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How to forgive and move on?
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Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...
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We are moving and practicing Letting Go and Letting God.
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We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...
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Courage to Change, June 21
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Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...
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Courage to Change 6/20
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Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...
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Iamhere
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Can I pat myself on the back?
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I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...
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Courage to Change June 19
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In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...
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C2C Reading 6-18
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The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...
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hotrod
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C2C, 6/17
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The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...
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Lyne
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The courage to change the things we can- a 12 step inventory [long].
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Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...
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Going to be buying a home!!!
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Hi everyone! So, I decided to take the plunge into home ownership and I'm scared to death! I have never owned a home as a single; I've always been married. I went through the prequalification with a lender last week and he called me a few days ago to say, 'You can qualify for a bigger home if you want but al...
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Hope for Today June 16
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 5, and how revealing our character defects to God, ourselves and others can help us move forward in recovery. The writer describes getting a bit stuck on step 5, with a list that was completely negative. With the help of another, the writer sta...
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The al anon mip story of the screw
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In the mip night meeting room some years ago we heard a story of a screw, yes that's right, a screw. It was a symbol of a lesson someone in the group learned, and I cannot for the life of me remember how it went. I find myself in a place these days of needing that kind of visual focus, and would love to hear fro...
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Courage to Change, June 14
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Step 12 says that we tried to carry the message to others. The author of today's page was a very enthusiastic messenger, dragging their friends and relatives to meetings and preaching to everyone in earshot. This did not work, and they felt like a fool. Then they re-read the step and noticed the part...
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Freetime
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I am not on an island!
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I don't feel as isolated & terrified of the outside world. For so many years I have gotten to the place where I felt isolated & alone. But not today. I am certain that I need to be among the living. I was told that you have to share your recovery. I am not supposed to be alone all the time. I have to be av...
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Courage to Change 6/13/19
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Tomorrow's reading is about Step 11 - where we seek to improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How this happens is individual - maybe we look for signs from people around us or in events and unexplained coincidences. Perhaps we seek this power through our feelings, in...
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Juggling act I'm tired.
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Ok I've been back in my island of origin for a year and a half. Alone with my kids. The distance has been good. I started my degree last year, got a full scholarship this year, the kids are well settled, have picked up a second language, some foo relationships have been restructured and thus restored and I...
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New here
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I dont even know what to say. I have an AH and both of us are struggling right now. He was sober for a long time and recently has struggled to remain sober. I take care of my mom with Alzheimers so I cant get to meetings. She is in stage 7 but I have no help.
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how to react
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Hello everyone, I don't know if I am in the right chat room, however, I figured someone would be able to point me in the right direction. I am living with a functional drug addict and alcoholic. Meaning no use during the week, but always on weekends. This man keeps a job and pays bills. Every once in a while...
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Courage to Change June 12
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Hello MIP! Today's reading is about step ten (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author shares that, since step 10 is a part of their daily routine, they like to think of it as a gentle, warm, and loving way to take care of themselves. By continuing t...
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Lamest excuse ever
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So my AH who is a type 1 diabetic and would drink a lot around sports but now that many major games are done has decreased drinking. So eHR he started drinking the other night I asked if there was a game on and he said no he was drinking because his blood sugar was low and beer was sugar so why not. Omg. Seriousl...
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Courage to Change 6/11
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses Step 9...the author asks the question, "How do I know whether or not to take action?" for that portion of the step that suggests we need not make direct amends to those injured if, in doing so, we might cause further injury. The reading g...
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Iamhere
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The Important Stuff
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Hey. Apologies for not being here as much as I could, but it is what it is. We've been attending a face to face meeting regularly now for a few months. I haven't made it my home group yet, but I probably will. Attending a face to face meeting is important and belonging to a group is important. I know that. We g...
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Al-Anon 4th Step workshop
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I live in MN and have been looking for a 4th step workshop that uses Blueprint For Progress as a guide. In 2 years, I have not seen one and I have been looking. I would like to put on a workshop specifically using Al-Anon materials. If necessary I will travel out of state to attend and see if others are wi...
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Detachment & detschment with love
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Hi! Where i could find old purple bookmark on detschment or detschment with love?
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C2C, 6/10
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The reading for Monday, June 10, discusses the 8th Step: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. This step was difficult for the author as they felt they absolutely could not make amends to some people. As the author forged ahead, making amends became eas...
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Hope for Today June 9
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty some of us have had in speaking up directly- about anything and everything! The writer described being too quiet, unable to speak up. That can be true for me as well, but in my case I know that in my family, most of the time things that we wan...
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How to answer towards negstive feedbsck?
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Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.
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Cruise
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Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care
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Woke up angry and
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can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...
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Turning points- in a life... Step 10...
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Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...
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AlAnon/Chat Room......looks completely different
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I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?
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Hi everyone I’m back
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Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...
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Forward .. and back .. lol
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I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...
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ODAT - June 7
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The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...
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Update(life goes on...)
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Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...
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Courage to Change 6/6
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Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...
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Today's Hope June 5
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Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...
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C2C Reading 6-4
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The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...
