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to thine own self be true
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I am laying low but want you to all know I have sensed your prayers & appreciate it & love you all. THANK YOU ALL VERY MUCH. Last week was a *real* test but I seem to have passed ok. I finally cd, to give info as it appears my ex is being watched - I was grateful to find out he is still...
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IT HAPPEN AGAIN
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Like people say you can't make someone it just doesn't work. Well On Thursday he went to a meeting. Didn't go all weekend. Said his sponosr doesn't want to go out on the weekend. I don't know if that is true or not. But yesterday I went with my guy friend to AC in NJ and he doesn't really trust this guy. But I di...
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todays gift
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Today's thought is:
To expect life to be tailored to our specifications is to invite frustration. --Anonymous
Life is what it is. It seldom matches our hopes and dreams, but it never fails to be exactly what we need. We are shortsighted, really. Reflections on the past can enlighten u...
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Awareness
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I have reflected a lot about my past and have found that I do NOT listen to my inner voice when I should. My family taught me not to listen to my inner voice because my thoughts, feelings, and intuition were wrong. They distorted the truth to cover their guilt. My father (the A) always taught me to NEVER be d...
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Please help, I'm so sad
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Hello all.
I haven't posted in a while, I have been isolating myself again to some degree and have not been able to do what I need. For the past couple of weeks I have been feeling as if something was not right and was fighting it. My A and I have been talking and seeing each other frequently and the past cou...
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reaction/non reaction
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Hi just need a little feedback here guys. I went to a counsellor on Monday D/A had a good talk about what boundaries to put in place with my A etc. As yet I haven't been able to do that because the kids have been around or he is at work. He runs his own business and at the moment is working seven day...
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Self Induced Misery, Rationalization, and Emotional Hangovers
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Today I was reading the story ‘Even a therapist can be affected by alcoholism’ in the book How Al-anon Works and something struck me. In the story, the woman in the program realized that her husband needed “to experience the consequences of his behavior and feel his own discomfort.” She then says “I...
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Wheeee! I have arrived!
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I am so happy to have found this place! I just found the chatroom tonight & participated in my first online meeting ever. I am looking forward to sharing & getting to know all of you!! I found out about "online Al-Anon Meetings" from the suggestion of my bf (my A). I wo...
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acting AS IF!!!
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All Our Needs
And my God shall supply every need of yours according to His riches in glory... --Phil. 4:19
This verse has helped me many times. It has helped me when I have wondered where my next friend bit of wisdom, insight, or meal was coming from.Everything I need today shall be supplied to m...
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for diva
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Hi everyone just wanted to let you know that in Australia tomorrow we have a race called THE MELBOURNE CUP. It is a horse race that is only run once a year and horses from all over the world come to race for the $5 million prize money and the prestige of winning the cup. Everyone in Austr...
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Spent a weekend with ex
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I knew it was a bad idea. I was lonely and my plans fell through for the weekend. I invited my Ex up to see me and with record speed, he came. He looked good and we spent the weekend together. Everything was fine and I was starting to feel warm and cozy toward him and then it was time...
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Question
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Am I allowed to share a pic of my A?
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Update on Danielle...
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I posted an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter, who was in a severe car accident. It's under the "another prayer request" post from a few days ago.
Thanks for your prayers...
Kathi
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accenting on the present
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Accent on the Present
When we were obsessed with food, we were often obsessed with the past as well. We would rehash old hurts and resentments, old fears and desires. Our dreams, along with our waking hours, may have been filled with people from our past. Such preoccupation with the past prevente...
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Three Members Blocked
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Three members have now been blocked from posting, due to their unwillingness to take their personal fight away from this board.
I have e-mailed John privately to explain.
I am but a simple moderator, and have NO stake in this, nor any opinion on who is right, or who did what to whom.
This bo...
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To all of you
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I'm fairly new here but not new to the life. I've been with my A for over 3 years so I know how they think and how they work. Anyway, I've been reading the posts and honestly I don't know how to respond. I know some of you have been on this journey longer than me and still struggle. I mainly just want to say that i...
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self value
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Self Value
We have a real life of our own. Yes, we do.That empty feeling, that senses that everyone except us has a life - an important life, a valuable life, a better life - is a remnant from the past. It is also a self-defeating belief that is inaccurate.We are real. So is our life. Jump into it, and we...
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i had a good day
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hi guys,
i had a really nice day with my hubby he has been doing great! i am go proud of him.
i just want him home i miss him. he wants us to move out of our appartment. he said it doesn't feel like home any more , but i can't move my daughter is doing so good in school . she is on kickline ,cheerleading &a...
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hello
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I had a great night last night i went to the halloween party and won money.... wooo hooo
Lauren~
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Lauren ashley
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Question
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Ummm i cant get onto chat room now is anyone having the same problem???
