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does life need to get worse before it gets better?
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As Ive said before Ive been pouring out DHs vodka for about 10yrs now and replacing it with water. Ive been told not to do this.
However, Im afraid of what he'll be like if I dont! He does appear to get drunker when the vodka isnt diluted. But maybe this is how he needs to be to realize he needs to get better?...
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Survived Wilma...and then some.
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I spent a tremendous amount of downtime given to me by a lack of electricity for days from Hurricane Wilma to work Step One, Step Two, Step Three, and Step Four on something that started off quite simply with something I said to myself during the hurricane.
As some of you know, I am a storm tracke...
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the "experiment"
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Hi all-
Just bouncing some more thoughts out here for you to give me your 2cents on.
I am so happy to have you people in my life to air this stuff out with.
As I ranted yesterday, my A husband has been lying to me about use of pot again..(what else is new) We have been in marriage counseling for the pas...
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Go The Diva
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Hi everyone update on the Melbourne Cup horse race in Australia. Makybe Diva did it again 3 years in a row. She is just a beautiful horse and the nation has fallen in love with her. Just as we have our Diva on the board who is made of inner strength so too is this horse. Sorry for th...
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angry about the past
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today i am very angry. my a brought to my attention that when he went out a week ago he went into his savings and speant all the car insurance money for this months payment. so he went to his grandmother who is the most loving christian i have ever met. so basically she is paying for his crack habit. he admitt...
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stop expecting??
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this is just a continued rant from my last post. Abbyral made a great comment--stop expecting and start accepting. I CAN"T. I just cannot accept the idea that this is a hopeless situation. I have seen improvements--in both him and myself and our family dynamics. but I'd be lying if I said that i don't ex...
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Groundhog Day
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Has anyone seen that movie? Bill Murray reliving the same day over and over. This is how I feel. I just keep going back to the same day. Here I am October 31st and I might as well go back to August 15th...September 12th (my A's last two relapses). Back to the scene of the crime. Back to the "no call rule".&nbs...
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Kim
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hey people :(
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Once again, I am feeling like crap.
Today someone asked me what my biggest fear was, and it really made me think. I would have to say that my biggest fear is being like my mother. Isnt that horrible?
Everyday I live life just worrieng if I am going to be like her. If I am going to make the same mistakes tha...
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On Trust
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I was listening to an excerpt from a speaker tape on relationships, and the speaker was speaking of that question "how do I trust them?" What this speaker said really hit me. He started off by saying, you just do it. Then he started expanding... he spoke of those who get suspicious a...
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I am angry and feeling used
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Hello all:
Yesterday: sad. Today: angry. I love the bevy of emotions I can feel in a matter of hours. Yesterday, after much conversation about my husband's recent relapse, many tears from him (a first) on how he "can't get it" and me trying to stay "together" and non-reactive, I finally just d...
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Kim
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New here
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Hi all,
Nice to have a place like this to turn to. I have been married 18 yrs. I have drank my share in times passed,but not anymore. I live with an alcoholic who doesn't want to get sober. I am 43 yrs. old and have already had cancer. I want to keep healthy so it never returns. My body is...
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STARTING TODAY......
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"One day at a time"--------- Alcoholics who have found AA are constantly reminded that they need only to stay sober "one day at a time". Today, for them as far for us, is the key word.
The ancient Persian poet Omar says " Unborn tomorrow and dead Yesterday, Why fret about them if today be s...
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gardengal
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food AINT love!!!!
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Food Is Not Love
With our heads, we know that food is not the same thing as love. When this fact sinks into our emotions, we are released from our obsession with food. In order to reach this point of emotional development, we need to abstain physically from compulsive overeating. As long as we are ph...
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Beginning Today
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I got this in an email and it really hit home on how I need to feel about myself. I wanted to share it with ya'll and hope the words help lift you up like they did me.
FOTB
BEGINNING TODAY
I will no longer worry about yesterday. It is in the past and the past will never change. On...
