Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Aloha · Aloha

I thought I'd share this as I'm pretty sure most here can relate. I hope you can see it. It's pretty funny, actually. This seems to be how my mind operates a lot of the time. Really it's my spiritual disease personified. I'm going through this period knowing truly that everything just IS and God's got eve...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi everyone! Quick question and this may trigger those who are sensitive to talk about drinking and stupid stuff that goes along with it. So, my bf and I were out with friends for dinner and lots of pool day drinking yesterday. He and I had a very drunk talk about our relationship and it didn't go the way...

lookingup · lookingup

know its been a long time since posted ,summer time has been hectic with saleing old furniture and replaceing furniture then projects out the wazoo. ive been slacking on my recovery work i feel it big time,trying to get it all back going again, i read in 1 of my daily about problems growing up in the a home...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I forget from time to time because I'm suppose to be the angry one that when I stop engaging with my XAH how much rage he is carrying. We have been split for 7 years now and divorced for almost 5 years and he is so angry. The problem is he takes this out on me not realizing it's really not "me" he's hurting. So...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Just back home today from 2 lovely weeks in the north woods. A very spiritual place for me, so I'm coming home feeling replenished and ready to take on a difficult summer (work related). I've set some boundaries over the years with aw that i decided not to enforce. She's relapsed several tim...

KitTev · KitTev

Hi there, Everyone. I'm wondering if this is an okay place for me to be. I don't have any family members or friends who are alcoholics, at least not ones who I know well or whose alcoholism has directly affected me. I have been looking for a 12-step group for a little while to help me cope with feelings of no...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on a problem that many of us have: as a result of living with the effects of alcoholism, many of us lose perspective on who we are and what we can and cannot do. We accept ideas about our own limitations that are not based in reality...

Mattie · Mattie

I thought this article, "How Secondhand Drinking Ruins Lives," reminded me of a lot I knew but haven't seen in the media, and also made me think a few things I hadn't realized before. Lots to think about, for me. Here are a few quotes: Last week, the Alcohol Research Group at the Public Health Institute i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow for Betty! Tomorrow's reading discusses how our lives will remain unmanageable as long as we pretend that only half of the truth is real. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from one minute to the next....

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am going on a journey these days trying to get out of self as much as I am able. I was doing a community project sorting different pine cones & talking about living in the same city that I grew up in. IT was fascinating for me. I needed to hear more about the town I was born in & lived in for a long time o...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/8, is a simple reflection reminding us that nature can help us live ODAT. The writer says that trees dont worry, ponds dont fret, and butterflies dont pry into others business. The writer says that all of creation is going about the business of living and we can do the same. R...

Riley3 · Riley3

Why is it around the holidays that the family falls apart? Everyones emotions are so out of wack? I just wish I didnt see what I see or hear what I hear! There is nothing I can do. I just let go, no arguments, and look the other way. Hoping the nightmare will be over! How do you get over that a person who just d...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I am trying SO hard to not get pulled into arguments with my AH.Some days it feels so easy and other days it's impossible.He knows exactly how to push my buttons and then once he does he tells me I'm the problem because of my out of control behavior. I seriously can't take it anymore. I feel so bad about myse...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have felt like victims of the alcoholic behavior in our lives. Even into adulthood, while trying to show how successful and in charge we are, inside the scared out of control kid was there. I certainly remembered feeling like I was a victi...

Lyne · Lyne

. I have not been minding my own business. I am so tired of the alcoholic behavior. My spouse is either continuing to drink (which she denies) or is just a perfect dry drunk. In counseling last Monday I brought in an article on what is a dry drunk? And read excerpts to my spouse and the addiction counsel...

Whitsey · Whitsey

I'd like to begin by saying that my sponsor for the last 3 years has been great in so many ways but I feel like we've stagnated. It is very important to her that with all her sponsees that the first 3 steps be firmly established before moving on to the 4th and beyond. She eplained that her own experience with...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author's defines detachment as "the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs." After years practicing Al-Anon, the author is able to empathize with someone else's pain without needing to remove that pain. Even when his alcoholic loved one does something wrong,...

