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Today my A is in a snit and guess what? I've decided to have a good weekend regardless. The sun is out, I am healthy, nobody has died, and I believe I can cope and have a good attitude. Thank you alanon! Lyne
Lyne, I love this share! Good for you AND thank you for the reminder to act on MY emotions and not anyone elses. Good job working our program. You rock!
Great job concentrating on YOU Lyne!! You are so right! In my neck of the woods, the sun is out, everything is still fresh from the storms, and temps are like Spring! Why not make our weekend a good one!
Peace to you!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thanks Lyne for the share and the ESH. The sun is shining here too and we actually have temperatures higher than 30 degrees - yahoo! I am always inspired when I hear how it works and appreciate your bringing it here too! Keep doing what you're doing!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Lyne. Short and sweet. I love your attitude. I am not responsible for other peoples bad days. I just go about my day and I make it a good one, or try to anyway
Thanks lyne! This is a great reminder that I don't need to absorb another's negativity. Blehhh! That just reeks of toxic waste of my valuable time. It's minus nine degrees here but it is sunny lol. I can choose the bright side. Snow coming too! It's going to get even brighter. When it snows... make snow angels. My A was snarky yesterday too. I put on my headphones and left his attitude with him. Later came the apology for "his part." Ya know every once in awhile I actually don't have a part and this was one of those times. I nodded to acknowledge having heard him, put the headphones back on and back to enjoying music. Then later I spoke with him as if nothing happened. A little time and space and he'd had an attitude adjustment. When I was new to the program, I seemed to need to let the other person know they couldn't speak or act toward me in certain ways. I believed to not verbally confront was sending a message that I accept unacceptable behavior. Today I know actions speak louder than words. As long as my motive is clean and my actions are self care motivated and not retaliatory, I've taken care of my serenity and sanity as well as kept my side of the street clean. Thanks for the positive Alanon message. Great to read how you used our program to make a choice that honored your own feelings. ((hugs)) TT
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