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FreeOfTheBottle
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Soo Proud of My Lantern
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Check out my pumpkin I carved all by myself. I rock!!!
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Picowitch
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Trust is so difficult for me
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Hi, Good morning everyone and Happy Halloween! I have been attending al anon meetings both online and face to face. I have this issue of not trusting this man I have been seeing. He is an active drinker and I wonder at times if he is truthful with me. He told me the other day a wom...
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Diane43
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I am still on step one
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I am still on step one. I was asking him if he was staying home today not like last night where he took off. I don't know why I do it however I do it. I am working a little at a time on detachment. Like I went a while today without calling him. If he does leave tonight I will try my hardest not to call him. Or a...
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nycbt
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after he told me to call when I was ready..he calls.
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God, it's so predictable. Just when I am fighting with myself not to call....after he tells me to call when i'm ready, he just couldn't take it and he called. Twice. The third time I picked up the phone. I had to ask, "why..why are you calling me, please respect the boundary of giving me some space....
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Kim
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Questions for all of you
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Hi Everybody-
Been busy making Halloween costumes and working--not reading and posting as much as I'd like.
My questions for all of you for today--
How do you handle lying? I told my A that honesty was my only real boundary. If he uses, he uses--that is his choice BUT don't sneak and lie and pl...
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gknee
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I am manipulative
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I have been reading posts and talking and doing so much thinking.
As always the thinking makes me ask more questions.
Did I seperate from my husband in an attempt to get him to stop drinking? In all honesty yes.
I love him so much and do not want to end my marriage. I have tried accepting it, and livin...
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Jeannie
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Month 1
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Hi friends,
October is at its end... I survived month one without A in house! But there has been so much emotion, so much happening that I have mixed emotions. I had hoped that by now there would be some progress on his part. But I think that rather than him realizing he's los...
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Ratchie
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I think my marriage is over!
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Hello Roomies,
I am getting tired of weekends, I do so much better during the week, but the weekends are horrible.
I went to an alanon function on financies. It is not CAL approved, but it was how the steps, traditions, concepts, and warranties can be worked into the personal financial world. It wa...
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Dolphin123
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Monday
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Good Morning!
It's Monday and I am just having a hard time focusing on work...LOL I am alone in the office until close to 5pm which makes it really hard, phones are quiet and it's dark, cloudy, and cold outside. Wishing I was up in my bed watching talk shows.....
I got caught up on the pos...
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marmare
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it HAS to be God..who else??
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Our Relationship With A Higher Power
"Ongoing recovery is dependent on our relationship with a loving God who cares for us and will do for us what we find impossible to do for ourselves."Basic Text, p.96Working the Twelve Steps of Narcotics Anonymous gives us a fresh start in life and some guidan...
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It is so good to be back :)
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I am back at my lifeline support group where I belong :) The tears were so healing but I am exhausted. I want to say that I still miss dadrrb and he is in my heart with rememberances of all the good he did in this site. God Bless you dadrrb. I made an impulsive decision to go see my mom and dad tomorrow. My mom cal...
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HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
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Hi roomies!
HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
May the Great Pumpkin rise out the pumpkin patch and bring you lots of goodies. Have a wonderful day with the children and passing out candy and just having fun.
Be careful and safe tonight. The World War I Flying Ace will be protecting you. (I've never figure...
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Karilynn
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I'm out
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Just wanted to tell you all that I moved out on the 27th. All is well so far. I've yet to answer any of his phone calls. There's not much to say any more. I talked with his Mom today and she wants to support me as much as she can, she's always been in my court. Her husband (my A's Dad) was also an alcoholic....
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whitie
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to thine own self be true
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I am laying low but want you to all know I have sensed your prayers & appreciate it & love you all. THANK YOU ALL VERY MUCH. Last week was a *real* test but I seem to have passed ok. I finally cd, to give info as it appears my ex is being watched - I was grateful to find out he is still...