Aloha · Aloha

I love Al-Anon and how it's taught me to practice the principles of the program in all my affairs. I'm just feeling proud of myself for speaking up for myself. Something that used to be very difficult for me, coming as a person who just wanted everyone to like her. Defending myself and my interests at tim...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I think I am asking for some ESH. A little back-story, as I don't post on here too much about my Ex. 1. Because he is my Ex, and 2. Because I try to focus on me now. Divorce was finalized last Aug. Ex spent a year in rehab and about 6 months in SL. I believe he got a place this past Feb (can't remember exact date)...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about Tradition 3...The writer shares how comforting it is to be able to attend a meeting any place and any time, and expect to find no other affiliation promoted by the group. Members will not try to sell a religion, a treatment program, a therapy, a political platform, or anythi...

Aloha · Aloha

In my town where I first started my recovery journey, one of our meetings would always start off, after the standard opening, passing around and reading this pamphlet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S25.pdf I'd completely forgotten about this pamphlet since I moved, as I've yet to encounter any of my l...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi everyone, Hope everyone is enjoying a lovely Sunday. Right now Im sitting on the boardwalk, looking at the beautiful sunset and scenery, enjoying my coffee and book. 30 minutes ago I was dealing with my AH in a fullon freakout session. My daughter went to her godmothers,( she knew what was happeni...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading from courage to change is about remembering that everyone is in the hands of HP. The author begins by describing how their group usually welcomes newcomers. It had been a habit that the group followed, not something they had taken a group conscience about. One evening,...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This from C2C. Edited because of time. I followed a sound in the wood.tying in vain to understand the child's words.when I spotted him. I realized why his words made no sense: why are you repeating the your ABCs? I asked. The child replied I'm saying my prayers. I couldn't help but laugh. Prayers all I he...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Boundary pushing ... lol .. it makes me laugh. I did wind up outside my hula hoop today and dealing directly with one of our amazing directors .. that consultant I posted about a while back decided to show his butt again. I really don't blame the consultant however I seriously wished when I approved...

WildFlower · WildFlower

I'm sick of dealing with people who make me the bad guy for what they caused themselves and then they lie about it

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July 2nd speaks about destructive behavior It points out that many of us identify with negative self destructive behavior such as procrastination . These habits cause us undue anxiety and pain but with the help of the program,-- steps and slogans we are able to s...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi all, I have a question about how to handle someone (a friend who's an acquaintance to some degree but a central part of my friend group). She can be very selfish and seems to think that everyone's plans should revolve around her. She got angry at me in front of everyone because I chose to leave a pool p...

Crau · Crau

The ups and downs of living with an active alcoholic brought me took my breaking point a few years ago. Broken promises, manipulations..most of you know the drill. I did what I needed, focused on myself and was so good with my boundaries (and thats a hard thing , let me tell you). Well 3 years later, trust...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/1, discusses the problem of having spent too much time feeling badly about who we are and what we have done. It takes time for doubts to fade and wounds to heal, but self-confidence can grow with practice. Suggestions made are to counteract negative thoughts with positive...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65670654/alanon-step-7-7-1-2019/...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have sought to fill voids in our lives (for love, attention, approval) with outside sources, such as food, other people, relationships. Recognizing an emptiness and then trying to fill it from the outside is a pattern that many of us have...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling a little overwhelmed & am over-dramatizing as well. I haven't been sleeping as well as I would like to. I went over 24 hours the other day! I know that this isn't a fix me site. I just needed to share it because no one knows it but me. I guess the lights are on too long! Meaning that I spend too m...

DavidG · DavidG

This is something I have never done before- and strongly avoided. To post the same share, to two different groups. Stateside, I was alway impressed with the AA clubhouse concept- where everyone is together. last year I was in such a place in Eastern Texas... and also been to meetings in Rapid City,...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about focusing on ourselves. Some sentences really stood out to me: "I always felt my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought." "His behavior is not a reflection of me, it's a reflection of his disease....

