisownself, and I had had my night of forgiveness and acceptance and all. And everything was more loving than it's been in decades. And I asked him on...	Temple	4	396	Jan 9, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change January 9 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's C2C speaks about one of my own character defects: looking outside myself for approval. The author shares that when the approval of others becomes necessary in order for us to feel satisfaction in our own good works, when the applause of others become THE reason for our behavior o...	Skorpi	6	471	Jan 9, 2019 by hotrod
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