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kitty
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IT HAPPEN AGAIN
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Like people say you can't make someone it just doesn't work. Well On Thursday he went to a meeting. Didn't go all weekend. Said his sponosr doesn't want to go out on the weekend. I don't know if that is true or not. But yesterday I went with my guy friend to AC in NJ and he doesn't really trust this guy. But I di...
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nycbt
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todays gift
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Today's thought is:
To expect life to be tailored to our specifications is to invite frustration. --Anonymous
Life is what it is. It seldom matches our hopes and dreams, but it never fails to be exactly what we need. We are shortsighted, really. Reflections on the past can enlighten u...
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notsonew1111
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Awareness
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I have reflected a lot about my past and have found that I do NOT listen to my inner voice when I should. My family taught me not to listen to my inner voice because my thoughts, feelings, and intuition were wrong. They distorted the truth to cover their guilt. My father (the A) always taught me to NEVER be d...
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kissers
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Please help, I'm so sad
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Hello all.
I haven't posted in a while, I have been isolating myself again to some degree and have not been able to do what I need. For the past couple of weeks I have been feeling as if something was not right and was fighting it. My A and I have been talking and seeing each other frequently and the past cou...
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Kim
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reaction/non reaction
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Hi just need a little feedback here guys. I went to a counsellor on Monday D/A had a good talk about what boundaries to put in place with my A etc. As yet I haven't been able to do that because the kids have been around or he is at work. He runs his own business and at the moment is working seven day...
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leo
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Self Induced Misery, Rationalization, and Emotional Hangovers
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Today I was reading the story ‘Even a therapist can be affected by alcoholism’ in the book How Al-anon Works and something struck me. In the story, the woman in the program realized that her husband needed “to experience the consequences of his behavior and feel his own discomfort.” She then says “I...
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UncleLou
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Wheeee! I have arrived!
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I am so happy to have found this place! I just found the chatroom tonight & participated in my first online meeting ever. I am looking forward to sharing & getting to know all of you!! I found out about "online Al-Anon Meetings" from the suggestion of my bf (my A). I wo...
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ESH
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acting AS IF!!!
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All Our Needs
And my God shall supply every need of yours according to His riches in glory... --Phil. 4:19
This verse has helped me many times. It has helped me when I have wondered where my next friend bit of wisdom, insight, or meal was coming from.Everything I need today shall be supplied to m...
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for diva
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Hi everyone just wanted to let you know that in Australia tomorrow we have a race called THE MELBOURNE CUP. It is a horse race that is only run once a year and horses from all over the world come to race for the $5 million prize money and the prestige of winning the cup. Everyone in Austr...
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Spent a weekend with ex
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I knew it was a bad idea. I was lonely and my plans fell through for the weekend. I invited my Ex up to see me and with record speed, he came. He looked good and we spent the weekend together. Everything was fine and I was starting to feel warm and cozy toward him and then it was time...
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Question
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Am I allowed to share a pic of my A?
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Cathy
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Update on Danielle...
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I posted an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter, who was in a severe car accident. It's under the "another prayer request" post from a few days ago.
Thanks for your prayers...
Kathi
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lmt123
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accenting on the present
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Accent on the Present
When we were obsessed with food, we were often obsessed with the past as well. We would rehash old hurts and resentments, old fears and desires. Our dreams, along with our waking hours, may have been filled with people from our past. Such preoccupation with the past prevente...
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Three Members Blocked
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Three members have now been blocked from posting, due to their unwillingness to take their personal fight away from this board.
I have e-mailed John privately to explain.
I am but a simple moderator, and have NO stake in this, nor any opinion on who is right, or who did what to whom.
This bo...
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canadianguy
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To all of you
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I'm fairly new here but not new to the life. I've been with my A for over 3 years so I know how they think and how they work. Anyway, I've been reading the posts and honestly I don't know how to respond. I know some of you have been on this journey longer than me and still struggle. I mainly just want to say that i...
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Cathy
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self value
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Self Value
We have a real life of our own. Yes, we do.That empty feeling, that senses that everyone except us has a life - an important life, a valuable life, a better life - is a remnant from the past. It is also a self-defeating belief that is inaccurate.We are real. So is our life. Jump into it, and we...