WildFlower · WildFlower

On March 4, 1980 my older brother, the guy who dabbed mud on my bee sting to stop the pain when I was four-years-old, shot and killed four of his neighbors with his deer hunting rifle. His actions nearly destroyed my family. Rather than delve into it here, I am providing a link to an article I wrote about...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Really struggling with appropriate boundaries with people who have zero boundaries. My parents have no boundaries, either one of them and it's interesting to watch the dynamic. I have spent a lot of time questioning over the past 6 weeks kind of what's wrong with me kind of stuff .. I'm referring to...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about sponsorship! The author shares that a new member called one day, and after chatting for a bit, the other person asked him to be his sponsor. After a bout of fear, self-doubt, and a subtle reminder that he was being asked to be a helper, not a savior, he accepted with humilit...

WildFlower · WildFlower

Is there a length limit to a thread I start and can I insert a link to something? Thought I'd ask first.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I believe that honesty is the way to go! I know sometimes that we tend to be brutally honest. If we are honest w/ ourselves first then to God it becomes easier. I try to practice honesty but sometimes I get caught up w/ doing things & living on egg shells sometimes that I have to be or am dishonest w my AH....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading In C2C is one of my favorites. The author begins by saying that forgiveness can be a change of attitude. When the author first came to Alanon, they were filled with bitterness toward the alcoholic. In time, they realized that the bitterness was hurting themself more than...

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, 6-25 speaks about denying our own feelings to keep the peace, . It points out that "willingness" is the finest gift we can give to ourselves. each meeting attended and alanon telephone call answered reinforces this willingness We can ask HP for he courage to stand u...

Aloha · Aloha

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/you-are-enough_b_7687616

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will only share some of my story but I can go on & on! I just want to say that I found Al anon just in time! I was led to Al anon by some very spiritual people. My first meeting was great. They used the One day a time book & later my mom bought me one. Now we have so many more devotional books from some diff...

andromeda · andromeda

So, at one of my bday parties this weekend I was talking to a much younger friend. She's 29 and I'm 49 now. I was complaining about my age and how my body is definitely feeling older. It takes me longer to recover from a hard workout session, my skin is starting to show that crepe-y look, I have lines and w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/24, is about having the ability to change ones attitude. The author says that success and failure are a matter of perspective. Prior to alanon we knew great disappointment, and began to doubt our ability to change anything. We were unable to see the great successes we hav...

Aloha · Aloha

I was reading an interesting book when I cam across these questions which the author says he poses to himself each day: 1. What does this have to do with the agenda of my soul? (Before partaking in any activity, discussion, decision, etc.) 2. Is there any part of what I am now seeing "over there" that I hav...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the different ways we may be able to work step 12. The writer describes a situation in which she helps an elderly person with a project; the connection with the older person and the hug they exchanged when it was completed meant so much to both of them. Whe...

JerryF · JerryF

Tell me what to do. This is the shorter version of the 3rd step prayer my HP guided me to say. It is short and precise and then I listen. My HP then would responded to me from HP's need and I respond. The consequence has been that both HP and I share in the outcome as well as any others I have been directed to...

Temple · Temple

Sorry this is free through today, June 20, the last day. A friend sent it earlier in the week and I forgot til she reminded me today. It's on being barefoot on the grass to ground the body and heal inflammation, which is the basis for all disease, according to this and I've heard that before from a very acc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...

Elabella · Elabella

Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...

JerryF · JerryF

We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...

Freetime · Freetime

Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...

IamLynn · IamLynn

I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...

