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The ODAT Reading for today, January 29 speaks about having compassion for others. It points out that compassion is supportive, and understanding and does not allow us to do for others what they can do for them selves.
The reading suggests that the temptation to give advice or to jump into another's life and fix it is huge . I know that i always did this thinking i was helping. I made up a solution,offered advice became annoyed if my suggestions were ignored.Detachment works so I embraced it .
today I can truly say that I am compassionate person Thanks to alanon tools such as the slogans and steps
Good morning Betty - thank you for your service, ESH and the daily. I practice, practice, practice compassion, understanding and tolerance - it comes more naturally today but I am and will always be a work in progress. This reading is exactly what I needed today, as we had a rough evening with my youngest last night. I am so grateful that I was with my HP, and I was reminded that HE is not intentionally 'harming me' - it's the disease.....
I can say this morning that as much as I hate the disease of addiction, I am grateful that I can attribute much of the insanity to the disease instead of the diseased. I found, "I love my son but despise this disease."
I am more compassionate than before, thanks to all the tools and my willingness to use them. Make today a good one - super, super cold here today! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
It is through this program that I now can look at my Ex with compassionate eyes.
It is also through working Step 4 that I realized I have always thought of myself as a compassionate, empathetic person... and indeed I am... but I had allowed the temptation to give advice, to fix, to enable to override the compassionate part of me. I did for others what they could do for themselves... sometimes out of financial necessity, but it all feeds the disease. Thank you, Betty for this reminder!
((((((IAH))))) I am sorry your youngest son is struggling right now.
Peace & Light
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you for todays reading and shares. I am currently dealing with my mom who is 92 and having health issues. While it certainly wouldnt be pleasant for anyone, my mom possesses a very difficult personality on a good day. She is happiest when unhappy! Thus, her latest set back is very trying, indeed. As the only sibling here, it is all on me. My mantra before I call her or visit/tend to her is to ask my HP for strength, compassion and patience. I recite it over and over because compassion for her myriad of complaints (not all physical) is hard to muster. I pray for compassion on a daily basis!
Thanks Betty for your service (yesterday). I have always been a compassionate person but only for some folks, and not others. People that hurt and disappointed me, or dumped anger towards me, I had trouble finding compassion for them. Since AlAnon, I have been able to branch out with compassion, especially for those not behaving the way I would like. This includes my A, people I see with road rage, and a formerly abusive brother. AlAnon continues to teach me a lot, Lyne