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i had a good day
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hi guys,
i had a really nice day with my hubby he has been doing great! i am go proud of him.
i just want him home i miss him. he wants us to move out of our appartment. he said it doesn't feel like home any more , but i can't move my daughter is doing so good in school . she is on kickline ,cheerleading &a...
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chrissy
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hello
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I had a great night last night i went to the halloween party and won money.... wooo hooo
Lauren~
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Lauren ashley
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Question
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Ummm i cant get onto chat room now is anyone having the same problem???
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Lauren ashley
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I've had my talk
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I talked to my A earlier tonight. He hadn't started his drinking at that point. I told him I was unable to live like this any more and I wanted to get separated. He said that he thought it wouldn't get to this point. I told him it was past that point and for everyone’s sake we needed to separate. I told him it wo...
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Why 'A'?
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Just a quick question and I hope that no one takes this the wrong way because it's not meant to come across in a negative way. I'm new here and trying to understand, go easy on me, lol. I just notice that husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, etc. that have a dr...
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This must stop....
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Simple reminder to EVERYONE on this board..... We are here to support each other, and to fight against alcoholism, NOT against ourselves. Al-Anon states that "although we may not like each other, we will learn to love one another through the common issue of Al-Anon" (not verbatim).
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canadianguy
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Checking in..
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Hellooo Roomies! I just wanted to leave a note and let you know that we are all OK here in Naples, FL and trudging along the long road to recovering from hurricane wilma. My family and I ended up leaving town at the last minute and going to Orlando, we returned Monday shortly after the storm left the area. A...
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cabecka
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update on Isabela
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Hi roomies,
Here is an update on Isabela, she is okay but her blood pressure is still high:
"My BP is quite high again. I am simply not taking thoses strong meds anymore. When it first went up I took the double dose again and truly thought I would die. It slowed my h...
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megan
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Shifting my focus/Changing what I can
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Hi guys,
I wish everyone a peaceful day!
In keeping with the notion of changing the things I can, I am going to choose to focus on the Traditions tonight. Circumstances today have reminded me to turn to these guidelines which the founders of Al-Anon created to ensure constructive interact...
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Emmie11
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lmt123
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Kathi,
I was wondering how Danielle is doing? How's everbody holding up after the accident?
Keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Live strong,
Karilynn 
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Karilynn
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Overwhelmed and help please
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Hello everyone!
Hope you all are okay.
Today I went to a little harvest celebration with my daughter and her friend. They are both eight. Well, everything was fine until Her friend came running over to say that my daughter was all mad at her for playing with another little girl...
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browneyes
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Alot on my mind
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As I was reading Aron's post I felt a warm feeling that she got to say her goodbyes. My Sister and I were talking about our uncle that passed away last week and got to thinking that it is too bad that he decuided not to have a funeral. In his last year of life he was very sick from the lung cancer bu...
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jj
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I survived the funeral!
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I am sure that many of you won't be suprized, but I survived the funeral.
My grandfather showed up with a black eye and many abraisions that he successfully obtained at the bottom of a few scotch and rum bottles....
My mother didn't even make herself available for a conversation....
My ch...
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captcodee
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TY All for Your Prayers
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I will divulge more later... I thank YOU ALL for ur prayers.
Don't worry, be happy; in peace & prayer all truths will come to LIGHT.
tyvm, my firends
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kitty
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feeling guilty (kind of)
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today i forgot to let go/let god. i just couldnt do it. i woke up with alot of pain today due to a kink in my neck. did what i could to make it go away and get rid of my headache. i did a little bit but still i had this feeling i should stay home from work anyways. so i called in. my a came home from coffee with a friend...
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notsonew1111
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It's Time
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My HP is telling me that tomorrow is the the day to ask my husband, my A, to leave the house.
I have packed things that I might need in case I have to leave immediately. My kids have done the same. I have some money, cell phone and important numbers. I have hidden any weapons that I know of and am praying fo...
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