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	That monkey mind (Preview) I thought I'd share this as I'm pretty sure most here can relate. I hope you can see it. It's pretty funny, actually. This seems to be how my mind operates a lot of the time. Really it's my spiritual disease personified. I'm going through this period knowing truly that everything just IS and God's got eve...	Aloha	9	4773	Jul 12, 2019 by lookingup
	DRUNK SPEAK and LOVe (Preview) Hi everyone! Quick question and this may trigger those who are sensitive to talk about drinking and stupid stuff that goes along with it. So, my bf and I were out with friends for dinner and lots of pool day drinking yesterday. He and I had a very drunk talk about our relationship and it didn't go the way...	andromeda	25	5025	Jul 11, 2019 by andromeda
	hi family group (Preview) know its been a long time since posted ,summer time has been hectic with saleing old furniture and replaceing furniture then projects out the wazoo. ive been slacking on my recovery work i feel it big time,trying to get it all back going again, i read in 1 of my daily about problems growing up in the a home...	lookingup	5	542	Jul 11, 2019 by lookingup
	Taking a moment .. (Preview) I forget from time to time because I'm suppose to be the angry one that when I stop engaging with my XAH how much rage he is carrying. We have been split for 7 years now and divorced for almost 5 years and he is so angry. The problem is he takes this out on me not realizing it's really not "me" he's hurting. So...	SerenityRUS	2	482	Jul 11, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Sometimes there don't seem to be any good answers... (Preview) Hello mip! Just back home today from 2 lovely weeks in the north woods. A very spiritual place for me, so I'm coming home feeling replenished and ready to take on a difficult summer (work related). I've set some boundaries over the years with aw that i decided not to enforce. She's relapsed several tim...	Skorpi	13	5157	Jul 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hi Everyone (Preview) Hi there, Everyone. I'm wondering if this is an okay place for me to be. I don't have any family members or friends who are alcoholics, at least not ones who I know well or whose alcoholism has directly affected me. I have been looking for a 12-step group for a little while to help me cope with feelings of no...	KitTev	6	2686	Jul 10, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change July 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on a problem that many of us have: as a result of living with the effects of alcoholism, many of us lose perspective on who we are and what we can and cannot do. We accept ideas about our own limitations that are not based in reality...	Skorpi	6	593	Jul 10, 2019 by Aloha
	How secondhand drinking ruins lives (Preview) I thought this article, "How Secondhand Drinking Ruins Lives," reminded me of a lot I knew but haven't seen in the media, and also made me think a few things I hadn't realized before. Lots to think about, for me. Here are a few quotes: Last week, the Alcohol Research Group at the Public Health Institute i...	Mattie	3	679	Jul 9, 2019 by Mattie
	Courage to Change 7/9 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow for Betty! Tomorrow's reading discusses how our lives will remain unmanageable as long as we pretend that only half of the truth is real. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from one minute to the next....	Iamhere	5	604	Jul 9, 2019 by Lyne
	giving back to my community (Preview) I am going on a journey these days trying to get out of self as much as I am able. I was doing a community project sorting different pine cones & talking about living in the same city that I grew up in. IT was fascinating for me. I needed to hear more about the town I was born in & lived in for a long time o...	Hoot Nanny	1	2599	Jul 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 7/8 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/8, is a simple reflection reminding us that nature can help us live ODAT. The writer says that trees dont worry, ponds dont fret, and butterflies dont pry into others business. The writer says that all of creation is going about the business of living and we can do the same. R...	Lyne	3	2696	Jul 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Detachment and holidays (Preview) Why is it around the holidays that the family falls apart? Everyones emotions are so out of wack? I just wish I didnt see what I see or hear what I hear! There is nothing I can do. I just let go, no arguments, and look the other way. Hoping the nightmare will be over! How do you get over that a person who just d...	Riley3	5	1779	Jul 8, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	How To Stop Arguing (Preview) I am trying SO hard to not get pulled into arguments with my AH.Some days it feels so easy and other days it's impossible.He knows exactly how to push my buttons and then once he does he tells me I'm the problem because of my out of control behavior. I seriously can't take it anymore. I feel so bad about myse...	SunnyFrogs	33	4261	Jul 8, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Hope for Today July 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us have felt like victims of the alcoholic behavior in our lives. Even into adulthood, while trying to show how successful and in charge we are, inside the scared out of control kid was there. I certainly remembered feeling like I was a victi...	yanksfan51	4	2490	Jul 8, 2019 by DavidG
