Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have sought to fill voids in our lives (for love, attention, approval) with outside sources, such as food, other people, relationships. Recognizing an emptiness and then trying to fill it from the outside is a pattern that many of us have...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am feeling a little overwhelmed & am over-dramatizing as well. I haven't been sleeping as well as I would like to. I went over 24 hours the other day! I know that this isn't a fix me site. I just needed to share it because no one knows it but me. I guess the lights are on too long! Meaning that I spend too m...

DavidG · DavidG

This is something I have never done before- and strongly avoided. To post the same share, to two different groups. Stateside, I was alway impressed with the AA clubhouse concept- where everyone is together. last year I was in such a place in Eastern Texas... and also been to meetings in Rapid City,...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about focusing on ourselves. Some sentences really stood out to me: "I always felt my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought." "His behavior is not a reflection of me, it's a reflection of his disease....

WildFlower · WildFlower

On March 4, 1980 my older brother, the guy who dabbed mud on my bee sting to stop the pain when I was four-years-old, shot and killed four of his neighbors with his deer hunting rifle. His actions nearly destroyed my family. Rather than delve into it here, I am providing a link to an article I wrote about...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Really struggling with appropriate boundaries with people who have zero boundaries. My parents have no boundaries, either one of them and it's interesting to watch the dynamic. I have spent a lot of time questioning over the past 6 weeks kind of what's wrong with me kind of stuff .. I'm referring to...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about sponsorship! The author shares that a new member called one day, and after chatting for a bit, the other person asked him to be his sponsor. After a bout of fear, self-doubt, and a subtle reminder that he was being asked to be a helper, not a savior, he accepted with humilit...

WildFlower · WildFlower

Is there a length limit to a thread I start and can I insert a link to something? Thought I'd ask first.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I believe that honesty is the way to go! I know sometimes that we tend to be brutally honest. If we are honest w/ ourselves first then to God it becomes easier. I try to practice honesty but sometimes I get caught up w/ doing things & living on egg shells sometimes that I have to be or am dishonest w my AH....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading In C2C is one of my favorites. The author begins by saying that forgiveness can be a change of attitude. When the author first came to Alanon, they were filled with bitterness toward the alcoholic. In time, they realized that the bitterness was hurting themself more than...

hotrod · hotrod

Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, 6-25 speaks about denying our own feelings to keep the peace, . It points out that "willingness" is the finest gift we can give to ourselves. each meeting attended and alanon telephone call answered reinforces this willingness We can ask HP for he courage to stand u...

Aloha · Aloha

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/you-are-enough_b_7687616

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will only share some of my story but I can go on & on! I just want to say that I found Al anon just in time! I was led to Al anon by some very spiritual people. My first meeting was great. They used the One day a time book & later my mom bought me one. Now we have so many more devotional books from some diff...

andromeda · andromeda

So, at one of my bday parties this weekend I was talking to a much younger friend. She's 29 and I'm 49 now. I was complaining about my age and how my body is definitely feeling older. It takes me longer to recover from a hard workout session, my skin is starting to show that crepe-y look, I have lines and w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/24, is about having the ability to change ones attitude. The author says that success and failure are a matter of perspective. Prior to alanon we knew great disappointment, and began to doubt our ability to change anything. We were unable to see the great successes we hav...

Aloha · Aloha

I was reading an interesting book when I cam across these questions which the author says he poses to himself each day: 1. What does this have to do with the agenda of my soul? (Before partaking in any activity, discussion, decision, etc.) 2. Is there any part of what I am now seeing "over there" that I hav...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the different ways we may be able to work step 12. The writer describes a situation in which she helps an elderly person with a project; the connection with the older person and the hug they exchanged when it was completed meant so much to both of them. Whe...

JerryF · JerryF

Tell me what to do. This is the shorter version of the 3rd step prayer my HP guided me to say. It is short and precise and then I listen. My HP then would responded to me from HP's need and I respond. The consequence has been that both HP and I share in the outcome as well as any others I have been directed to...

Temple · Temple

Sorry this is free through today, June 20, the last day. A friend sent it earlier in the week and I forgot til she reminded me today. It's on being barefoot on the grass to ground the body and heal inflammation, which is the basis for all disease, according to this and I've heard that before from a very acc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...