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two weeks later...
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I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...
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Update after a very long absence
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i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...
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C2C, 6/3
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The reading for Monday , June 3, speaks about being powerless over this disease. The author says we can be provoked or accused by alcoholics, who create diversions away from themselves. We are reminded not to react, or argue, or defend ourselves. Trying to create a defense against active alcohol...
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Lyne
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Let myself get hooked
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I started the day meeting AH at marriage therapy. Though things had been going okay (seemed to want to do better and some sobriety) he spiraled back to a point where hes out of the house for just over a week on a bender. Im grateful he respects my boundaries by staying away but still sucks alcoholism is out...
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Dealing with setbacks
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Hi everyone,
I've not posted for a while. I thought I was doing well, going to meetings, starting to recover and relearn behaviours. However, in the last month I've been dealing with all sorts of personal stuff and it's not been nice. I feel really low, as bad as I've ever felt since joining Al-Anon. S...
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Hope for Today June 2
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about moving away from chaos and into serenity. Like the writer, I didnt even acknowledge that I was living in chaos. When I came to alanon I began to notice when people said they were addicted to chaos. I remember many years ago, when I was still in the marria...
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Questions...so many questions...
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Hi everyone. Was at my weekly meeting yesterday and something interesting happened that sort of left me wondering. At some point someone had mentioned something about wining and dining at an Al Anon event, and quickly corrected themselves with the wining part. Well this left me wondering, what is A...
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Elabella
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Saying Goodbye -
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Today is going to be a tough day .. I have worked with a woman who is like me not perfect .. LOL. She's retiring today, and the past month has been difficult because I think we both struggle with saying "Goodbye". I have spent more time with her than I have my family working here over the past 3 years. It ma...
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Courage to Change, May 31
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Today's reading compares our Al-Anon journey to legends where a hero must face great challenges before gaining treasure at journey's end. We are the heroes in our own spiritual journey of self-discovery. We explore hidden motives, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. We use program too...
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Idea for May - Joy Journal
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As we've had rain for the last 2 days and I've had more time on my hands to meditate/read, I thought I'd start a group joy journal, and it just so happens we are beginning a new month tomorrow - so why not? I am all about trying different and new things to enhance my human experience, and have been thinking a l...
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Step 6
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https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65586913/alanon-step-6-6-1-2019/Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.
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Looking for an online sponsor!
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I have attended one Al-Anon meeting at church and will be attending more regularly as finances allow! My brother is a "recovering alcoholic" but still drinks fairly regularly! I am reading ODAT; my wonderful friend gifted me a copy and it's been helpful! We have a history of alcoholism on my patern...
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Higher Power not falling back
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On it's promise to support, care and stand with me. I am assured that I continue to be abided by even as and when life seems foggy and shaky and question conditions and outcomes. I am in the atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love where I have learned and experienced is the best of all places...
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JerryF
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Trouble with online chat
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I just tried to get onto the chat room without success! hELP!
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Courage to Change 5/30/19
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Early plans tomorrow, so posting a bit early. The reading discusses how Al-Anon suggests and teaches us how to be gentle with ourselves. For many who are living or have lived in a household where alcohol is abused, this is a foreign concept. Most of us instead worked for perfection and then hated ou...
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Today's Hope May 29
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Hello MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope. The author discusses decisions, and how decisions we have made and have not made have led is to where we are in life. Rather than blaming others for where we are, the author suggests that we recognize the actions we chose to take or chose not to take as the r...
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ODAT Reading Tuesday 5-28
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T The ODAT reading for today May 28th speaks about the danger of holding resentments. it points out that although we may find it enjoyable to dwell on these thoughts and feel justified in evening the score and paying others back for what they've done to us-- we cannot logically punish someone for w...
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C2C, 5/27
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The reading for Monday, 5/27, discusses the challenge of letting ourselves believe that joy can exist in our lives. The author talks about the experience of having so many disappointments, that we dont want to be let down anymore. We can shut down our hearts and minds so that we no longer expect to be...
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Need advice or ESH on changing sponsors
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I have had a great sponsor, who understands a lot of what's going on in my life, and often has great insights. But over the past six months, she has been becoming less and less available - she has a lot of things going on in her life right now with her job and her family. It has now been more than a month since I h...
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Help and Hope
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For Families and Friends of Alcoholics... in the monthly Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019 in now in my home and it is free and could be found I guess in most meeting literature stacks. Though it is new-comer intended I love reading it for cause. God do I remember when I first got into recovery at the sugg...
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Trying, trying trying
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So, today is day #3 my AH has not left his chair all day or night. Wait, I take that back.....he gets up to smoke or get a beer or go to the bathroom. No errands, no activity, nothing. Monday didn't bother me because we had a fairly busy weekend and I knew he would take the day to "unwind." Tuesday didn't bot...
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Processing a difficult conversation - your insight welcome
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I haven't posted in a long time, but could use some support processing this
I had a conversation with my mother yesterday and she told me I'm difficult to be around and complained that my son is not close to her and somehow that's my fault.
Her biggest complaint was that I have set boundaries and do no...
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