	I’ve been bad. (Preview) . I have not been minding my own business. I am so tired of the alcoholic behavior. My spouse is either continuing to drink (which she denies) or is just a perfect dry drunk. In counseling last Monday I brought in an article on what is a dry drunk? And read excerpts to my spouse and the addiction counsel...	Lyne	5	7854	Jul 7, 2019 by 2HP
	Sponsor question (Preview) I'd like to begin by saying that my sponsor for the last 3 years has been great in so many ways but I feel like we've stagnated. It is very important to her that with all her sponsees that the first 3 steps be firmly established before moving on to the 4th and beyond. She eplained that her own experience with...	Whitsey	10	6538	Jul 6, 2019 by Whitsey
	C2C, July 5 -- Detachment (Preview) Today's author's defines detachment as "the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs." After years practicing Al-Anon, the author is able to empathize with someone else's pain without needing to remove that pain. Even when his alcoholic loved one does something wrong,...	Freetime	4	6140	Jul 5, 2019 by Iamhere
	Using my tools in every-day occurances (Preview) I love Al-Anon and how it's taught me to practice the principles of the program in all my affairs. I'm just feeling proud of myself for speaking up for myself. Something that used to be very difficult for me, coming as a person who just wanted everyone to like her. Defending myself and my interests at tim...	Aloha	5	2775	Jul 4, 2019 by hotrod
	Practicing the Pause (Preview) So I think I am asking for some ESH. A little back-story, as I don't post on here too much about my Ex. 1. Because he is my Ex, and 2. Because I try to focus on me now. Divorce was finalized last Aug. Ex spent a year in rehab and about 6 months in SL. I believe he got a place this past Feb (can't remember exact date)...	PosiesandPuppies	9	5475	Jul 4, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 7/4/19 (Preview) Today's reading is about Tradition 3...The writer shares how comforting it is to be able to attend a meeting any place and any time, and expect to find no other affiliation promoted by the group. Members will not try to sell a religion, a treatment program, a therapy, a political platform, or anythi...	Iamhere	2	4295	Jul 4, 2019 by Lyne
	Did you grow up with a problem drinker? (Preview) In my town where I first started my recovery journey, one of our meetings would always start off, after the standard opening, passing around and reading this pamphlet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S25.pdf I'd completely forgotten about this pamphlet since I moved, as I've yet to encounter any of my l...	Aloha	9	1298	Jul 4, 2019 by Elabella
	Moment of crisis... (Preview) Hi everyone, Hope everyone is enjoying a lovely Sunday. Right now Im sitting on the boardwalk, looking at the beautiful sunset and scenery, enjoying my coffee and book. 30 minutes ago I was dealing with my AH in a fullon freakout session. My daughter went to her godmothers,( she knew what was happeni...	Elabella	15	3526	Jul 4, 2019 by Elabella
	Courage to Change July 3 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading from courage to change is about remembering that everyone is in the hands of HP. The author begins by describing how their group usually welcomes newcomers. It had been a habit that the group followed, not something they had taken a group conscience about. One evening,...	Skorpi	5	942	Jul 3, 2019 by hotrod
	This is from June 30! (Preview) This from C2C. Edited because of time. I followed a sound in the wood.tying in vain to understand the child's words.when I spotted him. I realized why his words made no sense: why are you repeating the your ABCs? I asked. The child replied I'm saying my prayers. I couldn't help but laugh. Prayers all I he...	Hoot Nanny	3	2494	Jul 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Same issue keeps popping up .. (Preview) Boundary pushing ... lol .. it makes me laugh. I did wind up outside my hula hoop today and dealing directly with one of our amazing directors .. that consultant I posted about a while back decided to show his butt again. I really don't blame the consultant however I seriously wished when I approved...	SerenityRUS	3	3626	Jul 3, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Do you think that those who chronically drink too much believe their own lies? (Preview) I'm sick of dealing with people who make me the bad guy for what they caused themselves and then they lie about it	WildFlower	15	3529	Jul 2, 2019 by WildFlower