Elabella · Elabella

Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...

JerryF · JerryF

We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...

Freetime · Freetime

Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...

IamLynn · IamLynn

I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi everyone! So, I decided to take the plunge into home ownership and I'm scared to death! I have never owned a home as a single; I've always been married. I went through the prequalification with a lender last week and he called me a few days ago to say, 'You can qualify for a bigger home if you want but al...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 5, and how revealing our character defects to God, ourselves and others can help us move forward in recovery. The writer describes getting a bit stuck on step 5, with a list that was completely negative. With the help of another, the writer sta...

wp · wp

In the mip night meeting room some years ago we heard a story of a screw, yes that's right, a screw. It was a symbol of a lesson someone in the group learned, and I cannot for the life of me remember how it went. I find myself in a place these days of needing that kind of visual focus, and would love to hear fro...

Freetime · Freetime

Step 12 says that we tried to carry the message to others. The author of today's page was a very enthusiastic messenger, dragging their friends and relatives to meetings and preaching to everyone in earshot. This did not work, and they felt like a fool. Then they re-read the step and noticed the part...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't feel as isolated & terrified of the outside world. For so many years I have gotten to the place where I felt isolated & alone. But not today. I am certain that I need to be among the living. I was told that you have to share your recovery. I am not supposed to be alone all the time. I have to be av...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about Step 11 - where we seek to improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How this happens is individual - maybe we look for signs from people around us or in events and unexplained coincidences. Perhaps we seek this power through our feelings, in...

a4l · a4l

Ok I've been back in my island of origin for a year and a half. Alone with my kids. The distance has been good. I started my degree last year, got a full scholarship this year, the kids are well settled, have picked up a second language, some foo relationships have been restructured and thus restored and I...

AnneS · AnneS

I dont even know what to say. I have an AH and both of us are struggling right now. He was sober for a long time and recently has struggled to remain sober. I take care of my mom with Alzheimers so I cant get to meetings. She is in stage 7 but I have no help.

Luna3104 · Luna3104

Hello everyone, I don't know if I am in the right chat room, however, I figured someone would be able to point me in the right direction. I am living with a functional drug addict and alcoholic. Meaning no use during the week, but always on weekends. This man keeps a job and pays bills. Every once in a while...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about step ten (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author shares that, since step 10 is a part of their daily routine, they like to think of it as a gentle, warm, and loving way to take care of themselves. By continuing t...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So my AH who is a type 1 diabetic and would drink a lot around sports but now that many major games are done has decreased drinking. So eHR he started drinking the other night I asked if there was a game on and he said no he was drinking because his blood sugar was low and beer was sugar so why not. Omg. Seriousl...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses Step 9...the author asks the question, "How do I know whether or not to take action?" for that portion of the step that suggests we need not make direct amends to those injured if, in doing so, we might cause further injury. The reading g...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Hey. Apologies for not being here as much as I could, but it is what it is. We've been attending a face to face meeting regularly now for a few months. I haven't made it my home group yet, but I probably will. Attending a face to face meeting is important and belonging to a group is important. I know that. We g...

Nadinemel · Nadinemel

I live in MN and have been looking for a 4th step workshop that uses Blueprint For Progress as a guide. In 2 years, I have not seen one and I have been looking. I would like to put on a workshop specifically using Al-Anon materials. If necessary I will travel out of state to attend and see if others are wi...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Hi! Where i could find old purple bookmark on detschment or detschment with love?

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, June 10, discusses the 8th Step: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. This step was difficult for the author as they felt they absolutely could not make amends to some people. As the author forged ahead, making amends became eas...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty some of us have had in speaking up directly- about anything and everything! The writer described being too quiet, unable to speak up. That can be true for me as well, but in my case I know that in my family, most of the time things that we wan...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.

hotrod · hotrod

Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care

JerryF · JerryF

can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...

Freetime · Freetime

The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...

