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						So it's been six months since I decided to leave my AH of 29 years. As I was driving home from work today, I had an "aha" moment. I keep wondering why he doesn't try to reach out and contact me. I check my phone everyday for a text or voicemail, and it's not there. I usually call him once a week just t... 
					 
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					A Merry-Go-Round Named Denial
					
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						Thanks so much to those on this board who directed me to the Alanon pamphlet, "A Merry-Go-Round Named Denial." Although there were parts of it that rang so true to me that it was almost too painful to absorb, there was almost a sense of relief to know that others have experienced what our fami... 
					 
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					Knowing that I Did the Right Thing
					
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						My AH (we are currently separated) texted me last night and asked me, if I didn't already have plans, if he could take me out to dinner to a very expensive restaurant for my birthday this week. Mind you, I had seen a photo of him a couple of days ago on Facebook of him obviously in a bar, with a huge beer mug in h... 
					 
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						Well, I've been busy this morning reading and relating to all these posts. My meeting is tomorrow, and I am looking forward to it, but this forum is a tremendous resource for me, too. Thank you to all of you who offer such thoughtfulness and sincerity. I must be detaching. AH constantly complains/crie...                                                                     
					 
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					My rigid mother
					
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						Today casually texting with my mother turned bad when I realized she was in fact drunk at 2 in the afternoon and had started a text rant about members of our extended family. My cousin expressed a couple years ago that my mother thinks she's better than the rest of the family. The thing I don't understand... 
					 
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					dealing with the denial of other family
					
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						Hello everyone, I'm glad to find this space.  Since moving to Germany 3 months ago I have no English meetings here, and I became used to going at least once a week for the past year in London.  I have been doing well though.  But now Christmas is coming, and anxiety is setting in!  I am supposed to take my mot... 
					 
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