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Lauren ashley
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I've had my talk
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I talked to my A earlier tonight. He hadn't started his drinking at that point. I told him I was unable to live like this any more and I wanted to get separated. He said that he thought it wouldn't get to this point. I told him it was past that point and for everyone’s sake we needed to separate. I told him it wo...
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Why 'A'?
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Just a quick question and I hope that no one takes this the wrong way because it's not meant to come across in a negative way. I'm new here and trying to understand, go easy on me, lol. I just notice that husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, etc. that have a dr...
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This must stop....
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Simple reminder to EVERYONE on this board..... We are here to support each other, and to fight against alcoholism, NOT against ourselves. Al-Anon states that "although we may not like each other, we will learn to love one another through the common issue of Al-Anon" (not verbatim).
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Checking in..
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Hellooo Roomies! I just wanted to leave a note and let you know that we are all OK here in Naples, FL and trudging along the long road to recovering from hurricane wilma. My family and I ended up leaving town at the last minute and going to Orlando, we returned Monday shortly after the storm left the area. A...
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update on Isabela
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Hi roomies,
Here is an update on Isabela, she is okay but her blood pressure is still high:
"My BP is quite high again. I am simply not taking thoses strong meds anymore. When it first went up I took the double dose again and truly thought I would die. It slowed my h...
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megan
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Shifting my focus/Changing what I can
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Hi guys,
I wish everyone a peaceful day!
In keeping with the notion of changing the things I can, I am going to choose to focus on the Traditions tonight. Circumstances today have reminded me to turn to these guidelines which the founders of Al-Anon created to ensure constructive interact...
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lmt123
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Kathi,
I was wondering how Danielle is doing? How's everbody holding up after the accident?
Keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Live strong,
Karilynn 
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Karilynn
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Overwhelmed and help please
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Hello everyone!
Hope you all are okay.
Today I went to a little harvest celebration with my daughter and her friend. They are both eight. Well, everything was fine until Her friend came running over to say that my daughter was all mad at her for playing with another little girl...
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Alot on my mind
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As I was reading Aron's post I felt a warm feeling that she got to say her goodbyes. My Sister and I were talking about our uncle that passed away last week and got to thinking that it is too bad that he decuided not to have a funeral. In his last year of life he was very sick from the lung cancer bu...
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I survived the funeral!
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I am sure that many of you won't be suprized, but I survived the funeral.
My grandfather showed up with a black eye and many abraisions that he successfully obtained at the bottom of a few scotch and rum bottles....
My mother didn't even make herself available for a conversation....
My ch...
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captcodee
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TY All for Your Prayers
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I will divulge more later... I thank YOU ALL for ur prayers.
Don't worry, be happy; in peace & prayer all truths will come to LIGHT.
tyvm, my firends
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kitty
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feeling guilty (kind of)
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today i forgot to let go/let god. i just couldnt do it. i woke up with alot of pain today due to a kink in my neck. did what i could to make it go away and get rid of my headache. i did a little bit but still i had this feeling i should stay home from work anyways. so i called in. my a came home from coffee with a friend...
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It's Time
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My HP is telling me that tomorrow is the the day to ask my husband, my A, to leave the house.
I have packed things that I might need in case I have to leave immediately. My kids have done the same. I have some money, cell phone and important numbers. I have hidden any weapons that I know of and am praying fo...
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Another prayer request..please
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I am requesting prayers for my daughter's friend, Danielle, who was in a bad car accident earlier today. She was hit head-on by a truck that crossed into her lane. She had to be cut out of her car, and lifeflighted to Vanderbilt Hospital in Nashville, Tn. She is only a senior in high s...
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Thinking out loud
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Hi Everyone,
A theme keeps popping up for me this week, so I guess I am supposed to be thinking about it! So I figured I would think out loud----so to speak! 
I read a great quote this morning attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt:
"Great minds discuss ideas.
Average minds discuss ev...
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david62
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change me/ change my karma
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Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain, but simply points the way. --Florence Scovel Shinn
Should we make this move? Should we change jobs? Should we talk to others about our feelings? We are seldom short on prayers when we're filled with fear and indecision. We are, however, shor...
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Teen Speaker Second Try
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There will be a teen speaker coming to the family teen room tonight at 8pm est to speak for us. A 20 minute share. I hope you will come and give him your support. You are all invited to join us. See ya there!
At www.12stepforums.net in the familyteen chatroom
kerry -- Edited b...
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kerry5
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Torn
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Hey Friends
Need some honest advise here. My ex's current girlfriend is having a baby in 6 weeks. This child will be my daughters half sibling. I have the upmost respect for his girlfriend...she is great with my daughter and treats her like her own when shes there for visits.&nb...
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The Interview With God....