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	Hope for Today June 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have sought to fill voids in our lives (for love, attention, approval) with outside sources, such as food, other people, relationships. Recognizing an emptiness and then trying to fill it from the outside is a pattern that many of us have...	yanksfan51	6	373	Jun 30, 2019 by DavidG
	do I post too much or too often? (Preview) I am feeling a little overwhelmed & am over-dramatizing as well. I haven't been sleeping as well as I would like to. I went over 24 hours the other day! I know that this isn't a fix me site. I just needed to share it because no one knows it but me. I guess the lights are on too long! Meaning that I spend too m...	Hoot Nanny	7	1790	Jun 30, 2019 by WildFlower
	Learning to work the traditions... (Preview) This is something I have never done before- and strongly avoided. To post the same share, to two different groups. Stateside, I was alway impressed with the AA clubhouse concept- where everyone is together. last year I was in such a place in Eastern Texas... and also been to meetings in Rapid City,...	DavidG	5	3758	Jun 29, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, June 28 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about focusing on ourselves. Some sentences really stood out to me: "I always felt my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought." "His behavior is not a reflection of me, it's a reflection of his disease....	Freetime	6	467	Jun 28, 2019 by Iamhere
	My Brother Murdered His Neighbors murder alcohol prescription drugs failure of the medical profession (Preview) On March 4, 1980 my older brother, the guy who dabbed mud on my bee sting to stop the pain when I was four-years-old, shot and killed four of his neighbors with his deer hunting rifle. His actions nearly destroyed my family. Rather than delve into it here, I am providing a link to an article I wrote about...	WildFlower	16	5265	Jun 28, 2019 by WildFlower
	Just because .. (Preview) Really struggling with appropriate boundaries with people who have zero boundaries. My parents have no boundaries, either one of them and it's interesting to watch the dynamic. I have spent a lot of time questioning over the past 6 weeks kind of what's wrong with me kind of stuff .. I'm referring to...	SerenityRUS	8	687	Jun 28, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change 6/27 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about sponsorship! The author shares that a new member called one day, and after chatting for a bit, the other person asked him to be his sponsor. After a bout of fear, self-doubt, and a subtle reminder that he was being asked to be a helper, not a savior, he accepted with humilit...	Iamhere	1	414	Jun 27, 2019 by Aloha
	Is there a length limit? (Preview) Is there a length limit to a thread I start and can I insert a link to something? Thought I'd ask first.	WildFlower	15	2541	Jun 26, 2019 by WildFlower
	Honesty... (Preview) I believe that honesty is the way to go! I know sometimes that we tend to be brutally honest. If we are honest w/ ourselves first then to God it becomes easier. I try to practice honesty but sometimes I get caught up w/ doing things & living on egg shells sometimes that I have to be or am dishonest w my AH....	Hoot Nanny	2	3531	Jun 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change June 26 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading In C2C is one of my favorites. The author begins by saying that forgiveness can be a change of attitude. When the author first came to Alanon, they were filled with bitterness toward the alcoholic. In time, they realized that the bitterness was hurting themself more than...	Skorpi	3	998	Jun 26, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 6-25 (Preview) Thee C2C reading for Tuesday, 6-25 speaks about denying our own feelings to keep the peace, . It points out that "willingness" is the finest gift we can give to ourselves. each meeting attended and alanon telephone call answered reinforces this willingness We can ask HP for he courage to stand u...	hotrod	9	535	Jun 26, 2019 by DavidG
	You are enough (Preview) https://www.huffpost.com/entry/you-are-enough_b_7687616	Aloha	2	4507	Jun 25, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Some of my story... (Preview) I will only share some of my story but I can go on & on! I just want to say that I found Al anon just in time! I was led to Al anon by some very spiritual people. My first meeting was great. They used the One day a time book & later my mom bought me one. Now we have so many more devotional books from some diff...	Hoot Nanny	1	4075	Jun 24, 2019 by DavidG
	You're not old, you're just enhanced (Preview) So, at one of my bday parties this weekend I was talking to a much younger friend. She's 29 and I'm 49 now. I was complaining about my age and how my body is definitely feeling older. It takes me longer to recover from a hard workout session, my skin is starting to show that crepe-y look, I have lines and w...	andromeda	17	3250	Jun 24, 2019 by WildFlower
	C2C, 6/24 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/24, is about having the ability to change ones attitude. The author says that success and failure are a matter of perspective. Prior to alanon we knew great disappointment, and began to doubt our ability to change anything. We were unable to see the great successes we hav...	Lyne	3	3916	Jun 24, 2019 by El