	C2C Reaading 7-2 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, July 2nd speaks about destructive behavior It points out that many of us identify with negative self destructive behavior such as procrastination . These habits cause us undue anxiety and pain but with the help of the program,-- steps and slogans we are able to s...	hotrod	4	2624	Jul 2, 2019 by El
	PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE GUILT TRIPPING (Preview) Hi all, I have a question about how to handle someone (a friend who's an acquaintance to some degree but a central part of my friend group). She can be very selfish and seems to think that everyone's plans should revolve around her. She got angry at me in front of everyone because I chose to leave a pool p...	andromeda	10	3973	Jul 2, 2019 by 2HP
	Just when you think “we got this”... (Preview) The ups and downs of living with an active alcoholic brought me took my breaking point a few years ago. Broken promises, manipulations..most of you know the drill. I did what I needed, focused on myself and was so good with my boundaries (and thats a hard thing , let me tell you). Well 3 years later, trust...	Crau	5	827	Jul 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 7/1 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/1, discusses the problem of having spent too much time feeling badly about who we are and what we have done. It takes time for doubts to fade and wounds to heal, but self-confidence can grow with practice. Suggestions made are to counteract negative thoughts with positive...	Lyne	3	2723	Jul 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step 7 (Preview) Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65670654/alanon-step-7-7-1-2019/...	hotrod	0	579	Jul 1, 2019 by hotrod
	Hope for Today June 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have sought to fill voids in our lives (for love, attention, approval) with outside sources, such as food, other people, relationships. Recognizing an emptiness and then trying to fill it from the outside is a pattern that many of us have...	yanksfan51	6	502	Jun 30, 2019 by DavidG
	do I post too much or too often? (Preview) I am feeling a little overwhelmed & am over-dramatizing as well. I haven't been sleeping as well as I would like to. I went over 24 hours the other day! I know that this isn't a fix me site. I just needed to share it because no one knows it but me. I guess the lights are on too long! Meaning that I spend too m...	Hoot Nanny	7	2202	Jun 30, 2019 by WildFlower
	Learning to work the traditions... (Preview) This is something I have never done before- and strongly avoided. To post the same share, to two different groups. Stateside, I was alway impressed with the AA clubhouse concept- where everyone is together. last year I was in such a place in Eastern Texas... and also been to meetings in Rapid City,...	DavidG	5	4413	Jun 29, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, June 28 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about focusing on ourselves. Some sentences really stood out to me: "I always felt my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought." "His behavior is not a reflection of me, it's a reflection of his disease....	Freetime	6	602	Jun 28, 2019 by Iamhere
	My Brother Murdered His Neighbors murder alcohol prescription drugs failure of the medical profession (Preview) On March 4, 1980 my older brother, the guy who dabbed mud on my bee sting to stop the pain when I was four-years-old, shot and killed four of his neighbors with his deer hunting rifle. His actions nearly destroyed my family. Rather than delve into it here, I am providing a link to an article I wrote about...	WildFlower	16	6488	Jun 28, 2019 by WildFlower
	Just because .. (Preview) Really struggling with appropriate boundaries with people who have zero boundaries. My parents have no boundaries, either one of them and it's interesting to watch the dynamic. I have spent a lot of time questioning over the past 6 weeks kind of what's wrong with me kind of stuff .. I'm referring to...	SerenityRUS	8	834	Jun 28, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change 6/27 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about sponsorship! The author shares that a new member called one day, and after chatting for a bit, the other person asked him to be his sponsor. After a bout of fear, self-doubt, and a subtle reminder that he was being asked to be a helper, not a savior, he accepted with humilit...	Iamhere	1	548	Jun 27, 2019 by Aloha
	Is there a length limit? (Preview) Is there a length limit to a thread I start and can I insert a link to something? Thought I'd ask first.	WildFlower	15	2914	Jun 26, 2019 by WildFlower