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Have you've watched this video? It is beautiful. Follow the link, make sure your speakers are on and click on View Presentation. :)
http://www.theinterviewwithgod.com/
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Mom coming home!!!1
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Mom coming home thought i would share that with yas yay!!!!!! -- Edited by kerry5 at 09:10, 2005-03-31
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I am Terrified & Being Attacked
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I am even afraid to say very much about what has been happening to me (since Tuesday)... I beg of you my friends ask HP to protect me... my ex threatened to kill me so many times I cannot even recall, he told me hundreds of times to kill myself (in the bathtub so it wouldn't be hard or too messy to...
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when is the time change?
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do we set the clocks back tonight?
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Really good song!!
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This is a really good song. I really like it. It reminds me of my mom, the alcoholic in my life. Do u like it?
Kelly Clarkson Because Of You I will not make the same mistakes that you did I will not let myself cause my heart so much misery I will not break the way you did You fell so hard I learned the hard way, to...
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fear sucks!! but its normal
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There is nothing so moving--not even acts of love or hate--as the discovery that one is not alone. --Robert Ardrey
Our fears are normal. Some of us fear going to a new school and making new friends. Taking an important test causes jitters in the bravest looking person. Maybe staying alone in the ho...
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i shall begin again and again
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Clear Thinking
Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.We didn't resort t...
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Thanks for being here for me :)
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If I didn't have you guys, I would surely maybe cease to exist. Sad but true. You are my lifeline and so far have never failed me. Maybe a person with chronic pain and depression shouldn't be here at his chatroom but here I am. I am going to attend a 5 week mental health program starting wednesday to h...
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Read this its my poems
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Can You Feel My Pain?
I’m in my room lying on my bed
There are so many thoughts running through my head
I wipe the tears running down
I ask God why and frown
I go to my drawer and get the knife
God’s tells me please don’t take your life
I shut the door and close my eyes
Sudden...
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Lauren ashley
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Sick and Tired
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You know what I am sick and tired of???
*the fact that my husband, my A, can go out and do whatever / whenever he wants without any regard to our kids or me
*the fact that he can go out and get drunk to get away from his problems
*the fact that I have to do EVERYTHING around this house to make it run
*th...
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my first boundary
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It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over...
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detaching...regrouping
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Hope for Today - October 29 Before I came into Al-Anon, I took disparagingcomments to heart. I believed them and found myself wondering what was wrong with me. Even asI became older, I carried inside the person who grew up with alcoholic parents and endured the abuse that accompanied the disease. A...
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Where do I start?
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Hi,
I have come to the point where I just need to get out of my marriage. I'm 48 yrs. old and have 2 children at home, ages 13 and 7, boys. My husband & I have been married for 16 yrs. He is an alcohol & in the past (as far as I know, a drug abuser-coke & pot. He has been of...
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Donna
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Friendly reminder
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Hi roomies!
Just a friendly reminder that for all of those who are DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME, don't forget to set your clocks back 1 hour before you turn in for the night. We all get an extra hour of sleep  tonight. Enjoy the extra hour. What this does to the chat room times, I have no idea. I still ha...
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Karilynn
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Its my life not yours
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My differentiate World
I live in a world that is different from yours
We live and think differently
I am an extrovert and you sit all alone introverted
We are so diverse yet so linked together
We are like one person with multiple personalities
We see each other as differ...
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Lauren ashley
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this is going to sound nuts
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i had this really freaky dream my wedding band was broken and distorted my husband swears he was faithful now i am not so sure do any of you believe in dreams? years ago when i was with my ex i went to visit my sick grandmother & i had a dream he cheated on me and later i found out he did. i know i sound c...
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chrissy
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Growth and Gratitude
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Last night I went to a different face to face meeting. I met my friend (we met on MIP) and we went to dinner and then to her regular meeting.
What a difference from my regular meeting. People were more open, shared more, and actually laughed. It was refreshing.
The best part was before my f...
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megan
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I really need help dealing with this
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I thought I was OK with the divorce. I didn’t like it, never wanted it, but was beginning to accept it. Then she hit me with the tears and sadness about how she screwed things up, she’s so sorry for the way she treated me and the things she did, she didn’t understand till recently what I was going through i...
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YESTERDAY
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Yesterday moring wasn't so great but it turn into a good night though. My friend came down and we had dinner and went to a meeting. My husband went to his first AA meeting since August or July. So it turned out to be a good day.
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nycbt
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sucky day!!! NEED hugs/ encouragment
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You are reading from the book Food for Thought </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=33>.
Food Is Not Home
Breaking abstinence may be an attempt to go home emotionally. Since we associate food, and especially certain foods, with early experience, we may turn to food when we crave th...
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MOre POems of MIne
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My Own Life
Living a lie is how I live
Trust no one unless an issue they give
I live in my own little world
I have been hurt more than you can imagine, or even care
People don’t understand, and look and me and just stare
I pray to my angel up above to take me home because I feel so alone
Wi...
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Lauren ashley
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Fortune Cookie
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I had take-away Chinese food tonight. My fortune cookie said: "God will help you overcome any difficulty". I have been eating Chinese Food for 40 years and never found a religious message in one before. This is just a little too wierd for me!
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