	Questions to ask myself each day (Preview) I was reading an interesting book when I cam across these questions which the author says he poses to himself each day: 1. What does this have to do with the agenda of my soul? (Before partaking in any activity, discussion, decision, etc.) 2. Is there any part of what I am now seeing "over there" that I hav...	Aloha	7	1228	Jun 24, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today June 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the different ways we may be able to work step 12. The writer describes a situation in which she helps an elderly person with a project; the connection with the older person and the hug they exchanged when it was completed meant so much to both of them. Whe...	yanksfan51	5	1928	Jun 23, 2019 by DavidG
	Place me where you want me... (Preview) Tell me what to do. This is the shorter version of the 3rd step prayer my HP guided me to say. It is short and precise and then I listen. My HP then would responded to me from HP's need and I respond. The consequence has been that both HP and I share in the outcome as well as any others I have been directed to...	JerryF	10	5907	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Grounding (Preview) Sorry this is free through today, June 20, the last day. A friend sent it earlier in the week and I forgot til she reminded me today. It's on being barefoot on the grass to ground the body and heal inflammation, which is the basis for all disease, according to this and I've heard that before from a very acc...	Temple	4	4939	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	Just stopping by to say "Hello"!!! (Preview) Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...	mamalioness	8	8432	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	How to forgive and move on? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...	Elabella	49	4363	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	We are moving and practicing Letting Go and Letting God. (Preview) We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...	JerryF	13	5386	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, June 21 (Preview) Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...	Freetime	8	3520	Jun 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 6/20 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...	Iamhere	3	1377	Jun 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Can I pat myself on the back? (Preview) I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...	IamLynn	15	3376	Jun 19, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change June 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...	Skorpi	6	3453	Jun 19, 2019 by El
	C2C Reading 6-18 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...	hotrod	7	640	Jun 18, 2019 by El
	C2C, 6/17 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...	Lyne	2	2085	Jun 17, 2019 by El
	The courage to change the things we can- a 12 step inventory [long]. (Preview) Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...	DavidG	4	752	Jun 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Going to be buying a home!!! (Preview) Hi everyone! So, I decided to take the plunge into home ownership and I'm scared to death! I have never owned a home as a single; I've always been married. I went through the prequalification with a lender last week and he called me a few days ago to say, 'You can qualify for a bigger home if you want but al...	andromeda	20	3979	Jun 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 5, and how revealing our character defects to God, ourselves and others can help us move forward in recovery. The writer describes getting a bit stuck on step 5, with a list that was completely negative. With the help of another, the writer sta...	yanksfan51	3	407	Jun 16, 2019 by JerryF
	The al anon mip story of the screw (Preview) In the mip night meeting room some years ago we heard a story of a screw, yes that's right, a screw. It was a symbol of a lesson someone in the group learned, and I cannot for the life of me remember how it went. I find myself in a place these days of needing that kind of visual focus, and would love to hear fro...	wp	4	4772	Jun 15, 2019 by IamLynn
	Courage to Change, June 14 (Preview) Step 12 says that we tried to carry the message to others. The author of today's page was a very enthusiastic messenger, dragging their friends and relatives to meetings and preaching to everyone in earshot. This did not work, and they felt like a fool. Then they re-read the step and noticed the part...	Freetime	4	535	Jun 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	I am not on an island! (Preview) I don't feel as isolated & terrified of the outside world. For so many years I have gotten to the place where I felt isolated & alone. But not today. I am certain that I need to be among the living. I was told that you have to share your recovery. I am not supposed to be alone all the time. I have to be av...	Hoot Nanny	4	1873	Jun 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/13/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about Step 11 - where we seek to improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How this happens is individual - maybe we look for signs from people around us or in events and unexplained coincidences. Perhaps we seek this power through our feelings, in...	Iamhere	3	2002	Jun 13, 2019 by El
