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C2C, 2/4


The reading for Monday, 2/4 discusses the authors feeling that when they are unhappy, they think God is punishing them.  The author finds it helpful to call their sponsor, read literature, go to extra meetings, and be around nature.  The author then feels the healing touch of HP.

Reminder:  When faced with difficult or painful situations, I can remember that a loving God is always here for me, always available as a source of comfort, guidance, and peace.

Quote:  No one is alone if theyve come to believe in a Power greater than themselves.

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It is not often anymore, but once in awhile when my pain is so great, I temporarily get stuck and forget to use all my amazing tools.  When I use my toolbox, things are not so dark or terrible.  I do have many resources to help myself if I let this process work.  I can agree with the quote, and I do not feel alone as I had in the past, Lyne 



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Thank you so much for your service, Lyne!

Being raised Catholic, I always thought that God was punishing me when times were tough for me... which was hard for me to understand b/c I had (and still do) tried so hard to be the best person I could be for others! Sometimes I did feel so alone... I could not find that loving God that everyone talks about.

Al-Anon has been a life-saver for MYSELF as it has helped me to embrace my HP - a power greater than myself that I CAN UNDERSTAND AND RELATE TO. This power is helping me to understand and accept me.

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I also was raised Catholic with punishment always hovering for any sins committed.  In the cultures from both sides of my family, guilt and the threat of punishment were also ever present!

I now think of my HP as only loving, helpful and wanting the best for me.  If there are any punishments it's from consequences of poor decisions on MY part.

Although several years ago when my AD got a DWI, she was living with me.  The judge at the time wanted all offenders to have an interlock device not only on their own cars, but all the cars at the residence!  Even though I wouldn't lend my daughter keys to my car, the judge felt she could find the keys and take the car when I wasn't around; hence every car needed a device.  I truly did feel punished for her offense.  Why should I have to park my car at work and blow into a device in order to leave......where others, including students could see?  Would I have to explain to everyone I knew that it wasn't for ME?   The good news is judge backed down from this decision when several attorneys put up a big stink about it!  So, I guess there are certainly a myriad of unwarranted punishments in everyday life.....but I personally do not believe my HP wants anything but good and love for me.

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El



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Good evening all - happy Monday! Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. I three was raised up catholic. For ever and a day, I too felt I was being punished for unknown reasons. What I came to understand over time is my thinker wasn't working well even as a child. As Jerry says often, I was born into this disease and raised with it all around. I believe it existed in my nature and nurture even before I existed, and thus my distorted thinking has been around a long, long while.

At a weekend lake visit with my gal pals from HS, we got to talking about our shared religion of origin. I had a very different perception of what was taught and how I received the lessons than they did. One other was middle ground, but 5 of 7 felt the teaching were a loving, forgiving, kind God when I felt I heard a punishing, relentless power that I feared. That weekend was an eye-opener for me and how I 'receive' lessons, messages, words, etc. That was shortly before I began my year of practicing 'Seek to Understand'.

What I feel today is that I have a loving God who wants me to be happy, healthy and whole. He knows my journey and has it designed just for me. It's intended to have left turns, right turns, etc. because that's how I learn and grow. I am not being tested in tough times, I am being pruned - getting rid of old branches for new growth.

That's not to say that I have mastered this spiritual journey - not even close. When I feel fear, sadness or other rising up, I do all that I can to pull out the tool(s) I might need to deal/heal. I am making progress each day, and for that I'm grateful. Al-Anon has given me what I need to continue to be the better version of me than yesterday!

It's been a long day here. Three of us spent the day with a newcomer and then did our tacos! I feel blessed to be of service and filled with gratitude! I hope everyone had a good day - it's gotten cold again here and we're to have more weather for the next few days! Spring can't come soon enough for me!!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 



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 Thank you Lyne for your daily and service....Like PnP says above me, I always thought, as a former Catholic , that this G-d of other's understanding (I see now, anyway) was punishing me or worse:  TESTING me , Testing my faith, etc.,  Testing Testing...I thought what a cruel, horrible G-d to do that to one who has already had the worst of the worst thrown at her and I'm to get MORE???? NO way....I walked away from organized religion, became an Agnostic, and never looked back....NOW I see that Program can be my Higher Power..the love, support, encouragement, wisdom, ESH I get in PROGRAM, why can't that be my HP?? It is to a degree...the other part of my HP is within me and it is either genderless or female (still deciding on that one)  but it is for ME..Loving ME...IF I can get still enough to be connected, I can find that peace, wisdom, answer i seek....yep...12 steps program has saved me from the wreckage of other man's rendition of what a higher power is.....I have my OWN understanding of a great spirit/source of all things good/positive energy and i can live with it......



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