	Honesty... (Preview) I believe that honesty is the way to go! I know sometimes that we tend to be brutally honest. If we are honest w/ ourselves first then to God it becomes easier. I try to practice honesty but sometimes I get caught up w/ doing things & living on egg shells sometimes that I have to be or am dishonest w my AH....	Hoot Nanny	2	4225	Jun 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change June 26 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading In C2C is one of my favorites. The author begins by saying that forgiveness can be a change of attitude. When the author first came to Alanon, they were filled with bitterness toward the alcoholic. In time, they realized that the bitterness was hurting themself more than...	Skorpi	3	1326	Jun 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 6-25 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, 6-25 speaks about denying our own feelings to keep the peace, . It points out that "willingness" is the finest gift we can give to ourselves. each meeting attended and alanon telephone call answered reinforces this willingness We can ask HP for he courage to stand u...	hotrod	9	663	Jun 26, 2019 by DavidG
	You are enough (Preview) https://www.huffpost.com/entry/you-are-enough_b_7687616	Aloha	2	5445	Jun 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Some of my story... (Preview) I will only share some of my story but I can go on & on! I just want to say that I found Al anon just in time! I was led to Al anon by some very spiritual people. My first meeting was great. They used the One day a time book & later my mom bought me one. Now we have so many more devotional books from some diff...	Hoot Nanny	1	4802	Jun 24, 2019 by DavidG
	You're not old, you're just enhanced (Preview) So, at one of my bday parties this weekend I was talking to a much younger friend. She's 29 and I'm 49 now. I was complaining about my age and how my body is definitely feeling older. It takes me longer to recover from a hard workout session, my skin is starting to show that crepe-y look, I have lines and w...	andromeda	17	3822	Jun 24, 2019 by WildFlower
	C2C, 6/24 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/24, is about having the ability to change ones attitude. The author says that success and failure are a matter of perspective. Prior to alanon we knew great disappointment, and began to doubt our ability to change anything. We were unable to see the great successes we hav...	Lyne	3	4583	Jun 24, 2019 by El
	Questions to ask myself each day (Preview) I was reading an interesting book when I cam across these questions which the author says he poses to himself each day: 1. What does this have to do with the agenda of my soul? (Before partaking in any activity, discussion, decision, etc.) 2. Is there any part of what I am now seeing "over there" that I hav...	Aloha	7	1371	Jun 24, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today June 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the different ways we may be able to work step 12. The writer describes a situation in which she helps an elderly person with a project; the connection with the older person and the hug they exchanged when it was completed meant so much to both of them. Whe...	yanksfan51	5	2081	Jun 23, 2019 by DavidG
	Place me where you want me... (Preview) Tell me what to do. This is the shorter version of the 3rd step prayer my HP guided me to say. It is short and precise and then I listen. My HP then would responded to me from HP's need and I respond. The consequence has been that both HP and I share in the outcome as well as any others I have been directed to...	JerryF	10	7004	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Grounding (Preview) Sorry this is free through today, June 20, the last day. A friend sent it earlier in the week and I forgot til she reminded me today. It's on being barefoot on the grass to ground the body and heal inflammation, which is the basis for all disease, according to this and I've heard that before from a very acc...	Temple	4	5892	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Just stopping by to say "Hello"!!! (Preview) Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...	mamalioness	8	10143	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	How to forgive and move on? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...	Elabella	49	5224	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	We are moving and practicing Letting Go and Letting God. (Preview) We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...	JerryF	13	6443	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, June 21 (Preview) Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...	Freetime	8	4139	Jun 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 6/20 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...	Iamhere	3	1576	Jun 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Can I pat myself on the back? (Preview) I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...	IamLynn	15	4010	Jun 19, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change June 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...	Skorpi	6	4222	Jun 19, 2019 by El
	C2C Reading 6-18 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...	hotrod	7	836	Jun 18, 2019 by El
	C2C, 6/17 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...	Lyne	2	2556	Jun 17, 2019 by El
	The courage to change the things we can- a 12 step inventory [long]. (Preview) Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...	DavidG	4	882	Jun 17, 2019 by Iamhere
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