	Juggling act I'm tired. (Preview) Ok I've been back in my island of origin for a year and a half. Alone with my kids. The distance has been good. I started my degree last year, got a full scholarship this year, the kids are well settled, have picked up a second language, some foo relationships have been restructured and thus restored and I...	a4l	6	622	Jun 13, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	New here (Preview) I dont even know what to say. I have an AH and both of us are struggling right now. He was sober for a long time and recently has struggled to remain sober. I take care of my mom with Alzheimers so I cant get to meetings. She is in stage 7 but I have no help.	AnneS	9	3958	Jun 13, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	how to react (Preview) Hello everyone, I don't know if I am in the right chat room, however, I figured someone would be able to point me in the right direction. I am living with a functional drug addict and alcoholic. Meaning no use during the week, but always on weekends. This man keeps a job and pays bills. Every once in a while...	Luna3104	10	3347	Jun 12, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change June 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about step ten (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author shares that, since step 10 is a part of their daily routine, they like to think of it as a gentle, warm, and loving way to take care of themselves. By continuing t...	Skorpi	3	498	Jun 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Lamest excuse ever (Preview) So my AH who is a type 1 diabetic and would drink a lot around sports but now that many major games are done has decreased drinking. So eHR he started drinking the other night I asked if there was a game on and he said no he was drinking because his blood sugar was low and beer was sugar so why not. Omg. Seriousl...	Dancer66	13	4151	Jun 12, 2019 by Aloha
	Courage to Change 6/11 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses Step 9...the author asks the question, "How do I know whether or not to take action?" for that portion of the step that suggests we need not make direct amends to those injured if, in doing so, we might cause further injury. The reading g...	Iamhere	2	1974	Jun 12, 2019 by JerryF
	The Important Stuff (Preview) Hey. Apologies for not being here as much as I could, but it is what it is. We've been attending a face to face meeting regularly now for a few months. I haven't made it my home group yet, but I probably will. Attending a face to face meeting is important and belonging to a group is important. I know that. We g...	Wolfie55	6	4178	Jun 11, 2019 by Wolfie55
	Al-Anon 4th Step workshop (Preview) I live in MN and have been looking for a 4th step workshop that uses Blueprint For Progress as a guide. In 2 years, I have not seen one and I have been looking. I would like to put on a workshop specifically using Al-Anon materials. If necessary I will travel out of state to attend and see if others are wi...	Nadinemel	0	385	Jun 11, 2019 by Nadinemel
	Detachment & detschment with love (Preview) Hi! Where i could find old purple bookmark on detschment or detschment with love?	kadriliisa	3	3729	Jun 10, 2019 by kadriliisa
	C2C, 6/10 (Preview) The reading for Monday, June 10, discusses the 8th Step: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. This step was difficult for the author as they felt they absolutely could not make amends to some people. As the author forged ahead, making amends became eas...	Lyne	3	3446	Jun 10, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty some of us have had in speaking up directly- about anything and everything! The writer described being too quiet, unable to speak up. That can be true for me as well, but in my case I know that in my family, most of the time things that we wan...	yanksfan51	4	3823	Jun 10, 2019 by DavidG
	How to answer towards negstive feedbsck? (Preview) Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.	kadriliisa	6	4762	Jun 10, 2019 by kadriliisa
	Cruise (Preview) Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care	hotrod	8	4812	Jun 10, 2019 by Lyne
	Woke up angry and (Preview) can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...	JerryF	8	5227	Jun 10, 2019 by 2HP
	Turning points- in a life... Step 10... (Preview) Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...	DavidG	14	3012	Jun 9, 2019 by DavidG
	AlAnon/Chat Room......looks completely different (Preview) I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?	lgnutah	2	568	Jun 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hi everyone I’m back (Preview) Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...	Wisdom67	4	424	Jun 8, 2019 by JerryF
	Forward .. and back .. lol (Preview) I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...	SerenityRUS	4	429	Jun 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - June 7 (Preview) The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...	Freetime	6	2006	Jun 7, 2019 by Iamhere
	Update(life goes on...) (Preview) Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...	Hoot Nanny	3	3737	Jun 7, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Courage to Change 6/6 (Preview) Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...	Iamhere	4	2111	Jun 6, 2019 by 2HP
	Today's Hope June 5 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...	Skorpi	4	1802	Jun 6, 2019 by hotrod
	C2C Reading 6-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...	hotrod	4	2191	Jun 5, 2019 by DavidG
	two weeks later... (Preview) I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...	Hoot Nanny	3	2344	Jun 5, 2019 by Temple
	Update after a very long absence (Preview) i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...	Doingmybest	7	2176	Jun 4, 2019 by Doingmybest
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